sometimes you spend your entire life looking for that one person that gets you completely and that you get completely, instant mind meld, supreme telepathic connection, and then using that you realize they don't like you that much
@RiverTamYDN
@Notgnihtrow
@softfromware
it's not how you use that information, it's just generally useful when cooking to know how a temperature relates to boiling water at first glance
*takes the stand*
RELATIONSHIPS ARE COLLABORATIVE STORYTELLING
you need to be imagining the other else to be what they themselves want to become, express it in a compelling fashion that will resonate
so much of sex is about power dynamics and control,
so much of romance is about finding the one making you forget these notions, entirely vulnerable, and enter a union where even the thought of keeping score makes no sense
@laine_writes
not sure i have a theory, but being relatively impervious to it, i'd say it's because it signals some insecurity/excessively pick-me behavior that i find unattractive, compared to.. calm? strength? autonomy? someone serene and that doesn't need to constantly show, reverse-needy
@mib0x
@simonsarris
a lot of people. depends on the games. some of them straight up seem like second job, e.g. factorio. in general, competitive video games are repeated feedback loops and acquisition of mastery that feels close to any pursuit of real skill.
@daniellellecco
i do too, in the same category of thoughts people who do resort to violence to advance their goals seem surprisingly bad at causing chaos in what is generally a pretty brittle world
@ellegist
a lot of the brokenness of it feels behavioral, as in people have gotten on aggregate worse at taking social initiatives or are estranged from social scenes
I don't doubt the wisdom of your tweet but I wonder how you get people to be receptive to it
@animalologist
i'm always surprised by how many people attack meritocracy on the ground that it's imperfect, don't think anyone would say standardized tests are perfect but they're clearly the best we've got and the whole thing is a work-in-progress
@sympatheticopp
mh. i want to be a romantic about this — maybe true real fated love cares for nothing in the way, conventions & current state of reality included, and is scandalous by nature. feels like there'd be lots of cynical takes though. what do you think?
words and aeshetics are so attractive, this is worth a thousand pictures, the preciosity of prose is how i end up falling in love on twitter instead of hinge, bless all of you little poets i am happy you exist and may we all find each other
i'm confident that i'd fall in love with most of the women bouguereau painted in a way that would ruin my life for a while, it's good that they are only paintings
@dissproportion
i've caught feelings online without knowing how they looked like a few times by now, some of them turned into nice relationships, it really is a matter of app & medium, i think "we" get what we deserve, largely
you want to get noticed, you want to force things, you want control. you want a fairy tale of your own design. but that's not how life works. life works by serendipity, patience and cultivation.
i'm sad and twitter is making it worse, i'll be going on a little break to focus on other things, you kids have fun while i'm gone
dm me if you want to stay in touch, i'm also the same handle on discord
xoxoxo,
i'd like to reassure everyone: i have remained loyal and haven't been touching grass while i wasn't active on twitter — i just had a few existential crises, a touch of despair, and watched 7 seasons of mad men for the 1st time
i believe pedestals and idealizing get a bad rep they don't deserve. they are great engines!
in particular: a great thing about having a crush, irrespective of how deluded it can get, is that it brings out the best in me, including facets i thought long buried
@sympatheticopp
mmh what's the usual cause? a) she doesn't know what good is, b) she is only exposed to bad/bad for her people so referential is messed up, c) she hates herself, d) all men are bad actually?
in honor of my having 600 devoted followers (i love all of you), i would like to know: what ails you?
reply with a problem you're having and i will come up with a very serious and actionable solution
your existence is soothing, as a sort of work of art demonstrating what the universe can come up with, as a softly spoken reassurance that the people i want to spend time with do exist
@goblinodds
i think in some way shy/nerdy/inexperienced correlates with lack of agency/tendency to self-pity/wallowing — which is the real problem.
not only unhelpful to solve the issue but also unattractive. particularly looks bad on men considering expectations.
@animalologist
@sympatheticopp
i like that, it's better than my cynical "alright well we did the thing and acted super rashly we can't lose face now, i guess this is it"
i'm still mad, what kind of universe have we built if being transparent and truthful is seen as putting an undue burden on someone? how can you not realize that this incentivizes awful inhibitory self-destructive behaviors?
ok ok, this is fun but also harder than i thought, my perfectionism is tingling. wish i knew you all better. expect some delays in delivery, but it shall come.
embrace the feelings, chase the people; do not be content with poor company or false love for isolation, start to build brick by brick your future entourage
perpetually confused about what we find attractive in others. sameness for sure, but also aspirational differences. something we could never be, but sometimes something we don't even want to?
i want more parties and social affairs and drinks and flowing group conversations and muffled sound of music as we smoke outside and dancing and staring at each other from across the room and glancing looks and dozing off exhausted and cozy dinner parties and gracious hosting and
if twitter is an MMO it has a terrible new player experience, i don't envy the 6 followers life, it's a very grindy game and not very well balanced, everything could use a good bit of game design
"I met lots of people, many interesting people, especially losers, who would show up at the cafe, talking endlessly and doing nothing. These were the most interesting people there. People who did nothing all their lives, but who otherwise were brilliant." - Emil Cioran
@Giuseppe_AP
@ShitpostGate
the experts are right, the parti radical is the oldest in france, it was in fact radical when it was created.. in 1901, and then again barely because the glory days of the current were in the 19th century, now they have the most milquetoast policy opinions you can imagine
@shaggysurvives
so true, it always annoys me because it paints someone as completely passive, as if rizz was some mind control tech you could activate and had a moral duty not to point at people w/ partners, this isn't how real life works
@katgleason
mmh, I haven't noticed that in myself.. perhaps the closest is that in some cases the attraction and admiration are mixed and hard to tell apart (my attraction kinda requires admiration), to the point where I can't tell what's what
a rite of passage, a rush of emotion!
i got a twitter crush and turned it into a pile of thoughts about limerence, writing and romance.
i feel vulnerable sharing it, but i strive to be better at that, and hope to engender more of the same in you.
i think i've regretted pushing someone to legibilize how they feel about me every single time i've done it, i've been more and more over it
vibes, understandings and hushed tones are enough, it's unfair to expect anyone to collapse their inner swirls into words
if you have an inner monologue it means you're part of the simulation and have no free will, it's the Great Lizard beaming down your code to you. sorry i don't make the rules
guys how do you fix this algorithmic overreach, i no longer see posts from my friends it's all just olympic cheese? is it really all that life has in stores For Me??
i was really sleep deprived yesterday, please forget about anything i might, in mania, have said, promised, did, commited, signed, or worked on. don't make it awkward, thank you in advance for your cooperation.
yearning for someone to be here with me and hold me in their arms and shield me from the world, so we can build a nice little home together for the rest of our lives
but not in a horny way, just in a "i have the flu and a high fever" way