cis parents: wear waist trainers, spanx, skinny jeans, ill-fitting bras, never question dangerous diet culture, too ashamed to use lube, sell MLM poop tea that wreck kidneys, hate their bodies
GNC kids: wow this binder makes me feel good
NYT: chest binding will kill your child
Write your author bio using predictive text. Use your phone to type "[Your Name] is a [poet/novelist/writer/etc] who" and keep pressing the middle button until it makes a bio.
"what was queer representation like when you were but a child, pappa?"
"well,, son, there was a song called i want take you to the gay bar about wanting to go to a gay bar, & we listened to this song and we said, this is a fine song about a gay bar i could want for nothing more"
Sarah Clark is an editor who is the only argument for snakes in the bedroom and the last dream of spontaneous combustion we have to explain to our new followers who become obsessed with the fireball in our prayers.
Also, if you're cis *or* trans:
1) Your body is good & important
2) Your body doesn't exist for others
3) Don't drink pyramid scheme tea
4) ED recovery is possible
5) P-in-V sex doesn't need to be painful
6) Kids learn from how you talk abt yourself
7) Fight colorism & fatphobia
- devil may cry
- devil may cry 2-6
- devil may do some breathing exercises
- devil may practice self-care
- devil may have heard good things about EMDR
- devil may be feeling better after a nice cry
- devil may know the road to wellness isn't linear
This post is inspired by the transphobic anti-binding garbage published today in
@nytimes
.
Here's a thread of actual resources, so you don't have to waste your NYT clicks on hatred. Protect trans & GNC kids at all costs.
(CN: dysphoia, transantagonism, binding) NYT posted a transphobic anti-binding article today. I asked for help with trans-affirming counter-resources for teens & their parents,
Thank you so much to everyone who RT'd and responded. Here's a thread of what people suggested. 1/
NDNs are frequently expected to be historians, linguists, genealogists, artisans, and activists to legitimize our identities to non-NDNs
NDN bimbos are valid
The thinner tree was cut years ago and the big one has been holding and feeding it since then. They "wake up" together in the spring and "go to sleep" together in the autumn.
#Tiredearth
#biodiversity
if you can't handle me at my sorry for the delayed response you don't deserve me at my catastrophic personal and/or familial crisis that i'm blurting out to you now along with a detailed account of my mental health lately sorry for the delayed response thank you for your patience
Sundress is open for grant apps from writers of Palestinian descent. We will award $500, a slot in Sundress's reading series, & more, for a collection in progress.
If the highlights of your decade include surviving trauma, saying alive, leaving abusers, battling for space as a disabled, trans, or queer person?
That's easily worth as much as anything you've created
You've created a life worth living. A life where you can live. Kudos.
I dated a guy who wanted me to support him emotionally. I wanted to support him emotionally.
ONE time, when I told him I had to get off the phone to TAKE MY CHEMISTRY FINAL he flipped out on me. How if I cared about him, I'd *make* time.
Template language helps abuse survivors.
hi i'm not a woman but i've had an abusive man throw away my birth control and threaten to kill me if he caught me getting more.
using gender-inclusive language when discussing abortion isn't a nicety. we're not a hypothetical part of the abortion conversation. we're part of it.
(CN: dysphoia, transantagonism, binding) NYT posted a transphobic anti-binding article today. I asked for help with trans-affirming counter-resources for teens & their parents,
Thank you so much to everyone who RT'd and responded. Here's a thread of what people suggested. 1/
Didn't expect this to get such a positive response. In lieu of a Soundcloud, please show this same support for trans girls and transfem kids and teens.
Protect *all* trans kids. 💜.
my favorite native stories are the ones that don't end in valuable lessons or "that's why we have fire" or whatever. my favorite stories are the ones where, start to finish, badger was just being kind of an ass.
This is patently false. Specific love for disabled students and students surviving assaults.
C's won't keep you out of grad school. Grades aren't a reflection of your abilities. It's not Yale or bust. Grad school isn't even right for everyone.
Drop this toxic shit & stay alive.
If you'd like to give back to a Native this Thanksgiving, I'm still raising money to sustain a Native-run publication for two-spirit and non-binary writers & artists.
#GivingTuesday
gunna lose followers for this one, but i'm not really comfortable with comparing or linking didion's legacy to bell hooks'
very different projects going on, etc
Are you queer? Are you disabled? I'm co-editing an anthology for queer disabled writers AND ARTISTS, and we want to read your words!
We're seeking poetry, visual art, & flash CNF. Previously published work & sim-subs are encouraged.
More info:
god, grant me the serenity to accept the number of plums in my icebox, the courage to forgive you even though you knew i was saving them for breakfast, and the wisdom to know they were delicious, so sweet and so cold.
CW: suicide/SH, PTSD/psychosis, stalking, abuse/assault
Just wanted to briefly let everyone know that I am alive, and that I've been fighting suicidality and PTSD all weekend. My thanks to everyone who offered support, care, and inquired about my well-being.
this is PSYDUCK he is at the TRAIN STATION he is not taking a train but HE LIKES THE AMBIANCE and he likes THE SOUND OF THE TIMETABLE TURNING OVER and he wants you to TAKE HIM TO THE NEWSSTAND but only to browse
if you truly believe language shouldn't change over time, i better see you making posts bemoaning sexts and labradoodles and photobombs as often as your posts against gender-inclusive terms.
otherwise, you're telling us something about yourself. 🤷
me: early modern drama has an obsession with mistaken identity, a disruption of gendered norms if not form itself
my therapist: i asked how your day was
wendy's regional manager: for the last time you cannot smoke up in here, gentlemen
This morning CBS referred to it as "Columbus Day, which some people are calling Indigenous People's Day," and this sums up why renaming a genocidal holiday isn't as good as abolishing it entirely.
WILD: Pink frogmouths can use their “leg-like” fins for walking around on the sea floor!
#FishyFriday
🐟
This special fish was spotted during Oceana's expedition to the Canary Islands in 2014, a trip to learn more about seamounts & the astounding biodiversity in the area.
“Gifted” programs should not exist. They teach children that their intelligence is “innate” when this inevitably turns out not to be true, it’s the result of more midiclorians than I've ever encountered in any life form.
publish black writers outside of black history month
publish native writers outside of
#NativeAmericanHeritageMonth
publish queer writers outside of pride
publish latinx writers outside of
#HispanicHeritageMonth
publish disabled writers (!)
publish trans writers outside of
#tdor
the role of literature is to be subversive. literature should unsettle the reader, NOT comfort them. literature should come to your house and physically assault you AND your dog. literature should eat the canned rations you've been hoarding that your ex-girlfriend says are "unnec
politely, i am uncomfortable with people calling for efforts to buy books from presses screwed over my SPD, when a LOT of very small presses have been boycotting (at a $ loss!) SPD since it came out that they engage in wage theft and traffic heavily in transphobia and ableism???
If you *aren't* Native (as in indigenous), what does it mean for you to refer to yourself as a "native New Yorker" or a "native Alaskan," specifically in your author bios? How would you feel about being asked to rephrase that, and why?
When you're abused, it impacts how you interact with non-abusers in the future. Our boundaries get eroded. We literally can get to a point where we don't need to ask for boundaries.
Coupled with that, we can get to a point where we don't know healthy ways to ask for help, either
Letting authors use neopronouns (like xe/xir) is as important as they/them pronouns.
Concerned there's a typo? Google the author to see what their pronouns are in other bios.
Ask (respectfully) as a last step. Make it clear you're checking bc you care about getting it right.
For every shitty person who misuses boundaries and words like "self-care," there's at least one more shitty person who's willing to harm others because they don't see other people's time and well-being as being as valuable as their own.
My all-girls HS kicked me out so I took AP exams on my own until I had enough credits to transfer to university with sophomore standing. And I wound up not being a girl.
...And then I wifed the most notorious student from our brother school, who *did* turn out to be a girl. 🤷
Reminder: Rachel Custer tried to get a Native woman's poetry FB group shut down because Rachel was banned for breaking the rules of the group.
She threatened to sue that woman and several others who told her that bigoted behavior didn't belong in the group.
my father died late last night, giving me an easier way to explain why i don't celebrate the 4th of july, instead of having to go over the whole 'merciless indian savage' thing every year
I’m watching Sia’s movie, in order to write a detailed & chronological review (so that nobody else watches it out of curiosity).
But for now, I just want the public to see a few things that speak for themselves, starting with this image:
Extemporaneous language doesn't automatically equate to genuine language.
When you've survived a dangerous person you're used to rehearsing your words.
Are you saying nothing survivors say is genuine?
Template language can be a stepping stone to healthy, natural communication
Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me.