then there was the time I asked my mom to french braid my hair before picture day and then I BRUSHED OUT THE WAVES because I wanted to look like Corky the beanie baby
(I wish this was a joke but it was a real, actual desire of mine)
I can't believe I'm asking parenting advice on twt and I'm prob gonna delete but: independent play is important, right?? Elsa refuses to play by herself and I feel awful/lazy if I say no when she asks to play but also independent entertainment seems important to teach?? Idk
my thoughts on the kicker's speech (a 🧵): I'm a SAHM with two kids, exactly the kind of woman he's supposedly "uplifting" here. But you know what, it's *hard* work and exhausting and there's a lot of times I wish I had a job or some other kind of outlet. If women are gonna 1/12
@sarahradz_
those are all good suggestions!! my daughter (4) either wants screen time or my undivided attention. My son (2) is good with independent play but completely untrustworthy lol, he WILL get into whatever he's not supposed to but hey, he's entertaining himself!
@mmencherogarcia
@Porkchop_EXP
To be fair, we use our cars to go to the grocery store because we have to, not strictly due to laziness. Our towns and suburbs are extremely car-oriented to the point that it's often unsafe to walk/bike
@ehs06702
@AskAManager
sometimes it's manipulation, sometimes it's shame, sometimes it's a physical reaction (that last one is me). I don't *want* to be crying and would really rather respond in literally any other way, but just the tears come completely unbidden for any strong emotion :(
@JamesRKirk
@HannahPosted
eh, I have friends who were sexually assaulted at sleepovers (typically by a father or older brother, but one where it was the friend itself) so I get it. But there's still a big gulf between "no sleepovers" and "another adult is stopping by during a play date"
@DavidEboh5
@ghostybakshi
@EsquireMagic
actually you can care about multiple issues at once. child marriage in Nigeria is objectively bad but has no bearing on my own children's consumption of social media
@LegoRacers2
not that I disagree, but it looks like the phrase "summer child" has a more varied usage. I could imagine a Southern grandma using this with "sweet" or "darling" preceding it but not being recorded in writing.
My lovely, faithful MIL who volunteered and homeschooled and kept home for 25 years had all that count for very little when it came down to needing health insurance for her or her minor sons. I don't think people always plan for hardship when they romanticize staying at home. 9/
@sewistwrites
I actually think what they mean is they're saying they're running after their kids SO much that they don't have time to eat and everyone who's nodding along is just perpetuating unhealthy behaviors
daycare prices for two are just not manageable, so my SAHM position became permanent by default. This is a job you have to WANT to do (and it IS **a job** in terms of effort) and it can be very lonely sometimes. And my children are, to my knowledge, neurotypical so I even have 4/
I will definitely apply because again, I miss having that outlet!)
TL; DR - there isn't one "correct" path for everyone, so maybe don't encourage an entire group of people into a specific role/way of life on the basis of gender? /🧵
hear how "important" this job is, they need to hear the other side too. I love my children so much, but I'm not sure I would have chosen to be a SAHM on my own. My daughter was born in Jan 2020 and we hadn't decided if I was returning after mat. leave, and then COVID happened. 2/
If women want to be SAHMs, great! Do it! My MIL was one and she's one of my very best friends. But you need to make an informed decision. If women want to work, great! Do it! My mom was an engineer until she retired 7 years ago. I encourage women to make the choices best for 6/
it "easy" in a lot of ways! (although tbf I myself am not NT). I admittedly only listened to the most viral clip of the speech, but it really seemed to focus on what the woman could do for others, and that is disheartening bc her own perspective deserves to be heard too. 5/
You just don't need a receptionist/office assistant when everything is shut down so I was laid off 🙃 (and to be clear, the firm I worked at was actually really amazing about layoff benefits, etc. Zero complaints there!!) By the time the world opened up we had another and 3/
@thepursuinglife
I wear slips (particularly when wearing pantyhose) to help some dresses slide better and not cling awkwardly, or to keep a petticoat from poking me. (This sounds like a joke but it's 100% true haha)
both their families **and for them as individuals** rather than be told what the "good" or "God-honoring" job is.
One final thought: in 2016 my dad died suddenly. Only 5 weeks later my FIL died, just as suddenly. It was a really shitty year. My mom, who worked all her life, 7/
retired almost immediately and has healthcare and a pension (I know those are pretty much extinct these days) for the rest of her life. My MIL had to find work within a month of my FIL's death even with a life insurance policy. 8/
@sewistwrites
I think the only time I've seen this kind of thing with sons is with regard to the draft/war. "That could be my son over there!" beyond that, that just doesn't happen like it does about daughters!
just a reminder that Eric Con got what he wanted by having his most recent trash take escape containment and go viral, even if it's bc of people dunking on him. engagement = money and we're all better off if we simply block/ignore
@johngreen
I saw on a pbs doc about TB that by the nineteenth century 1/7th of every human that ever lived up to that point died of TB. just a bonkers high stat & to continue to have so many deaths even AFTER discovering the cure is ridiculous bc now it's a greed issue, not a skill issue.
@emilykmay
women really had a raw deal for most of history:
- dying in childbirth pretty common
- don't want that? too bad, sex is an expected part of marriage and refusing would be sinful
- in theory the solution would be not to marry, but that was a nearly impossible option due to sexism
@sewistwrites
I feel like I'm in a limbo where I'm at home and that's a privilege like you said, but also I'm at home because I wouldn't make enough to cover childcare anyway
benefited financially from being a dual-income home, too. My life was (and still is, to be fair) very privileged and I'm always inspired by my mom's career even though I'm not following in her footsteps right now. (Although I'm not opposed to it! If the right job comes along 11/
My house growing up wasn't always spotless (but mine isn't now while I'm at home either), but my parents both worked and they also loved and supported us amazingly. My mom's "jobs" as a wife and mother never suffered from my perspective just because she worked, and we 10/
@sewistwrites
I *swear* by Pillsbury pie crust. "You can tell when it's homemade!" No you can't. "It's so easy to make!" Not as easy as unrolling a pie crust from the fridge. "It's not as flaky!" It is, I get compliments all the time for it and people assume it's homemade. YOU CAN'T TELL.
@seanoconnz
On the 9/12 podcast, one of the rejected Onion headlines for the first post-9/11 edition was "America Vows Revenge, Says Quadragon Officials" and I still chuckle randomly to myself about it after learning that it was on the table
@ehs06702
@AskAManager
idk I've cried in the office in response to all sorts of things, I try to excuse myself ASAP bc it's not comfortable for them or for me. it definitely could be manipulation but unless i knew more about her i wouldn't jump straight to that, if only bc i empathize with her there
@wfyoungblood
Christianity is a movement largely founded in reaction and opposition to Pharisaical Judaism though, so it makes sense that we would be against it. Is it possible to criticize the theological beliefs of an ethno-religion without questioning the group itself? /gen
@bad_histories
I find him and Alix fascinating bc they were two people who really loved each other, their family, and Russia and wanted to do their best for them...and then proceeded to make literally the worst choices possible for all of them every. single. step of the way
@sarahradz_
I actually love that idea! We like watching things like Numberblocks or PBS but I think learning games would be really fun for her too (within reason, gotta say that here 🙃)
@The_Feminist_TM
@CobraSwims
Even middle class white families often had black domestic laborers, particularly in the south. 90% of black women in the 1960s workforce were domestic laborers, and middle class families could easily afford it bc wages were appallingly low
@bad_histories
Nicholas and Alexandra are fascinating to me bc they loved each other, their family, and Russia SO MUCH and yet every opportunity to actually improve any of them or lead well was completely ignored and the wrong choice was made every time
@wearewatcher
it will be nice to see him present, I've always thought he would do a good job but then y'all decided to hire The Professor instead of the history nerd you already had! (no wonder they're estranged)
@navsaml
@laurchastain22
Looking through replies he seems to be making an oblique second amendment point. 🙄 But it's not the slam dunk he thinks it is—there's actually no good reason to own an assault weapon if the government will provide one to citizens for free when they actually *are* needed
@whywinewhy
@limitlessjest
"here's a few hundred feet to cross three lanes of traffic, godspeed"
like, I actually cried the first time I went over the Fort Pitt bridge
@mrfrttv
@rhewondrous
@StatisticUrban
@industrialpc
@xkcd
most tweets I make I only expect to be seen by my friends bc I'm a small account, and I bet every single one of my friends could recognize XKCD's art immediately. It'd be like saying "4 score and 7 years ago" and needing to add (Abe Lincoln) in a casual tweet
@emilykmay
I thought Santa Claus used to watch us through pictures of himself so I'd talk to the Christmas-themed coca cola bottles every night telling them what a good girl I was
And this is not to tear them down, because they all look amazing!! They're just going against the grain of what's expected for funeral advertising and I was so surprised when I saw it. This is a local-owned AND woman-owned funeral home, and we support that! 😍(h/t
@MegStEsprit
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@iconawrites
then there's the 21st century version of trapped: capitalist hellscape edition. in a society that purports to be equal, childcare is so expensive that it often forces a parent (still typically women) to stay home bc a person's worth is tied to their job/salary.
@MediumSizeMeech
she "only sort of" gets the **most basic rule of wedding wear etiquette**? (Assuming a western-culture wedding) you DO NOT WEAR WHITE unless you're specifically told to, even if the bride isn't wearing white.
@wearewatcher
first m*sk says 4/1 and now 4/20? he wishes he was even a fraction as funny as anyone at watcher. the most humorless, stern watcher employee >>> m*sk
@The_Feminist_TM
@CobraSwims
On page 25 it's especially spelled out:
"Workers not only took on the burdens of household maintenance but also those of family nurturing for white middle-class women (Anderson, 2000). They did both the
dirty, heavy manual labor of cleaning and laundering and the emotional (2/3)
@Commited4life
@mollyfleck
I don't think she's saying all libraries must have them, just that it's not an unreasonable idea to have an inside playground in a library and that it doesn't inherently ruin the peaceful serenity of a library (contra what other patrons who disliked the idea suggested)
no one anywhere ever has experienced injustice to the same degree as my son, who is being DENIED tortilla chips simply because he already has a plateful that he is ignoring in favor of MORE.