Ms. G 💖
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lover girl extraordinaire; flirting coach; international socialite; on the badder side of the bitches spectrum;
the Totoro house
Joined February 2012
who’s colonized now BITCH!!!!!!!!!!!!!.
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THIS GOT ME CHEESIN GIGGLIN KICKIN MY FEET OMG DUDES ROCK
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i read or watched somewhere that someone’s grandma told them “don’t be in a rush to find the love of your life. once you do, you’ll never get to be truly alone, by yourself, enjoying your life only for you, ever again. treasure this solitude” and it cured me forever.
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will always remember the guy who sucked in every other way but taught me an insanely valuable life changing lesson when he called me out and said “you’re not being vulnerable with me. vulnerability feels scary and hard. you’re just telling me stories.”.
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you will never self-love your way out of your human need for community and romance and friendship.
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@crystalxduan took me years to find out that every1 was constantly in relationships and i wasn’t not bc i was uniquely unlucky but because most ppl were like “let’s just see what sticks” and i was like “is this the love of my life or not” lmfao.
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every single flirt coaching client i’ve received who is a man has a deep terrifying fear of making a woman uncomfortable. this fear is absolute and paralyzing.
why are men scared to talk to women.
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a shift that's happening w my female friends in my late 20s is that a lot of them are finally experiencing sex as worship and are simultaneously immediately swearing off casual sex. the only thing allowed will involve treating bodies as temples that are to be adulated,,, i win.
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in fact there is a limit to the amount of inner work you can do by yourself. we are human beings and the whole point of being alive is to love others. there is so much healing to do relationally!!!.
almost a year ago my bf convinced me to date him seriously by saying "you don't have to do inner work by yourself, you can do it *within* a relationship" and he's soooo right. it's so much better actually.
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omg first time getting racists in the DMs! feel like i hit a twitter milestone!!!! thank u diva!!!!!!!
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underrated sign of healing. when u simply can't be arsed because it literally doesn't matter that much anymore and u don't need everyone to affirm and validate ur feelings and role in that story. not retelling the story precisely in order to receive the compassion u were.
when you no longer feel the need to tell and re-tell the story in intricate detail. that's the sweet spot.
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ok can i tell a quick story about this. i was 14, & so painfully shy and anxious, i felt physical pain at every failure that emerged out of my inability to connect with the people i wanted to love.
I want to hear stories of people going from shy, cold, introverted, disconnected, to warm, social, curious, open, playful, connection-oriented. If this happened to you plz tell me about it.
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your intense crush is driving you insane because the qualities they possess latently exist within you and are desperately trying to make themselves known through your crush.
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if u just put 50% effort in being hotter literally nobody will give a fuck that you’re weird or neurodivergent. they’ll make all your excuses for u because ur pretty to look at. i’m so serious.
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life hack: when you think of every interaction with someone as a potential opportunity to be in service of them and delight them, so the memory of you is always tinged with warmth and joy, every anxiety melts away. you're not thinking about you anymore, only about them.
conversation is an art form and it's a lost one amongst many people today. if you're "shy" or have "social anxiety" then you need to practice socializing because it's a skill like anything else. the more you define yourself as "shy" or whatever, the harder it's gonna get.
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things i learned from that:. -vulnerability is *always* an intentional choice, & will *always* require courage. you’ll never get used to it. -you’re never DONE figuring urself out. you’ll constantly learn shit no matter how old or “self aware” you get.
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if you asked me what flirt coaching meant, a good 70% of the time it means “let’s unpack your fear of making women uncomfortable and create discernment so you can walk through the world without minimizing yourself but also remaining accountable”.
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it got REAL RACIST up in here LMFAO privileges to reply LOST!!!! goodbye! fun while it lasted!.
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i’m furious at every single fitness person for not shouting “a side effect of consistently working out is getting BATSHIT HORNY” from the rooftops.
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a boy just came up to me all shy and said “hi i’m sorry i just accidentally took this pic of u, it looks really nice, would u like me to send it to u?”. MY HEART
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jan 7 2025, 5 days after my birthday, horrible friend break up with someone i’ve loved deeply for a decade with no explanation whatsoever. saw them in november. thought we had a perfect day together after 2 years of not seeing them. hard to articulate the immense grief here.
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yes my openness and warmth and stringent belief that people are inherently good will inevitably lead to my kindness being taken advantage of from time to time. so what? i priced that in.
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- don’t attach yourself to being an “expert”. yeah i’m a flirting coach but i’m still a person. i’m comfy with what i’m good at (play, charm, affection). - vulnerability = being SEEN. i expend all my energy Seeing others but when they reciprocate, it still frightens me! lmao.
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do men know that they can get the softest, tenderest, sweet angel baby-est version of women if they just love them right.
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most importantly:. just bc your stories contain your truth, including all the terrible things that ever happened to you, doesn’t mean telling them = vulnerability. if you git gud at healing, they’ll just become stories. they won’t be hard to tell anymore. what then?.
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oh. i just found out about couples being in “companion mode” sometimes, where you do a day like you’d regularly do and they just come along with u for the ride. and like. u don’t have to worry abt them being included, they just wanna accompany u as u do u. OH.
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@nvpkp keep everything visible. i have ADHD so if things aren’t visible, i’ll forget they exist. e.g. need to take meds same time every day? where am i at that time usually? keep the meds there, no matter how weird it might seem.
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the #1 skill i’ve witnessed people lack in all of my flirt coaching this year is having the *ability to play*. adults don’t play. adults optimize. adults create objectives. adults don’t have fun with no attachment to defined outcomes like “improvement” or “winning”.
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@ecto_fun i’d be like “because like what? what does this even mean?” bc making someone explain what the fuck they’re talking about when it’s so bizarre like this is often extremely humiliating. and tell ur roommate immediately that her bf is being a fuckin weirdo.
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if you ever catch yourself wondering “am i being manipulated?” a good heuristic i’ve found is to ask yourself “am i having to explain and justify something that is generally extremely commonplace & obvious?”.
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@Love2EatFresh omfg congratulations on ur love!!!! this is what it’s all about baby!!!!!! 🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰.
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it’s so fucking sweet and intimate to get to see ur friends be groggy in the morning. like seeing them reverted to factory settings is so cute wtf.
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i saw an incredibly movie-level stunning couple on a first date at the cafe and HAD to interrupt to tell them i thought they looked INSANELY beautiful together. but mostly bc the guy looked absolutely mesmerized by her & i had to help a brotha out. u should’ve seen his face 🥹.
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more thots: this probably has to do with wanting to control how we are perceived. if i can control how u perceive me, i can control how u feel about me, i can *decide* by controlling that, that u love me. i can *make* u love me. but of course, we can’t. we never can!.
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but if you can give someone your sincerest attention the way he did for everyone, even if they’re just a stranger at a party, for just 10 minutes — you really could change a life. we can do that for each other. i’m paying his gift to me forward, still, every day. always will.
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people not being horny enough i.e. lack of vitality is literally a health crisis i’m so deadass.
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look at how he just asks her questions and is genuinely curious and interested and she’s literally smitten already it’s THAT EASY.
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being “effortlessly present” like this is what i mean when i say all flirting is “paying attention” and my attempt to talk about it nonstop and guide people to this presence is my attempt to clone people like this bc the world would be a better place for it.
I’ve never met a man who is so effortlessly present as my bf. I study him all the time. Never met a man so clued in on the energy in a room, of people. Sometimes I wish I could clone him and cloud seed the clones over the cities where girls are complaining about men.
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he taught me, perhaps without meaning to, that it would be a lot easier to not be the most painfully anxious loser to ever exist if i literally stopped thinking about MYSELF so much. giving my utmost attention as a gift to others would be as valuable to them as it would be to me
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PSA: everything i hid in the replies is nasty shit, the sheer volume of it is staggering tho lmao, i did my best! 🥰.
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@GdMikaila1 girl they’re already trying,,,, but they’re not sending their best,,,,,,,,, lmfao.
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he paid CLOSE FUCKING ATTENTION. every single goddamn person he ever spoke to. he made them feel like they were the only interesting person in the world. like he would not want to be anywhere else but right there, with them. you can’t fake that. he just really gave a fuck ALWAYS.
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girl it took me almost 27 years to realize my feelings are not who i am. my identity is not defined by what i feel. what the fuck what the FUCK.
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we enjoy crushes so much because infatuation is the only way to microdose insanity.
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read that reddit post about a man almost crying because his gf very gently & sweetly bathed him non sexually & shampooed his hair & being doted on like that made him super emotional and it imprinted on my brain like that’s all i ever wanna do w a lover now.
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so many western “dating rules” seem like tips n tricks to make u seem cool n detached n mask how much u really like someone. which seems v bizarre and counter intuitive.
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how can you let someone love you if you don’t allow them to see the contradictory, irrational, unpredictable mess that you might be?. so this attempt to control only leads to the opposite of this desperate need to be loved. silly!. be the beautiful mess u are, if u will 😌.
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speaking from experience i have let some real weird shit slide bc someone was so pretty my brain switched off for a few months to maybe a year.
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by “you” i mean ME these r always notes to myself bc my ass forgets that there is nothing wrong with needing to depend on others from time 2 time.
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what’s a quote that altered the entire trajectory of your life. mine is “the opposite of love is not hate, it’s indifference” by elie wiesel. i have internalized that into every cell in my body.
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incredible how exponentially hornier you can get when you just accept yourself exactly as you are.
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@edgyjson need to make sure i make people feel like this this summer thank u for the inspiration this is going on my vision board.
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it was not a romantic love. it was a deeper love — a sincere friendship. the sincerest i’d ever had. he saw me in ways i didn’t, & he devoted a lot of time to support me into being able to see it myself. btw, this was all online + phone calls. we didn’t hang out physically.
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u only respond to requests for the story when the opportunity to tell it comes up organically, and the first time u find urself leaving out details that u have damn near memorized bc u find urself feeling bored. incredible stuff.
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attempting to control how you are perceived would require knowing who you are every second of every day, & having a consistent, machinistic, robotic way of being. we simply aren’t that. we never will be. because:.
every year i re-learn how to “be myself” because every minute of every day “myself” is not a static being but an ever-evolving vessel for the universe to experience itself.
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i just need everyone to know that i sent this text. and then i indeed got broken up with 10 minutes later
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hammering away against your insides telling you “i exist!!!!! express me!!!!!!!” because you see those exact qualities being expressed so easily by your crush and THAT is what is driving you crazy.
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be the person who makes people’s brains switch off. be so pretty that ur weird becomes ur ~quirks~ i’m TELLING U it WORKS.
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casual sex is not the issue. it's the ignoring of signals from ur body that one does not feel safe, does not feel the sacredness of this activity, does not feel like there is something Immense happening here, like Worship or Ritual,,, u can have sex casually that involves this.
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consistently feeling blown away by how well “feel whatever you’re feeling and let it get as big as it wants” works literal magic on your somatic body.
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spent most of life convinced i do not have any ability to be creative except academic writing . started making things mid quarantine last year for fun. so here’s a thread 🧵 of me making 100 “creative” things because limiting beliefs that hold u back r dumb:. (cc: @visakanv).
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“you shouldn’t depend on ANYONE you can never trust what they want from you” is how i was raised. you must depend. and you must let people depend on you. you must trust. you must have your trust betrayed. you must trust again. simply bc that’s just who we are!!!.
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u stop looking for compassion and start receiving joy in the audience's reaction to the story as a story itself. u add humor, refine the story, tell it succinctly and tell it well, create story beats that u hit as precisely as u used to ramble the details. .
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just finally texted, emailed, whatsapped and dmed 47 people back that i’ve left hanging for weeks, and they’re already responding. i’m not even done w everyone i gotta get back to. SHOULD I DIE.
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i had to become rly great at compliments bc 100% of the ppl i gave compliments to reacted like they didn’t believe me, so instead of getting annoyed that people didn’t know how to receive, i expanded my skill at complimenting to the point where they had no choice but to receive.
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i'm not against casual sex at all, i was in college in nyc lol, and for some reason my body immediately stopped wanting any sexual intimacy for years right after,,, i thought something was wrong with Me,,,.
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i lived in NYC for 5 years and was unable to use the subway without an app. Give Darius the job!!!!!!!!!!!
can't sleep just keep thinking about Him (Darius McCollum, the autistic guy who is obsessed with NYC subway and has been repeatedly jailed for impersonating mta employees to drive the trains in a very lawful manner).
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@appleMechanic that’s what i tell ‘em! my woman clients want to feel safe and we learn how to feel into our safety so we can 1. know how it feels, 2. call into it so we can establish the boundaries of play (flirting) with our partner.
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my favorite way to honor the people who inspire such intense feelings in me is to figure out exactly what makes them feel so special to me and give to the world what they give to me. make the world a little more special, like they are!.
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general pattern i have vague theory about: . the most interesting ppl i’ve met are those who are self sufficient with play. they are wholly complete & having ridiculous amounts of fun by themselves. when u meet them they just warmly invite u into it, but u aren’t *needed*.
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it’s silly really. everything grand and magnificent and everything small and beautiful is made up of togetherness and community. we are made up of little bits bumping into each other to make this incredibly sophisticated machine!. how silly to try to be One.
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had to read a book for daughters of narcissistic moms titled “will i ever be good enough?” to learn that i am trying to be some perfect version of myself so i can *earn* love. you can’t earn love, girl. “love ain’t a thing. love is a verb”. you can BE u, and DO love. das it.
“if I’m good enough they’ll love me”. is a beautiful desire to finally achieve the unconditional love we were denied as a child . some people build their whole lives around this pursuit.
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love how much of adult life is just rediscovering cliche moral lessons drilled into u during ur childhood from first principles. honesty really IS the best policy. laughter IS the best medicine. a stitch in time FR be saving nine bro.
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he made people feel like they were magical. not just me! everyone! he was sincerely curious, genuine, warm and kind, with a big big heart. he paid so much attention to YOU. took YEARS to be like him. but it’s possible for every single person. i know it, bc i did it.
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i’ve done my part!!!! politely and firmly asked a man watching shit on his phone out loud right next to me at the AIRPORT to put headphones on. he asked me to repeat myself and i fuckin did. i’ve done my part!!!!!!!!!!!.
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but i guess he cared more about me than i thought. which left me more aghast than before. this meant i actually had to internalize that this person who was basically the coolest, most charming, most interesting person i’d ever met, actually LIKED me. as a HUMAN BEING. TERRIFYING.
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y’all don’t understand i am literally SO annoying in real life but unfortunately i am pretty to look at and extremely endearing so everyone CHOOSES to be around my annoying ass. tried and tested baby!!!!!!.
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this is the only kind of rizz (overwhelming sincerity and love) that matters and the kind of rizz i employ and teach. everything else is nonsense sorry.
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flirting is a whole world of communication! it is made up of many parts:. • gratitude.• playfulness.• mischief.• safety.• storytelling.• intimacy.• attention.• romance. it’s so FULL of heart & joy & connection. i’m lucky i get to engage in & teach the magic of it all ✨.
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my first crush taught me i could be extremely witty on my feet and entertain people and make them laugh till they cry, someone else taught me i could love people well by paying attention, another taught me how it felt to be warmly enveloped in someone’s kindness.
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i built up the courage to tell him i didn’t understand still, a year later, why he was so genuinely my friend. like i was waiting for the prank to end. he would sound disappointed. he wanted me to think better of myself. to see me the way he did. my only idea of “better” was him.
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i used to be lovesick, but now i am just sickening!!!!1!!!!! lmao.
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having a boyfriend was super fun bc i got to teach a boy girl things, like how nice it is when the apartment smells nice, which candles to buy, and how to burn candles properly so you don’t ruin them & they last as long as they should. like do i want a bf or a student disciple.
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just saw a girl on IG so bodacious, so blessed by aphrodite, that i finally fully understand when men say “sit on it. if i die, i die”.
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later, ofc, i admitted all of this to him. when we became best friends, talked on the phone every night at 9 PM exactly, fielded intrigue about why we didn’t date when his gf and him broke up. it was not that kind of love. it was pure admiration on my end, & mentorship on his.
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of course your crush is fucking awesome (probably) but why are they so fucking awesome and what if you worked on inculcating all those qualities you admired? hmm?.
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people are too afraid of having crushes nowadays. we gotta be crushmaxxing. we gotta be hornypilled. we need to enter our feelingscore era.
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mom just called me after 4 years of 0 contact and i laughed, didn’t pick up and had literally no change in heart rate. can i get a W in the chat.
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