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The UPS man delivered a package today. He was staring at our house weirdly. What was it -- the laundry rack in the front yard? The raggedy garden? The baby in just a diaper and shirt?
He said, "My grandma lived in this house. She really loved it here."
My sister stopped at Ace, found a man wearing a name tag, and asked for his help. He helped her for about 20 minutes but eventually said she might need to talk to an ACTUAL employee because he did not, in fact, work there and was in his uniform from the car shop down the street.
Average Home Depot experience: 19 year old needs to page the store manager to ask which aisle the light bulbs are in
Average Ace Hardware experience: 79 year old walks you through every aisle of the store and after 4 hours you know how to build a house from the ground up
This morning the pastor said that part of having a healthy church is encouraging the young mom who has been struggling with a wiggly baby through the service instead of being annoyed by them.
My
#1
tip if you have a toddler who doesn't want to eat is to find a toddler who does like to eat and have them eat together. There's some sort of competitive social pressure there.
Today at church someone said, "You're so huge! Are you sure it's not twins?"
I looked her in the eye and said, "It's rude to say that to pregnant women."
One of my controversial opinions is that I don't think adults bringing children should have to pay their own entrance fee. I'm not going to the children's museum for my own sake. I'm the chauffeur.
(obviously there should be limits as to how many adults get in free with a kid)
@LeaMaric
My sister didn't know and planted some in the ground.
Someone who REALLY loves grass forced us to move away from that house.
I bet the mint is still in his yard 😈😈😈
My dentist's wife + receptionist held my baby throughout my cleaning. She's in love with him.
Me: so unfortunately I have a little cavity and I'll need to come back :(
Receptionist: great!! 😍 bring your baby!! 😍
What are your go-to toddler birthday gifts that are inexpensive but still nice, especially for families that don't really need anything?
I'm thinking of bubbles and sidewalk chalk 🤔
Today is my youngest brother's wedding day. It is also my parents' fortieth wedding anniversary.
My new sister-in-law has asked my mom to bring her wedding dress so they can take pictures together 🥹
Do you other moms feel a crushing pressure to have all your family traditions and cute projects figured out now so that they are a constant throughout your child's life or is it just me?
What if I think of a cute idea in five years but I should have started it when he was one
Bold take:
Churches that use hymnals (rather than words on a screen) are more welcoming to visitors because it is easier to follow along with unfamiliar songs if you have the music in front of you.
If you don't want to contribute to the negative public opinion of pitbulls, maybe you shouldn't take your untrained unleashed animal to the public playground and stand there like a useless chicken-livered wuss shouting, "Don't worry, he's friendly" while the beast charges my kid.
A stranger admired my newborn when he was less than a month old and then was horrified to learn that I had a not-quite-2yo (they are 21 months apart). "Why would you do such a thing! I'm so sorry!"
Yeah, I'm not going to be like that lady.
I must share a personal anecdote so ppl can understand lack of education in rural areas
My brother did his obstetrics rotation in rural Texas
Many of the girls he helped deliver did not know how they got pregnant. The girls, often under 14, had no understanding of sex or babies
Oh boy, this is shaping up to be potentially the most chaotic family wedding (so far).
Florist ordered the wrong colored roses.
Best man slept through his flight.
Photographer potentially has mono.
Groom is buying his suit TODAY.
We went swimming at the lake and had a great time. Our 4mo sat happily in his car seat and cooed for almost an hour while I built sand towers with the 2yo.
My 2yo screamed every second he was in the carseat for the first 14 months.
So yes, some kids are just harder than others.
Can I tell you a story about God's provision?
My husband and I planned a homebirth with our baby, partly because we wanted to avoid all the stuff that hospitals push on your baby post-birth.
Like most couples, my husband left most of the research to me, the pregnant mom.
My mom:
--Helps her kids with the grandkids
--Gardens and cans enough tomatoes to feed all of us through the year
--Goes to homeschooling meetings to help younger/newer HS moms
--Makes cookies and meals to gift to others
+ more
Just say you have no scope for imagination and go.
Being a stay at home mom sounds great until the last kid moves out and you’re 46 years old and haven’t had a paying job in 25 years. Do you lay around the house for the last 40 years of your life or do you try and get a paid job with no experience?
Church was so bad today that on the way home I told my husband I don't even know why we go.
And then after the toddler's nap we went swimming. A woman from our church with older kids took our toddler into the pool so I could hold our baby on the side.
After, she told me that she misses the days when her kids were little and needed her all the time because now they are so independent. She told me to treasure it while it lasts.
She probably has no idea that I really needed that reminder and encouragement today, but I did ❤️
My mom met a young dad recently. He FREELY shared his strong opinions on all things child-rearing to my mom (btw her seven children are grown).
How many kids does he have, you ask?
His wife is ten weeks pregnant with their first ☠️
A year ago a refrigerator truck full of cheese broke down near my husband's work and everyone in my family got free cheese.
This week it's yogurt.
Not sure what's going on with the dairy vehicles but I'm grateful!
I am doing so well with two babies that I keep looking back and wondering why I struggled so much in the early months with my first.
But then I remember that he screamed like he was dying every single time I put him down.
I laid New Baby on the bed yesterday and he fell asleep.
Looking back, I truly believe that the Holy Spirit prompted me in all those conversations so he would be ready. Even though we didn't plan for it, God did.
God's provision is constant and unerring. God is good, even (and perhaps especially) in difficult situations.
There is an older, more experienced mom at church and I consistently feel waves of judgement from her for my parenting and it really makes me want to not go to church at all.
It's so amazing that women's bodies can make blood of a different blood type for our unborn babies. I know we also grow organs and bones and stuff but it's the blood type that really blows my mind.
Sil: I learned on tiktok that there are actually people who DRINK raw milk. Can you believe that?!
Husband: I'm going to stop you there before you embarrass yourself. We drink 2 gallons a week.
☠️☠️☠️
We found a beautiful little church to visit today. There was no one under 65 other than us.
My baby fussed, shouted, and tried to crawl all over the church.
At least six people thanked us for visiting, said that they loved hearing him, and said they weren't bothered at all 🥹
I've been reading a lot of history nonfiction and historical fiction recently and the sheer scale of infant/child death is overwhelming. How do you keep living when 7 of your 15 children die before age 10 (as was the case for Effie Gray's parents)?
Without us even knowing, God had been using me to prepare my husband for those first hours as a dad when he was completely on his own. He had the knowledge he needed to protect our son, just like a dad should.
I will give thanks to You, because I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
Wonderful are Your works...
My frame was not hidden from You
When I was made in secret,
And skillfully formed in the depths of the earth....(Ps 139)
Praise be to God for the safe arrival of our second son ❤️
1. We talk about it more now
2. Early pregnancy testing allows us to know -- in the past you might have a miscarriage and not be aware of it if it was early enough
I feel like women didn't use to experience the number of miscarriages that they do at the present time. Was it simply less spoken of? If not, what shifted?
Imagine calling a mother who has been nursing around the clock and through the night for seven months lazy.
Most men would never have the patience and stamina to breastfeed.
@LorentLouise
Yep. Cooking dinner? Not hard.
Cooking dinner while also continually acknowledging my toddler's fire truck noises and making sure he doesn't accidentally murder his brother....kinda hard lol.
I love homebirth. I tried once, and will plan another in the future. I was born at home.
I do believe that natural, intervention-free birth is best for most babies (not all). But that doesn't make interventions wrong. Sometimes interventions are life-saving.
My kitchen is currently fermenting:
Sourdough bread
Kombucha
Ginger bug
Milk kefir
Strawberry soda
Sauerkraut
Can't believe that a few years ago I didn't really understand what fermentation is.
My childless sister-in-law who loves formula: "Well, your baby is almost six months. You'll be weaning soon, right?"
Me: "...nooooo..."
I decided not to tell her that I'm planning to breastfeed until I get pregnant again.
This type of opinion (along with the Spark Joy lady's idea that you only need one coat/jacket) show me that the people who hold these opinions don't live in a 4-season place.
Do you ever think about how beautiful, how wonderful it is that we live in a world where you never have to stop learning? Every day is filled with possibilities to learn a new word, a new tree, a new recipe, a new person. And it never ends! I will learn for the rest of my life.
Everywhere we go my baby is surrounded by adoring fans who say he's the cutest baby they've ever seen. Stores. Parks. The library.
This morning a woman crossed to our side of the street so she could say hello to him.
Am I the only Christian who has never read a single Left Behind book? I see them talked about so much but I completely missed them.
This is despite my parents reading them and owning at least a few.
I took my wedding ring off the other day to knead bread and it felt just tight enough that I decided I shouldn't risk putting it back on.
So I'm wearing my grandmother's wedding ring, the same ring she wore when she was pregnant with my mom and caring for her as a baby 🥹
I went to a toddler library program last weekend and honestly it was a huge blessing to see that all the other almost-two-year-old boys spent the whole time running away from their mothers too. Glad we aren't alone 🥲
During those two hours, my husband was completely alone with our brand new son. He did skin-on-skin (like he knew we wanted), and everything the hospital tried to do, he understood. He knew what to accept and what to refuse. He handled the pushy pediatrician and her Hep B shot.
I've helped with VBS every year I've been attending my church but I just don't have it in me this year. Some of the people who don't have newborns (aka everyone else in the church) are going to have to step up, I guess
Toddler and I are awake in the middle of the night.
Toddler: Dad??
Me: no, he's sleeping.
Toddler: awoooo?? (Dog sound)
Me: no, she's sleeping too
Toddler: *points to the chicken coop* 🤨
Me: no, everyone is sleeping. Do you want to go to sleep too?
Toddler: no
When I was a child I saw a painting of a man on a wrecked ship holding the hand of a woman. She is on a lifeboat below him filled with women and children, and she is reaching above her for one last moment with her husband. The caption, of course, was "women and children first."