Over the next few weeks I’m hosting Apple News In Conversation! Please follow along as we bring you stories about money and more.
I’m so proud of our first episode. I sat down with Charlotte Cowles to talk scams, shame and her viral piece for The Cut.
Very tempted to start a podcast called “Are You Mad at Me?” just so I have a quasi-reasonable excuse to interview every single one of my friends each week, at length, to determine whether or not they are actually in fact mad at me
Email writers and tell them you like what they wrote/appreciate their work/see them doing good in their space! I got one this morning that has quite seriously turned my entire day around. I have screenshotted it and added it to my special folder for days when I need a boost ❤️
Hi! I started a new job today!! I’ll be reporting/writing about personal finance for
@WSJ
!!! I’m very excited as you can tell from all these exclamation points!!!!
I love when a friend sends you a series of juicy voice memos and then you save them to go walk the dog or take the train or something and it’s like you have a personalized little friend podcast to listen to
My girlfriend and I have radically different airport travel styles, so for the first time ever I pitched each of us taking her own approach and arriving separately at JFK — you would've thought I'd pitched breaking up!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Today I saw a little girl browsing the bookstore with her mom. She asked “Mom, can I show you one of the most iconic women in history?” I looked over, expecting her to show a page from some book — but instead the little girl HELD UP A POCKET MIRROR and said “mom look it’s you”😭
When they were 28, my parents were already married, with a kid (me!) and a house they could easily afford. At the same age, I have none of these things, and this is a reality for many folks my age. I wrote more about this tension here: via
@WSJ
I stopped in the middle of the street to snap this pic and make this content for a very niche group of you!
“Because someday, believe it or not, you'll go 15 rounds over who's gonna get this coffee table. This stupid, wagon wheel, Roy Rogers, garage sale coffee table!”
My dad signed me up for
@Dictionarycom
's word of the day emails when I was a 10-year-old with a brand-new email address and a hopelessly empty inbox. Every day we each get the word and then email the other using it in a sentence. We've kept this up for decades.
Today's word:
The number of sole-person households in America has nearly doubled over the last 40 years, and people are marrying at later ages.
But at the same time, single people are struggling financially. Certain money milestones seem more out-of-reach than ever.
Just thinking about the time I asked a journalism mentor how much an assignment paid and he said “well, since you’re asking me about money, I know you’re in journalism for the wrong reasons”
"Everything depends on me, so I need to be really careful managing my money," one woman told me. I can’t help but think, ‘With a partner, I might not have to donate plasma almost every week.’"
Earlier today I was trudging in the drizzle and a man yelled “Miss! Help me!” I ripped out my headphones to help, then he pulled down his mask and said “That is... help me get to know you? I’d love to call you —“ so that’s the story of how I turned into a towering column of flame
We saved our money like we were supposed to, we fought for raises and negotiated salaries like we were supposed to — but now, those of us who have never experienced inflation like this in our lifetimes don’t really know how to cope.
More in my new column:
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I talked with romance writers about the harassment they face online, where they're often targeted simply because they are women who write about sex and pleasure
As one writer told me: "They act like I don’t have a real job, like I’m just a horny person."
Older millennials are finally entering the high-earning years. But for this generation, in this moment, will the highs still feel as high?
As one woman told me: "The extra money I make every year just gets funneled into the necessary things in our life."
my first piece published in
@WSJ
is all about youth sports (which has become a multi-billion industry), parents' spending on it (which can top thousands of dollars a year) and college scholarships (which are much rarer than many of these parents realize)
All of this adds up to a huge gap between married households and single households.
The median net worth of married couples 25 to 34 years old was nearly nine times as much as the median net worth of single households.
so FOLKS — I'm LIVING for all the
#WhenHarryMetSally
anniversary content, but I'm afraid we DON'T HAVE ENOUGH highlighting Marie! I MEAN — Carrie!! She has the best LINES in the FILM!!! She's maybe the *best* bff in romcom-istory!!! Was excited to tweet but now I'm just INCENSED!
The Excellence in Business Coverage Award is presented to Julia Carpenter for “When Work Puts You Back in the Closet,” CNN Business.
@CNNBusiness
@juliacarpenter
today I'm cosplaying demanding English teacher who expects better of you because you have the talent if only you'd stop following the crowd and start following your heart
More single people are facing big financial challenges — inflation, high housing prices, the possible fallout of a recession — completely on their own.
some words people are using to describe the pandemic misery none of us can seem to shake:
- dejection
- "this sort of sense of almost giving up" (this one hurt 😖)
- melancholy
- "pandemic slog"
- whiplash
- exhaustion
via the incredible
@AlexLJanin
Let us celebrate Agnès this weekend by wearing whatever we damn well please to our next fancy shmancy event, let us relish the moment when everyone buttoned up to the gills shoots our stylish pajamas some envious side-eye, let us thumb our nose Agnès-style
And it's not that married people *aren't* feeling the crunch. But they have two incomes and shared assets, which typically means more of a safety cushion. Married couples are also likelier to own homes and carry less debt.
Have you caught ~~nesting fever? Are you spending more money sprucing up your apartment than ever before? Do you find yourself haunting the isles of Lowe's, HomeGoods and Ikea? Get in touch with me pls — I'm writing a story!
Pls read 🥺
Signed, your friend who still can take a week to respond to texts and also hates talking on the phone even though she recognizes it can be fun sometimes it’s just v stressful when she accidentally talks over you and has to go “no you! Ha ha”
From Toni Morrison:
1. Whatever the work is, do it well—not for the boss but for yourself.
2. You make the job; it doesn’t make you.
3. Your real life is with us, your family.
4. You are not the work you do; you are the person you are.
CONGRATS
@juliaccarpenter
! 🎉🤩🎊There is nothing better than opening up your inbox and seeing people you know getting recognized for their incredible work.
We all have our "burnout buys" — I'm not immune, either!
When we're at our wit's end, we spend more on convenience, shortcuts and small luxuries to dull the pain. More in my column:
I turn 30 this weekend — and I am always a melancholy birthday bitch but this one is ROUGH. Pandemic anniversary, pandemic birthday, it’s all just UGH.
Those on the other side of this milestone: advice for the new decade? I’d love to share the wisdom — my DMs are open. 💌
Twitter: I need your help!
If you (or someone you know!) want to pay down your debt with money made from recent GameStop trades — I’d like to talk for a story in the
@WSJ
! Student loans, credit card debt, I’m interested in it all.
DMs open — as always, ~this is for journalism~
Ok no one told me the American girls they have today are WAY cooler than the ones we had growing up
Case in point: Melody, a civil rights activist who comes with HER OWN RECORDING STUDIO
Finished Book 1 of 2021 and it’s a WILD TRIP y’all
things I can promise you: blow-by-blow outfit descriptions, useless husbands, clandestine trips to get measured for diaphragms, main characters referring to side characters as “Vassar ‘31” or “Holyoke ‘29”
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Watching a Netflix high school romcom and thinking about how nice it would be to see characters aspiring to schools that aren’t Harvard, Stanford or NYU!
There could be some fabulous sequels set in Ann Arbor, Austin or Athens, just saying!
Me: omg the internet is blowing up over this new Ben Smith piece!
My girlfriend: oh wow is it about the media layoffs?
Me: um no
My girlfriend: did he write about the demise of local journalism?
Me: um no
My girlfriend: the perils of VC-backed new media?
Me: *closes laptop*
I had a wretched day yesterday and felt even more wretched when I brought cash to a cashless café. But the barista comped my coffee — and gave me a banana pudding!😭
I went back today to pay her and she insisted no, then ALSO wished me a better day! 😭
PEOPLE ARE GOOD Y’ALL 😭
Was having a horrifically bad body day today but just now caught myself in the mirror and thought “you look pretty today” and wow I wish I could bottle the fleeting feeling and shake it up like a magnum of champagne to rain over me the next time I spend a day pinching my tummy
Sending your friend tiktoks to watch and seeing they’re online at the same time sending YOU tiktoks to watch is the new watching tv on the phone together
In which I explore the psychology of home interiors, my own "we're going back to the office soon!" delusions and how so many of us are spending more money/time/energy on "nesting fever" precisely **because** home ownership remains unattainable — read on!
I’ll never forget a boy calling my house when my dad picked up. The boy said “Julia there?” and my dad said “You’re going to hang up. You’re going to call back. You’re going to introduce yourself and ask me how my evening is going. Then I’ll consider letting Julia talk to you.”
A friend told me having kids now doesn’t feel “financially safe.”
“I’ve seen how women got screwed in this,” another said.
Millennials aren’t delaying parenthood because we’re entitled, lazy or too close to our pets. We’re freaked out.
Read my column!!!
Millennials entered this period with a higher debt burden and other pressing financial woes. Sprinkle the decline in purchasing power (and fears about inflation!) on top, and many are skeptical these high-earning years could expand their budgets
Insight from one expert:
If you could eat one meal from a favourite book, what would it be? Please quote the text liberally in your response, literary descriptions of food are my absolute favourite
Not ashamed to admit I cried the day I read all the baby-sitters club books at my tiny school library and then the kind librarian suggested I try Nancy Drew next and tl;dr that’s how I became who I am today, a journalist obsessed with the new Netflix BSC series
I would pay $1000 to cook my friends the most mediocre meal imaginable while they all laugh at me and then when I bring out the blue string soup everyone is smiling and I think “this is worth the money just to be together” and I don’t even care if my crush shows up
That was the year when I discovered that not all of the promises would be kept, that some things are in fact irrevocable, and that it had counted after all, every evasion and every procrastination, every mistake, every word, all of it.
— Joan Didion, on being 28
You’re in mid-2000s mall with $20 you made babysitting and just 30 minutes before your mom checks out at Sharper Image and comes to pick you up — so quick! WHERE do you shop?
(There’s a right answer)
"The darker the news turned, the more dead I felt inside, and I couldn't escape.
I finally realized I couldn’t move forward until I stopped and seriously addressed the emptiness I was feeling, borne from years of always being 'on.'" via
@SELFmagazine
Finally read
@carmenmmachado
on “The Awakening,” and if you haven’t you must, if only to write down the lines that rip you up, lines like this: “I felt freer at fifteen than I do at thirty-two. Now I know better.”
"The fantasy that an exciting career is enough to sustain a life is one of the most harmful of the modern age—you were never going to find meaning there."
Wow I love this column and
@BrandyLJensen
I’m not working Tuesday night and looking to stay offline and nourished. I want to make an elaborate meal, something that takes time and attention but tastes delicious. I’m not that good of a cook, though! Suggestions for something delicious and involved but not too intense??
I just saw two pigeons kissing and I thought “wow pigeons kiss?” and then I realized the female pigeon was pecking inside the male pigeon’s mouth to steal his food and honestly amen