i literally cannot take the male loneliness epidemic bullshit seriously because of this. YOU don't value your own relationships. you remember and cherish nothing. you are not involved and then wonder why you have no one to turn to
your daughter would be happy to learn to cook and bake and sew and clean if you taught it to all your children as basic life skills. now she's in her 20s and learning off the internet and you're missing out of bonding time w her bec you think she's born to serve someone else
I think often about what it must mean to lose someone irretrievably and then how you must feel to find them again in someone else: the grief, the love, the gratitude, the fear, the way you wait at the edge of the water so it’ll ripple the same way twice
A good daughter can't be a happy daughter. A happy daughter can't be a good daughter. The only way for you to protect your own happiness and live your life is to lie to your parents. Learn this as early as you can. Sacrifice will get you nowhere with them.
your son would be happy to learn to cook and bake and sew and clean. it could be a great source of stress release. you're robbing him of a harmless coping mechanism because you think he's built to be served. now you're missing out on bonding time with him too
the WAY south asian parents taunt you when you come out of your room and into the lounge ,,,,, 🙄 I'm surprised they didn't chase the british out of the subcontinent by saying 'wah sahabzaday nikal aye apnay mahal se. mohallay ko batao ke iss saal ke eid ka chand nazr agaya'
Eid sucks because I'm starting to realize that my mother's domestic labor was what made it work and I'm now forced to work the same way so others can be happy while I'm exhausted
People once they realize MangoBaaz is asking them to meme the Ishaq Dar picture so they can compile all the captions into a listicle and make money on advertisement while we get nothing:
bro you said the tourists who froze to death in their cars in Murree were unprecedented, these rains are unprecedented, the earthquake in Kashmir this year was unprecedented, the inflation, forex, fuel and food shortage was unforeseeable. what can you predict and account for?
people are mad about this bec they think women's Islam should be about pleasing and obeying men, not cultivating a relationship with God. they feel upset that Bella isn't ~covering up~ or worshipping a man so she's not a 'true Muslim' because the metric for purity is misogyny
some daughters have to jump into marriage to escape abusive households and some daughters have to jump into higher education. in both cases, they end up in situations they're not emotionally prepared for, all because the choice they really wanted to make was off the table
we can’t begin to imagine what years of genocide, occupation, exile and displacement have done to fertility in Palestine. and then to lose the children you’ve prayed and wanted for years because they’ve been hunted down by Zionists
imagine having to beg your law enforcement to punish sexual assault by having to trend a hashtag every time so they'll notice. If you live in Pakistan, you don't have to imagine.
#ArrestUsmanMirza
When a grandparent dies, they take with them the part of you that you barely remember but that they always see when they look at you. When a grandparent dies, it's like receiving news that your childhood self has passed away. You've lost two family members in one go.
Instead of being jealous of friends or cousins for having more mobility, realize that their mobility also requires some lying. Every parent has some unrealistic expectations; stop trying to meet your parents' demands. They're designed to control, not to be actually met.
Muslim men consider Andrew Tate because he is a power fantasy to them: a man who can abuse women and get away with it. They don't consider Bella Hadid Muslim because Muslim men's fantasy Muslim woman is a wife they can abuse and subjugate. And it's always about their fantasies
Sacrifice will not earn you unconditional trust or some lifetime pass to be free once you reach a certain level. The expectations will only increase as you show compliance, as you age, etc. You have to drag them down either with outright rebellion or by lying.
I wanna be this calm about being the center of attention someday, this fluid so I can go with the flow. I am genuinely in awe of how she's handling this. I wanna have as stable and secure a sense of self as she does. She's navigating it like a PR dream.
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What Mawra said is exactly what I heard Lahori girls say in my first week in LUMS. I was so startled by the scale of harassment that I asked other women about it and they said karachi girls were just more sensitive and got upset about a typical occurrence.
today in just karachi things: was tutoring a foreign student over zoom when a brawl broke out in my street so I showed it to her from my window and realized midway that one of the two men wielding a branch was my own mamu
sorry but if the men are actually scaling the walls for something as small as a regular ass concert (I want you to understand how deeply abnormal this kind of behavior is), it's not security or management. the entire culture is rotten. there's no gun against male entitlement
3 years ago, I thought I would stay in Pakistan and try to fight. For the past year, I've come to the realization that I need to get out because this country will kill me otherwise. Pakistan is only another abusive parent, a paternalistic state that will kill you.
we've talked about the period week horniness but let's bring up the overwhelming lovey-dovey swooning nature of ovulation week screaming at you to devote your entire life to loving someone or something immediately
make no mistake. the vast majority of the high-end places you go to are like this. these are the people running this country. they're in law, in the arts and culture, in sports management, in academia, in restaurant ownership, all of it. this is what they think of you
Pakistani air hostesses are braver than the Marines. Could a Marine tolerate the plague of Pakistani men on a daily basis and still get shit done???? I don't think so.
your 20s (or whatever decade you gain some freedom and autonomy from controlling parents) will be about developing an ethic of friendship. it'll be hectic because you'll be understanding your capacity in multiple sectors at the same time: work, style, friends, travel, etc.
men can scratch themselves and masturbate and pee in public and assault and harass. none of that is a sin or a crime. women dance and laugh and it's the end of the world. it's never about the nature of the deed but about the person doing it. our very bodies are sinful.
ofc most of Pakistan is a cultural wasteland. we have little to no cultural festivities. it's Eid or Shaadi for most of us and we don't even realize how abnormal it is to have no cultural celebrations to mark the passage of time except these two
y'all wanted Aurat March to reform entire slogans because you thought they Implied Vulgarity™ but will bend over backwards to explain a bayaan that's blatantly misogynistic, held by a man whose organization is responsible for spreading the virus but now wants to blame behayi
'tumhein pata hai amreeka mein kitni divorcein hoti hain? Shukar hai yahan shaadiyaan chalti hain. Hamara family wala mahol hai. Waisay Sara, khaana kab lag raha hai? Ab jo tumhari degree khatam ho gai, tumhari tou shaadi ho gi na? Ab tumhey ghar sambhaalna seekhna chahiyey'
For the last fucking time, it's never a child's responsibility to risk their lives and their safety so their parents can grow as people. Your children do not exist to help you realize that they deserve human rights. Don't you dare tell me it's my job to convince my parents.
watching joyland rn and my blood is actually boiling at how hard and frequently the cinema is laughing. I'd blame people's limited relationship to cinema being Marvel for compulsively laughing at all awkwardness but I genuinely believe Pakistanis are just cursed to be chutiyey
you love fictional boys because they're created under the feminine gaze and you're disappointed by real boys because they're created entirely by the male gaze.
um apparently the authorities parked the buses to block the road on purpose........why would you put an 8 crore bus out where a container is supposed to be???? why would you endanger your assets like that and then bemoan the destruction?
This is Peoples Bus, bought a few months ago. Not the elite but the working class benefits from such initiatives. It took years for such a service to arrive in Karachi. One bus approx cost around 8 crore PKR, and 4 such buses are completely burnt or destroyed.
Who did this?
if you're a good daughter who's also a happy daughter, one of these two factors might be at play:
1. Your parents' love is actually unconditional (so rare it's almost unbelievable)
2. Your identity already conforms to most/all of your parents' demands so you don't need to rebel.
it's really funny how our ideas of what coming of age looks like are bound entirely in class and caste: long drives at night in your friend's car, going to parties, trying expensive clothes. we don't wanna ask about other people's ideas of fun bec they're worthless to us
Women must have friends. Their groups aren't a school pastime to be given up after marriage. It's not just the boys who deserve to have personal lives. I want hobbies and friends and goals and travel dreams and rooms of my own. I want so many rooms.
chased your kids away from these by gendering them and making them repulsive to your sons and your daughters by insisting it's either about serving or being served and now they feel loss for the traditions they could have inherited if you hadn't driven them away
my parents’ first cousin sexually abused me as a child. I told my mother when it happened but I forgot I did. when I confronted her again ten years later, I remembered and she confirmed it. my entire childhood, she made me visit his house and family to keep up appearances
some girls have permanent 'i just broke up and it hurt a lot but I have work at 5:00 pm so I need to get over it by 4:30' energy no I will not elaborate
going out to have fun as young people in Pakistan is a pain. as a girl group, why out without mehrams? as a boy group, why are you here? to steal or do drugs? as a ~mixed gathering~ (god I hate that phrase), are you married? if not, you must be here for haram premarital sex
why are professors crying about not having the time to grade??? bro who held a gun to your head and ordered you to assign 3k word essays in the middle of a fucking pandemic during an online semester anyway????
Stop putting the onus on the kids. The parents are the adults. We know when parents are just somewhat outdated vs when they're fucking lethal. Take a hike. Nobody needs your dumbass opinion here. Clearly, none of you know what's at stake for daughters in this category.
30 years ago is when my dad came to Karachi. This is a cosmic wrong. How can you claim to fear God’s consequences and uproot people’s homes, destroy their lands and then force them to return to nothing???
Listen to an Afghan refugee who and his children grew up in Pakistan but are now leaving for Afghanistan where he is uncertain about his future.
Subtitle for those who are saying continuously that refugees are leaving this country voluntarily.
My parents cannot write an email in English without my help and the yearly lums fee costs more than my dad's annual income (gross, not net) but sure, you guys have figured it out. We totally didn't sacrifice home ownership. We just plucked money off trees to pay for education
all the Foodpanda and Careem, Uber and indriver employees can't accept orders or rides because broadband is unavailable. people can't book rides because broadband is unavailable. people's livelihoods are at stake
#Restore3G4G
One more 'Pakistan needs AOC' and I'm gonna scream. I understand the sentiment but you have AOCs in every single street. You say nothing when your family marries off its AOCs, when it threatens them into silence. You say nothing when they run away and the law drags them back home
I've only been abroad once: 5 days in Dubai. That was the first time in my life I realized that women in other countries didn't live the life of fear in public spaces that I led. Nobody turned to stare at me except another Pakistani man who saw my shalwar kameez and followed me.
men are acting like victims for having to earn in single-income families without acknowledging:
- domestic work is equally burdensome, if not more
- they could fight their parents to liberate their sisters so they could earn
- they rely on financial control for dominance
scene: a daughter begging her parents to love her but the love in question is just a desire to be seen as human and given basic human rights. it's her entire life
I'll never stop feeling angry about all the little girls who didn't get to go outside much and had to spend their time with their weary exhausted angry bitter mothers and picked up all her mannerisms and dialogues and began sounding like a 38 year old at 5
@NancyLeeGrahn
Global South countries and their suffering do not exist as moral lessons for Global North residents. It's selfish to take that tragedy and to center yourself in it with such insensitive phrasing when Global North countries are directly responsible for that mass outbreak.
reminder that baking - often considered aesthetically more beautiful and more of a test of skill than cooking regular meals - requires a shit ton of expensive utensils and ingredients. everyone was baking during lockdown and I couldn't which made me feel like shit
abusive families are so structurally insecure that they'll actively discourage you from any kindness or usefulness that doesn't serve their needs or their ideas of the world. from not feeding animals to not donating to not helping friends, they monopolize your kindness
I wish all Muslim girls who don't understand why their best friend smiling makes their heart beat so fast, who don't understand why they wanna spend more time with that one girl, who don't understand why they laugh hardest at her jokes, a very happy Valentine's day
The future historians and archeologists trying to unravel the socioeconomic conditions that made a bunch of kids trend
#btsarmypakistan
against another bunch of kids trying to use Twitter for murder:
the next white blogger to call Pakistan heaven should immediately apply for Pakistan citizenship and make a video documenting the entire process to show they've surrendered up their original passport for the pakistani one. Don't you know how heaven works? You can't leave.
I'm jealous of the ordinary ways in which men have privilege, the small things that make their life easy everyday: being allowed to sleep in until 2 pm, not being interrupted 57 times when they're working or enjoying themselves because everyone else wants their help
Babe wake up, new bhabhi drama just dropped. The qoum ki beti has spoken. She's having the most relatable desi woman dilemma: regretting an ex because he's revealing himself to be a pig publicly.
Pakistani morality is telling tourists they deserved to die because their desire for weekend fun made them reckless and brought a snowstorm on them. Apparently every single wish for joy brings divine wrath down on your head but also this country is loved and protected.
WHY DO YOU NEED A REMAKE???? WHY CAN'T YOU JUST WATCH THINGS WITH ASIANS IN IT?????????? look at what you fucking did to Death Note and Ghost in the Shell. You're the Midas of turning things to shit
if you're attending the Aurat March tomorrow:
- don't bring the friend with harassment allegations against them
- don't bring the friend who makes jokes about violence against women, sexual abuse, etc.
- don't take any pictures of anyone or their slogans without consent
kya Matlab no? the recipient is obviously into it and that's all that matters. y'all shit on fun light hearted romance so much because the earnestness of it makes you feel ashamed of your own deep repression. stop making other people's love so public if it makes you uncomfortable
this dude jumps to misogyny so easily to go viral (when he's not stealing cat edits from Instagram ofc). y'all are such grifters. as if edits are impacting performance in any way and it's better to go back to assaulting players at the airport
Ali Z*f*r can try to silence as many women and collude with the state in his misogyny but we still know the truth. He can plaster his face on as many ad campaigns and as many billboards he wants but we won't forget and we won't let the country forget either. Jhoot nahi chhupta.
A Pakistani daughter's coming of age story lies only in rebellion or she's remained a child for her entire life, compliant and subservient. You must reconcile the fact that you want to please parents who are intent on overruling and harming you, who may kill you for honor.
I love rich people's weddings 😍😍😍 you have such a glammed up dancefloor and a glammed up 21 year old bride surrounded by her undergrad batchmates all hoping they'll also find someone and then her 39 year old dulha with half his original hair and stiff ass joints
found the best partner ever, got away from abusive parents for uni, aced that uni, found incredible teachers, completely transformed as a person, went to therapy, gained financial independence, got my first FT corporate job, started and established a tarot + astro practice
with every relationship, my definition of love has shifted. rookie me thought love was all consuming but that was just abusive codependence. then I thought it was kindness but that was a savior complex. now it's I think love must have a firm friendship as a foundation
Has someone told Imran Khan he would have been stoned to death for his playboy lifestyle in a Riyasat e Madina and would have never lived long enough to be PM?
my mom is blasting the Quran on loudspeakers in my room because she'd rather believe her daughter is possessed by jinns than admit she's hurt me and pushed me away my entire life 😐😐😐 the sheer denial of abuse
mom come pick me up they're trying to make IK ~relatable~ again by sharing a picture of him literally just holding his wife's hand so everyone can forget his derogatory remarks about women and fangirl blindly over the bare minimum again
please redirect your anger about z-library to the actual authorities who shut the site down, not excited kids. gatekeeping is not the solution. these platforms were made for the redistribution of knowledge and they spread mainly through word of mouth
when I see parents shifting back to Pakistan after giving birth and letting their kids have a childhood abroad, I feel so sad. What's the point of uprooting the kid and dragging them back to a dying country? All for your own useless patriotism and sentimentality?
do rich girls clock their own hyperfemininity? do they reflect on how the hair length + fashions + behaviors + eating habits most of their peers engage in are usually to make them look as delicate and breakable as possible?