When someone is suspected of committing online CSA they have to be investigated. The impact of this discovery, investigation, arrest and agency interventions impacts family members, especially children. Here we demonstrate how to minimise those harms
Does anyone want to tell me how they are managing to work full time and look after 2 kids (without anyone else to distract/feed/entertain/educate)? I don’t know if I’m doing something wrong, but unlike (what seems like) everyone else, I can’t do anything that requires head space.
I am 45 years old, I am a single mum, I am reasonably intelligent ...and it’s taken me this long to realise that Instagram is the source of most of my shit. So today, I deleted it and won’t be going back. Lovely insta friends, I will still be here on twitter 🌟
2020 is shit, but I’m going to have a small brag here. For those who have followed the education journey of my eldest...almost permanent isolation at high school, being told he’s useless...he’s just got his Uni offers including Uni of Leeds studying Biology. Oh how they laughed.
My 98 year old grandad died while we were in Menorca 💔. Got back last night and Mum has left me these…just some of the love letters he kept from my Gran ❤️
#perfect
It’s my eldest’s 17 birthday today. So I would like to take this opportunity to say to anyone who is struggling to juggle work/study/single parenthood, you probably feel that you are letting your child down, you aren’t, they will be your best friend and be awesome 17 year olds 🌟
Just been called to pick up my sick 10 year old from school. As we were leaving we were reminded that ‘should he feel better later he should come back to school as his SATs are vitally important’ ....and his health/wellbeing? He’s 10, his SATs are in May and they are just SATs.
I am thrilled to let my lovely Twitter friends know that I have just secured funding (proper funding at that) to explore the role of burglar alarms in crime prevention. It’s an awesome project, I’m working with wonderful colleagues & I can’t wait to share the work in 3 months. 💫
I am not brilliant at dealing with good news, & those who know me well will understand why this is so terrifying 😬. But finally, after some truly shitty times, I am bursting with excitement to announce that he proposed in Retiro Park, & I said ‘YES’! Let the playlist commence 🎶
Not one for twitter brags about my kids, but might I just say, without any thanks awarded to his sh*t show of a school, and despite approx 3 years in isolation, my beautiful, creative, vibrant & ‘challenging’ son has nailed his GCSEs and will be going to his 1st choice college🌟
@PlanningShit
I just find this so depressing and I hate seeing the term ‘designing out crime’ used here. This is not designing out crime and it’s just simply bad policing. 😪
I am having the shittest two weeks 😪 but today I had a paper accepted 💫 - ‘Exploring the indirect harms associated with Child Sexual Abuse Material (CSAM) offending and its impacts on non-offending family members’. It’s OA so I will post it as soon as it’s copy edited.
I’m not a bitter person, but I’m really struggling with the blanket coverage of London entering Tier 2 today. Kirklees...I think we had 20 days out of it since national lockdown ended 😤
I have spent today interviewing friends & family of online child sexual abuse offenders. If I say nothing else about this research (won’t happen) I want to say that we cannot continue to leave these people unsupported & as what many describe as ‘collateral damage’. Can’t happen.
And when he collected his award, a group of kids, probably idolised by the school because of their grades, said to him (excuse disgusting language)...”yeah, that’s the retard’s award’. And my son, that I was told was disruptive etc. just ignored them and collected his award. ❤️
For most of our lives, this was accepted as inevitable. I am so happy that we are finally turning this narrative around. This is not ok, and it never was.
I am thrilled, honoured and extremely excited to be invited to join the Board of Trustees for the Marie Collins Foundation
@MCFcharityUK
. For those who don't know about this organisation, they are wonderful humans doing amazing things to help children abused via the internet.
After an initial rejection, I’m pleased to say that we’ve secured funding to conduct some research on the Sanctuary scheme - exploring the impact on DVA. I think 2021 is going to be a good year for research ⭐️
I know it’s a depressing day and I haven’t won a research grant or published a fab paper, but I have had a boyfriend (the same one 🤣) for one year today and that makes me very happy indeed ❤️
“Dear Rachel,
Congratulations! This is to let you know that you have been nominated for Huddersfield supervisor of the year.
Some highlights of the nomination include…..” Reads quotes and continues to sob for a few more hours 💔
I am super proud to announce that I will be joining the wonderful charity
@ActsFastUK
as a Trustee. For those that don't know, this charity supports families affected by child sexual abuse and indecent images. They are wonderful - spread the word 💫
I took some of the wonderful advice from people commenting on my Twitter moan a couple of weeks ago, and I now have a ‘thinking’ hour in my car while the kids are doing their chaos thing at home. So far, it’s helping a lot 🌟
*Some more good news 🤗* I’m really excited to secure funding to work with
@StopItNowUK
to review their Friends & Family (of online sex offenders) Forum. This will be user-centred & improvement focused. I can’t wait to share the findings & improve support for indirect victims.
@danafachner
I was pregnant through my PhD, gave birth one year before submission & so had a baby for the final year. Do you know what, it’s fine, you super prioritise your time and don’t think about decisions for long 😂. He’s now 19 & all turned out just fine. Here we are at my graduation.
So far today, I’ve had a tweet liked and commented on by Tim Burgess and been followed by David Gedge. I’m really not sure that I ever want to go back to normality, because this is peak joy 😍
2) I realised it was an answer phone message telling me to get to my dad’s house as he’d confronted someone trying to steal his car and had a heart attack on the street. By the time I heard that message he was dead 😭. I still miss the knobhead so fckn much 💔
I’d planned to save my birthday
@TheVampiresWife
dress for Paris, Milan, or some such glamorous location. Decided to forget that and wear it to the local pizza restaurant because I can ❤️
Hey twitter I have some good news! A lovely elderly lady took my iPods to a local Apple Store in Bristol as she didn’t know how to find out who they belonged to 😂, and is going to post them to me when I’m back in the UK. So much faith I’m humanity restored ❤️
AirPods are still in Bristol 😢. I’m still in Menorca. I’ve done the ‘lost, please contact me’ thing and I’ve contacted
@ASPolice
but no joy. Can’t believe they don’t realise I watched them fly out of the country and settle in a lovely part of Bristol 💔
1) 18 years ago today, I was in my final year of my PhD and had a 1 year old baby and worked f/t. I fell into a deep sleep (v.rare) and all night I heard what I thought was a smoke alarm out of batteries beeping. I’m still haunted by the fact that when I finally woke up….
*Would welcome a RT* I’m looking for academics with experience in researching the impact on children when a parent is arrested for accessing online child abuse images. I am specifically looking for anyone researching how this affects the child/children. Please DM me if interested
1) Absolutely thrilled to be invited (with the wonderful
@JennyGeeBee
) by
@WestYorksPolice
to produce a series of films on the impact of the arrest of a family member for online child sexual abuse offences.
The REF dreams have started 😱. Last night I dreamt (...that somebody loved me...sorry off track) that all REF outputs had to be signed off by the local MP. This was disclosed to me the night before submission. I’ve never been as relieved to be awake at 5am on a Sunday before 😳
It’s coming people! 26 Feb publication date. Early start (very early) to get the final proofs finished. The contributors represent a list of outstanding scholars (I will tag you all when I’ve had some sleep). For now, big love to the legend that is my co-editor
@PaulEkblom1
Here they are!!!! Thanks to all the wonderful contributors and, of course, to the wonderful, inspirational
@PaulEkblom1
who first inspired me to study CPTED far too many years ago.
On my way to Australia to present at the AIC
#CrimePrevention2018
conference. Looking forward to discussing offender perceptions of CPTED and broadening our approach to preventing crime through the design of places and spaces
@WeLoveResearch
@researchisace
I bought a newspaper! I’ll share the online version when it comes out, but I’m thoroughly pleased with this piece from
@yorkshirepost
discussing the impact on families when someone is arrested for CSAM. It discusses the support provided by
@TalkingForward_
I have refrained from commenting and feeding this media frenzy, but I would like to say please remember there is a wife and children here. Just try and put yourself in their shoes. They deserve kindness, support and privacy. This is just hideous to watch.
Sorry, not sure why I felt the ‘single mum’ label was relevant here 🤣...I think I meant I can make sensible adult decisions and deal with lots of crap. Anyway, it felt important 😂
As Editor-in-Chief of
@JSATandF
I believe in the importance of recognising research impact. I am pleased to recognise Katie Duncan, Andrea Wakehan,
@belinda_winder
@drnblagden
and
@ProfRArmitage
. Their article achieved the most downloads for 2022.
This paper was going so well when I started it in April. Picked it up again with a view to a Xmas finish and I have no clue what I was talking about 🤣 (though it sounded so good at the time). *Spoiler alert* - it’s not going to be ready for Xmas 😳
To the 265 amazingly supportive and heartfelt comments and the 1069 likes - thank you ❤️. To the one man who decided to tell me how his mum managed and to stop moaning - I think your mum is a feckin star! I wish I was as strong as her 👍🏻
Does anyone want to tell me how they are managing to work full time and look after 2 kids (without anyone else to distract/feed/entertain/educate)? I don’t know if I’m doing something wrong, but unlike (what seems like) everyone else, I can’t do anything that requires head space.
@criminographer
Well look at that gorgeous little man 🧑🚒💙. Emily, your openness and honestly is an inspiration. You probably have no idea how much you have helped others in the way you have done this. I am in awe of you. X
Heading to my first real life conference in over two years 🥳. So pleased to be asked to present our research on the impact of online child sexual abuse offending on the families of those arrested.
@researchisace
@UoHHealthSocSci
@HuddersfieldUni
@NeilDotObrien
Just no!! Please don’t conflate an absolutely disgraceful and unethical publication with criticism of non-STEM subjects. The work we do to improve people’s lives shouldn’t be anywhere near a discussion of this paper. Don’t insult us please 🙏🏻
@john_boyne
Commented on your last post, but I will say it again, because I can’t say it often enough. Your books are fantastic and The Heart’s Invisible Furies is the best thing I have ever read (closely followed by John McGregor’s ‘If Nobody Speaks of Remarkable Things’). Just stunning 🌟
A true friend said to me this week, just because you had some good news for a couple of weeks, the universe didn’t decide you needed that balancing out with bad! She gets me. So in celebration of the fact that bad news can get to F, I’m reminding myself of my March news 🌟💍
I am not brilliant at dealing with good news, & those who know me well will understand why this is so terrifying 😬. But finally, after some truly shitty times, I am bursting with excitement to announce that he proposed in Retiro Park, & I said ‘YES’! Let the playlist commence 🎶
Having a son in a similar position makes this a difficult read. Last week he walked out of school (2 days before his first GCSE) because he refused to go into isolation AGAIN.
I was put in a school isolation booth more than 240 times'
….and here we go again! Probation officers were ignored when they knew privatisation was dangerous. To ignore them in this one would be a travesty! This cannot happen!
Just pressed ‘send’ for our new book: ‘Crime Prevention through Environmental Design: Strengthening the Links with Crime Science’ Watch this space 👀. It’s been an absolute pleasure and privilege to co-edit with the wonderful genius that is
@PaulEkblom1
- miss him already!