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Navigating
#grief
feels like walking through a forest full of thorn bushes. It feels like it’s impossible to move in any direction without being cut, sometimes deeply, by some painful thought.
#Widowhood
#youngwidow
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An exhausting, challenging aspect of
#grief
is that it’s impossible to predict how I feel. Two days ago I felt great, I booked an AirBnb for a little adventure with my kids.
Today, the day we’re supposed to leave, I want to do nothing, curl up into a ball, and cry the whole day
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In the belly of the beast now.
Alone, up late, wrapping presents, some of which she bought but never had a chance to give.
I want to never give them, to keep them forever so she hasn’t given her last gift, but then the kids couldn’t enjoy them.
#grief
#widow
#widowedandyoung
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Today I faced a routine decision — to leave tonight or leave in the morning following an exhausting vacation solo with kids.
I found myself incapable of making the decision, bc these were the decisions she would always help make. I am drowning in decision fatigue.
#grief
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I miss the old me. I miss the smoothness and warmth of my old life. More than anything, I miss having my person by my side, cheering me along as we navigate life together.
I feel adrift.
#grief
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Feeling my friendships strain and fall apart under my
#grief
. She was sweet, empathetic, & made us enjoyable to spend time with. Now I don’t fit in a couples world.
What a painful, unexpected
#secondaryloss
, as those who offered “anything I can do” do what I needed them not to.
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Why do you have to be gone?
Why did this have to happen? It’s so unfair to the girls, to me, that our life is so destroyed. You were so sweet, kind, warm, generous. Why were you of all people robbed you of your future, of the chance to see your kids grow?
#grief
#widowedyoung
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Well, I just lost my job, and now have to job search on top of
#grief
. Anyone have success doing that?
First time I’ve ever had to job search without my wife, who was always by my side and made me feel better about myself.
This sucks.
#widowedyoung
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I felt like I had been making some decent progress and now I feel broken by
#grief
. Someone described it as feeling like a bruised peach, except I’m feeling a bit like a mushy peach.
Anyone else feeling utterly demoralized?
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I honestly don’t know how to move forward. I feel so betrayed, sad, and humiliated. There’s no one here to cheer me up and tell me it’s going to be ok. Can’t get out of bed. I feel no will to live today.
Well, I just lost my job, and now have to job search on top of
#grief
. Anyone have success doing that?
First time I’ve ever had to job search without my wife, who was always by my side and made me feel better about myself.
This sucks.
#widowedyoung
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It’s like after her death I’ve descended into a madness—extreme indecision, lack of joy, exhaustion, heart sore, no drive or focus—and just wondering, is this my new normal?
Is my brain just broken now? Just don’t see a path forward.
#grief
#widowedyoung
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As I approach 5 months out, the pain has been worse. Every day I am heart sore and depressed. It just feels like it’s going to keep getting worse and worse as reality sets in in different ways as to what life without her will mean.
#grief
#youngwidow
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I miss her warmth, positivity, radiant beauty, her smile, the way she always had my back. I miss her delight at my little romantic surprises. I miss her wisdom, her even keel and patience with our kids. She made me a better person. She made our life together beautiful.
#grief
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11 months out from being
#widowedyoung
. Why do I still feel like this? I truly thought I would have turned a corner by now. I am barely functioning as an adult, much less a parent. I feel like I just want to curl up and never wake up. How long does it take?
#grief
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How do people *not* become embittered from being
#widowedyoung
? I desperately want to find hope, optimism, to experience joy in other peoples success, see positives in my life, to feel excitement about the future.
But right now, at 6.5 months into
#grief
, it seems impossible.
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Was not warned about the deep, penetrating exhaustion of being a
#singleparent
to two little kids after being
#widowedyoung
.
There just is no break. Not even on weekends.
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Officially 6 months since in last held her. I miss her every second. Today I cried on the beach when I saw the ghost crabs pop out of the sand—she used to be fascinated by them and try to photograph them for hours.
Is this the
#grief
solstice? Will it start to get better?
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Literally any adversity sends me over the edge. Battling some orthopedic things now that limit my ability to exercise and it just sends me into a tailspin, bc it’s that AND being
#widowedyoung
.
I know I need to rectify this, but I’m in a dark place and it’s hard.
#grief
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Another heart sore morning. Sadness and pain are ever present, yet it is the exhaustion that kills me.
Life feels like a freight train barreling forward at frightening speed, & I’m barely hanging on. My fingertips are slipping off one by one.
#grief
#widowedyoung
#youngwidow
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How is life as a
#widow
so full and yet so empty?
#Soloparenting
two young kids, I feel like I don’t have a second to breathe, let alone grieve. I’m constantly around people, but terribly lonely. I do “fun” activities non-stop with the kids, but feel so little joy.
#Grief
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I am in hell. My daughter is being evaluated for some very serious lung conditions after multiple pneumonias.
I feel so disabled right now. I am depressed ad exhausted from
#grief
and my daughters situation, and have no idea how to pull myself up to get some income. Disaster.
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The person I need most to help me through this
#grief
is her.
It’s so cruel that she’s not here.
#widowedyoung
#widowedandyoung
#widowhood
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It’s our little one’s first day of preschool. You should be here to make her feel special and see her off. Waves of grief this morning. Having trouble getting out of bed.
#grief
#widowedyoung
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My life feels like a toxic struggle against a debilitating cocktail of anxiety, sadness, hopelessness, numbness, fog, and exhaustion. I can’t even get out of bed this morning, and yet I have to.
I struggle to see the light at the end of this dark tunnel.
#grief
#widowedyoung
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Struggling as a
#solodad
and
#youngwidow
. Two kids, two plans, can't align them. Getting help is messy at best, most likely futile. Yearning for my beautiful teammate.
Life was so much smoother before.
#MissingHer
#SoloParentingChallenges
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I still can’t believe I lost my wife. I still can’t believe my kids don’t have a mom. How is this my life?
So unfair.
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I have continued to think, “I just can’t handle one more thing.”
And then today, bad feedback at work (barely hanging on w/
#depression
and brain fog), and…boom, deep into the abyss.
The
#grief
tunnel feels endless and life feels hopeless. I need some sort of encouragement.
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My
#grief
colors everything in my life. Not just the parts where in miss my wife. It makes me look at everything with disgust. My job, my house, my vacations…everything is just gray and depressing.
I feel trapped in a life I don’t want.
Anyone else?
#widowedyoung
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Christmas was her holiday—she made it magical for my girls, who ask Alexa daily how many days until Christmas. Not sure how it will be for them, but for me it’s been excruciating. Putting up our tree, trying to figure out presents for them, decorations—it’s awful without her.
The
#HolidaySeason
hurts. That's just reality. To the best of your ability, seek out those places that companion your sadness & avoid places that ask you to pretend you are something other than you are. May this season be as safe, and as full of love and connection as it can be.
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Also the girls got Barbies this year, one of which is a doctor. Immediately they started playing and my youngest said “pretend she has
#cancer
!” at which point they started playing along.
I am grateful for my girls, but feeling so much pain.
#fuckcancer
#widowedyoung
#grief
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“Life goes on, long after the thrill of living is gone.” I can’t get this John Cougar Mellencamp lyric out of my head. It keeps haunting my thoughts.
I’ve been existing these past few months, thrill of living feels long gone. Is this life now? Forever?
#grief
#widowedyoung
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Back at our happy place at the beach. Has become a sad place. With her family. Pulling up used to be full of joy and anticipation—now it’s hollow and full of sadness.
#Secondarylosses
are brutal. I am in a dark place. This sucks.
#grief
#widowedyoung
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#Christmas
day has been a mix. Empty joy at the beginning, watching my kids tear open their gifts. Still, a gaping hole in the room.
4yo preoccupied by the number of people being 1 fewer than last year.
Still can’t bring myself to give the gifts she bought.
#Grief
#widow
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This is what I needed to read today.
On this particular day, I feel like I can’t do it. Job stress, kids, grief, exhaustion — how do I keep going?
#widowedyoung
#grief
What I’ve learnt over the last 12 months is that life throws curveballs. When it comes looking for you it will test you to breaking point, but you can get through even the worst stuff. But it’s down to you and you alone.
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There was nothing more joyful than watching your joy at watching others open your presents.
I can see you so clearly, gleam in your eye as you watched each person open gifts that you poured months into researching. Your little triumphant “yes!” at each gasp of delight.
#Grief
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Blistering pain today. It’s Labor Day—if she were still alive we would be on some sort of grand adventure, feeling complete as a family. Now I feel depressed, depleted—but tortured by
#FOMO
for the adventures other families are having that we cannot.
#grief
#widowedyoung
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This holiday is just barbaric for
#widows
.
Got our
#christmastree
today. I hope it doesn’t die an early death too.
#grief
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@candddelzer
Yes. I often want to ask them, “you said ‘anything I can do to help.’ Do you realize you have added to my grief? You did literally the one thing I needed you not to do, which is disappear.”
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@DavinaRivers
People say this to me all the time—“how can you despair when you have two kids!” Frustrating.
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This job search feels incredibly hopeless. I wake up in despair, but my person is not here to redirect me.
#grief
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After life with
@rickygervais
is deadly accurate and thoroughly entertaining. Best
#grief
show I’ve seen or listened to.
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I ordered glitter watercolor paints for my girls, who love art bc she loved art. I made it with her credit card (as though a gift from her) and then reflected on how sad it is that a stored credit card on her Amazon is the only way she can “buy” gifts for her girls.
#grief
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@bsw5020
Thank you for providing a beacon of hope to those of us who feel like our lives *are* falling apart.
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I’ve had this persistent image of my life as a wrecked car on the side of the highway, badly beaten + bruised. Im standing next to it, watching other cars whiz by at exhilarating speed, painfully recalling when I was one of those other cars not long ago.
#grief
#widowedandyoung
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@nurse003
No I don’t. I have therapists medication all of it. Nothing takes away the pain. Nothing makes it better. But I can’t leave either. So I just suffer.
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@GrievingBloke
We made it a year. Alive. With our kids alive. This in itself is an achievement, and perhaps the only one that matters.
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Just another example of how badly is miss her, and how excruciating the pain is knowing she is no longer in my life. We were together since 25–we grew into adults together. And now I feel broken without her, part of me ripped away & left nonfunctional, like a torn dollar bill.
Today I faced a routine decision — to leave tonight or leave in the morning following an exhausting vacation solo with kids.
I found myself incapable of making the decision, bc these were the decisions she would always help make. I am drowning in decision fatigue.
#grief
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@Englishman1974
I like the distinction between
#soloparent
and
#singleparent
. The former is just relentless.
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An odd side effect of my
#Grief
is oversharing with *everyone*, even at work, which is not good and has made me look weak at times. I am just *that* desperate to find empathy from a hardened world.
I just want my grief and its effects on me to be acknowledged.
#widowedyoung
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It just dawned on me how much money I’m going to lose in tax dollars because of going from “Married filing jointly” to “Head of Household”. As if this didn’t suck enough already.
#widowedyoung
#widow
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@yvetteong4155
@CherryMorrello
Her positivity through the terrible indignities of this disease was an inspiration to me and my family while my wife battled her own cancer. Thank you for sharing your story with such candor, grace, and warmth,
@CherryMorrello
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There’s hope for us
#widows
I guess?
Wow, I had no idea about the origin story of Rudolph the Red-Nose Reindeer! If you aren't familiar with it either, read below:
As the holiday season of 1938 came to Chicago, Bob May wasn’t feeling much comfort or joy. A 34-year-old ad writer for Montgomery Ward, May was
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I miss the way she made our lives beautiful. Tasteful decorations here, well-chosen and cared for plants there, little pieces of beauty everywhere. Her love suffused everything that surrounded us.
Yet another hole in my life I can’t fill.
#widowedyoung
#grief
#widower
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@loveintimesofc2
I’m right there with you 7 months. It’s been dark, not a life I want. Sometimes I worry that I’m not actually
#grieving
enough because my life around the
#grief
is so stressful and full and anxiety provoking.
I will say that it feels ever so slightly less acute.
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@HandbookWidows
@mrscmway
I would love to skip Xmas, or do something completely different, but my kids expect continuity.
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@GrievingBloke
I was at a kids birthday party and the guy from the funeral home came up to me and said hello. He said we met when he was picking up my wife from my house.
So yeah. It’s hard to keep it together.
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Pain from
#grief
is hitting tonight. Saw some videos of my wife interacting with our daughters—there is just no one who will ever love them as completely and warmly as she did.
#parentloss
#childgrief
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Grueling vacation to our onetime happy place by the beach.
#Grief
hits hard here—there are so many happy memories everywhere I look, every time I see our girls happy….it just makes me realize how this is the new normal, and what a shitty normal it is.
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@to_widow
It's like I survived a cage match for 3 years against cancer, and I'm bloodied and broken already from the scars and trauma, but tentatively taking 2 steps forward, 1 step back, and now a tidal wave comes and knocks me down and washes away the path i was on.
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@CherryMorrello
Tracey, your positivity through the terrible indignities of this disease was an inspiration to me and my family while my wife battled her own cancer. Thank you for sharing your story with such candor, grace, and warmth,
@CherryMorrello
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@HandbookWidows
I have been feeling this way regularly. Like my brain is irretrievably broken and I’m stuck forever. It’s horrible.
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Day 0: my wife died at 6:14 pm this evening, surrounded by family, after a three year long struggle with
#terminalcancer
. The ending was brutal—gasping for air, without enough meds—but her struggle is over. This account is my outlet, documenting my first steps into
#Widowhood
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@GrievingBloke
I am walking right there next to you. People used to say the same thing about us. It feels I caught lighting in a bottle and then lost it.
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@widow_waiting
I’m moving to “my wife died last year” which sounds unfathomable. She was literally just here it feels like. And yet it’s been forever.
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@HandbookWidows
This is helpful to hear, because it means it will get better. Hearing that “it just gets worse and worse” is terrifying.
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When your ~4yo falls apart from the tiniest things, is it bc shes tired? shes 4? Or is it because her mom died and world was turned upside down?
It is so, so hard parenting without my wife.
#grief
#widowedyoung
#widowedparents
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I sometimes find myself raging at the help I get, only to realize that what I am so angry at is the realization that no amount of support or help can ever fill the hole left by my wife.
#grief
#bereavement
#widowedyoung
#youngwidow
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@macbride_dexter
Been there too unfortunately. People say they’re there for you but ultimately you’re a downer and some people don’t want to be around downers.
Some, however, do go above and beyond.
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@DanStrafford
Looks like we’re on the same timeline. Wife passed two weeks ago after a battle with cancer. Kids 7 and 3. Also an avid east coast sports fan. Feel free to reach out.
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@WidowedAndYoung
Thank you for your support. I wish we had a group like
@WidowedAndYoung
in the US.
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Definitely feel like I’m in the belly of the beast.
#grief
#widowedyoung
#fuckcancer
My grief right now:
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@bsw5020
Honestly don’t know how you do it. I am in awe of how you keep depression at bay and fight on.
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@GrievingBloke
Experiencing this as we speak. Just arriving home from a vacation, the first without my kids. Feel a pit in my stomach bc last time I did this she was there to welcome me.
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Rough morning. I’m realizing that normal life will resume soon and my wife won’t be in it.
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@refugeingrief
This!!! Everyone tells me “that’s not your
#grief
. That’s a deeper issue.” It pisses me off so much.
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@SaffronKim
Joyless slog. I’m dreading it and sad, my kids are excited and can’t wait. It was her holiday, so I hope they aren’t disappointed. It’s going to be gut wrenching for me. Have already spent a few days in bed.
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@ruby_dood1es
Similar over here. I find it very hard to do because it requires me to think about what would excite me, which nothing does. I’ve not found it fun.
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