I'm a student. A student IN University, and a student OF Life. I am not a genius. I haven't once failed, but I don't have a consistent history of high distinctions. I have had 70s, dabbled with 80s, really high 90s. I have also had my fair share of 60s. I have studied my acade...
@BolanleCole
Nah. This story isn't adding up. She threw him down the stairs earlier and "he couldn't move "
But he could use a harmer and knife to kill someone while "not moving"
Man is a killer.
The woman may not be innocent but that's likely not what happened.
Sadly the dead can't speak.
@PrincessUkoko
I honestly think the Bible contributes largely to the way the story is told.
They had more babies again, yes.
But I think that's not really the point.
Cos can you point where God acknowledged the suffering of Jobs wife lol
God didn't.
If God didn't, don't think humans will.
@Sire_Sammi
@FEMMY466
False.
This is lower animals mentality.
There's no LEADER in any NORMAL partnership. It's just a way to argue for what you really want😂😂
You're literally like "cofounders of an org"
I don't know if you know how COFOUNDING works lol.
Just try to be normal, you might get it
@ozzyetomi
They'll be like "Single mothers are destroying family structure"
Psychosis.
Even some PRESENT fathers are responsible for the abusive tendencies passed to the kids today.
Almost like the idea of fatherhood needs to be retaught. Because it IS great, when done right.
@BolanleCole
He reported because he couldn't handle the guilt and he wasn't sure he was going outrun the cops.
So he could cook a stupid story like she threw him down the stairs lol.
Someone threw you down the stairs, you didn't go to a drugstore, you WAITED TILL NIGHT to kill???
Nope.
@ulxma
It's such a horrible thing.
Even if you want to believe it's biology (that'd be false btw), you can groom him to be better than this.
Socialization in SO MANY cases defies one's presumed default.
Bruh I had a very BOLD personality when I was younger, often mistook as pride...
@NwankwoChi46095
@NaijaRadFem
@__peachess0
Men can't birth. Women are not as physically strong as men.
Neither of those acts are superior to the other.
Bride price is really not a culture to be proud of. If cultures could work like both families giving "gifts" to each other, that will be a more respectable culture.
@mendixthemogul
@ulxma
It's not self defence. You're simply saying your greatest fantasies out loud.
Epinephrine can't naturally make you reach for your dysfunction, when you're attacked with a knife or a gun.
You're simply the kind that can rape his sister from a fight.
Maternal waste.
@kamiifaV
And sister, dare I say, that society will only see divorce rates go up.
Downward never.
Cos the REAL reason for longevity (for the most part) wasn't bliss.
It was culture-led compromise that was the woman's to assume.
It was ignorance. Mainly not even their faults.
@njoki_kimandi
@Lsgonelie
@njoki_kimandi
Use your brain this once before typing your next thing.
Note the number of countries in Africa.Note the number of male leaders in relation to the female leaders from today back to year 2000.
NOT all of history lol.
Count which of the countries are working good
@OnyeaboEbube
@PrincessUkoko
She was being human.
She was fed up. She wanted the pain to end.
"Curse God and die" because that's a grieving woman who started to think "How can you trust a god who takes the beauty of life from you? Do what you must to save our children, and all we have left."
That's human.
@Cr7Godbrand
@iamveektoria_
You are very stupid!
F*cking stupid.
Didn't you read what was written?
What a fool. And you're trying to do what? Assault is less of a crime?
You are as horrible as a rapist or a fcking ASSAULTER.
You are just the same. Coward.
@goldenglow__1
@arbigirrl
you are actually DUMB!
Actually dumb. You
@arbigirrl
and your mum can submissively take it all in. Cos your dad did NOTHING WRONG!
Get to the kitchen dumb shttt!
@LisaTheOdd
@sabigirltoosabi
I told my brother sometime that BECAUSE I respect masculinity, I can't even mistakenly honor patriarchy.
It makes the masculine weak, while proclaiming it strong. It's too dependent on the submissiveness of a whole group to be seen as strong.
It's toxic for masculinity too!
@Paul_Uba_
@uzoart
"Rub shoulders with your man"
Who is the man???🤣
Society really gives you things audacity 😂
What are you?! What's the reason for your presumed shoulder height???😂
Dumb dumb dumb.
@icezandfire
@ThatMagicGirl1
@yhemmie_Dblaq
"Systems in place" are patriarchal norms that do not regard women as people enough.
So, in your society, women are very easily disrespected, and in many cases casually assaulted, abused, and taken advantage of.
Rape is just one case of a female taken advantage of, by a male.
@super_ladyR
Woww
My brother told me about his patient who lost so much blood but her husband refused to "allow" her go for transfusion. I think theirs was a religious belief. They tried convincing the woman and she stayed on "Anything my husband says"
She eventually died tho.
Really sad.
@victorianlatte
@TsitsiNotha
I want to believe you're just defending a belief system you were born into.
Cos without any form of indoctrination whatsoever, every normal person understands that a marriage is a partnership.
An EQUAL partnership. I mean, you both are one.
There's no hierarchy.
@kolobanks
@flowzki
@instablog9ja
When Bill and Melinda got a divorce, you didn't remember the chances of money being the problem.
When Jeff divorced McKenzie, you didn't remember 'money issues'😂
"Simple grammar and lexicon"- from a very r3tared skull. I promise you!🤣
@KhadijaGarba19
@ulxma
Not really oo
It's really 50:50
Many white girls trained in these kinds of Christian homes end up traditional as fuckkk.
Mormon Christians are mainly whites. Like 98%
Those ones believe in the ballerina farm kind of life.
@dream_smooches
@TimiCurve_
@owojeloche
In major markets in PH here, there's a whole section for grinding things: corn, pepper, tomato and dry things too.
The level of testosterone in that section ehn...
Like what's that one saying???😭
This "...it's worth it for family" is the moral game they play to guilt trip women into continuous suffering.
Every reasonable person knows the harshness of the cultural norms in Nigeria, concerning women, and how women generally take most parts of childcare alongside her job...
@Sisi_Yemmie
But you don’t get to know for a fact that some people enjoy cooking everyday. Plus, it’s not always about enjoying it, it’s about doing it cos it’s worth it for the family.
Speedy recovery to Mercy
Young boys, stop raping.
Young boys, stop bullying.
Parents, train your sons well or you're the source of the problems too.
Old men, stop raping
Old men, stop hurting people.
Men, stop making people unsafe.
@Sire_Sammi
@FEMMY466
Don't know if it's cos I'm GenZ lol, but this is so retarded.
I believe in reciprocated romance, so the woman who doesn't like to spoil the person she loves can eat your ideology😂
For me, once I get the level of finance I aim for(which I'll get to btw), bro can keep his cash
@sabigirltoosabi
Religion is an unfortunate place.
I pray you people see it eventually.
Lemme sound it, AS LONG AS any Abrahamic religion is concerned, the woman is LESS.
The wife/mother is even less than her son(You can read about how spiritual vows were made and refuted in old Hebrew)
@Judicaelle_
No one starts their first crime by hitting one with a pestle, and going on to rape the person.
This isn't his first crime. This one just escalated the way he's not used to.
@ulxma
I also think the world shouldn't leave tech for "tech bros" alone.
Tech is part of our lives at this point, and different sectors should have sound knowledge of it.
But developing worlds may not know to handle this.
More developed worlds don't even know what to do lol.
@the_beardedsina
No this isn't a gotcha moment.
Environment definitely affects our language. That doesn't automatically imply belief.
And Jeez is NOT short for Jesus.
"You're Christian and you're using a day first known for celebrating sun god sol invictus, for christmas"
Doesn't make sense!
@njoki_kimandi
@Lsgonelie
When you count the failed male PRESIDENTS, move to the governors in EACH country. You will exhaust your notebooks will MALE names cos you will hardly note a woman in any political position, and you'll hardly note any good state.
You are unintelligent
@njoki_kimandi
Tough!
@Strangeland_Elf
It doesn't "look down" on the feminine lol.
What does that is the world you come from.
Who sees you as weak is men (the men who do), and they still hold the doors to many positions only reserved for HUMAN qualities -confidence, creativity, innovation, etc
I
@Purple_Ifee
@Zara_on_X_
You're very funny.
It's expected that you see a man(who is a father), and move past. You don't know the person's dad. You can't vouch for the dad like his child would. It's literally that simple.
It has nothing to do with anyone failing anyone lol.
@smashrepublik
@EarthToGazelle
How does one overcome this please?
I fail tests because of this. It wouldn't matter if I've read or not, I'll keep thinking.
I live in my head alone. My reality has been on hold.
I sit on one spot for 6hours, talking to myself ..
How does one leave this?
It's ruining my life.
@dr_aflyn
@Zara_on_X_
As long as the Bible is concerned, about women, shift the goalpost or don't; you will still fail.
She tweeted about WHAT SHOCKED HER. She was not thinking "DEBATE!!!"
Your emotional self couldn't pass.
@MotunrayoAgusto
Many men in Nigeria are not evolved.
Bro Africa as a whole lol.
It's not here that a Ryan Reynolds can blush to being called "Mr Blake Lively".Here, them talk say na insult🤣
Even WOMEN feel guilt lol. GUILT!
Or folks speaking of their wives as equals.
The bunch is backward af
Look through this y'all
Women are right!
Many Nigerian men are sick.
It's really difficult not to generalize, because it's a majority.
Many Nigerian men ARE SICK!!
The progressive Nigerian man does not understand how men he considers less than him have their wives asking for permission to go out.
He wants this but he can’t have it. He is still stuck in Lagos traffic, there is no food waiting for him at home. He’s progressive though.
@AimaMoh
In Nigeria where a divorced woman is especially stigmatized, it is even harder, I'm sure, to make the decision to leave. And yet, they did.
Well, her case already sounds exceptional.
@HarryJolly8
@SkusSkus
This is not an exceptional story.
It's not. At all.
You can be honest about your society lol
This is NOT in ANYWAY, exceptional.
Yes, people out here have "insufferable personalities", but you CAN'T call this exceptional.
Unless you mean exceptional cos it got to the public.
@keseada
@_Irepelumi
Demon!!!
That's what you truly are.
You'd rather defend a faulty system than decorum!
You uphold demonism, you pathetic scum!
All of you.
@stacey_olusegun
@ulxma
Please remove that belief. Or the chances of the movement changing things for the future Gen is automatically zero.
I mean, you stand for a lost cause already if it's a biological problem that socialization can't change.
@Anthonytyga
"Children dies"
Could be typo. Okay.
So why is there a word like "emasculate" for men, and non of such for women?
Since you want to be funny
@bisolabadejo
Whether christian women accept it or not, the Bible IS patriarchal.
Whether you accept it or not, a system that keeps a woman under her husband, still keeps the women beneath, and Paul saying the glory of a woman is the man, but that of the man is God, IS misogynistic.
We can...
@jay_mikee
It's not "twisting"
Your country has pathetic cultures. It is important, as well as whatever message you have, to be cautious of what you say.
I went through that thread you made in 2018. Saying stuff like "...Don't be like Dinah" is perfectly wrong.
It is your duty to reflect!
@arbigirrl
Your mum should be submissive.
You're to be respectful.
Case closed.
I see no reason your dad should pay your fees when you're a woman who should be in the kitchen
No reason why there should be any land inheritance when you will be married off eventually.
You'll be fine👍🏽
@RealCaliNicole
Well, let me also add that it isn't every "high" guy who wants his woman to be at his level lol
To some dudes it's important you're where you are. Ego is a beast.
Women should better sit up for themselves.
@LadiSpeaks
Someone supported a tweet that stated women shouldnt get an education.
Later complains abt her dad not paying her fees??
Bashed equality of rights and now complainsof no inheritance rights for her mum?
"Submissiveness is feminine", and she wants her mum to rebuke dad's order?
@OkahEwahEdede
@rubylaren
You ARE SICK!
Yes. I'll start with an insult. Cos you ARE an insult.
Trying to prove "men too."
If you cared about the men killed you'd talk about it more. Not only when women are speaking against male violence.
Even you can't trust your sister with your male friend.
Imp.
@themgofeelit
@Abiiike
Dedication to a relationship is different from centering your life around marriage.
What the actual fckkkkk is wrong with Nigerian girls?
Men don't center their lives on the same marriage that involves TWO people 😂
Sha, na you go PRAY and CRY.
The men keep moving✌🏾
@girlslikewho
@Larryonokpite1
First, this doesn't exist.
Second, it still would be patriarchy.
Patriarchy hurts men too!
It's a sick hub. Filled with pseudo-powerful hungry men, who also know no self-respect as they objectify themselves, proving themselves "strong."
It's a very despicable institution.
@AscendToVictory
@nma_kara
@mikey24_7
You asked for full custody of the child, or joint custody?
Her declining full custody could also have been because she wanted to be in her kid's life too.
After declining full custody, there should have been an option for joint custody.
Did you ask for that?
@ulxma
Also, in the very colorist society like ours people drop insensitive comments when you're together. You then look insecure when youspeak foryourself.
You'd low-key expect she speaks up instead, but she plays it off like "it's not that deep lol"
You don't want to be weird sooo🤷🏽♀️
@Orethebrave
Let them be playing.
Mind you, despite you working, the housekeeping and childcare responsibilities are primarily yours. He, out of love commanded(lol), can choose to "help"
Ridiculous bunch!
In reality, the woman DIES daily haha 😂
@symplylivinj
Getting rid of that thing is a big step to women emancipation in Africa. I just don't know how it can be done.
On second thoughts, it really only takes the government lol.
That's really all. Every culture whatsoever will adjust.
But we don't have such government.
@ulxma
Guys that yearn that external validation that comes when their girlfriend posts her stuff online lol
"What my boyfriend got me on my birthday 🥹"
And it's chocolates, flowers and all that.
So he gets the shoulder pat.
But today it's "only" women😂
@donchyme
@honey_badger_o
@UnkleAyo
I can't speak for all mums in the world. And you can't too.
If something like that happens in MY home, my mum and dad will be up!
There's no responsible mother who wouldn't be figuring out ways to save her husband and kids.
Most times, you all are barely practical.
@Themichaelllll
@BabyWhale___
You've probably watched American political folks and their faux alpha male ideologists debate stay at home mom vs working mom and assumed it's a Nigerian debate.
A total fool.
@david22austin
@Emeneks
I think, David, YOU are reacting as a misogynist would.
Not him.
Everyone knows it's not a generalization. You are learned please. Act it.
Condemn abuse from women on your page, great!
But there's a context and a topic here. And he's talking about that.
@SkinwithLolami
What's funny is that on mother's day what I read on the story updates of MANY guys on my cl😭
Compared to the simple "Happy Father's Day🤍" they write on fathers day😂😂 is proof that they KNOW!!!
You'll read epistles and ask "YOU GOT JUST ONE PARENT??"
This "...it's worth it for family" is the moral game they play to guilt trip women into continuous suffering.
Every reasonable person knows the harshness of the cultural norms in Nigeria, concerning women, and how women generally take most parts of childcare alongside her job...
What's crazy about this is the Bible literally says that marrying a divorcee is adultery, but somehow the same HolySpirit told her a 2× divorcee was her answered prayer.
Una religion no dey confuse una sef?😂
I'm not opposed to divorcees getting married btw
It's just religion😂
@shola_babs
@andyRoidO
😂There's no such thing as "when there's a deadlock, he makes the final decision" When there's a deadlock, you two, choose the wiser option. It doesn't matter whom this comes from. Where you can't clearly say whose is wiser, you both can still choose either, and stay hopeful!
@ulxma
And Jesus Christ who is presumably the ESSENCE of christianity didn't even once say anything about this weird hierarchy. Like NOT ONE TIME bruhh!
Not one time did he mention "submit."
Lol
Imagine those who weren't "pretty" enough, or just some kind of attractive.
Dude would treat you as dung cos "Yo, you better be lucky I picked your arse."
Then girl will work her life out as compensation😂
Cos "He better not change his mind🥹"
What a time to be alive!
I guess this is a trend on tiktok cos I saw videos like this while scrolling on there.
I don't really blame people for tagging feminism, which is great(by dictionary meaning) with a lot of weird stuff.
I do wish tho, that many women take for model, that which is true light.
@BiancaFynn
@lollygitywa_
Okay.
Well, if you must use English language, master her structure in writing, so you don't talk about not being understood.
When, the problem is mainly your writing.
@Thatgarllzz
**Mothers' day**
"She stayed under the bridge waiting for me to dress up. She won't eat until I and everyone has eaten. She prayed non stop for all of us. She would cook for everyone to eat before thinking of herself"
You'll hear things that make you wonder WHERE'S THE DAD
But when it's time to address the valid complaints, to push for better virtues and family value system, you play it into the same conversation of "THE THINGS WE DO FOR LOVE" playing a cheap ethics game, like there isn't a fat line between those two topics.
You've got to be on a