I study too much. I don't debate menfolk for free. People say I'm intense but that's not my problem. Insane enough to rebrand misanthrophy as new age philosophy
@_sforsierra
I am absolutely trying to fight off a catatonic state at the fact that 58tb of that exists... and one man had access to accumulating it..... like he does not need to see the light of day anymore
@thecindynoir
I saw a TT about this. This is where you see the years of that emotional labor women put in the marriage constantly dismissed by the husband so much to the point that she gets tired of compromising herself and leaves. THEN they snap out of it. Men only check in when you check out
@VivSaintLaurent
I think this is a perfect example of why drowning yourself in a hobby that simply fulfills you can lead to you finding the love of your life cause he just may be into the same damn thing. This is so beautiful ๐๐
@BugzieLove
This clip made me feel a little sick. I've been listening to a lot of elder black women lately.. these men romanticize what these marriages have survived but if you were to honestly ask these women if they could have chosen a different life almost all would say "in a heartbeat"
@GeauxGabrielle
A victim of abuse that won't address it can feel vindication when they can get to join in ridiculing another victim. Othering the victim separates them from that familiar place, now they get to be witness and define what happens. It's more important to have power than empathy
@AmandaDannielle
Not even the worst part. This is why it's important for women to tell their story, he convinced her to move, got her pregnant, had a ROUGH delivery then left her high and dry for his ex while recovering from c section and caring for her newborn. He's truly repugnant
@yolanda_parody
I'm sorry but it was no question why the new Gossip Girl could not measure up they didn't have a single character that was this effortlessly a glorious trainwreck ๐ญ๐ญ๐ญ๐ญ
@tinnkky
This is making me more annoyed by the min lol She really, actually shrank her very real international shine to mother and wife for a guy who is the equivalent of only being able to peak in college. Why do women think this little of ourselves to actually make this a NORM??
@__Rocka
I was really hurt for her. I'm an introvert and I admit I love having my time but..I can recognize a lot of what makes me want to hermit is a trauma response these days due to a life of craving *intentional* Sisterhood and just never got it returned. She really deserves better
@euphorixa
It could be the most outrageous thing you've ever seen but it's that nonchalant "yup been there" energy from other women that line up in the comments who have experienced something similar that somehow messes me up more...
@_2fab2care
The way she dodged a bullet. He was definitely trying to set her up for a life of abuse tied to feeling less than because of her diagnosis. Sharing your vulnerabilities in dating out here is a battlefield for your soul, pls be safe out here ladies
@YtH8r
@RichieAlpha
I was here for this until he had to use the slurs. Gay does not equal predator. There's a predator type in every class across the spectrum.
@_JustDenver
This is why so many of us need to humble ourselves and that really is an OK and beautiful thing. Soooo much shit we loved as kids would get dragged into oblivion now. It's only a problem if you're still defending it like you're still that kid who loved it
@DanaVivianWhite
When you're fully immersed in a capitalist society, you will value advice on money before humanity because that is how the system was designed to function through and through.
@reddskyy_
@flaviusvalens1
But that should show you how deep this social conditioning is for women. This man is literally comfortable being a predator preying on her and her daughter and her natural instinct every time was just to rationalize it. This was terrifying
@Imani_Barbarin
My brain is spiraling. I'm thinking about the rise of cost of everything especially taxes that's happened in the last 2 years and this $10 billion in defense ALONE they just got. This was all planned and we've been dragged along with it without a hint
@Clitsandgiggles
We will never be free. They keep covering for the garbage they had these children with and wonder why no one appreciates a thing they did.
@tee_danja
That's just another way they are trying to invalidate women's experiences from situations they ultimately caused. Really he's just admitting he's in competition with his own child for her attention and he wants everyone else to make it stop.
@CoffeePowerrr
@Habibakatsha
Honestly though, whoever the husband is he really needs to be watched and everything about this tells me he will try something on that child eventually. Normal fathers don't force their children into their sex lives, predators do that
@Diaspora_7
This is so heart breaking. I want more black boys to talk about their feelings. I want to hear them so we can heal them instead of putting them in cages, they don't belong there
@djbigatexas
@AfrikanLee
Are you seriously acting like people who were raised with a colonizer mindset will go to a foreign land and respect any rule or law they set? Don't do that
@Vishi_Divine
Misandry is self preservation for women.
Men would rather kill women than leave them to their own devices.
We have got to start asking a different questions.
@BlondeHistorian
I don't know how to explain this but this is the exact core of why it's not petty when women leave over "small things" because mostly in life we're not processing the larger things they're telling us as we're also trying to survive. You just get domination games if you don't.
@hassanaksyed
@TheAlexaPowell
Seriously because I am horrified at how little people think things through and I actually see how it compounds into humans being SO insufferable around each other. It's crippling sometimes so I pray to the solar flare gods
@GlamazonJay
I mean it IS pretty embarrassing when absolutely everyone else including the people your own gf hired to protect her image sees you as the liability but you just won't go away. The male ego is a freak show in itself
@QautaunoyaGile1
People forget when you are attractive, you are attracting EVERYONE. Including the low lives who have gotten crafty about manipulating their way into decent people's lives. Boundaries quite literally are everything
@TrafaIgarNYC
@tinnkky
She achieved success in her field on an international scale, if you're only recognized for a game that's only played in your country.. actually it's like peaking in high school. What's lowly is giving up your momentum just to breed for a man who can't seem to honor you or his end
@TheTitanBaddie
I used to ADORE Anna Nicole Smith as a kid mainly because I didn't understand why people hated her. Srsly I was like she was taking advantage of what this world made available to her. Later I realized btwn her and Pam's story the cost of being "their" prize is self annihilation.
@IzmsHasRisen
This is depressing af. It's not like our ancestors asked to be separated and sold into slavery. Colonialism still doing its thing into 2020 and beyond...
@kidnoble
I will never forget when she was coming into her own several years ago, y'all wouldn't let her have sexy or sexy adjacent to save her life but now that she's a mother suddenly...? Humanity is such a dumpster fire of denial and self disapproval lmao
@DrIndyEinstein
I wish more people understood it's extremely valid to be suspicious of anybody who needs to treat any cycle of life with violence. We all feel like we're surrounded by entitlement and apathy well look at how we treat the food that is suppose to nourish us...it's really no wonder.
@_benjvmins_
The way people did not listen after that because not seeing outside themselves meant more.. I just accepted this has to play itself out before people will get it.
@CeciATL
Also people love to forget how in these relationships women are the ones that usually take the initiative to find resources to repair the emotional strain usually caused by the man. Women have BEEN trying and they reach their breaking point, this is just shapeshifting gaslighting
@jiggyjayy2
Very interesting he would pick that thing to attack her on when we know there's a very real resentment in this community with how more educated the women are than the men and here she comes, a woman in "their domain" getting a degree. Mars is retrograde too. I don't like this...
@jenny_gxo
Anyone who thinks she's a bad person for how she's handling this is showing their hard coded patriarchal conditioning that's all. The kids don't deserve to go where they are even slightly unwanted and she knows as the wife she would end up taking care of them against her say
@mxmsworld
This needs to be a normalized thought process because this is exactly what it is. We're just now coming to the point where we realize all the ways women are conditioned to fawn at their
#1
threats to their lives. Cheating was always the most obvious one to me
@ronkelawal
@AnushaLDN
Chile! She could've gone her whole non-career life with us not knowing that? Imagine TRYING to catch a stray bullet because you wanted to feel included ๐ญ๐ญ๐ญ
@queend236
That's what I'm talking about. You ever wonder why this world has a heavy interest in black women-the class of women most violated AND deprived of justice-being so forgiving? The minute black women start getting strategic in THEIR self-interest, it's over. I hope Meg sees this
@asj519
When World War II ended they needed women to leave the jobs they took to keep the country going so that the men coming home could have them back. Women enjoyed that freedom, so they started getting all of this aggressive propaganda about being mothers and housewives for pressure.
@gIowiny
I remember this video I saw years ago of a African grandma rubbing a newborn down with some raw shea butter. All I could think was that baby has to be getting the most epic sleep possible with that hands on support for blood circulation in their development
@MERMAYYDE
If black women would have the courage to make this move a blueprint at the face of any lack of personal support from their own, they would actually be happy with who they were as black women. If you know you know.
@bbnojutsu
I honestly can't get over how much I love this. Not just the reason but she is honoring her natural cycles of living without shame. She's just beautiful inside and out
@BugzieLove
RIGHT?!?! And honestly this woman does not look like she's quite at elder status. She still has so much life left in her but you see the pain in her eyes... I just sat here and watched this like see how nothing changes? Men define everlasting love off the defeat of your spirit
@fkamorena
I'm not shocked because that's too accurate. You called out the addict in all of us. We don't like to think about how much of our reality is only copeable because we voluntarily warp our own senses w/ illusions and just scapegoated that shame onto those who use "specific" drugs
@Chelsea_Fagan
It's pretty abysmal actually. I'm seeing how women have to make a joke out of what awaits for them when they seek marriage to men in order to cope instead of just seeking something they don't have to be the butt of. Don't wanna admit this is the unpaid labor men "hire" you for
@earringdealer1
To be honest it seems like needing to constantly pander to an audience like that to support you is a form of personal slavery but that's his problem I guess
@nowwhyamiinnit
@jiggyjayy2
It's not just a direct attack it's an existential threat. I don't think we're ready for this conversation because a very scary amount of them will really take us all to Valhalla than deny that option. It's about its about living at all costs for them when it comes down to it
@smoke_nd_pearlz
That is one of the most upsetting threads I've ever seen in my life. I'm pretty sure there are both black and white males behind burners bonding over this.
@ArianaThorne
@monarchcurl
I'm noticing this new trend of professionals throwing out information that goes against what we've been taught but they won't elaborate on why. Whatever. All I know is that my hair STAYS moisturized when I seal in with coconut oil after I rinse out my conditioner.
Marrying before your frontal lobe matures is very important to maintaining caste. Ensuring children are had within the first few years of marriage, all of it.
@jmasters7649
@ask_aubry
HEAVY on a cellular level. You can tell that man lives to crush whatever joy that woman gains for herself and what we're not ready to talk about is how many of these men exist seeking marriage just for this opportunity.
@__autumnstarr
College is that time share condo in Florida you were conned into getting with a free lunch but turned out to be a worthless money pit if you didn't choose the right package.
@oneapart22
@Player2Joypad
@polyglotheaux
@Teia0K
Not sure why weight matters but I guess you're sensitive to those things the same way I can see how much your mom didn't want the burden of your existence through your response. I'm sorry she felt like she didn't have a choice โค๏ธ
@6A4EVRR
@CaptainVirgilx
@_benjvmins_
No really because I'm really over here thinking about how different society would look if males faced public stonings for convicted sexual crimes
@Agojie_
Do you know much entitlement has to live within you to go to a country with the motive of finding a wife and not even bothering to so much as Google any insight what the cultural expectations are from the women who live there...? This is how men attempt to be colonizers now I see
@KWierso
@JamesMFrench
@urdoingreat
I can argue his practices contribute to ruining the earth as well so he'd just ruin space too like a fucking intergalactic plague.
@Vishi_Divine
There was a young guy a TT who figured out that most of the advice he got from older men were ultimately sabotaging him w/ women his own age just by looking at how they'd turn around and focused on getting those same women.