Adopt the pace of nature: her secret is patience.
Survivor, Filmmaker, artist, mum to a special boy.
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A bit marmite…
Anti-Poverty all rounder
Two years ago today, at 2.23pm, a nurse called Lydia, rang. It was so I could speak to my sister for the last time. She was so funny, and so afraid. I promised her I would look after her children and tell our mother she loved her.
#COVID19
#NotMovingOn
#Grief
#HerNameIsKaren
I gave a statement to police today about what I believed was a sexual assault. It happened in 2016. I’ve been living a frightened and desolate life since. What he did was rape. I never knew. The policeman was incredible. Incredible. Thank you
@DrJessTaylor
@emrazz
@gemma_brett
When I was 7 years old, we moved house, Counties. It was just ‘another’ move. There was a joke that every time my stepfather built a fireplace, we moved. What I found out later, was that every time he abused another little girl and almost got caught, we moved. 1/
@covid_long
@BootstrapCook
I agree with this. Why should they not have security? Surely, we all need a decent role model instead of over privileged tax dodgers?! I for one think, if Jack can get out of where she was, we can all find our voices. She never forgets… I celebrate her tenacity and empathy. 🙏🏻
@JolyonMaugham
@GoodLawProject
Had a huge breakthrough moment with my partners mum as she said yesterday she has stopped watching the BBC because they are pathetic and they are in the pocket of the government. She’s nearly 70… it’s crumbling…
@CovidJusticeUK
My sister Karen Barker, 20/8/1968 -6/5/2020
Right of the picture. She died very frightened and had no family contact for 5 days before except 2 phone calls. There was an inquest. Covid and sepsis. 💔
We must be better as adults, at being the helpers for the children whose worlds become smaller and smaller. In school, I know that my behaviour changed. I could no longer access education in any meaningful way. I know that was noticed… we need change. /End
#CSA
#itsnotok
I wonder where Lydia is!! And Helen, the consultant who helped us get the inquest my sister deserved… Helen and gentle Emma who sent her children to her fathers to keep them safe as she worked the ICU in unprecedented times.
#NHS
#KindnessMatters
@JimMFelton
Just reminds me of my toddler son denying crayoning on the wall, with crayons in his hands, trying desperately to a tell me how it could not have been him…
@jayrayner1
I *shouldn’t* feel so much gratitude and appreciation in reading this, but I do. For every woman. Please all help us normalise this feeling.
@NicholasRober11
I had to say, that I don’t often stop to tell a stranger that their grief reached in to pinch my heart, but this did. I’m so sorry. 🙏🏻 you must be utterly bereft.
@shiraisinspired
My niece has ADHD, and one thing I notice often, is her inability to defend herself verbally in situations that require it. Because she struggles to articulate what has happened, it can often become overwhelming for her, so she goes v quiet.
@dave_democracy
This is a fantastic reminder, thank you. I know those of us who did and do, our own morals guide us and although we have been mocked, I’d rather be this side than theirs. 🙏🏻
@Charles69700909
@EUMarauder
Dearest Charlie, you have placed your heart at the centre of this, your brother is a lucky soul. You don’t make light at all and I completely agree with this sentiment. They are an aberration. They are and their behaviours are, world beating in their outrageousness. Solidarity ♥️
@emrazz
2/2 and why I stayed so quiet. My experiences have been worse than diminishing at times, largely overseen by men. You are helping me to find the courage to stop accepting the unacceptable. I need that more than I can say. Thank you.
In all the time that the worst things happened, nowhere and I mean nowhere at all was safe in my family network. I became the problem. Nobody ever asked me what was wrong. I was terrified and angry and that anger turned inside me, and I began to hate myself. 4/
That’s when the predators from outside my family started to see opportunities. I was a bright child. I wrote poems and read two or three books at a time. I escaped by studying insects in the garden and my world became smaller and smaller. How could I possibly learn?
#CSA
… and I recall being so shocked and so afraid. It did not stop until he left when I was 11. They made me visit him, I ran away. I was labelled a ‘naughty’ child. A handful. A nightmare. I took my first overdose at 11. It felt like the only way to escape. 3/
We moved house a lot. When I was 7 years old, my stepfather did something to me that paralysed my body. I remember being in so much pain but being unable to move my limbs. I don’t (mercifully) recall the act in detail. But I do recall him standing by the ‘fireplace’… 2/
@JolyonMaugham
It took 20 women and a national newspaper to get them to believe this. Is it any wonder at all, that the women did not pursue any charges? They would be decimated and end up the losers. Society is not set up to support women in these situations, and the law even less so. I know.
@emrazz
Haven’t been a twitterer for long, but yours was one of the first accounts I came across. I’m very glad I did. Your strength is inspiring, your word mash ups are genius, but most of all, I am grateful that you are helping me understand why I have felt so shit for so long.1/2
As my sister died alone in hospital & her young daughter & older children were not able to see her, I have not forgotten. I was with my niece on Tuesday this week & she broke down because the one thing she wanted was to hold & be held by her mum.
#ToriesPartiedWhilePeopleDied
As we approach 2nd anniversary of my brothers death, alone, from covid & whose body I helped carry downstairs cos undertaker wouldn’t come into his home & whose funeral I couldn’t attend - because of covid laws, I have not forgotten Boris Johnson & Co were partying
#Partygate
@MrMichaelSpicer
I’m homeschooling (hahahahaha) my 11 yr old son, he’s got some additional needs. There’s no way he’d get a milkshake and a biscuit if he chatted this shit in response to my question.
@173Dandan
This… I know people are divided about our political state, but ultimately my sister was denied the love of her family in her final days, whilst the rule makers did not follow their own rules. A ‘fine’ won’t undo the damage. Thank you so much for stopping.
@doctor_oxford
I’ll clap when Boris and Co leave office... I’ll clap until my hands fall off. The story of Sir Tom is being studied in my sons homeschooling, he’s made such a difference to so many.. one man. Thanks for verbalising how many of us feel, Rachel.
I started this account after my sister died. I am a
#Survivor
of multiple traumas. I stay because of the beautiful people & community here.
I do not repost for the sake of it. I don’t always follow back. I am recovering, an important bit of that, is that this is MY page.
🙏🏻
My son is 13 today!! And whilst I am celebrating this, I would like to take a moment too to recognise that he has survived abuse from many areas including his own father, the
#SEN
system,
#FamilyCourt
and my own family. So not only is he
#13
, he’s hardcore!!
#HappyBirthday
H x
@DrJessTaylor
I made a complaint to the police about a man today. He has terrorised me for years. I know not everything will change in a day etc, but I’m grateful to be at the beginning of change.
#IFoundMyVoice
Thank you so much.
@DrNadiaChaudhri
Such an incredible representation. I’m so sorry Nadia, that there are no smiles, but I am glad you can see that you’ve done a great job, that your sun is still the centre of that hug. That is some extraordinary protection you’ve afforded him. You deserve a soft place to land.
@emrazz
I would not feel so small. My sisters would be just my sisters, not feel humiliated for referring to my sisters. I would see more smiles from my sisters. We would not have to prove ourselves. I would walk, at night, alone. Unafraid. I would feel tall. And I would feel heard. X
@BootstrapCook
I love that we hold each other up. Sick of people being done down for being honest. My son and I have benefited from your blog/speaking out/recipes, and I’m MORE than happy to share the little we have. Xx take care, there are sh*t people out there and they’re never happy!
@emrazz
It’s an unbelievable thing, to be rapidly approaching my 50’s and to still be seeing this kind of inane but sincerely degrading behaviour still being discussed as an issue. Progress bypasses the coward. To change for many men, would leave them morally homeless.
What an excellent showcasing of this govt’s entirely hollow commitment to protecting the environment…
on the eve of
#COP26
Here’s a list of every MP who just voted to ALLOW water companies to continue dumping RAW SEWAGE in our rivers via
@evolvepolitics
@Feehlo
I feel really, really uncomfortable revealing things because I’ve been so attacked over the years for not being.. more/better/less sensitive/not ‘crazy’.
@mikegalsworthy
I can’t even turn the sound on. It’s the most propagandist sh*t I’ve seen since studying WW2. We should be very concerned by this. But a lot of people, just aren’t...
@ThisisDavina
You really needed to have used a different way to address this very upsetting issue. Using the outpouring of women like this is really crap. Women aren’t the reason men have a higher rate of suicide, patriarchy and male violence is!
I’m in hospital currently having had meningitis & an almost fatal allergic reaction to antibiotics. I can recommend adrenaline!! But seriously, it has reminded me that however sh*tty things become in politics & this world, we have one life, and we cannot waste that.
#tuesdayvibe
@davidschneider
@BorisJohnson
What a lovely anniversary message. I’d like to add:
Supported bullying..
Supported driving eye tests..
Gave his buddies unprecedented platforms for bullshit..
@PeterStefanovi2
Did he?? Because that’s ANOTHER LIE. If he was doing that, there are a great many people who would still be alive! Like my sister. Instead her three children have lost their mum.
I’m Jo. I used to have an amazing job. I worked hard, I saved. I was brought up on various council estates and managed to buy my own cheap house. A doer upper, they said… I don’t want to be here. Ps: my kitchen is nice from far/far from nice.
#ToryCorruption
@BylineTV
Jo had a job & a comfortable income but became one of millions thrust into poverty at the start of the pandemic. Now, as politicians argue over vast salaries, she is speaking out about the devastating impact Universal Credit cuts have had on her family.
@JolyonMaugham
Having read the report, it’s so awfully clear that this would never have happened to a white female child. It’s horrific and the damage is so far reaching. The schools treatment post search was also just so dreadful. So alarming.
I, am a survivor. My grandfather, taught me how to do sexual things to him, nothing else. My uncles groomed me so when they raped me, I was not horrified. Most of the men I have met in life, exploited my trauma. My mother, is a narcissist and abuser. And I, survived.
#CSA
@emrazz
It’s the ‘over talking’ when you try to call out any unbalanced elements of your situation or relationship. The ‘I don’t do conflict’ stock response when being over talked! It absolutely infuriates me. Having to ask, will you please make breakfast as I’ve fed us for 175 days!
@oscarhero1801
Thank you dear Shirley. I would have been completely lost without the support and friendships here. It was the loneliest time. Not being able to see her was horrendous. Much love xxx♥️
@kevraire17
@Snellk
Odds are nothing will be done because he didn’t assault her. Please don’t put the pressure of other people’s protection on the victim. The police will do nothing, because they can’t. I know for a fact. Educate yourself before spouting like this, it’s ugly.
The first person I ever told, was my mum, that did not go well at all. I had tried to speak out in other ways but I just didn’t have the words. So I took an overdose, I started self medicating, my mother took me to the psychiatrist & I cried whilst they discussed me
#CSA
1/
@emrazz
You are an active part of my change. In my everyday life, with my son, that courage changes everything. I’m nearly fifty, who knew life could be so much better! (Once I got a handle on my rage at the darkness 😂).
@General_Rastus
@DrKerrySmith
I have done this, yesterday. And I’ll be getting in touch with them to start a ‘payment scheme’. They’re not just taking the money without my knowledge and permission!
Part 10 of the Downing Street lockdown parties: Boris Johnson and Rishi Sunak have been fined after the police concluded they had broken the law. Produced Michael Cox and Adelle Kalakouti.
As a person who is trying hard (only 3 setbacks since 30/12/21) to be sober, I am so encouraged by
@BootstrapCook
My own story has been fraught with trauma, drinking became a medication. Without it, I’m stronger. Giving up smoking too! Almost 2 wks!
#NeverGiveUp
#Addiction
♥️
@miffythegamer
Oh you lovely, caring man. This sounds so difficult for you all. It must be very triggering for you Miffy. No peace and even worse, sounds like your are feeling hopeless for them too. I understand that being next door to that is awful. Do you keep notes of reports love? 💜
@DrBradJohnson
My son has flourished during this time, as his teachers found brilliant new ways to keep him engaged, and are tremendously responsive. I’m committed to his future, and to letting them know what an amazing job they’re doing. Well done to all those who have stepped up in education.
@JolyonMaugham
@Jacob_Rees_Mogg
I don’t get on with everything you say, not a sycophant. However I would say that by your actions alone throughout these shocking times, you will be remembered as 100 percent more human than this tw*t. I’m glad to support you all in this and the future. Better world for my boy.
This is what Lived Experience Experts are up against. Time and time again. How much more does Jon need to prove himself as worthy? As able? We cannot accept this kind of thing as the status quo. It’s not ok.
#CSA
#ExpertbyExperience
Wowzers!!!
Had my application for a victim advocacy role (almost 1/2 my current salary) rejected due to not having GCSE's!
My school years were more about staying alive. ✊🏼🤔
#ThisLittleLad
@julie_cohen
Solidarity with you. This is awful, on every level, because you’re right. It’s normal. They had absolutely no right to take your peace. None. Well done for writing this. It means so much.
100,000 now dead from covid.
We were told 20,000 would be a good outcome.
So that’s tens of thousands of lives lost to this shambles. Worlds lost. Loved ones gone far too soon.
We need a public inquiry.
Longer video coming soon.
@Daisybelll
@BBCNews
I’ve felt numb about this response for so long. My sister died, in the ‘first wave’, and I have watched the reporting become more and more blasé. People discussing our people, as if they were cattle for slaughter. The loss of compassion is epic, is it redeemable?
@rapeconception
Her relative wanted the money to go out…… was it not weird to Kenneth that the relative was observing? I read this and it’s disgusting… but why is the relative not being charged with child exploitation etc?
Really struggling with what is happening within the UK. Struggling to reassure my son that it will be ok. I’m an
#UnpaidCarer
& looking at a real terms reduction in support this year. The impact of living in poverty is vast & recovery is becoming less viable.
#CostOfLivingCrisis
Whenever I speak my truth, a part of me goes under. Because I am so afraid I won’t be believed. The same way that when I disclosed
#CSA
I was punished for speaking out. By my own mother, professionals & partners. I stay quiet because you don’t want to hear it. Let’s change that.
@JimMFelton
Sooooo am I lying when I say that we are living in poverty? When I have accessed food banks for my son and I despite working and being on benefit to top that up. Disgusting. Never had to worry about anything so demoralising!
@JolyonMaugham
Feels extraordinarily biased. It isn’t a particular surprise in terms of the recent changes within the BBC and gov. It���s so difficult not to collapse into a swearing banshee on here when I read things like this.
@JonjayNeedham1
Oh John… bless the little boy you were and the man you became. I understand about not realising we are victims. It was Sophie
@TheFlyingChild
who actually gave me the words. I was 48 at the time. Nobody was convicted for what they did to us. Sending best thoughts.
@speyquine
Her youngest is struggling, the older two… my nephew has completely shut the world out and my niece is very low and struggling to handle every day decisions… they miss her terribly. I cannot come to terms with us being shut out and her suffering alone.
@emrazz
Evening lovely, well now.. go for food and drinks in the city with friends. WALK around without worrying if the pissed up bunch of guys were going to be vile. Wear headphones when walking at night… ♥️ Walk at night even!
@jrf_uk
I cannot tell you how hard my son’s and my life have been. Haven’t the words, but seeing this has still brought me to tears. Dreadful and wrong, so very, very wrong. Our life in poverty has impacted him in a way no words will ever convey. Thank you for this, we need change.
@Iamlistening666
@Keir_Starmer
It shouldn’t be about this girl tonight though... this makes me sad. It was about a woman who was killed. And I am absolutely a part of the movement to change, but I’m sad, that
#SarahEverard
is lost in this.
@darcorina
@cooltxchick
I’m so so sorry this happened to you. I’m in therapy at 49 years old, and a thing I learned is to hold onto the little girl I was, to make sure I listen to her. It sounds crazy but I try. Im so sick of us having to recover and try to carry on after such horror. Solidarity. ♥️
Today
@AndyBurnhamGM
began his third term as Mayor of Greater Manchester. He's put these words, from a full-time carer, up in his office. I think they should be up in the office of every politician:
As a child, I never felt safe. I did not feel loved (in the way a child should). We were not protected from our supposed protectors. I recall a beautiful teacher in primary school, once whispering I wish i was your mum. My education was interrupted so badly by the abuse. 1/
I am a lone parent of a boy with complex needs, a survivor of
#CSA
& trauma. Today is hard! So I am giving myself some space to process, recognition that although physically I’m often alone, I’m not alone in dealing with the things I do, emotionally.
#selfcare
#SupportEachOther
@Shrink_at_Large
Sometimes, it is not the action that is the most damaging, it is the unpredictable nature of the threat of something which causes the most damage. Whilst many will be able to rationalise this, many more, will not. They can’t take it back & those in crisis have taken the hit.
@Chrisca50
@SkyNews
@MarcusRashford
Our local library halved over thirty years ago, then it only opened two days per week, inner urban areas being pushed into further poverty by leaders who do not value education of the masses... plus, you’ll encourage a lot more kids with this initiative!
@EmmaKennedy
For me it is this. I cannot accept that there are those record profits whilst people die, become disabled and isolated. Whilst stark and horrific choices are made and affect our children, our most vulnerable. It is a grotesque reality. So very wrong.
@JolyonMaugham
I’m not ‘hearting’ this because I like the content... this is becoming unbearable, as a single mum, out of work. My son and I are struggling to make ends meet. To see this kind of thing on a daily basis is beyond sickening.
@JonjayNeedham1
Appreciate it may not have been intended to be malicious, but ultimately it’s degrading behaviour and that’s not ok. 🙏🏻 Hope you’re ok and find some level.