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Quit tech job 10/'19. My job is friend. I write
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I want to collaborate with YOU (or someone you'd recommend!) on something cool, explicitly not financially/professionally oriented)! A list of projects/initiatives I want to do 🧵🧵🧵:
(a cleaned up version of )
I'm looking for co-conspirators! For 3 projects so far:
1) Move to a city to terraform/play with/construct social reality
2) Lord of the Rings themed trip (Europe -> Turkmenistan?)
3) Plan a collective 30th birthday event
🧵🧵🧵
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I’m being told that how much a woman feels pleasure during sex, vocalizes, etc. primarily has to do with how safe she feels to surrender/drop into it, and her relationship with yourself, and little to do with what the man technically does
Can any women confirm or deny
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Laughter, crying, orgasm, and ecstasy are deeply connected, they’re different flavors of the same thing but I’m still not clear how
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Part of flirting is joking about the outcomes you want but with the person
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BIG W ALERT: JUST SHARED WITH MY MOM THAT I HAVE FEARS SHARING STUFF WITH HER, SHE RESPONDED TO THEM. SHE THEN LISTENED WITHOUT INTERRUPTING AS I SHARED ABOUT HOW DIFFICULT IT IS FOR ME TO FEEL LOVE TOWARDS/FROM HER, AND ABOUT HOW MUCH WORK IVE PUT INTO CHANGING THAT
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Bro has anyone actually listened to rage against the machine!?!?? I’m doing this thing where I actually listen to music and let it land. The proper use case for this music is inciting a mob
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how would you feel if someone asked you "would you feel comfortable saying no if i asked if you were open to giving me a kiss"
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Letting myself really feel and move and express anger got me really horny, is this normal
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They’re both emotions of surrender, of involuntary aliveness
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rather than accept and love the person in front of me, i:
1. build an image of who i want them to be
2. become attached to that image of them
3. try to convince/push/manipulate them into becoming that person
4. feel disappointed when they dont
yikes
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What are cons of psychedelics (not of the “drugs are bad” variety)?
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Most of society is not very psychologically safe or welcoming huh. Kind of a rude awakening from my last few-several months
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going from conflict avoidant -> confident navigating tension and conflict is one of the most empowering capacities to build, bordering on superpower
suddenly every social dynamic that felt stuck/hopeless is different, your entire social world is now malleable
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hot take: boundaries are over fetishized and people would be better served employing them as last resorts or at least 2nd options. they're inherently disconnective "here's my needs, im asserting them regardless of yours"
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I gave a woman a napkin with my contact on it for the first time in my life AMA
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There’s a version of church that’s super fucking awesome - everyone you care about shows up to this beautiful space that’s close by weekly and you share in super meaningful important stuff
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@naftasux
@the_transit_guy
@AwesomePhone
The point is that he wants neighbors that are his friends that he actually does want to see
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@ruth_hook_
I’ve actually been sitting on this theory for a while now - that the dating market is like the job market, in that the best candidates are never on the market, they’re always being pulled from job to job; the best positions are never listed, because they’re being filled
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i hated on the idea of "having taste" for much of my life, associating it with pretentiousness, like for fancy cars and wine and watches and stuff
i now view it as, among other things, a tool for discernment and a basis for mindfulness/appreciation
some things i have taste for:
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How long does it take for you to determine sexual interest in someone
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Hot take: Spirituality is cope for not feeling connected to people and things throughout daily life
I feel awkward talking about the “spiritual path” around spiritual folks because I feel like my views are fairly controversial… which is that IME so far it’s a red herring
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just had a conversation with my mom where i shared that i was scared of her
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Women, would you be open to going on a “date” with a friend with the intention of giving them feedback on how they show up on the date?
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This message from my mom "我就沒有要改變你" => "I'm not trying to change you"
Been crying the last 30+ minutes as I've realized I've been enough and am loveable
Holy fuck I’ve been waiting 30 years to hear her say this and it just casually happened over a text exchange after a slightly testy phone conversation
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Bro I can barely help my mom, you want me to help society??? Masses of strangers??? How could I possibly
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I shared that I'm afraid of conversations escalating, she said she won't do that anymore. I shared that I'm afraid she wouldn't listen, she proactively offered to not speak until I asked her response.
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i have dropped the biggest fucking burden - my mom affirming that her feelings and continued life is not my responsibility
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How does one go from not feeling many feelings to feeling more feelings
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Something that has confused me about meeting people from twitter is taking their tweets to mean “oh they are willing and capable of going *there*”, but realizing that they might not be willing to go there with me if we don’t have a real relationship
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Jesus asking someone to affirm their sexual attraction to me was one of the most vulnerable things I’ve done in a while
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flirting is a natural byproduct of when i feel a connection so palpably and obviously that i assume it's there for the other person and they're maybe just catching up, and playfully making fun of them for not feeling it yet
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anyone have any advice for preparing for a solo psychedelic trip? e.g. setting intentions, setting, etc.
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Killing in the name drove so many tingles up my spine and maybe want to smash and destroy stuff
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I'm looking for co-conspirators! For 3 projects so far:
1) Move to a city to terraform/play with/construct social reality
2) Lord of the Rings themed trip (Europe -> Turkmenistan?)
3) Plan a collective 30th birthday event
🧵🧵🧵
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at this point i suspect most of my wounding around sex could just be/only be resolved having consistent sex with someone that i love and trust
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I increasingly believe that how men look tends to matter way less than how women look. My sense is that if a man is “good looking enough”, which this guy is, then it’s all about his rizz, his personality, his embodiment, how he shows up, etc.
When you put an average male face against an average female face we can notice a few things:
The average female, a 7-8 is substantially better looking than the average male, a 5-6.
It is socially acceptable for women to artificially enhance their looks from this point (makeup,
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hearing this woman i'm insanely attracted to whisper in my ear "please fuck me", and to respond with "no" and a smile has got to be one of the most gratifying feelings ever. the W's have never been stronger
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Talked to a gorgeous woman before sleep no more, forgot about her when we went in, had the thought when it ended “aw shit I should get her number”, didn’t see her around so i left and when I got outside she was on my left. Got her number. W please
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Her: “You make me horny”
Me: “… me…? Really?”
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I shared how difficult it is for me to share my feelings with her, and my fear that she'd invalidate them, she said she wouldn't
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The first few years of my life my mom spent every waking hour with me. I’m blown away by the sheer delight that emanated from her in the videos just being with me, that still emanates from her today while watching the videos. It’s humbling how loved I was
Apparently I would do this for hours a almost every day for like years
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Someone has been disembodied/disassociated most of their life - how would you recommend they get started with embodiment? Practices, books, resources, etc
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Street corner on which I said goodbye to my partner of 7 years
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so i did the thing and i feel really fucking good and celebratory and hope/optimism about it, a thread
I’m doing a forgiveness ritual for my mom later today where I’ll be me as me and I’m scared, I’m not sure how much pain I’m signing myself up for
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I’m feeling sad and helpless and unsupported, don’t know where I can go to actually get the support i want/need. Feels like a relief to be able to name it
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Oh sex does not solve the feeling of loneliness duh
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I think this is the 2nd time in my life I've felt mostly heard by my mom, I think the first happened on our Europe trip last year
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The flip side of “women want men that are safe/trustworthy enough to do CNC with” is that men want women that are safe/trustworthy enough to do it with
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Yesterday I was witnessed and held, sobbing in a group setting for the first time that I can remember, at this men’s circle
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could we think of narcissism as just a certain threshold of unresolved trauma/inner child struggles
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Pro tip: if you are/can stay grounded, after asking someone something that feels scary to ask (on a date, for a kiss, etc), if they respond in a non grounded way (yes, no thank you with warmth), ask them “how is it for me to ask?”
Has always led to opening, connecting convos
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@AwesomePhone
@naftasux
@the_transit_guy
In my experience, you can both coordinate with your friends to live near them, and befriend neighbors
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Ok I see red flags now but I don’t like the framing. Red flags are about me, not the other person; what I’m able to handle/not get triggered by, not a character flaw. That I have a strong reaction, lacking compassion and capacity to field it, speaks to lack of integration in me
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today my inner child told adult me "you're my hero" 🥹🥹😭😭🥲🥲
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This boat is real change is possible don't let your memes be dreams
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My spicy opinion is that this scene is learning how to community and to social and to group effectively later in life than normies (not that normies have figured it out), but is running into similar/predictable problems
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Absolute massive W, asked my mom to share about the passing of her mother, which I know was incredibly painful, but I’ve never actually listened to (always brushing it off because lots of reasons). I listened, I connected to her feelings and needs, we shared tears and embraced.
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Then we hugged and I shared my appreciation for her listening to me.
Then she started talking about a broader family situation and I felt energized and resourced from having felt heard to hear her out, reflect, make empathy guesses, all that good stuff.
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Prior to the conversation, she was telling me stuff and I shared that when she jumps from topic to topic I can't follow, it's like reading a page of multiple books at a time. She understood and asked me to help remind her to slow down and stay with a single topic
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It’s dawning in me how damaging it was to be in a relationship where I didn’t feel wanted
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Came away feeling more connected to why she acted and felt the way she did in that conversation. She started hopping topics again, I named it, and we closed the conversation
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Have you considered how much you could do if you didn’t have to work
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I’m beginning to think that everyone telling their stories fully enough to let go of them is a prerequisite to getting to a better world. I wasn’t able to truly hear someone else’s pain til I had heard my own
i’m beginning to sense that one of the ways we let go of stories — the stories that form the scaffolding of our lives — is by writing them down as fully and accurately as possible
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my mom just sent me a message "Be careful if you suffer from depression like me, you will never get better in your life" and it broke my heart a bit :'( misty in my eyes
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Break up advice I’ve found on the internet has been mediocre at best. What if we compiled takeaways and stories from TPOT? Could be a really beautiful project, and help future broken hearts find kindred souls, relevant advice, and ways to name/make sense of what theyre going thru
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showed up at contact improv/ecstatic dance at 8, didnt realize it started at 6. didnt see that it had started at 6 until i had paid for it, they wouldn't give me a refund. i exasperatedly shrugged it off and went in. as i started moving i realized i was angry
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the fear of rejection is still so strong in me. i told someone i found them attractive last night. i sat with my eyes closed in silence feeling mounting tension rising in my body for like 20 seconds before i could spit it out.
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I don’t feel safe in a group (or relationship) that can’t get real with each other, because it means there will be elephants in the room. And one day those elephants might involve me, and I’ll know for sure that i won’t get the space and support that I need from the group
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I got my Germany freelancer visa for 3 years wooooooo!!!
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This is part of why it’s so important to accept that we cause other people pain. If we don’t accept that we can never get curious about it and understand it, because it would forever be too painful
You can’t actually stop hurting people until you understand deeply the ways in which you can hurt people. The only way to really learn that is to receive that feedback from the people you’ve already hurt. You can’t really stop doing something until you understand how it works
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Baseball game with my dad for Chinese Father’s Day
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If you feel like you’ve lived many different lives, I want to talk to you
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Courting women, giving compliments, sharing appreciation, telling someone I love you - these all ladder up into “can I build the internal fortitude and infra to express without expectations, knowing it might not be met the way I hope”. This actually ties together a lot of threads
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When I date someone I want the emotional connection to be at least as good as that with my best friends
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Uncertainty gets a bad rap. People don’t like it for good reasons, but I’ve found that it’s the foundation from which surprise, delight, wonder, spontaneity can arise. Most of my favorite moments in life come from exploring the unknown
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Haven’t seen anyone directly address power dynamics RE vibecamp, which I think contextualizes a lot of the discourse. TLDR is hard to be on either side of a power dynamic, just for different reasons
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Theory: people that grew up straddling more than 1 worldview (religious vs secular, western vs Asian, etc) have an easier time adopting a meta systematic view
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Then I shared a simple request to try and speak in "I's" rather than "you's". Hard to explain why in Chinese, harder to explain to someone who doesn't differentiate between judgments and reality. But it was a start, couldn't quite communicate the meat but she agreed to try!
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a more connective first step is to share where you're at - your feelings and needs in a situation, and see how it lands with the other person, build understanding, and try to collaborate towards a solution that's satisfying for both people
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My dad on our walk today: “I hope I pass before your mom so she realizes one day that the man she hated most was actually the one that cared the most for her” 🫂😭
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hot take: we shouldn't encourage young adults to be ambitious. at least not until they've had at least a few years to explore themselves, til they've built some legit awareness around power dynamics, and til they've built love infrastructure
We could use a lot more healing and re-education on both fronts. Awareness wise, assault seems pretty universally agreed upon as damaging. Popular/attractive people abusing their power (being mean) seems like an accepted, ingrained part of society
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I got my friend laid 3 times by hosting authentic relating games and I love that she reminds me of this every time I see her
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I feel awkward talking about the “spiritual path” around spiritual folks because I feel like my views are fairly controversial… which is that IME so far it’s a red herring
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Oh I almost forgot, someone called me “very attractive” The other day on a date, can I get a W
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my favorite college application essay i ever wrote. fuck i was a legend
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My ex and I loved each other deeply, without a question. But IMO sex was not really a medium that we could share that. Looking back, the primary emotion I think we both felt after sex was relief (“thank god I was able to what I was supposed and they were too”)
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Relational practices risk making your relation a practice rather than a human
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I’ve heard almost no one on the island of Bali talk about power dynamics, and no one in a way that inspires confidence. No wonder power abuse is rampant in spiritual hippie communities - power is massively in the collective shadow
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My current best pitch for parent relationship work is “come for the suck reduction, stay for the most powerful spiritual practice and contact with divinity I’ve come across thus far”
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PEOPLE PLEASING IS DECEPTION
holy fuck that feels good to realize, i got some anger to move here
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