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@Pandora_Delaney
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New here but making myself at home on the digital playground. Sex, love, polyamory, and whatever catches my fancy. Verified Good Girl™️
Joined May 2024
I’ve gotten happier in dating by broadening physical attraction criteria & indexing more on intangibles like: “how safe do I feel in his arms?” & “how do I feel about myself in his presence?”.
It’s good to have high standards for people you date, but those standards should be things like good character, family-oriented, mutual chemistry, conscientious, no serious addictions, etc, not detailed physical specifications or degrees. You’re not creating a Build-A-Bear.
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My boyfriend suggested I could initiate sex sometime to switch things up. I brought out the puppy dog eyes to stall. Thinking quickly, I said “that’s more of a 2nd anniversary ask”. Crisis averted, I now have a whole year to learn how to do this initiate thing. Suggestions pls 🙏🏻.
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I genuinely have no idea how I wound up as a peak sex degenerate. I wasn’t abused, molested, or even neglected as a child. I was sheltered more than average, but nothing crazy. Was it really just the Catholicism that did it?.
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Received this automated follow up email after a date last week. I scheduled the date through his savvy cal date scheduling link. Ever since I stumbled upon the EA/rationalist scene, I’ve often felt like an anthropologist discovering a whole new culture.
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The Twitter consensus sex initiation tip seems to boil down to… touch him on the penis . It seems I’ve been over complicating things. Or perhaps the truth is that I really love that move he does were he guides my hand down & makes me touch him & then calls me good girl 🥺.
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Wanna go around commenting on all the childbirth discourse about how polyamory fixes this issue, but I suspect that’s a bad way to make friends. 😅. My boyfriend kept having sex with me while his wife was pregnant and after she gave birth too. We’re all doing great!.
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They say romance is dead, but my new boy is booking us a cabin in the woods where no one can hear me scream. 🥰.
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Dating rationalist/EA men has absolutely ruined me for the normal dating pool. There’s just no going back.
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@gertieok Lmao what, he’s not my pet tiger, so no?? I really don’t co-sign this. Men wanting to feel desired is totally healthy. He initiates plenty but switchiness is a very normal part of human sexuality, including, gasp, men.
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I noticed today there are multiple ppl I’ve met via community where at first I’m “meh” or even vaguely annoyed by them . then after enough repeated exposure I do grow to like them. I realized this reminded me strongly of an @Aella_Girl blog post
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Not sure why people complain about it being hard to make friends as an adult. All I had to do was attend CNC parties, and now I have plenty of wholesome friends with shared interests!.
If you're interested in attending a cnc orgy, you can apply below!.It's a pretty curated party, required sti testing beforehand, and on avg the women who attend leave real glowing reviews on our exit surveys.
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@Chesedgirl Dry shampoo!? What a find. 💎. Should we like put together a “slut starter kit” with all the hosting essentials?.
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Some other things that help me feel at home in men’s apartments:. - excessive piles of books.- feminine care products on hand in the bathroom .- lots of natural light.- spare earplugs & sleep masks & toothbrushes.- chocolate &/or ice cream for aftercare.- being served tea.
some random tips for single men:.** especially those looking to change this. • have at least one full length mirror in your home. • have hand towels in your bathroom & change them often. • bar soap is not acceptable hand soap. [watering down your liquid soap when it gets.
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Update: romance boy asked me for my exact wrist and neck measurements? . It’s probably nothing to worry about! . Right? 🥺
They say romance is dead, but my new boy is booking us a cabin in the woods where no one can hear me scream. 🥰.
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In 2025 I wanna:.- make a more serious attempt to enjoy anal.- make breakfast table poly happen by eating waffles after a group sex sleepover .- have sex in at least 6 different states.- get more into rope.- make even more sex friends .- explore a deeper D/s dynamic with BF.
Have you started your 2025 sex bucket list!?🤩.
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Pandora’s box updates:.- make up sex w/ an ex.- first time sex w/ a new guy.- massage turned sexual.- masked “home invasion”.- clothes ripped off my body. It’s like I live in a fantasy factory. Anything I want, I can conjure. And by conjure, I mean ask the rationalists nicely. 🥰.
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Being polyamorous is as much about one’s relationship with values like honesty, authenticity, and autonomy as it is about one’s relationship with other people.
I once met someone who believed it was unreasonable to expect everyone to be monogamous, but also that polyamory was bad and destabilizing for society. His preferred solution is a system where everyone pretends to be monogamous but secretly has affairs.
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Hot take: there’s actually no good way to make 69 work. I think of it as the poor man’s threesome. At that point, just add another person.
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Silly, sexist take. She consented to this & is probably profiting wildly from it. If she was traumatized, that’s because she failed to model her response well. In that case, she deserves empathy. But it’s paternalistic to blame the men for her decision.
The discourse around the woman who slept with 100 men in a day is really pissing me off. This girl is so clearly traumatized and she's getting all the shade, not the ONE HUNDRED MEN who lined up to use her. Honestly, fuck men.
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Got to tell our relationship origin story twice last night & it never gets old. “How’d you two meet?”. “So, do you know what a prediction market is?”.
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@austinc3301 EA/rationalist men tend to be highly intelligent & open, direct/transparent, autistically good at sex, interesting to talk to, & kind/generous . Plus: High concentration of hierarchical kitchen table poly. In my prior experience it was hard to find others with a similar approach.
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Apparently comedians in NYC do NOT like poly people. She asked the crowd to raise a hand if we were in an age gap relationship & since one of my partners is 16 years older than me, I did. 🙋🏼♀️. But I was there with @frisbeetooth who is my age. So of course I got a lecture 🙄.….
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The rumors are true. @Chesedgirl and I are writing on the internet. If you've ever wondered what a slutstack is, first of all, really?? And second of all, do I have excellent news for you. Link in replies.
I loved the writing that @Chesedgirl and @Pandora_Delaney put together in their new little Substack 🦦. Great job being so open. I love learning new things about you both! (That I will later use against you).
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And also, if I ever have kids, I’d want the same for my future husband. Just because I can’t have sex for a bit doesn’t mean my partner shouldn’t. Relationships are about each party getting their unique needs met, not about things being equal or the same for both parties.
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I love date me docs, & I hate the dumb stigma people attach to them. I bet there was a similar stigma for just using online dating in the early days. People who put effort into the early stages of dating seem likely to continue that pattern. Effort is attractive!.
Hello, my name is Gabe Broussard, and I am looking to meet the love of my life. I would like to marry a woman who: .- Prioritizes spirituality, integrity, and relationship over worldly concerns and ambitions.- Wants to build a sacred family bond that fosters wisdom and growth in
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She was all “you realize there are guys out there who will fuck only u, right?” & “open relationships were clearly invented by a dude”. I’m like, lady, this was 100% my idea. I AM THE SLUT HERE. I had no problem finding mono BFs, I just like poly guys better. Slut erasure, smh.
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One of my boyfriends has remarked at how unfazed I am by Twitter haters. Tbh, it’s super easy for me to dismiss negativity from internet strangers: I just picture haters scrolling their feed and looking for someone, anyone to pick on. Makes me a little sad for them!.
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But anyway. I think being on twitter has made me more resilient IRL as well. Because I’m pretty sure I’d have been mortified by public attention like that in the past. But now it didn’t bother me at all. It feels so good to be more free.
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Really amusing to me how so many comments on posts like this are desperate, repetitive cope, like “poly people are ugly”. lol, whatever makes u feel better about something u want but r too scared to try.
Just found out people in San Francisco actually do poly, like seriously, it's not some elaborate joke, this is my Joker moment.
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Made out with a cute stranger on a dance floor tonight! Really brings me back to college. Funnily enough, I think this is the furthest I’ve gone with a strange man at a normie sex party. (CNC parties are easy mode sex parties.). Proud of myself for making moves!.
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It’s now been over a week since I last had sex & I’m truly not built for the celibate lifestyle. Thank goodness I’ll be at a sex party in 48 hours. If I survive that long. (Please play your tiniest violins for me.).
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Mansluts are the positive archetype of male sluttiness. They are honest communicators. They have female friends & not just ones they are sleeping with b/c they genuinely like women. They celebrate rather than shame girl sluts, & in turn, we recommend them to our friends.
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As Airbnb girl, can confirm that I’m deeply grateful to (one of) my bfs for making this happen. Wholesome is the correct term for this community. I’m being supported in a way that works for me personally and that is a beautiful thing to experience!.
my bday gangbang is an example; my bf at the time fed me to a pack of wolves for my bday and it was super sweet of him. i have another friend who locked his gf up in an airbnb and has a bunch of guys who take time slots on a spreadsheet to show up and bang her (she loves this).
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Dating rationalist bonobos is a slippery slope. I’ve finally been roped into helping plan sex parties. One day you match with a cute stranger on Feeld & before you know it you’re writing checklists like “don’t forget to bring the St Andrews Cross, wristbands, & covid tests!”.
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Me, when I’ve spent a bunch of a bunch of time with my boyfriend: “hmm I think I’m ready for some alone time”. *Boyfriend leaves*. Me, 15 minutes later: “how could I have been so foolish, now there is no one here to cuddle me??”.
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Unless your girlfriend is poly, because then she can use that info to help wingwoman you to the new crush. Being monogamous seems a little like being poor. Lots of pretending you don’t want things that you actually do want.
I can’t believe I have to say this but don’t tell your girlfriend just because you like someone else. There’s nothing she can do with that info besides get insecure. If you’re not cheating, don’t plan to, and love her, there’s no action item besides “this too shall pass”.
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Me when my partners team up on me or I watch them team up on another lucky girl: 🥹🥵🫠. Orgies are excellent male bonding activities and I refuse to be convinced otherwise.
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After last night’s sex party theme, I’m kinda sad there are no actual workplaces where I can opt into a sprinkling of sexual harassment & abuse of power dynamics . Could be very motivating to me if done well!.
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Slutmath!. “If I’m extra wholesome sometimes I can be extra depraved other times & it cancels out”. “I totally have time for another BF, I’ll just sell feet pics on the internet instead of having a 9-5”. “We have the same body count but I’m younger so I’m a more efficient slut”.
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Mirror affirmation: I am exceedingly fuckable and a very good girl 🥰.
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In this week’s episode of “wtf are you talking about?” we have this gem of bizarre relationship advice. Putting your life on hold until you are married is actually a terrible idea. Plus traveling with someone provides great intel on them.
Idk who needs to hear this but don’t travel the world with your “girlfriend” or “boyfriend”. Because if you don’t end up marrying that person, all those experiences will have been taken from whoever becomes your wife/husband. They will lose their specialness.
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Working on a new SlutStack post on mansluts. (a totally different breed from fuckbois). Fuckbois are insecure man children who realize sex w/ them isn’t good enough to keep her coming back for more, so they use cowardly manipulation tactics in place of honest communication.
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I have one partner who feels like a friend (who is also my boyfriend) & I have another partner who feels like my boyfriend (who is also a friend). I adore them both. Can any other poly people relate to this?.
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Officially more followers here than on main! 🎉. How should I celebrate?.
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My weekend escapade with Feeld has yielded:. - a real hot couple I may unicorn for 🦄, gonna start w coffee w her. - a monogamish guy looking for a platonic rope bottom so he can practice tying for his long distance GF 🪢🐇. - profiles of multiple ppl I’ve already slept with 👀.
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I disagree. Peak relationship is when both parties claim that they like the other more. And both are so obstinate that they refuse to cede this point. Such that they must duel over who likes the other more. 🤺.
Relationships only work when the guy likes the girl more.
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Oh no 😬 . Glad I know the actually competent gangbang organizers who would get this right, set reasonable expectations, etc. In my experience, sex is very rarely traumatic but human incompetence often is.
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I have three boyfriends so clearly I know how to relationship!.
What exactly qualifies you to give relationship advice to people.
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Sex party planning storytime. Co-organizer: oh no, we have some ladies w/ last min health issues that may throw off our carefully calibrated ratio. Me: Oh noooo!! So what you’re telling me is that this party may be more like a Pandora gangbang part two? How completely awful!! 😉.
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Really regretting doing a STEM PhD , now that I’ve seen how much attention you can get from a niche humanities PhD that enrages internet misogynists.
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My partners are such rationalists. One of them just apologized to me for making an insufficiently hedged statement. And also suggested relationship insurance against emotional damages as a token of devotion. Where do I even find these men?. (I love this).
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The author has spoken! I disagree that it’s disconnected from EA/rat culture, b/c I think the self-improvement/productivity thing is pretty embedded there. Which has pros & cons. But in case it was not amply clear from my overall account - I am pro EA/rat & v pro dating them! ❤️
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This is true if you are baseline secure. If you don’t feel comfortable double, even triple texting someone, they probably aren’t a good fit. Life is too short to expend energy analyzing texting games. I wish I paid more attention to this signal earlier!.
if youre worried about double texting then theyre not the one.
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How I stay “naturally” skinny:. - ice cream for lunch.- hyper focus for hours & forget to eat.- boyfriends take me on regularly scheduled walks .- only drink seltzer.- so stuck in my head that I miss hunger cues.- genetically blessed with a high metabolism.
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This party had a fully mirrored ceiling in one of the play spaces. 🪞🪞🪞. It’s incredible to be able to look up & see yourself being teased by two partners at once. (And it’s also a convenient way to check out the couple next to you.) . Peak MFM times were had. I am floating. 🥰.
It’s now been over a week since I last had sex & I’m truly not built for the celibate lifestyle. Thank goodness I’ll be at a sex party in 48 hours. If I survive that long. (Please play your tiniest violins for me.).
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Lost track of how many times I came tonight. The formidable @Chesedgirl + husband team were relentless!. I vaguely remember a past life where I didn’t have girl friends to kiss, but thankfully those days are past! 👩❤️💋👩.
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So I messed up big time. I went to the sex party without any hair braids. This is what happens when @Jrat_15 can’t make it. I’ll be doing penance (brushing my hair), for the next hour. Please keep me in your thoughts & prayers. 🙏🏻
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My boyfriend is gradients descent-ing me into performing cutesy mannerism . And I am gradient descent-ing him into enjoying depraved kinks. A true love story 💕.
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There’s a lot of low hanging fruit in being good at sex that comes down to using or handing over the hitachi at the right moment (or whatever her preferred toy is).
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@mesolude I think it’s possible to validate and connect to emotions as true and worthy of attention without buying into their roots.
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Poly people should get at least 10 nights per week instead of 7.
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Happy national men’s day!. The men in my life make my life better in many ways. From my dad, to my brother, to my teachers, to my boyfriends, to my friends, and my community. I’m so grateful to know many excellent men ❤️.
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Ngl I think you graduate off Feeld at some point if you are actually the most active poly person.
Lord grant me the time management skills of Feeld’s most active poly person 🙏.
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One of the best kitchen table poly feelings is when two of your partners hit it off and then even start forming their own friendship. Like my two partners who are now part of a choir together. How wholesome is that? 🥹.
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I've been reconnecting with an ex & just revisited the date me guide he wrote. It's really touching to see changes to his doc based on feedback I gave him in our breakup. It's nice to see more evidence that he really took it to heart & cares about creating accurate expectations.
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My boyfriend called me his API today (in the context of me delivering him boob pics when called). I’m not 100% sure what this means because I’m not fluent in computer but I’m pretty sure it’s the nerdiest way I’ve ever been objectified 🥰.
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Is there a term for friends or acquaintances you bang and cuddle at sex parties?. I tend to use “sex friend” or “fellow slut cloud member” but I don’t feel this vocabulary does it justice.
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Have u ever had a crush so crushing that u don’t even want to tweet about it for fear of jinxing it?. But then, like the good little proto-rationalist u are, u examine the evidence & find you’ve gotten away with all your cringiest crush tweeting to date!. So I persist, undaunted.
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New terminology proposal:. Breakfast table poly 🥞🧇🍳☕️. Aka a polycule where everyone is comfortable having a sleepover & eating breakfast together in the morning. The most similar term I’ve seen is “lap sitting poly”, but idk how to feel about that term.
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Thanks for all the great suggestions!. I decided to celebrate with a new profile picture that feels more fun & aligned. 🎉. I spend about 0.5 seconds picking V1 and wasn’t that crazy about it. PS you can always AMA & are particularly encouraged to now! I’m pretty open here ☺️
Officially more followers here than on main! 🎉. How should I celebrate?.
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Holiday PSA: Apologies in advance if my tweets are extra unhinged/horny while away from my boyfriends for the next couple weeks.
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Huh. Forehead kisses & handholding & being held while I cry all rank above sex on my physical intimacy scale!.
Sex is the most intimate act u can physically do with somebody and y'all turned that shit into a hobby.
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Revisiting the sex doc I wrote 2 years ago & realizing all the scenarios I put in the fantasy section…. ….with a little disclaimer about not being sure I’d wanna try it IRL…. ….well, now those are all memories, not fantasies. Back to the drawing board on fantasy ideas! 💡.
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Baffled by the number of people who can’t read and replied to this saying “but we already have porn” 🤔. Not remotely the same thing as what is being described here!.
i feel like it's weird, unnatural, unhealthy that by default we don't really see others having sex, that we hide sex away & make it private. i think it would be healthier to have more opportunities for sex be consensually witnessed, celebrated by close friends in safe spaces.
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I am curious about the overlap and distinctions between three fuzzy concepts:. - romantic love.- friendship.- sexual connection . Can you describe what each feels like internally? Do you have classifications of your relationship space that rely on presence of these feelings?.
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@AlexCaswen Yeah, that's a great one too! . Relatedly, I found one people who recognized I was performing/pleasing and who has helped me do it less. Rare, but such perceptiveness is valuable!.
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Just after I learned about EA - boom, FTX/SBF scandal. Shortly after I learn about TPOT - boom, there’s a TPOT murderer. Currently accepting proposals for enemy ideologies I can sabotage. Like, should I start going deep on e/acc next?.
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Literally me at normie, non-CNC sex parties. Partner whispering in my ear “now be a good girl and act like you like it” 😂.
Ah yes, my old copy of “the joy of calm consensual sex”. I’m sure we can figure this out.
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Sorry but I have to brag for a sec about the super thoughtful gift my boyfriend got me. It was a large box full of cozymaxxxing items & he introduced it by saying how he wanted to help me feel more at home at his place. 🥰.
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Ranking by how likely I am to respond to messages (from least to most):. LinkedIn.GroupMe.FetLife .Slack.Email.Instagram .Twitter.Discord.WhatsApp .Facebook.Messages .Signal. Why must there be a dozen different ways for people to contact me on my little glowing screen?.
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I was v sleepy tonight & my BF was horny and energetic. He had the audacity to suggest he could masturbate??. Like, excuse me, I’m right here?? Your GF with a somnophillia kink, hello. Who you haven’t fucked in over a week. Men can be slow but thankfully he figured it out 😇.
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"BDSM" is insane because it appears to be one of the most legitimately dangerous hobbies with the potential to gigafry your brain but is exclusively done by literal turbonormies who unironically want to like "explore their kinks" and basically get oneshotted by it.
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This is insane. Why not just start the conversation about marriage instead of jumping to ending the relationship? Does the man have to initiate the convo? 🤔. If you know you want to be married, why not bring that up day one?. I just put this plainly in my dating doc.
Hotter take: If you’re dating longer than six months and there’s not been a conversation about marriage, it’s time to end the relationship.
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SoI have a theory I haven’t heard in hair length discourse:. Women may actually find short hair attractive on other women because it’s more androgynous/masculine. We are attracted to men with short hair, after all. It doesn’t have to be this intrasexual competition thing?.
I had never in my life been complimented by women so often as when I had short hair.
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@Chesedgirl I do the butt wiggle too! Perhaps it’s not overt enough to trigger his “she initiated” metric, I must escalate tactics.
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One of the convenient parts about having a CNC fetish is that every so often I’m actually not in the mood for sex. But then I get turned on anyways when my partner initiates “against my wishes”.
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thank goodness there is a secret 4th option. 4) be a poly girl in the rationalist slut cloud.
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Introducing my college bestie and her husband to two of my partners this weekend. They are 100% monogamous but super supportive. She always has the best questions about my relationships and is always looking out for my best interests.
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It’s strange to recall once feeling scared of physical harm from an ex. I’ve lost that fear entirely. I feel completely physically safe around the men in my life. I think this relates to dating in a tight knit community, which I think may be a sort of meta safety strategy.
The main aspect of femininity that men fail to grasp is perpetual vulnerability. If you avoid criminal activity and don’t walk down dark alleys at night, nobody in your life is going to harm you as a man. As a woman, you can be attacked by a drug addict on the street or even your.
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@Chesedgirl I sadly must confirm that I am a separate being from my little otter 🦦 . But very flattered by people’s confusion!. @Jrat_15 has recently threatened to braid our hair together, so we may soon be available as a package deal at a sex party near you!.
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@Aella_Girl Hiking with my metamors because our shared partner (you prolly can guess who) doesn’t really like the outdoors.
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PSA! . Also, @Chesedgirl is NOT an @Aella_Girl alt. I know this is confusing but there’s a whole little community of us where we have overlapping kinks/partners, but are still individuals.
Just to clarify I am not @Pandora_Delaney. We are two distinct ladies with similar hair length, similar kinks, and similar harems but also a very dramatic height difference and a few other pertinent physical differences. Oh also we have matching panties.
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