PaulaGhete
@PaulaGhete
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pretend I’m not here; I’m trying to keep my mind and my heart intact in a world that lost both 🖤
Joined February 2019
"It sounds like you want an echo chamber" - almost true, but not quite. I don't want an echo chamber of ideas, but one of the same values, priorities, and mindsets. What I desperately want is a small group of people who want to seek the truth - no matter what it is.
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@dieworkwear Not really. Women want to believe they are not dressing for men, but more often than not I bet that's just self-deception. Everything we do in public is performative. If a woman wears revealing clothes in front of men, you can never say that she is not doing for men (too).
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@dieworkwear If there is one thing I have learned about human psychology is that many times people will not be fully aware of what drives their reasoning and behaviors. They'll say one thing and be honest, but in reality, other things are happening in their minds. It's self-deception.
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@David_Challen Why are those judges allowed to keep their jobs??. Why is it that often the man's life should not be ruined by the consequences of his own actions, but the woman who was an innocent victim can be negatively impacted by the man?. Do people have no brain cells left?.
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@David_Challen When a man excuses this behavior saying "he was just being a lad", he tells the world that this is normal and everyone should expect it. If comments like these are met with silence, shouldn't we assume that other men agree?. If he is not punished, doesn't the state agree?.
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@SamHarrisOrg I'll never understand why some people have a problem with Sam Harris criticizing Trump. I mean if you don't see a problem with Trump but see a problem with Sam's criticism of him, maybe you're the problem. Everything I've heard from Sam in recent years has seemed rational to me.
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@rcbregman The recent rise of anti-science attitudes is truly concerning. And it's very clear that politics is a problem because Republicans have less trust in scientists than Democrats. Science and critical thinking are more important than ever - lives are at stake.
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@waitbutwhy Wait. but why? If our global population decreases, everybody may live a better life without polluting so much or driving so many species to extinction or taking away so much of their land. People in the West live good lives, but 8 billion people cannot live like that.
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Don't listen to Freud! Suppressing your fears or negative thoughts is actually a good idea!. Training people (120 participants from different countries) to suppress their fears had positive effects.
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@G_S_Bhogal This case is becoming more and more interesting! The fact that he's a fan of yours and not a fan of Peterson makes me assume he's an intelligent person.
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@heinzsight2020 Yet some people will continue to say that prostitution can be safe, we should remove the stigma because "sex work is like any kind of work". No, when women are treated like commodities they cannot be safe. When pimps and clients no longer see them as human, they cannot be safe.
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How strong is the confirmation bias?. This meta-analysis shows that we are two times more likely to choose information that confirms our beliefs!
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🧠 Are men or women better at reading the minds of others?. 🌍 Here's what data about more than 300,000 people from 57 countries revealed. Theory of Mind refers to the ability to infer what other people are feeling, thinking, or experiencing.
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@DrProudman @metpoliceuk What do you mean this is never a motive?? If this was the trigger for the man, then that's his motive. No one is saying it's a good motive or reason or that his actions are understandable or acceptable!!.
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@GlamourMagUK Did she admit that she has no talents? Then why is she a billionaire?. I honestly don't understand why such people become so popular and wealthy while there are brilliant, educated people who share life-changing ideas who truly deserve more fame and wealth 🤯.
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@LucyXIV Am I too European or not chronically online enough to figure out the problem with what the driver asked? 😅.
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@datepsych Seeing that he follows prostitutes - or women who are always naked and suggestive in pictures - on social media. I instantly lose a lot of my respect for that man, no matter how I felt about him before.
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What makes life meaningful? 💫. The philosopher Susan Wolf proposed that the meaningful life must include 4 components. This study tests whether people think about meaning in a way that confirms this.
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"You're anti-porn, so you have a negative attitude when it comes to sex!". Please, you've just been indoctrinated by the bs you've been watching and you've let a vile industry shape your mindset and your sexuality. If you think porn is sex positive, you are lost.
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Are incels misogynists? That seems to be the case!. This study found that incels are more likely to have hostile attitudes towards women, to objectify women more, and to endorse rape myths. Therefore, unwanted celibacy goes hand in hand with misogyny.
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This is why "sex work is just like any other work" is one of the biggest lies told to women which puts them in danger 💔. If you wonder why I'm against the exploitation of women in prostitution or porn (prostitution with an extra step of filming), this is one reason. .
In our most recent episode, we talked about how #prostitution is inherently dangerous. We mentioned some examples of advice given to women in the #sexindustry that amounts to "how to not get robbed, raped or murdered" tips. Here is an example from the pro-industry group TAMPEP:
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@Trad_Humanist @EleanorSiren Then men should seek wives and try to be good husbands and fathers and not pay women for sex. It's simple. .
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@Lilith_Atheist "I'm not part of a secret atheist movement." - ok, but we could start one! We can also start a cult, right? 🤔.
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🧠Are smarter brains faster? Yes and no. The conclusion of a recent study: people who are more intelligent are faster when solving simple problems. But they take longer to solve complicated problems. 📚 Source:
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Are you more moral than other people? 😇. This study shows that people view themselves as more virtuous than everyone else. This is not surprising, as many studies show a tendency to overestimate ourselves when it comes to pretty much any socially desirable trait or skill.
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@David_Challen This is why the pornification of society harms everyone - including boys and men. Nobody is safe. Even if porn caters to men, they end up being negatively affected by it too.
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If you consume mainstream pornography, but you hope no woman in your life would ever create it, then you essentially need to create two classes of women: one who is worthy of respect and love and one who can be tricked, used, and abused to create it. Do you see the problem?.
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Few people, and especially few women, are willing to date a current or ex prostitute. Some will say that this is just due to stigma and we can, and should, reduce the stigma and then that will be fine. I disagree & I doubt it. Purple represents women's answers, red are men's.
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@nickgillespie @JoeUscinski @GiorgiaMeloni Why is it incompatible? Can't individuals be unique in some ways, but share common traits and values with other unique individuals?. Being Italian, Christian or a woman/man definitely doesn't mean that one is not unique in some ways.
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If "sex work" is just work, how often does this regularly happen to women who work in accounting, retail, call centers, or restaurants?.
Important new study on torture perpetrated against women involved in prostitution in the US and the long-term impact of this. This table shows the staggering levels of physical torture experienced by the women. Note 100% said they’d been beaten by pimps and punters, 95% had been
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@kattenbarge @CrazyChillPlLL @EllyArrow Do you have any research to back that up?. Any studies that show women who work as strippers and prostitutes do not objectify themselves and are not objectified by others more?. Or that they are not treated as less human than women in other careers?.
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@DrProudman They are not just cowards, but evil. A coward is the man who does not defend the innocent when he may be harmed. One who inflicts harm on an innocent person is not cowardly, but malicious.
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@theDAsolicitor @DrProudman @metpoliceuk Why did you leave out the key word here which was "good"?????. NO ONE IS JUSTIFYING ANYTHING!! Don't make terrible assumptions and then get mad at me for your terrible reasoning, ok?.
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@Laurinchhe That's a horrible thing to say about anyone, especially someone who didn't harm anyone. How would you feel if someone said that to you??. Have some empathy for people, especially when you clearly need it too.
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The gender pay gap is almost non-existent when comparing how much men and women earn when controlling for relevant variables such as education, industry, job level, etc. Chart from @SteveStuWill 's latest article.
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@kattenbarge @CrazyChillPlLL @EllyArrow No, it's not the same thing to work as an accountant or a stripper or a prostitute. In most jobs, you do not have to take off your clothes - and along with it your dignity and your humanity and to degrade yourself to an object/sex toy.
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@AcePaladin @EllyArrow In both, men believe they are entitled to women. It reminds me of this quote: "To right wing men, we are private property. To left wing men, we are public property." The first time I read it, it hit me like a brick. The left picked porn, the right picked purity.
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@RichardDawkins I haven't read it, but I had the same feeling/realization in recent years. However, now I think that life can have meaning even if we accept that there is no god out there - just an empty universe that doesn't care. We suffer because we've been sold all these lies before. .
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@jonathanstea Also, how about we say to people like this: you shouldn't be allowed on social media until you've read science-based books at least twice a week!.
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@bindelj I'm sorry you experienced that, but it's impressive how you managed to let those experiences fuel you so you work on making a difference. Take care of yourself! ❤️.
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Do women prefer men with more masculine faces for short-term but not for long-term relationships? No.
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@elonmusk I believe free speech is very important. But I also believe that misinformation is dangerous, so free speech should be limited to avoid the spread of ideas that are false or dangerous. I say this because we need both critical thinking skills and scientific literacy. 1/.
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@lastpositivist I imagine that this type content also fuels men's insecurity and their negative opinion or hatred of women. It's a lose-lose game and I don't get why anyone is playing it.
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@EllyArrow It's easier to think that than to admit that watching porn from a young age and being exposed to the same things has influenced them. People like to say they watch porn to express or explore their sexuality, but they're actually having it *shaped* by a vile industry.
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@datepsych Clearly, it's never just everyone else's fault. But don't you agree that the society we have built also contributes to all these problems?.
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🧠 One factor that determines the kind of life we end up living is personality. Personality traits are influenced by our genes and they tend to be pretty stable. But does stable mean that they stay the same for as long as we live? No. Here's a short thread on this 🧵.
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@dieworkwear They want to feel attractive and beautiful in comparison with other women. They may take pictures to post on social media. Intra-sexual competition affects us even when we are not in a public space trying to attract a man for sex or a relationship.
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@AlecStapp Got it! I think people are too scared of nuclear as their fear is not proportional to the danger (if one checks statistics about it).
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🧬 Are dark traits genetic? Yes!. The dark triad includes narcissism, Machiavellianism and psychopathy. In this study, 278 pairs of twins filled in questionnaires to measure dark traits and personality traits (the Big 5). Let's look at the results of the study!
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@manlinessMT Really? You can't think of a better way to inspire people to eat healthy food and work out than to pick on people for how they look - without taking into account any factors that influenced how these 2 people look (genes, plastic surgery, how & when the photo was taken etc)??? 😬.
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@waitbutwhy Are you asking this because you want to encourage people to come up with and believe conspiracy theories - especially the ridiculous kind?. I don't see what good can come out of this. especially since exposure to a conspiracy theory makes people more likely to believe it's true.
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Men are more likely to get post-blues sex after masturbation, while women are more likely to experience it after casual sex. Post-sex blues refers to negative feelings such as sadness, depression, anxiety, agitation after having sex - even if the sex was pleasant.
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🏋🏻♀️Working out is not just good for your body, it's great for your mind/brain as well!. An umbrella review of 97 reviews, 1,039 trials and 128,119 participants concluded that exercise reduces symptoms of depression, anxiety and distress!. 🧵 Useful information you should know.
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@MeghanEMurphy @pressprogress If he was bought and paid, post the evidence. Do you have access to his bank accounts to prove this?. Or are you just making stuff up no matter how this affects him and society?.
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Today is my birthday! 🎉 If you want to give me a birthday gift, share your best life advice with me! ✨
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@peterrhague I rarely check anything on wikipedia, but when I do, most of the information I read seems quite accurate. I always thought that it's a much better source for laypeople than a lot of other types of content they consume. Do you think that's wrong? (haven't read the article yet).
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@datepsych I also think there is some discrepancy between what men claim they like and what they do like. Make-up, filler, surgery are not always detectable, especially by men, so they may claim they do not like them but they only spot the bad versions, but like it when it's more subtle.
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@dieworkwear Some women make a conscious effort to make themselves unattractive to men in order to avoid unwanted attention. But that doesn't mean the women who wear revealing clothing don't do it for men if they do it in front of men - even if they claim so. The self-deception can be there.
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@kattenbarge @CrazyChillPlLL @EllyArrow You seem to be shifting the conversation to something else. If you cannot make the connection between stripping and prostitution and (self-)objectification and the loss of dignity that comes with it, you can look into it. But let's not pretend this is not the case.
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There are some underrated and simple things anyone can do to improve their ability to think and communicate accurately and clearly. This would also improve public discourse 🧵. 1. Look up words in the dictionary - even words you are sure of; You'll see how often you are mistaken.
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@TRHLofficial If you see no problem with this message, then that's a problem. They put together many things & problems and speak like they cannot be real problems and as long as you make an effort, everything will go right for you. It must be true because an angry person said it, right?.
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@jasonhickel It's so disappointing to realize that the people who provide truly essential services (farmers, trash collectors & so on) get little money and have a bad reputation. But people who create no value but stuff to watch live lavish lives and gain both fame & respect.
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@datepsych I have a question for whoever wants to answer this: for you, is there a distinction between finding someone attractive (thinking they are beautiful) and being attracted to them (wanting to have se* with them or date them)?.
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@rcbregman What are you trying to say - other than the fact that people with little knowledge of measures and effects should not hold or share strong views on anything? (I agree with this). Also, in extraordinary circumstances, it's normal for people to re-assess their beliefs.
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@datepsych Not surprised. If there are men that only care about women's bodies, they are obviously not looking for a partner to date. They're looking for a body to use - how would that help their relationships? 🤦♀️.
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@RichardDawkins So if we don't want others to suffer, we shouldn't tell them stories or feed them lies that will cause them suffering when they discover the truth.
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@RedLightExpose This is why "sex work is just like any other work" is one of the biggest lies told to women which puts them in danger 💔.
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@DGlaucomflecken I think they call it a democracy. Some voting was involved and nobody called for an insurrection. Basically, think of Trump and now imagine the opposite in some ways.
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@datepsych I hate the manosphere/misogynistic content because it makes young men feel worse. It takes away their power (when others are to blame, you are powerless) and it makes them think that women are terrible and they can't have good relationships with them. Men deserve better.
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@datepsych I have a question: is it possible that women *are* on average more attractive than men are?.
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@MeghanEMurphy @whatever You are so right! 👏. I always found it pathetic how these men are actually creating a self-fulfilling prophecy and then complain about it. They want to attract women who look like they do porn and are impressed with money and wonder why they get no love and loyalty from them.
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@Aella_Girl Consent is not the only thing that matters. It's the bare minimum. Some go a few steps further and ask: even if it is consensual, does it increase the well-being of individuals? Does it have a positive effect on society?. Consent does not protect from harm or negative effects!.
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I love this. And it's so interesting that when we praise others, we also feel better. In a way, it feels like cheating because the benefit should be for the other person, yet we gain from it too. Be generous with your praise but always honest. It can make a huge difference.
"If you think of a nice, true thing to tell another person, say it. It will probably be the best thing that happens to them all day." . ― Dale Carnegie.
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@EllyArrow This is so disturbing and I hate how much porn normalizes this. People are unaware of the risks and this is very concerning.
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@Tyler_A_Harper I was never a fan. To me it seems like he desperately tries to create a web of deep insights between random unrelated things and he forgets that he's the one that spins the web and he's the one that imbues it with meaning. it's like he's playing tricks on himself. .
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Apply this line of reasoning to anything related to morality and you'll find yourself on a train of thought that's heading straight off a cliff, taking you and all of society down with it.
Infidelity has always existed so we should stop concealing it, be fully open about it, and destigmatize it. Tax evasion/fraud have always existed so we should stop concealing it, be open, and destigmatize it. Stop letting uptight people dictate how you treat romance or finances.
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@benshapiro Really? You think people cannot think and care about 2 different events at the same time?.
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@MeghanEMurphy I really hate it how when we criticize porn others are quick to label us a Christian, a prude or whatever terms they use as an insult. It just proves that they cannot even imagine someone enjoying sex in a healthy way. To them, only the extremes exist.
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@Noahpinion That post you commented on sounds like every time he invited his male friends out for a beer, a woman was sent to tag along by the organization "Destroyers of male only spaces and interactions" 😅. Loneliness is a problem, but focusing on an imagined enemy won't help.
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@kattenbarge @CrazyChillPlLL @EllyArrow By avoiding my questions and requests for evidence, it seems safe to assume that you don't have it. It's very obvious that you only want to focus on one part of the topic and dismiss, deny or minimize the problems. But surely it's the anti-porn people who are the problem. .
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One of the worst parts about learning and trying to develop critical thinking skills is the realization that the more you learn, the more different you will be from most people. There's so much to learn and yet what I know is enough to make it harder to connect with others.
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@EllyArrow People who think that porn will not affect you as long as you don't watch it are either ignorant or in denial of reality. I swear, it's like people, especially mean, lose half their IQ points when it comes to this topic and I'm so sick of it 🙄.
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@UpSkillYourLife Actually, the 16 personalities (Myers-Briggs Type Indicator) you listed here aren't really evidence-based and many psychologists don't support this classification.
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Maybe we need to change this! ❤️. On social media, it's often easier to find and therefore react to hatred and outrage. How about we try to change that? Take a moment and leave a kind comment to someone. Compliment someone you like. Encourage a stranger. Just add some love! ❤️.
The world only seems hateful because hatred is loud and love is quiet.
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1. Last year I realized that it should be easier for us to learn from scientific research🔬. 🧠I think it's important to form beliefs based on evidence. Yet many people are intimidated by studies. Or they think they are boring or not reader-friendly. 🙋🏻♀️I wanted to change that!.
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@elonmusk Not this again! What population collapse?? We're nearly 8 billion and it's predicted we'll be 10 billion people by 2100. What population is collapsing? The only ones I can think of are wild animals. If we're changing the climate so much so quickly already, . 1/2.
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@JamesCantorPhD I think the way women are often portrayed & how they portray themselves seems more about sexuality, objectification and narcissism than about femininity. I'm not part of that group & I don't want to be part of it. I'd love to see more women who are strong & smart and show that.
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@Lilith_Atheist I'm an atheist, but sometimes I wonder how much religion is to blame for all these atrocities and how much religion was just the excuse that people used to justify things that they would have done anyway, but those stories just made it easier to do or explain everything.
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Being pro-porn is not about enjoying your sexuality in a healthy way at all. And the fact that this even needs to be said proves how successful the "brainwashing" is. Porn shows the objectification, dehumanization, and abuse of women. If that's pro-sex, I'd rather be a nun.
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I wonder how many interesting studies we've read about one or two decades ago that have been re-assessed or dismissed since then. .
The Marshmallow Test falls on its face: A new paper casts doubt on one of the most famous findings in psychology.
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Not really. Women want to believe they are not dressing for men, but more often than not I bet that's just self-deception. Everything we do in public is performative. If a woman wears revealing clothes in front of men, you can never say that she is not doing for men (too).
again, i feel like guys who have no interest in clothes don't understand that women commonly dress for other women. if you see a woman dressing in a very revealing way, they are prob doing it for their female friends.
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@benshapiro It's baffling to me how some feminists don't realize that by becoming basically sex toys for the pleasure of men, you sort of become a tool for them which means that you are giving up on being equal with them🤯.
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@dieworkwear The only useful part of that interaction is that having a very low body fat percentage as a woman can indeed have negative effects on their health and well-being. Women's bodies can develop muscles, so let's stop calling them masculine. Lifting weights is great and healthy.
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@wealth_director So. where's the psychology part? What psychology concept or theory do you think you mentioned here or what scientific source did you use for this?. Or you just added "psychology" to make personal opinions seem more reliable/accurate. .
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@David_Challen So a man's career is more important that the safety and the lives of women? Wonderful, I hate it here. ☹️.
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