I help married men unlock their true masculinity, ignite their marriage, and unleash passionate intimacy 3x+ a week using the Marriage Intimacy Accelerator
@GiaMMacool
My very first job was as a summer camp counselor for the Salvation Army. At the end of the year, one of my duties was to clean the cabin bathrooms.
The dudes bathroom was normal gross. The ladies bathrooms were disgusting - makeup and eyeliner smears. Feminine hygiene products.
@diversedbd
@GiaMMacool
The average married american man is having sex 1x a week, according to Pew Research. Only 37% are okay with it. I'm on a mission to help guys get to at least 3x a week!
@GiaMMacool
Or women annoyed at blue collar guys who are physically dirty, but tend not to dirty their environment. Women might be physically cleaner but dirty their environment more?
@BritMartinez
Ways women can inspire us
- be beautiful: my beautiful wife in a dress is quite motivating
- be cheerful: men take a lot of blows we shield you from...coming home to a smile can sweep us up from darkness in an instant
- be sexual: it's our love language...we need it often.
@TellYourSonThis
One of the high leverage things wealthy men who have no need to make more money is become patrons - patrons of science, math, the arts, etc
@tyromper
@BigPsCigar
@GiaMMacool
I remember my wife started crying when I finally used the metaphor of sex for me = conversation for you
I asked what she would feel like if I didn't talk at all to her all week, kept shutting down all of her conversation gambits, and then when I did finally talk to her, kept
@GiaMMacool
In a marriage relationship, 100%. Bring it on, baby! Outside a marriage though, it's wildly destructive.
Fathers need to be able to forcefully communicate to their daughters the goodness of the one and the destructiveness of the other
@GiaMMacool
Men's communication is for building THINGS (buildings, hunting parties, armies). Women's communication is for building PEOPLE (relationships, children, friendship networks).
Broadly speaking, of course
@PerfInjust
This is taking advantage of a statement of truth so broad and deep that it takes most of the OT to unpack.
Modern christians are so untutored in the OT that someone like KPS can hollow it out to nothingness and they don't even notice
I'll keep hammering this home men
Wives find strong men sexy
Not because they just like looking at us with muscles
(Though there is that)
But because of what muscles mean
They can't be bought, so there's no cheating
They mean you're:
Disciplined
Focused
Long term thinker
If you're stuck and confused in the gym:
Squat
Bench
Deadlift
Overhead press
Barbell row
(Weighted) chinup
Get strong as a horse on these six movements.
You can build 90%+ of your potential physique just by pushing these hard.
Your wife wants you to make most decisions.
Yes. Even if she says she wants to make them.
Especially when she says she wants to make them.
I figured out that when my wife wants to make the decisions, that means she doesn't trust me.
Work on repairing her trust, then make
The Mental Load of Masculine Leadership
Earlier today, I saw a benign thread on being a good husband from Tyler Todt (
@tyromper
). Somewhere in the middle he offered the wives a tip: men can’t read minds, so make a list of stuff he can take off your plate. The internet exploded.
@guideforlovers
Explaining to an "immature" woman...(Fixed it for you!)
Mature woman are just as competent in their spheres as we men are.
And there are easy ways to help your wife mature so that you aren't the only mature one in the relationship.
@GiaMMacool
The average divorce in my state of Ohio (when kids are involved, which is most) is $10,000 per spouse. More when it's acrimonious.
Divorce is almost always a lose-lose situation, but especially for the woman
Both genders are lied to about the effects of divorce.
The only
@KILLTOPARTY
Many women have never been sexually turned down in their lives. It creates an interesting dynamic where they believe they hold all the sexual power, and to have that script canceled (even for a single instance) causes all sorts of psychological repercussions.
Out of whack hormones messing with your sex life are a real thing!
My hormones were crazier than a box of yarn that’s been played with by a kitten
Same with my wife's
Simple fix I learned from
@noahrevoy
and
@nutridetect
for both myself and my wife’s libido...
Just take 2
@igarglewithfire
Their biology - testosterone, get strong, get aggressive
THEN
Society - protect (emotionally, monetarily, physically with guns), provide (make money, invest in assets), procreate (be a good husband/father)
THEN
Institutions - protect (defend widows/poor/orphans), provide (build
@RenOfMen
100% correct.
The frame of 99% of clever conservative marriages is Feminist. I've lost count of how many pastors/elders of churches I've been to say things like "Let me check with my wife to see if I can make the meeting" or "I never fox stuff around the house because my wife
How to build trust fast with your wife in 9 simple steps
She will melt into you, if you do this…
Figuratively AND literally (my sex life went through the roof when I started doing this)
1. Make a big guarantee (I told my wife I’d get her out of the job she hated. Maybe tell
@GiaMMacool
Human female selection bias is one of the most powerful factors sociologists know of in shaping the human race! The research is crystal clear. Why they would willingly give up that massive power just to work in an HR cubicle is beyond me
@Alicia_Bittle_
Best thing I ever did for my marriage was getting my wife out of her 9-5.
You don't realize how destructive it is until she's out and decompressed for 3 months.
All of a sudden, she blooms like a flower. More sex too 😉
@TheEcho13
Good point. It's the difference between having to upkeep a lemon of a car (constantly pouring time and attention into something that keeps breaking down) and working at maintaining a high performance racing vehicle and keeping it in tip top shape.
One is demoralizing. The other
@dovidfeldman
A great relationship hack I've used before: when emotions start running high, I'll pause, smile at her, and say "I love being on the same team with you, even if we disagree sometimes. I love you baby"
Takes the wind out of developing arguments like a dream
@igarglewithfire
But 3 months spent making 5 years of progress in a focused sprint is very, very doable. Most men can be easily fixed, when they put their minds to it. I help guys all the time
3 years ago I was broke, in a dead-end job, skinny-fat, unhealthy and sick, and having sex with my wife 1x a month…2x if I was
lucky
Today, I’m investing regularly, building a business, putting on muscle, increased health and testosterone, and have sex at least 3x a week
I'm
@unflinchingdads
My life got 10x better once I realized that masculinity, being a husband, and fatherhood are ROLES I inhabit.
Philosophers call roles like that Dialectical.
You can get better at them, like an actor playing a part. Even if you don't feel like being "a part" if you act like
@jgunn1975
@diversedbd
@GiaMMacool
Very not common. when you say you don't believe it, do you mean you disagree with Pew or that it's astonishing to you?
@guideforlovers
One of the first things I walk my men through is to ask:
"Is this a fixing conversation or a listening conversation?"
And if she just wants you to listen, you don't try to fix. Simply bookmark the problem and see if it's a trend across time and something you need to help her
@GiaMMacool
Have you seen that video of the child molester, saying that the
#1
thing he looked at when analyzing victims was whether they had a strong father?
If they did, he steered clear
@realpeteyb123
It's a human trait. When you start to win, people ok with losing have to rationalize their own poor performance.
So you're on steroids. And I bet you inherited your money from your parents!
All excuses to let them stay the same
@tyromper
@GH_FightPoverty
My wife is my single best helper and asset in the world! I've made more money, dodged more bullets, and accomplished more with her aid and counsel than if I had done things by myself.
"An excellent wife who can find? Her worth is far beyond rubies."
@GiaMMacool
YES! How many men want to commit to you and spend the rest of their life building something larger than the two of you?.
Sex is cheap. Building a whole life?.
No wonder women are so attractive... it's a huge mission!
@NutriDetect
Gave up all coffee 2 weeks ago, thanks to you.
4 days of hell and then I started feeling better and better. Feeling really good now. Excited for a month from now.
@AdamLaneSmith
It's like guys who spend all their free time in bars and clubs, and then complain that "all women are terrible and cheat."
Maybe you're just seeing your values reflected in the women you're around?
@Cernovich
My wife collects old yearbooks from her alma mater. Looking at students in college from the 1930's is shocking...they look so mature and sophisticated for sophomores/juniors
They clearly had much more life experience than kids these days
@ThorJanisz31197
@GiaMMacool
You consciously build a life that attracts that kind of wife. It's not complicated once you understand a few key principles
@guideforlovers
Statistics tell us men aren't the more protective gender. Unless they're protecting their own woman and children.
Then they become deviations more protective than a woman.
@pearlythingz
There's something to this. A lady who's completely satisfying her man, and knows she's satisfying him regularly, isn't insecure when it comes to other women.
So many married men kill their sex life with their wife with porn
OnlyFans users are 95% married men
What?? I know...right?
Wild.
So many married men will trade sex with a woman who loves them for a digital image because they're afraid
They'd torpedo their own sex life
@PaternalLegacy
Not sure I agree with this.
God the Father said "This is my son, in whom I am well pleased."
He didn't say, "This is my beloved son, who should be well pleased with himself."
There's power in a father saying "I'm proud of you, son."
So many men wonder why their wives have low desire for them
They think to themselves "I'm a nice guy. Why doesn't she want me?"
I did the same thing years ago
It took me a long time to understand I wasn't actually a nice guy. I just had low tolerance for conflict
I was a
@GiaMMacool
Studies show that when emotionally unattached, men are equally as protective as women. They're the same.
When a man becomes married and invested, he becomes standard deviations above the average woman in a relationship when it comes to protectiveness.
But only of his wife and
Men, become a Protector
Firearms are THE BEST way to do that
Even though most people would buck that statement, I stand by it
Ex-Navy Seal Jocko Willinck says that a firearm is the best way to physically protect those you love, barr none.
Don't waste time trying to get big,
@GiaMMacool
Even tougher:
Can she inspire him?
Can she counsel and influence him without controlling?
Can she watch him absorb pain for the family and help heal his wounds?
How I got to 10 pull ups, effortlessly
A step by step guide
(and ok ok, maybe not completely effortlessly, since by definition working out involves effort)
But this is definitely the easiest way to get to 10 pull ups, if you can’t do any at all
Or even you can do 4-5, and
How to prove to your wife you’re a high value man
Statistically, ladies get turned on by powerful, influential men
That means you have to become a leader of other men
You become powerful and influential when other men see you as someone who can help them achieve their own
This is actually how you impact the world the most
I showed this video to my wife and she cried
An ordinary life can become extraordinary when you have children
Have have a lot of them. Enjoy them.
Help them grow strong have have children of their own!
This is a visual representation of LEGACY. This is your lasting impact on the world. This doesn’t even need to be biological. But this is how you live a life of purpose - by changing the lives of the humans around you and making the world better for them.
@Hypnostrategist
@AdamLaneSmith
Instead of viewing negative emotions as just "feelings," once I started viewing them as feedback loops pointing me to areas to improve, lo and behold, my life improved 10x within months
@OnlyKingChrist
@TheEcho13
A lot of women don't actually know what they want. I doubt they're truly lying. Rather, women are complex and often have been told one thing by society while wanting biologically something entirely different
@TellYourSonThis
Unless it's my wife, I don't try to teach any woman anything. It's just not worth the potential consequences of her getting angry and lashing out
Most men suck at providing for their families
Even if they make enough money to keep the household afloat, provision is so much more than just money
It’s providing leadership, direction, creating a fun, distinct family culture
It’s providing training for your kids to fully and
@AJA_Cortes
The muslim slave trade of Christians existed for well over 1,000 years as was way more brutal than the transatlantic slave trade. Christian parents in muslim controlled territories would regularly castrate their own boys to keep them from being sold as a sex slave
So many married men just don't understand their wife sexually
Which makes sense, because women are A LOT more complicated sexually than us men are
It took me years to learn this information
And now I've summarized the worlds largest sex study (1 billion google searches) in a
@masculinesoul
Figured this out the hard way with mathematics. Hated them in school.
Listened to Weinstein on Rogan, and all of a sudden I'm eagerly reading Penrose's "Road To Reality" filled with abstract math.
@ThePoliticalPom
Not at all. I've doubled my income because of her. And I'm looking to double it again.
She is my right hand counselor and chief executive operator. She has my back, and inspires me to more every day
@diversedbd
@jgunn1975
@GiaMMacool
100%...that's why so many women practically give sex away before marriage and then dole it out after marriage. It's not about the sex. It's about the control.
@avechristu96332
@Alicia_Bittle_
Women definitely struggle between their biological reality and the feminist rhetoric being pumped at them their whole lives.
They're between a rock and a hard place socially, and they on average struggle to go against whatever society is saying.
@thisisfoster
As a teacher, watching 12-13 year olds with free access to porn etc on their phones was heartbreaking. They were both old before their time and terribly naive...like a perverse inverse of what they should be by that age
@StirlingWisdom
I bartend on the side.
The amount of women who are taking astrology seriously is mind blowing to me.
It's just in the last few years too. I've seen a massive blow up!
Would your wife trust you to spend $1,000 on an investment?
I remember when I made the biggest investment I had made so far in our marriage
I spent $1,000 on a training course
My wife wasn’t so sure about it.
She knew we needed to make more money. But she’s very, very
@beherleader
This is so important for men to understand. It actually ISN'T that expensive to have kids. And as they grow older, they're a net benefit monetarily! It's not that hard to teach them, if you know how
I'm gonna be honest, I need to be extraordinarily diligent and disciplined
My wife is an amazing baker
And her love language is me eating her sweet, savory, and fluffy creations
I have to be very intentional NOT TO END my days as a fat old man
You’d be surprised how often I
If you're a husband today, here's one major component of your job
It's huge...and also a little awkward
But if you don't learn it, your marriage will be crippled
You have to learn how to teach your wife to be feminine, in the best sense of the word
Most women today have no
One major issue I see is that women are supposed to bring the sort of support, maintenance, and nurturing activities to a relationship that help foster oxytocin and serotonin release in a man. Bringing biochemical peace to his brain and nervous system. And a tremendous number of
@Brian_Sauve
Porn is a cancer eating away at the bones of our society. It robs men of their desire to produce, overwhelms dopamine centers, and creates unrealistic emotional expectations from the women who read it.
@TheeJoelLopez
I worked out for 6 months without saying anything to my wife. Then suddenly, she was all about getting running shoes and doing squats with me every morning.
@tyromper
Marriage always comes first. A couple times a month, I remind my kids that if I could only save one person in the family, I'll choose Mom every time. Always gets a big laugh, but reinforces the point that my marriage always come first for me
How lifting heavy things changes your life
(And why you should be doing it regularly)
1. Your body looks better and so people treat you better (halo effect)
2. Your wife wants to have more sex
3. Reprograms your serotonin based nervous system so you feel higher status
4.
My birthday was yesterday (happy birthday to me lol)
My wife bought me Charles Alexander’s book “A Pattern Language” all about architecture and timeless ways of building
We've been reading the online version out loud together and talking about it before we fall asleep
Print is