So today on here I was told by someone I shouldn't have had children because I'm disabled, if you're wondering how Rishi's rhetoric is influencing attitudes towards disabled people ๐
@TinyWriterLaura
I'm bi but calling my male partner whom I live with, share a bank account with, own a house with and have 4 children with my boyfriend sounds so childish lol
This is the stupidest fucking thing. Lots of small cafes only have a singular toilet cubicle, how tf are they going to gender that?
Could we maybe focus on idk, stopping the genocide in Palestine or address the hatred of disabled people rather than fucking toilets..?
It's so funny, and by funny I mean ridiculous, when people try to demonise ADHD meds by what they do to neurotypicals
"Hey omg I took insulin and it made me delirious and almost comatose! Can you BELIEVE they give this to diabetic CHILDREN?"
@Q006205525402
@jdesmondharris
That sounds like the folks you jsng around with. I have four and absolutely adore having them.
I wonder how many people don't like having kids or don't like the societal pressures of trying to make a living and raise kids in a society that's hostile to families?
@adamfare1996
Searched this. She has 11 children, he bought up steralisation twice to her and she said no, it feels like an infentional bias by the doctor here. Disgusting
My unpopular parenting opinion is that most toys are a scam and completely unnecessary. Little plastic vacuums and kitchens? Let your kids have a go in the actual kitchen or with the actual vacuum. Get them out in nature, let them explore things. Toys are pointless tat
I gave birth to my twins at one of the worst rated hospitals in the country and they injured my daughter and caused her to have a brain hemorrhage, left me to bleed out for 8 hours and gave me PTSD.
Criminal charges against the people involved in these cases need to happen.
@LttleGel
@Gods_wildflower
@_celia_bedelia_
But you do have eyebrows so far apart you'd need a mortgage to pay the uber fare from left to right, hair that has less volume than a silent disco and lips that resemble a slash in a potato so what exactly was your point?
@Q006205525402
@jdesmondharris
There's literally no reason kids have to stop you having fun though. People just have this weird idea that patenting means overscheduling boring club based activities. It doesn't
@RealityBent
Is it not lesbophobic to act like lesbians are 2 dimensional perfect angels rather than actual women who can be flawed like anyone else?
What do I know, I'm a lowly bisexual, but I feel like removing someone's capacity to be flawed is almost as bad as vilifying them
@ask_aubry
Flashbacks to when I was called a boy at age SEVEN for having dark leg hair ๐
Also this is lowkey racist af because its very normal for Mediterranean Middle Eastern and South Asian women....
@hollowearthterf
@highiqgf
Heres an idea, either person who wants to have sex can initiate instead of people weird games about who initiates first because you love and respect each other. Wild.
@scottjelfs
@DrClareEdwards
@MrMetacognition
@naomicfisher
Because a safety rule makes sense.
As a child, and now as an adult, I will follow a rule if its logical and reasonable. However if you're simply trying to control me and there's no tangible reason beyond trying to force compliance? No.
It's amazing you cannot see this.
@shaindelr
@avygal
@focusfronting
@lenia_enjoyer
I'm not a baby person and I have 4! Love toddlers, love kids, but the baby stage I've always found tough. I start to enjoy it from 6 months and then more from around 12 months.
Its okay to not like the first stage, I found it anxiety inducing a lot of the time
@adamfare1996
Idk why anyone ever reads "disabled" as "can't do anything ever". It's never meant that. We don't need less abled, differently abled, or anything else, we already have an adequate word: disabled. Use it.
@adamfare1996
Also shouldn't be restricted to one claim per person. A carer could care for two relatives. A disabled person could have and need two carers. It's archaic to limit it that way.
@raisintinybabes
I got told I was just holding the bottle wrong (I have EDS so have flexible joints and weird looking grips on things to compensate) and that's why he was throwing up and screaming...I was like no I'm p sure he is allergic to milk...guess what he was allergic to milk ๐
@Blueflowerfem
Can you blame us for dating men when you lot are spouting this shit 24/7? Can't imagine how dull it would be to be your girlfriend when your entire personality is dunking on bi people lmfao
@adamfare1996
Urghhhh. NO ONE TREATMENT WORKS FOR EVERYONE. That doesn't mean someone's doing it wrong. Bodies are different, experiences are different.
People need to stop thinking one size fits all.
This is my daughter now. You'd never know it happened, she survived despite their horrible care and amazingly is unaffected. Thank you for the comments wishing us well ๐ค
@adamfare1996
I've had 3 and *personally* I don't find them painful. Like no pain meds 48 hours later walking around as normal, forgetting I've had one.
However that's very much the exception and everyone was v confused by this, I put it down to my ND sensory weirdness
@Utterly_Jean
Because its a violation of consent and boundaries. What else will they try to override? It shows they don't respect your opinion and role as parents.
@BiCapybara
Legit they just sound like incels. You could hide names and pfps and intersperse these w Andy Taint fan comments and they wouldn't look any different
@adamfare1996
Either offer to help or keep quiet. I once had someone give me greif about my lawn being too long, my then infant daughter had been hospitalised in critical condition and I had two other young kids, one of whom was struggling with his NDs. I was absolutely LIVID
@ronkelawal
I really think this is a sinister case of sex slavery where she is physically unable to leave the building possibly even the room where she's being kept. For no one to know about the babies and full siblings suggests the only person who sees her is the father.
My hot take on teaching is anyone can teach a room of 30 neurotypicals and your true skill and character shines in how you handle the "difficult" children - that's what separates those who are passionate about teaching from those who want to be kiddie cops
Hot take but I'm sick to death of people overanalysing and sucking all the joy from literature designed for fun. If I want to read a book about a sexy 1000 year old immortal, I fuckin will and you can't stop me ๐
IN ENEMIES TO LOVERS THEIR POWER DYNAMIC MUST BE EQUAL OR WITHIN RANGE OF EACH OTHER. THAT IS WHY COLONIZER ROMANCES DO NOT WORK. THAT IS WHY HE CANโT BE 1000 YEARS OLDER THAN HER.
@adamfare1996
This is a massive problem in other areas as well. Hospitals not believing ND patients, teachers and social services making assumptions about ND parents, police assuming guilt of ND citizens etc. I hate how society just assumes body language is an objective truth
@oliveegger
@NishWeiseth
This lol, I'm in the mountains right now and it hasn't cost me close to 2200 and I've got four kids with me...hikes are free, beach days are free. We visited a castle today for free ๐คท๐ปโโ๏ธ
@ascentovalhalla
@_nomadic_soul
@Xangrydocs
Humans are bipedal and have large heads the combination of this means its more painful for a head to pass through the pelvis than for animals who walk on 4 legs because their pelvises are more open.
@Lucyjoyviolin
@madbutwright
@raisintinybabes
This plus some babies scream when not constantly held. My 4th spent nearly the first year attached to me. My older 3 weren't like it and I was very confused.
@savororaidh
All of this. I've got some clown arguing I don't deserve PIP because I have kids and therefore if I can look after kids I'm not disabled ๐ doesn't understand the concept of additional disability costs...
Being a housewife who loves being so, and also viciously pro LGBT and pro personal freedom is wild. Manage to piss off the left, the right, feminists, trads...
Anyway if you don't like any of the above you can go spin on a cactus, idc.
@pigletish
It's not an item as such but I made my kids "monster spray". It's water, a bit of vodka for preservation and some lavender essential oil. We spray it at night and monsters don't like the smell so they won't come in their room ๐ its worked better than "the dark isn't scary" talk
@Q006205525402
@jdesmondharris
Okay but if having to plan slightly more than before means you "can't have fun", that's a you issue (generally).
It's not even true. I went to comic con spur of the moment weeks ago. A simple "hey can you watch the kids?" "Sure" "cool thanks!"
@fishypants__
@CryspaceSpencer
@ask_aubry
Thats exactly it. To suggest IVF for no medical reason, knowing how painful and horrible it is for the woman, for this shows he views her as an incubator. His possession. He 100% sees her as an object
@Q006205525402
@jdesmondharris
Family exist- you can have other people watch them for a bit. I haven't found them expensive either, comes back to people thinking parenting requires a certain lifestyle. After the first one you've already got all the stuff you need!
@Twiggyanajones
@adamfare1996
Yes! I feel like this needs to be understood in medicine generally. That patient isn't being dramatic and that one isn't being brave, it feels different because they're different people.
@bykatewomersley
@gmcuk
It's bias. The woman had 11 pregnancies, people look down on large families so he's getting a lighter sentence. It's disgusting
@petitecycliste
@ClaireMax
I have always had this. It's really common in women with pear and hourglass shapes due to higher estrogen levels. Its normal. Obviously its fine to not have it but it's a totally normal thing
My littlest baby is nearly 1 and can now walk (holding hands), eats, takes an interest in things, and is starting to talk. I love the toddler stage more than the baby stage but I feel sad that this is the last time I'll do this ๐ฅบ
As an alt person I get so confused when someone tries to insult me by saying my makeup looks unnatural. Yes?? I spend a lot of time to make myself look like the undead queen of the night, what made you think I was going for natural bestie?
@hollowearthterf
@surrounding3rd
That's ridiculous. This is that "women don't like sex" BS again. Plenty of women do and enthusiastically have sex this woman doesn't prioritise her marriage or like her husband ๐คท๐ปโโ๏ธ
@Missymusician81
"Gemma" hurt unexpectedly, because that was me 15 years ago and it deeply upsets me that it's still the same, the pain I went through meant nothing and they still see kids like I was as acceptable collateral.
The increase in posts hating on disabled people and disabled CHILDREN is pissing me off, I will actually deck any of you who I hear saying this shit in person idgaf. Leave disabled people and their families alone you pricks
I love that I spent my 18th birthday not partying or at a club, but at an independent old cinema sipping absinthe in a cocktail glass while draped elegantly over the sofa seats pretending to be a tortured impressionist.
I have never changed lmao.
@KylieWoods3
@scottjelfs
@DrClareEdwards
@MrMetacognition
@naomicfisher
Its still logical to have a speed limit because its not about experience its about safety when impacting someone - therefore e.g in a pedestrian area where you can't control for things like kids running into a road or other peoples driving, it reduces risk.
Uniform rules don't
@BiCapybara
Yeah like even people who are fine with gays and lesbians are often really weird about bisexuals, its why I'm not out to everyone in my family (who are generally chill with L and G)