Today is our wedding anniversary. We met in late 2012, got together as a D/s couple in 2013, moved in together in 2014, and married in 2017...when we say it's a journey, that's what we mean.
We receive a LOT of questions about navigating BDSM with a disability. We are NOT qualified to help, so we want to make a resource list of people who are.
If you or someone you follow blogs, vlogs, or makes podcasts about being disabled & practicing BDSM, tag them/yourself!
Headed out for our date night. One of us wasn’t happy with any of the pictures we took and the other is
@SouthernSirsPl
but we clean up well and we’re happy to be together. 💜
We've been nominated for the Podcast Awards in the Mature category!! We'll find out on September 30 if we won, but OMG just being nominated is amazing!
We won’t be live streaming today or recording a podcast episode this week. It’s JB’s stuff to talk about but I will say that he got a lot of sad news all at once and he needs time to process. We may stream Friday night but we’ll decide that later this week. ~KL
This isn’t something we do often, but we’re going on an unplanned hiatus this week — both of us have caught a cold or something and we’re miserable. It’s difficult to talk about kink and D/s when your face hurts. We should be back next week in full force. We love you all! 💜
So...we should probably break the news now. We were supposed to be back from hiatus this week and it's just not happening. The move went well but things are still a bit chaotic. It'll be a better show for everyone if we wait one more week. But we can't WAIT to be back!!
I had to make a decision about the podcast this week.
@KaylaLords
has been in bed with a fever and body aches all day so sadly there will not be a LovingBDSM podcast this week. Need her to hurry up and get better. JB
Thankfully
@KaylaLords
started feeling better so we can go on our date night aka the company Christmas party. Yes we’re both wearing purple and yes we’ll have coffee at some point — so the basics are covered. 💜💜
We’ve got coffee and we’re on the road to the airport (100 miles away lol). We’re London and
#Eroticon
bound y’all! 💜
And yes,
@KaylaLords
has VERY purple hair — FINALLY!
Holy hell, y’all, we just hit a million downloads for the podcast. Thank you all!!! This makes the next step (with our new equipment) that much more exciting! We couldn’t do this without you!
We’re on the road again today (with coffee). Signing the lease, turning on electric, and getting a new PO Box. And while driving down the road, we’re talking to brands about potential collaborations. Things are happening!
Are the first mean comments on YouTube considered a badge of honor? Asking for a friend...who apparently talks too fucking much, and if you think so, TURN OFF THE FUCKING VIDEO -- no one is making you watch, JFC. But I'm not mad or anything. ~KL
Anyone who's been through a D/s breakup knows how much it sucks, but we don't often get the perspective of a Dominant's grief. This was a good read but also heart-wrenching.
We’re on a mini road trip in a cargo van filled with boxes. Putting stuff in storage so we can finish getting our place ready to sell. We have coffee so now the day can officially begin.
Good morning on a (for us) rainy morning. Coffee has been obtained and we’re headed to our local club for some much needed early morning kinky playtime.
Struggle with kneeling or crawling as a submissive? We shared ten tips for those who struggle in this post! What other alternatives have you tried?
#ICYMI
Seriously friends, if asserting your limits, using your safeword, asking to slow down, or ANY OTHER BASIC COMMUNICATION is a problem or annoyance for your Dom/me, consider that a red flag. A big red flag.
We will NOT be going live this week or next which also means there won't be any podcast episodes for the next two Fridays either. Nothing bad has happened -- we're just exhausted and need time to rest and relax so we can come back fresh and feisty. 💜💜
Is that *us* on
@EvieLupine
's channel today?! Yes, yes it is! This was SUCH a fun conversation and we were glad to get to hang out with Evie and chat!
Another day, another person who thinks that
@SouthernSirsPl
isn't the Dom in this relationship because
@KaylaLords
talks too damn much and has strong opinions. 😂😂😂😂
Because someone will ask...no, it doesn't upset us that ppl think that. It's genuinely funny to us.
Wearing our second set of shirts designed by
@Ignixia
and purchased from her shop:
We live-streamed in them AND recorded a sex you review video today! We are definitely living our best life.
OMG, we've just realized that we've NEVER done an episode on subspace. Drop? Yes. Subspace? Apparently not...we just went through the entire archive and don't see it. Guess what's going on the list for a future episode?
We've got a new video (and series) up on YouTube! Our first ever vlog and something we're calling This D/s Life. We're having all kinds of feelings about this because it's new and feels strange to share this peek in our lives (yet it also feels natural).
"Vetting a partner" isn't a phrase a lot of people are familiar with, but vetting in BDSM is very common. It's figuring out if the person you want to meet/play with is who they say they are and safe. We made a video w/ 5 tips to help you thru the process:
The recording equipment is being packed up for the move. We're only on a short hiatus but one of us isn't handling it well, lol.
[GIF of Boo from Monsters Inc crying]
We're officially back from hiatus and will be recording/livestreaming THIS WEEK! Including a monthly live Q&A just for our kinky patrons on Patreon! You can join in on the fun for as little as $1/month!
We're happy to be able to announce our participation in the 2023 Dom/sub Dynamics Virtual Summit, February 20 thru the 24 - along with a lot of AMAZING speakers!
Want to have a happier, healthier D/s relationship? Learn more here:
Shoutout to
@Ignixia
who designed the shirts we wore for today’s video. Check out her shop for ALL the available designs for all kinds of power exchanges and kinks:
We bought these and two more which we’ll wear during next week’s livestream!
Sooo true! We met an 18yo who came to their first munch right after their birthday and everyone there thanked them for waiting to attend and not pretending to be older.
so, reminder to please respect 18+ only adult spaces. This is for the safety of minors, and also the safety of adults in that space. We don't make things age restricted because we want to be mean, or think teenagers are stupid. It's for everyone's well-being and security. ❤️
Our entire stock of stickers is 50% off! We're selling through our current inventory so we can upgrade the stickers and move them to a new home later this summer (over to
@LovingBDSM
-- yes, that's us, too)!
Shop our stickers here:
Tomorrow's episode will be the longest one we've done in a while...but we'll also be gone for two weeks, so we're telling ourselves it's okay that we couldn't stop talking. 💜
Haven't heard the latest episode yet? Check out this clip as
@KaylaLords
talks about being a fixer...and that you can't always "fix" a partner's fear. But you can give them space to talk about it. The new episode is on all major podcast apps (including Spotify!) right now!
After seeing the tweets in this thread (most of which are screenshots), we will no longer promote
@getthebutters
-- we are incredibly disappointed to learn this abt someone who's product we love so much and who we *thought* was a different kind of person.