The never ending debate of ciyarwa and ramuwar azumi, sometimes it made me doubt the ciyarwa I did in both my pregnancies even though I did my research, my husband and father both did for me too.
After listening to this I don't think I will ever doubt insha Allah.
Part 1...
Until you start working in an office you won't understand why some men vehemently oppose their wives working in an office setting. The way they entertain their female colleagues of course there is no way they won't think some men are entertaining their wives too.
Do you look at your parents and realized they are aging & it breaks your heart? Same🥺 Like you noticed the grey hair, the weary eyes, the exhaustion, the aching bones & of course the faces slowly changing and my God all I want to do is freeze time🥴 Just stay, give a minute☹️❤️
I hope you marry a man whose family won't put him in a position to defend you because even if he does that won't be the end of the conflict. It is a never ending cesspool of animosity & ultimately the man ends up resenting you through no fault of yours.
If there's one thing I know and this Ameera saga has affirmed is that a parent can do everything thing right in raising their child and still the child can just 😫
It's why your parenting should go hand in hand with prayers & then some more prayers bcz it really is not up to us.
Posting people's pictures to mock them will never be ok. It's a disgusting habit and a sin. I hope you've gotten the engagement you were so desperately looking for. Saura kuma a jira qiyama a biya haqqi.
If a woman says she doesn't get much time to do her ibada because of ENORMOUS kitchen work, you don't get to tell her that kitchen work is ibadah too.
She knows and still wants to do all the other countless ibadas on top the kitchen ibada.
Cut them some slack for Goodness sake.
@260two
He's been stealing glances for a whole semester or two. So much so my frnd and i noticed it. I told my her if that guy doesn't talk to me soon I'd walk over and trip him or chuck his eye😂 And one fine evening he did😊 Our 6th wedding anniversary is in 2 weeks time❤
Muslims that are always eager to engage with people that insult Islam & prophet SAW on here, I mean no disrespect but do you think the rest of us that ignore them,block them and report their accounts are not just as angry as you are? By engaging them you are amplifying the fitna.
The way we all lived today, doing our utmost best to avoid sinning and conscious of Allah all day long🥺🤍
May we always strive to live piously and beautifully like that for the rest of our lives. Amin
Truly the heart that is in constant remembrance of Allah is never in distress.
I've disciplined myself that I don't complain when I go grocery shopping or go to buy anything. If I can afford it I say Alhamdulillah and buy. If I can't afford it I tsk tsk in my head, say Alhamdulillah and keep it moving. I'm working towards being more thankful & less grumbly.
On a serious note, Attraction is very important in a relationship. Sometimes I be mad at my husband & I’d forgive him for simply looking ridiculously fine in a suit😍😍 Don’t let make you feel bad for wanting a fine and attractive partner. It’s very ok to add fine on your list.
Even when you are mad at your spouse, be kind.
There’s no place for cruelty & unkindness in a marriage.
It leads to resentment just like lack of communication does,so no matter how uncomfortable the issue is, talk about it. Do not bury it in the name of peace or whatever. Talk.
Everybody is now condemning ethnic profiling, tribalism and bigotry. Alot of you were un-looking when Fulani were at the receiving end. Here is the thing with bad behavior, left unchecked it will most certainly consume everyone. Also the hypocrisy on this app disgust me.
The way weddings are done in Arewa now and now yaran musulmai hausawa doing wani real Housewives of whatever. It has become so bad even a Christian was telling Muslim arewa couple to just convert what with how they are copying white wedding and all. Lalacin kullun qaruwa yake🥴
The things we can't talk about. The things that keep us up at night. The anxiety only you know about. The crippling fear gnawing at us. May Allah SWA comfort us and grant us all ease. Amin
I want to talk about this new thing that is the commercialization of Ramadan, especially on IG. It is getting out of hand and giving Christmas vibes with all the decor and lights. I just think we can go all out for eid but there's need for some restraint when it comes to Ramadan.
Do not, I repeat, don't ever settle for lesser men because you think you are running out of time.
A, You are not old in your 30s, it will be one of the best decade of your life so stop rushing and B, often times they are not worth it and you will end up regretting your decision.
Nothing create resentment in marriage faster than invalidating your partner's feelings and making it seem like their issues are insignificant to yours.
If you think tending to your spouse's emotional need & reassuring them is a waste of time then you shouldn't be married at all.
You can't be a slob, not clean after yourself, your surroundings and expect to be desirable to your wife. Her always cleaning after you and your mess gives off mother-son dynamic. It is off-putting, It is not sexy and no woman will be attracted to a smelly unkempt manchild.
That child's reaction is of someone that is used to being bullied, that is not a natural reaction to being slapped right, left and center.
You either fight back or cower & cover your face. It's instinct and it breaks my heart that she's trained herself to just accept the beating.
Nobody in the history of the world has destroyed so much goodwill and people’s faith like Buhari and his government. Like, is this the Buhari people cried for? Campaigned for?donated for? And stood hours in the sun to vote for? It really is unbelievable and heartbreaking to see.
My 6 year old is so thoughtful she melt my heart every day😍😘
Whenever we keep her dad waiting in the car, as soon as we get in the car she says "Daddy sorry we took so long" or the way she finds me after eating just to say thank you for the spaghetti maama I love it❤️
Oh Allah Nuha’s babies Ya Allah💔💔 Our interaction is always about our kids with a slice of men slander for laughs but her kids Ya Allah her kids💔 Ya Allah forgive their mum, envelope them in your mercy, protect them, guide them and comfort them Ya Arrahamar Rahimin🙏🏻🙏🏻
You don't need anyone to tell you that this man go above and beyond for his wife & kids. When women feel loved, cherished and protected by their husbands they fall over themselves to help ease burdens and equally please their husbands. It just as simple as it is beautiful😍
If you see su asalin real Housewives din. Not real Housewives of Lagos, no i mean su real Housewives of Atlanta, miami etc etc. It is not a franchise you want to be associated with let alone be a part of. There's nothing admirable or worthy of emulating in those shows. Nothing.
I feel guilty whenever I look away from the genocide posts, the images, the videos💔💔 I feel guilty that I even have the option to look at these things or look away. Like, that is Palestinians' living condition and reality for several decades.
May Allah SWT bring an end to it.
I have a 6 year old that touches my head every morning/evening to say Rabbi irhamhuma kama rabbayani sagheera, it blows my mind every single time she does it🥺
I've been in awe of this lil lady from the moment she was born😍❤️
A truckload of joy & blessings❤️❤️
Ya Allah🥺🙏🤍🤍
When I come on here and say to not marry foolish man or sakaran namiji y'll will be saying I'm mocking men or anti men. There's a way your husband should carry himself that you won't even dare approach him to talk about some madness.
I woke up to Nigerians celebrating Dasuki’s release😳 Have you all forgotten why he was arrested in the first place? I am ashamed for my country. This is why we will never achieve great things or amount to anything. Celebrating thieves in broad day light. SHAME
So now every time i touch her head to pray morning or evening adhkar for her she also put her hand on my head and say Rabbi irhamhuma kama rabbayani sagheera for me😂🥺❤️❤️
It is the sweetest thing ever😊❤️🙏
Amina: Maama what is the dua we say for parents?
I was so happy I shouted it out on top of my lungs even Yadon chorused and joined me with his gibberish but I'm sure the angels said Amin to his own too😂😂
Moments like this Ya Rabbi🥺🙏 My heart is so full it's gonna burst❤️❤️
This oga wife trend is the most harmless fun trend I've seen ladies do on here. How some of you made it about yourselves and are boiling with anger because of it is preposterous. Pregnancy talk you will join, mp talk you will join, pcos talk you will join,
Cooking or any chore that you have to do repeatedly, several times everyday even when you don't want to or feel like it will have you feeling negative feelings especially when u don't get off days, helping hand or appreciation. It's only human.
Kowa na son hutu from time to time.
Pain is being off salat in the last 10 days of Ramadan or 1st 10 days of Dhul Hijja or maybe I'm the only one that feel this way💔💔
It is just not thesame if you can't pray your fard/nafl sallah & fast☹️ May Allah SWT forgive our shortcomings & accepts our acts of ibadahs. Amin.
This is how fickle and volatile life is. One second you are here and the next you are gone just like that and there’s nothing anyone can do about it. May Allah SWA take our souls when he’s most pleased with us.
I think nothing is quite as beautiful as seeing Muslims believing and surrendering to the will of Allah SWA when a calamity befalls one. There’s unbearable pain and grief, all you want to do is fall apart but instead we say Inna lillahi wa inna ilaihi raji’un and the dhikrs.
I am telling you all this for free if you don't know. Nobody will go the extra mile for you to make life easy for you and your kids like your parents and nobody will love and take care of your kids like you siblings. Best part is you absolutely trust them.
Good morning Abuja people. Hope your husbands, fathers and brothers manage to find mosques around their areas to pray subh this morning. I know it is hard what with no mosques in Abuja but still try even if na once every Monday mek dem no say we don't pray at all🙏
Ok, this one is for the ladies. You see food? Give your husband's people food if they come, so long as you have it give them plenty food. Let them it and full in your house. It saves you from alot of bad energy, ko basu da kirki wannan zai sa su raga maki. Give other people too.
Wallahi women we should fear Allah SWA. A lady will pass you by in the office and all kinds of nice smell of khumra, oils, designer perfumes will follow along as if she's in her bedroom. We all know the consequences of a man smelling your perfume and liking it but we don't care.
A woman should have the final say on the number of kids a couple should have because she shoulders more than half the physical,health, emotional,psychological,tarbiyya burdens & whatever burden you can think of. Even the financial some unfortunate men leave it to their wives now.
That's how they found alot of us and this is year 12 of marriage and counting.......
Ladies, where ever you are, he will find you sai dai in Allah bai rubuta ba.
Go for outings ? No
Go for vacations ? No
Go for weddings ? No
Do bridal train ? No
Go for evening strolls ? No
Go for get-togethers ? No
The only thing you know how to do is lie down on your bed and press phone..
How will somebody's son find you and marry you ?
Uhhm Tell me 🤌
Some days I wake up with an intense kind of adoration and appreciation for my husband for no particular reason at all🥺
Like I can't get him off my mind at all. I am so so thankful and enamored by him❤️❤️
Entranced, besotted, bewitched, smitten, yes those are the words❤️❤️❤️🥺🥺
I miss Ramadan and everything associated with it☹️ Even the atmosphere doesn’t feel right again. Allah sa muna da rabon ganin wasu Ramadans din da rai da lafiya. Amin
Why are you making it sound like it's a bad thing?
They followed us to write jamb, post UME, university registration, nysc camp registration, the followed us with secured jobs and carry some of us to our husband's house in their cars too.
Gatan kenan ai in ba ka sani ba.
Left to me everyone in Primary school should close by 1pm unless it's club days then you can stay till 2:30pm. I will never understand Nursery & Primary students closing by 4pm/5pm. Yaushe suka huta suka ci abinci har suje islamiya. You will just be rushing kids. I don't like it.
Alhamdulillah ala ni'imatil islam.
My husband will say in ka mutu kafin Yan uwanka su iso in suna nesa neighbors ne zasu ma wanka su ma sutura su lallashi iyalanka. May we always be good neighbors and find good neighbors. Amin
I’m a firm believer in NOT getting to know your neighbors. What, are we supposed to have some kind of a connection because we live closer to each other? Nah I don’t eff with people like that homie. GTFO with your nasty ass apple pie, Gertrude.
I find it weird that some people keep counting on the odd nights only. Why not just bask in the glory and baraka of the whole 10 nights? I think neglecting the even nights is a great disservice to oneself. May we be fortunate, may He forgive us & accept our acts of ibadah. Amin
I always laugh when I hear people say the marriage of the uneducated last longer than that of educated (reads women that have western education💀)
Ask NGOs & govt officials that work in rural areas. Ask health workers. Go to emirs palaces & ask. You will be shocked to your core.
Nobody forced Buhari to be president. He asked, cried and begged to be one so why does he need his aides to show him or tell him what is going on in his goddamn country? Unless he’s deaf, blind and senile he doesn’t have any excuse whatsoever to not know what’s going on. Haba.
You don't know what God has done for you if you live a drama free life. Like, the only drama in your life is your kids shenanigans, office annoyance, small fights with your siblings or husband. It is actually a blessing to have a boring life if you ask me.
Unnecessary shalaye because you can get a man with both🤷♀️
You can even add tall, gorgeous eyes, sense of humor, generous, kind in your spec list & tsaf zaku samu irin su.
Don't limit yourself & your dua when searching & praying for a spouse. Nothing is impossible for Allah SWA.
I don't know why y'll give men too much power over you that you are willing to sin & even go as far as shirk for them. That's not love that's just stupidity. I love my husband and he loves me, we'd go the ends of the earth for each other but we also both know there's a limit.
There's a hidden barakah that comes with being a parent that we are hardly aware of until it hit us in the face. The fact that mothers & involved fathers get to learn the Deen all over again as you are teaching & guiding your children. Another chance or opportunity if you may..
Mcheww. Da wani auren gara babu. What will you be doing in a marriage that the husband hasn't spoken/greeted to your mum & sisters for 2 frigging years bcz they didn't congratulate him when he added wife? Ina ma amfanin auren jahili. Wasu matan ma su ke bari ana masu iskanci wlh.
Society hates seeing women want anything or be anything other than wives and mothers, even if it brings you joy & does no harm to anyone. They ferociously hate it.
If you can't & won't be a wife or a mother then don't you dare live or be happy & thrive.
Just be miserable and die.
A man is keeping malice with his wife because she's pregnant with their second child and he's not ready for baby no 2😢 Toh malan a ruwa ta sha ne? Kai mata na ganin iskanci kala kala.
So many signs of the hour. We are witnessing them happening right before our eyes. Ya Allah do not punish us for the sins of the evil doers among our midst. Forgive us, have mercy on us and take our souls when you are most pleased with us. Amin
So Mubarak Bala still dey? Everytime he does his nonsense my heart goes out and break for his father wlh. A very kind and wonderful man. I can’t even imagine what he’s going through ya Allah😣 Ya Allah kar ka jarrabemu da yayanmu. Ya Allah ka rufa mana asiri duniya da lahira.
Sometimes it is not even about the funny but the hidden messages in the skits that's why I find it strange when people go on and on about how they don't like his content. He's not just about the funny if only you will keep your silly outrage for a minute and see.
Non muslims: Islam oppress women.
Muslim men: Lies, Islam honor women & gave them rights.
Islamic scholar: A woman has a right to......
Muslim men: No sheik you lie. Is my right, is my right. Me. Me. Me. Me. Me. Me. Me🤡🤡🤡💀💀
Make it make sense for goodness sake.
Get your wife a separate accommodation as this is her right in Islam.
She is not obliged to serve your mother and her in laws.
She is only obliged to serve you and her children
We are witnessing the vilification of Abuja people right before our eyes on this app. By force they must portray Abuja as some kind of soddom & gomorrah. Anyone can just open mouth & slander Abuja girls, boys, husbands, wives and parents with fabricated stats for maximum effect.
Add a little chili powder, garlic powder, tsp sugar or honey, dried pasley or Italian seasoning and a dash of lemon juice🤤😋
You can also do the above with unsweetened yogurt or Greek yogurt too🤤😋
Best sauce ever🙌
I've never been a fan of this "the one" that got away for both gender. I think it opens a door for shaytan to mess with your marriage kawai. Your spouse is written, you can't miss them. If you didn't marry them it wasn't meant to be, move on or don't marry at all and hurt others.
I received my salary yesterday afternoon. It has finished this morning..
Hasbunallahu wa ni'mal wakil🙏
Allaahumma innee assaluka ilman nafia, wa rizzqan tayyeebun, wa amalan mutaqabilan🙏
You will never see me advocating for marrying a poor person because of the assumption a rich spouse will show you shege😂😂 An dai fi so aga mace na ta struggling a rayuwa. Halal din ma nema kuke ku haramta masu in the name of they will see shege. Nonsense kawai.
Bold of you to assume kids don't notice fathers maltreating their mums.
We really underestimate how much kids observe & absorb.
Whoever is the shitty partner between the father and mother, I promise you the kids know & are silently resenting him/her or learning the bad behavior.
Abu Ayyub reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Whoever separates a mother from her child, Allah will separate him from his loved ones on the Day of Resurrection.”
Source: Sunan al-Tirmidhī 1566
Grade: Hasan (fair) according to Al-Albani.
As for us women, married and unmarried you have no business slaying and looking peng to go to work fisabilillah. Deep down you know the acceptable dressing for work place, it is no place for dressing up and glamming up kamar zaki gidan biki.
Ladies, this is all I’m saying when you see your man entertaining other women. Stop fighting women for your man’s indiscretion and lack of respect to you and you relationship. Talmbout she snatched him🙄 No honey, no grown adult can be snatched unless they want to be snatched.
Is she talking about him & the marriage? The few I saw she has never mentioned him & even if she did it's her life.
She has the right to feel what she feels, talk & deal with it however she deem fit.
Ku dinga daga ma mata yan uwan ku kafa.
Life is hard, even harder for divorcees.
If you have never dealt with anxiety and panic attacks you don't know how lucky you are. You never go back to your old self after dealing with it. Just knowing the fact that there's something awful like it out there is enough to worry you till kingdom come🥴
And don't get me started on the perfumes women spray to go to work. I once talked about it here. This one is an even bigger issue in that women take it lightly for whatever reason. It is not. Allah dai ya kyauta ya shiryar da duk masu yi, mazan da matan mu duka. Amin
Sticky fingers, smothering cuddles, sloppy kisses, runny noses and chatter boxes🥺😍😍
Ya Allah we are not worthy but you blessed us with this unimaginable joy and unquantifiable blessing that is our babies❤️❤️
Ya Allah bless all couples looking & waiting for this miracle too🙏
Mutum kawai ya tashi ya taimaki kan shi ya nemi kudin shi ya ci mai kyau, yasa mai kyau, ya kwanta a mai kyau, yasa yara makaranta mai kyau, ya dinga zakka da sadaqah da istigifari kawai dan lamarin Nigeria ba mai canzawa bane.
Shi wayan miji kamar albasa ne, kina dubawa kina hawaye" I am so angry because of the above saying. It pisses me off not because we shouldn't check our husband's phones but for the simple reason that we don't condemn the trash and shameful things women see in men's phones.
One reason I will forever hate the PMB administration is bcz of their rehabilitation of repented boko haram policy & leniency 4 kidnappers & armed bandits while victims are traumatized for life.
It was wrong and appalling.
What we need right now is to bring back the firing squad.
I was in my 2nd raka'a of magrib when my 6 year old joined like jam'i and when I did sallama she stood up to pray the one she missed😳😍
I did not know to do that when I was that age.
I'm pretty sure praying in the masjid congregation at her school h something to do with💃🙏
Your children are an amanah given to you by Allah. They are not for you to treat as you see fit. HE will surely ask you about their affairs and hold you to account.
You will just open mouth waaaaaa and say alot of women don't like praying or praying on time.
Matan gidan ku ne basu son sallah da son yin sallah kan lokaci ko.
We will not you people on this app turn women into marasa Imani da tsoron Allah.
Nonsense. Mttttssssw
I will forever be in awe of my kids😍 I can't believe they are mine, i find myself staring at them in wonder alot of the time🥺❤️
I also can't believe how tall Amina is & Dikko is talking already. More importantly they remind me of the Majesty, Power & Generosity of Allah SWA😍🙏
Married women sitting pretty on this table.
It doesn't matter the tribe duk inda kaje burin matan Nigeria su rufa ma mijin su asiri but everyday on this app we hear how women don't contribute a dime and are threatened with 50-50💀🤡
By their tweets you shall know them. The Ogas and the financially incapacitated men waiting for housing subsidy from madam.
This one is obviously the latter.
Ya Allah ka raba mu da mummuna kaddara. Ka shirya mu ka shirya mana zuri'a. Guide us and our progeny. Protect us and our progeny. Do not leave us to our affairs even for the blink of an eye.
Allahumma ajirni fi musibati wa akhlifli khairan minha. Astaghfirullah wa atubu ilaihi🙏
Nobody from Katsina State will agree with this tweet. Our cousins are our first set of friends and we all had the bestest childhood together. When I think of cousins I only see and remember laughter, joy, adventures, mischief making and good times❤❤❤
I don’t think I’ve ever seen so many “I’ve lost my dad and I’ve lost my mum” posts like I have in this 2020😢 Sending love & light to anyone who has lost a parent or two. May Allah SWA forgive them,grant u the fortitude to bear the irreparable loss and unite us all in jannah.Amin
My femininity is different oo.
I have never felt the urge to iron anything in my life, so how then do I get the urge to iron someone else's clothes?
As a matter of fact I never feel the urge to do chores.
I pay people to do them for me or force myself to do them when I must.
If there's anything to learn from this tweet's QTs & replies is to never ever explain/defend yourself on the basis of religion/ethnicity to these people.They are not here to learn or listen. Their minds are already made up. Let them believe whatever the hell they want to believe.
I am a Nigerian Muslim born and brought up in Nigeria! No one, I repeat no one has ever taught me to kill or hate anyone.
My father was an imam, and we were taught not to even kill ants!
My neighbors till date are Christian’s (family of 5) whenever the parents are going out, they
You see how twitter men are praising Mercy Johnson, Adesua, Omotola and co for sustaining their marriages? God forbid something happens to Mercy & co's marriages, they won't hesitate to blame, mock & ridicule them as they are doing to Funke Akindele now.