Side note, if you enjoy “actually”s and random facts and being corrected on misinformation you’ve been fed your whole life, check out his series Adam Ruins Everything. Touches on some really important issues, but also manages to be funny and easy to watch.
But back to the point: I think it’s also interesting to note that, at least in MY experience as far as *I* can recall, I have never seen someone claim sex addiction unless:
- they’re using it to justify shit behavior
- they’re subverting their normal sexual impulses
Just sayin’.
So everyone here knows you don’t have to be disgusted by subs to be a “real” domme... right?
Subs can be smart. Subs can be sexy. Subs can be funny and sweet and make great conversation. You can like your subs and still humiliate them during play. Kink is not one-dimensional.
ADDITION: I understand this may interpreted differently, but re: Adam’s “dismissal” of hypersexuality, I don’t believe he’s saying it doesn’t exist. I believe he’s saying it is not an addiction, or a disorder by itself, but rather a (VERY REAL, imo) symptom of something else.
Wait so y’all men really didn’t know girls eat their tampons when they’re done using them?? Like how else would we get the blood back in our systems lmao y’all are somethin else I swear
@Robz_Rofhiwa
@shonie_SA
@officialYFMS
No ones saying go busting into someone else’s house and get in between the two of them, but the least this clout-chasing shitpiece could’ve done was alert the authorities that his neighbor is being abused. But nahh he wanted to “mind his business.” Sickening.
@keyon
Bc like. Honestly the galaxy brain move of John Green coming up with EXACTLY the kind of cringey quote a teenaged boy would think was the deepest observation ever spoken aloud..
“Dommes aren’t therapists” ok but that doesn’t translate to “I refuse to even acknowledge/account for your mental illness or trauma bc it’s not my problem.” Know your subs, understand their limits, take care of them as much as you use and abuse them. They’re people, not toys.
@_benjvmins_
Reasons I’m oppressed:
- disabled
- mentally ill
- woman
- sex worker
- non-Christian
- queer
Reasons I’m privileged:
- white
- cis
- middle class
- fit beauty standard
- went to college
- not sole bread-winner
I really don’t think I can give a clearer example than that lol
@_benjvmins_
You can be oppressed for one reason and privileged for another. The two are not mutually exclusive, these people need to look up the definition of “intersectionality”
Stop practicing sissification. Trans women have repeatedly told you that they’re sick of you trivializing their lifelong struggles by touring and sexualizing their trauma for your entertainment. Feminization is the respectful way to do things. Stop getting off on
“I’m clean” ❌
“I tested negative” ✅
People with STIs/HIV are not dirty. Stop using language that suggests you’re morally superior. You’re only encouraging people to hide their diagnoses (and therefore potentially pass it to others) by vilifying/othering them so cruelly. Stop.
@_benjvmins_
This is literally called weaponized incompetence and it’s manipulation. Also it makes you look like a useless idiot, plus no woman wants to fuck a man who acts like a child, it’s repulsive.
Okay, nope. I’ve seen this several times now, and it pisses me off how y’all are praising this. This is a GROCERY STORE, in PUBLIC, where there are likely CHILDREN present. Additionally, NO ONE THERE consented to seeing this. This is a BLATANT violation of SSC/RACK. Fuck’s sake.
“Sw is dehumanizing” living under capitalism is dehumanizing. How about we let people choose how they wanna be dehumanized, instead of pretending everyone finds the same shit the same level of dehumanizing
You think ancient worshippers tossed coins at Goddesses & then demanded they do their bidding? NO. They brought regular tribute, paid respects, and prayed devotedly for a chance to earn the favor of the powerful beings who ruled them.
Honor the traditions of your predecessors.
I struggle so much with feeling like a lazy piece of shit for choosing (and having the privilege) to spend money on things that make it less incredibly difficult/draining to fulfill my basic needs. Pre-made/take-out food, floss picks, “unnecessary” or “frivolous” tools and-
Can we please stop shaming people for spending money on things like electric jar openers and pre-cut vegetables?
Accessibility is not shameful.
#DisabilityTwitter
#NEISVoid
@worshipindia
RIGHT? When you push past the surface it’s very clear that what they actually mean is “I have internalized issues that I’m projecting onto those around me bc I refuse to accept any responsibility for them.”
@shonie_SA
@Robz_Rofhiwa
@officialYFMS
Eh eh eh! Just because “people have passed worse” or “the neighbors just walk past” doesn’t mean it’s fine to walk by OR that the problem is that he recorded it. Anyone who’d walk by this without doing SOMETHING is a heartless fucking monster and that’s that on that. Do better.
A one-time very sincere selfish FUCK YOU to the subs who disappear out of nowhere and leave us to sit here and wonder if it was something we did or if you’re going through something or if you’re in danger or etc etc. Just because you have such rock-bottom low self-esteem that
“I’m not just gonna pay a domme right away I wanna talk first and figure out if we’re compatible”
If you’re not willing to pay in order to show Me that you’re serious and you respect the value of My time, spoiler alert: we’re not compatible. There, saved us both some time!
@SophiaTruee
I think the important distinction here is between physical addiction—something the body/brain becomes physiologically dependent upon and will experience withdrawal if use is not continued (ie. drugs)—versus psychological dependence, that which we feel compelled to do bc it makes-
Fellow dommes: I love you. You’re everything. But please stop casually telling subs to end their lives, it’s a step too far, coming from someone who used to struggle with suicidality. Please and thank you. ♥️
#findom
@cartierjoseph_
Highlighted for some of yall missing it: “put LIGHT PRESSURE on the carotid arteries.” You’re not trying to starve their brain of oxygen entirely, just enough to make them feel a little dizzy/lightheaded. And you shouldn’t be pressing on the windpipe EVER.
You can torture/drain a sub brutally and without mercy until they beg you to stop, and then when it’s over, joke with them & shoot the shit while they come down from subspace. I just?? Don’t understand when it became “weak” to enjoy subs as human beings.
• findom • femdom •
And yk what, while I’m on the subject, some of you subs won’t wanna hear this but:
There is a difference between needing aftercare bc a session was intense or draining or challenging, and needing emotional support once you’ve cum bc you have an issue with your own kink.
@_benjvmins_
All the other artists out here with incredible silky heaven-sent voices and people are still carrying a torch for an abuser simply bc he can hold a basic tune in a bag??? Shameful
The fact that some of y’all can’t even fathom a situation where a domme & her sub could fuck while maintaining their dominant and submissive roles, shows me that your understanding of dominance & submission is, at BEST, limited by your own imagination.
I just pulled a total findom move on my man, sucked his dick until he was about to cum and then popped off and grabbed my phone and just started scrolling all casual and he was like “what the fuck?! Can I please cum??” And I was like “nah. Maybe later” ...he’s mad. 😂😂
#findom
@SophiaTruee
us “feel good” or distracts us or even has just become a habit in daily life that would be very difficult to break. One is a purely medical issue, that you can even die from quitting cold turkey; the other is more of a crutch, hard to let go of mentally but not a true addiction.
And while I’m at it, yall really just ending sessions & taking your money & not getting any feedback??? You don’t wanna know what worked, what didn’t, how they felt, how they’re feeling...? That is so BORING how do you ever grow as a domme or build long term dynamics that way??
Degrading/being degraded for feminine qualities, stop encouraging the idea that womanhood can be put on and taken off like a costume. You can be feminine, or “girly,” or enjoy high heels or pink or having long pretty hair, but those things do NOT make you a woman, and they do NOT
The parts of being a woman that are not fun or sexy in ANY capacity. ESPECIALLY trans women. They are not “men in dresses,” they don’t exist solely as “cumslut whores,” they are PEOPLE. Not costumes. Knock that shit off.
Here’s the thing about fake/performative activism and support: you WILL get caught. You WILL slip up. At some point it will become VERY apparent that you don’t practice what you preach, and it’ll be embarrassing at the very least, likely completely damning. Keep that in mind.
If Dommes “quit findom” and abruptly deactivated every time We got upset/burned out the way subs do, We’d be jumping in and out every other month like a worldwide game of the hokey pokey
give you the right to perpetuate thinly-veiled misogyny and transphobia. If you get off on being feminized/feminizing someone, do it in a way that is RESPECTFUL to femininity and womanhood. Do not align yourself with women unless you’re prepared to acknowledge and empathize with
@chrissychlapp
Pull out your pepper spray and hold it visibly. Either he’ll see it and back off, or someone else will and they’ll ask if you want help/company to deter him. I’m so sorry that this is life for us. 😤♥️
If you want to be feminized, you’re gonna start by learning about the dozens of ways women & femmes have been oppressed, discriminated against, violated, & murdered throughout history & into modernity.
You’re not about to try on my gender w/out understanding what we go through.
@tricialaney
Did you.. did you miss the 5 other reasons I’m oppressed? Or the 6 reasons I’m privileged? Also, I never said I didn’t believe in God. I said I’m not a Christian. The fact that you assumed that means I’m not religious at all, highlights my EXACT point.
Do you think the ancient worshippers tossed coins at their Goddesses and then demanded they do their bidding? NO. They brought regular tribute, paid respects, and prayed devotedly for a chance to earn the favor of the powerful beings who ruled their lives.
Honor your history.
I have no other answer other than “how can you NOT hear it??” Everything is loud. And you know what we don’t talk about enough? How friends & loved ones shame/guilt trip us for not being able to do things like watch movies at volume 9000 when we’re around w/out us “freaking out”
Whenever someone says "How can you hear that?!" I realize I will never understand the extent of how much information I'm receiving from stimuli compared to NTs.
#ActuallyAutistic
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