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Your female friendships will save you ❤️.
See what women are doing for their friends with chronic illnesses. Men said we have PCOS because of indomie. Issokay🫶🏾
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“Men are biologically wired to have no control over their dicks” but it’s women you people call Ashewo lol.
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NYSC posted me to Bayelsa 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣.
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Nigerian men really believe Misogyny is only about SA and killing women. Their brain cannot fathom the fact that degrading women verbally or treating women as lesser women literally equals misogyny that’s why they always form anger when you call them misogynist.
Misogyny? You fools just throw words around without understanding the direct implications of it. Do you know what it entails for one to be a misogynist? Do you know the terrifying character and traits of such description? Because he sang 'if he no suck. ', does that justify this?.
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Me 🫱🏽🫲🏾 looking for a Nigerian man that’s open minded, agnostic, not sexist, not homophobic, not misogynistic, does not have low self esteem, is financially stable, kind, an ambivert, loves food, loves to travel and many other things. As it is, I’m still searching 🙏🏽.
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The more I see this video, the more I watch her hair movement. The vendor wey sell that wig na Odogwu! Ate and left to crumbs or whatever they say.
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This is why I don’t care to be friends with Nigerian men. Everything is sexual to them kmt. Of course I blocked him immediately.
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I will never forget the day I was arguing with a “friend” that begging for sex is coercion and I just like gave up because he was like “if you beg someone for a material thing, did you force them to give you?” .Sex is not a material thing and it should be a mutual decision fgs.
Begging, persuading and gaslighting women to have sex with you is coercion and a lot of men are guilty of it.
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Nobody is preaching about wanting marriage. The real talk is about desperation. Nigerians expect young women to be desperate to get married by all means. Nigerian men weaponize this desperation that’s why people are suffering in marriages with their enemies.
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This get your money up part is too important because financial abuse is where Nigerian parents power starts and ends.
I'm going to need you people to get your money up and start fighting your parents. Trust me, it works. My mum is my friend but our friendship is battle-tested. I have gone to war with that woman with absolutely nothing to lose.
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You sef look at the language you’re using to describe having sex as an adult. “Have a taste of you” like you’re a kebab. Everyday you people find ways to attach your worth to sex. The problem is the language will most definitely have changed if she was addressing men kmt.
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Let’s not lie, 1 million is too small to pepper feminist o. Bad bitches dey pull am on one billing so they should please make it 5 million maybe some feminists go vex denounce feminism.
I double dare these men to make it 5 million by the end of tomorrow so it can really really pain these bitter feminists. Keep it up guys 👍🏾.
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I hate how casually sexist Nigerian men are. You’ll be liking someone and hoping they don’t say or do something to provoke you to block them. The bar is very very low.
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Kai as a woman you’re really on your own. You family will not protect you, your lecturers and law makers will not protect you, you’ll be denied every opportunity at basic human rights. I’m so confused for the women that are not angry.
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I’m currently in Zanzibar as a female solo traveler and since I read that thread hours ago, I’ve been sick in my stomach. Can’t wait to leave for the airport tomorrow. I can even barely close my eyes to sleep tbh. It’s so scary!.
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Honestly, you people that stress child free people about not wanting to have kids should look around and see if this is the country you want to bring a child to. Heck, is this even the world you want to bring children to? Not to talk of this Nigeria kmt.
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Lmao my cleaner pays all her bills plus her children bills and it’s so eye opening for me because you fit marry poor man still dey suffer gender roles wahala with women wey marry rich man.
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Was the initial post about you? Because which kind main character syndrome be this?.
A BIG FAT LIE.1. I do everything in this home except cook. I don't know how to cook. 2. I coordinated all of Livy's vaccines at the height of COVID-19. 3. I am so present at the kids' school events, that I was made to read to their classes. Everyone knows me; from security.
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@PengGraceeee Boundaries means nothing to them. Consent means nothing to them because one “no” is never enough and they think it’s their birthright to beg for sex. Then they turn it into a “joke”.
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Because homophobic men are misogynistic men and mostly men that struggle with the concept of consent.
@Onyinyechi1520 How is a man not being homophobic a criteria for love? He's straight, you're straight, wetin concern una with gay people?.
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Might search forever idk but I’m not compromising 🙏🏽.
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It’s so stressful omg. This boy I’m dating is telling me to invite him home for Christmas because he’ll be alone and I spent some minutes explaining to him that to my mom, that means he’s my husband and I’m ready to marry him next year.
It’s always interesting how non black people just invite their gf/bf to the family events and all. I can’t imagine the gymnastics it involves as an African to tell your parents a boyfriend or girlfriend wants to come for thanksgiving.
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(Circle tweet) Is anyone else embarrassed of grief? Like does grief sometimes embarrass you people because i swear i lost my dad 6 years ago and I’m embarrassed at how bad it still hits me because i feel like people might say “crying and beating yourself up won’t bring him back”.
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Honestly wish I could give him a resounding slap to reset his brain.
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@mjpoundsx Like she should share beauty secrets and stop saying rubbish please. Where she buy the wig? Her outfit nko?.
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@kingchyk So taking responsibility of a child you brought into this world is based off of what surname they’re given? Most of you should not be parents in an ideal world.
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Is this Ife babe even okay? Why are you struggling so much to make women submit to poor men? If she becomes sick and cannot submit, won’t he also withdraw whatever the fuck he’s offering. Abeg abeg it’s giving Nollywood.
What if you marry him rich and life happens and he can’t fend for his family? You withdraw your so called “submission?”.
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One thing I’ll never hide from men I’m dating or talking to is my feminism and my hate for men. So that you won’t say you weren’t aware 🙏🏽.
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Twitter Feminist are the reason i stopped caring about sounding bitter and angry. Who the fuck isn’t angry about this oppression? Forever angry until Patraichy dies!!!.
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This conversation in the TL should help most of you understand child free people more. If you cannot be a good parent, just no born fgs.
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Lmao fr. They don’t like you enough if they say they’re not ready. Someone that wants to be with you will go to therapy for and with you.
My hot take is Most of the time, that fear of commitment jumps out of the window when you actually find what you want.
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Now Solomon Buchi can go and marry aunty Ife so they can practice their feminism lite on Instagram. Good riddance abeg. Who is our new king bayi? 😭😂.
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Mind you, they didn’t ask the lawyer to share the autopsy result o seeing as he’s the one that brought the news here. Nigerian men scare me. There’s nothing they won’t do to support an alleged abuser as long as the victim is a woman.
@OpeAdedeji_ @BlessingsDigha Now they want her brother to share the “autopsy results” to be sure he’s saying the truth. As if it isn’t hard enough for the family already.
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He’s insane for saying it was casual but she’s a bigger fool for collecting a loan for a man not once but twice.
That babe is crazy but that guy calling it a casual relationship and then collecting thousands of pounds? Chelsea come on nowwwww. That’s why this “Don’t collect things from women” yarns nah dust. Una sabi wetin una dey do.
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Your imagination really matters. It’s not about what you’re doing but mostly what you’re thinking. Relax and let your mind wander.
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Wait. So you people actually think Feminist Coalition started because of the End Sars movement? Do you people actually read or look at stuff well? Their name is literally feminist coalition! Their logo is the feminist logo. Their bio says they were established before October.
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Okay Ma
TL cleanse pls bless this tweet with ungodly cleavages pls 😔🙏🏾.
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I’m about to digress but I want to remind you all that wigs only cost this much in Naira now because the currency keeps going to shit. $300 wig was like 120k in 2021 and now it’s over 400k. So if you like no buy wig of 500k. Buy the one that’ll turn to sponge next week.
I just want to say you people buying one wig for 500k, 1million and above are financially reckless. It’s so stupid man!!.
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@davidolatawura1 @dbranddr @Osasx2 You’ve replied to my tweet twice. How about you go look for someone that wants your dusty ass and stop being a nuisance on the internet.
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I hope my ex had a terrible day wherever he is now. I just remembered how this nigga used to slut shame me and body shame me subtly and when I react I’m “overreacting”. How can you move to a babe that’s always opening breast and then turn around and make opening breast a problem?.
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This cannot be overemphasized. I’m begging you all because the dangers of financial abuse becomes scarier everyday.
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Lmao wanting your man to show care and support and not ask you “what will you do?”is not entitlement. It is not equivalent to crying that men don’t pay for your lashes. You look at the way some people tweet and just know they’re most likely unkind partners.
Listened to the new ISWIS episode today and FK was talking about how friend helped her with something that would've cost extra money only for her to end that thought with "and you expect me to fall for one fucking man that would've told me oh my God what will you do".
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Omo as a woman in Nigeria if you’re not angry your head is not correct o. Because forget your personal experiences sef, the things we see on a daily and wonder if it’ll be us next should have you upset.
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Swanky acts like he’s mentally deranged ngl. And it’s always selective because why’s he screaming at Luis for speaking to Ini like that when he couldn’t even raise his stupid ass voice on Diamond when he was making a fool of Fantana #YoungFamousAndAfrican.
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@pengforwho @Marknit0 That’s literally how consent works. What’s not clicking? Do YOU want everyone?.
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The first step is to UNLEARN desperation. It’s okay to want a man but it’s not okay to make your entire existence about it. You’re a human being with a life, dreams and aspirations. Go out and have amazing platonic friendships if romantic relationships are not working now.
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I know we say this enough but babes, prioritize safe sex! Be very STINGY with your body because no one should have to go through this. Also, f*ck all of you that stigmatize abortions because that’s the reason we’re here in this situation kmt.
Today is the day I decide to tell my story of how my boyfriend, a lecturer at Auchi polytechnic left me with a twin pregnancy after securing his VISA to the UK.
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@Naija_Events I live and will continue to live in Lagos, Nigeria for the next two years and I’m not looking to date long distance. Maybe Nigerian isn’t the word but someone in Nigeria.
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Y’all need to stop with this “don’t show your man to your friends” narrative. A man you have to hide is the problem and not for you 🙏🏽.
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I’m torn between “Why’s Ini Edo even here she’s too cunt for this show” and wanting to actually experience her as a person. #YoungFamousAfrican.
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There are fools on this app but no one has ever fooled like Solomon Buchi and I don’t rate anyone that gives him a platform.
I think someone reminded him the country he now lives in. Despicable moron.
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Call this person insensitive all you want but the second statement is very wild and the last sentence is true. Nigerian women will do anything but hold their husbands accountable. They will not protect victims and they will take their husband’s sides.
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I’m wicked o but I’m beginning to see that some of you are wickeder and I want a masterclass 😂.
Never refund cash that you weren't given. If he bought pizza and coke, refund in pizza and coke. Tell him to go to that exact place at an exact time like how a date happens, make the exact order you did and send you the bank details of the establishment.
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Your friends will literally save you. Friendship is really important. Keep friends o.
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Nobody should go through my phone without my consent sha. You’re my partner but I have friends that are not your friends and if they share something confidential that I don’t want you to know of yet, that’s my boundary. You can ask yo check a specific thing on my phone.
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You see how he has personal space? For the people asking “How can you have personal space on your wedding?”.
Aww Sharon’s husband speech to Sharon’s parents. He said Sharon’s parents had 4 amazing women and did a phenomenal job raising them. He thanked them for welcoming him into the family and he gained incredible sister and a wonderful wife and he knows his life is complete aww ❤️🥹🥹
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And I also want to say that if you’re dating/married to a Nigerian man that isn’t sexist or misogynistic, you’re God’s favorite.
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What manner of coercion is this? Shame no dey catch una? Like because pf 12k see what a grown ass man is doing omo.
He started again and I begged him to just send his account number
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Wdym incels? How you take know say olopa no dey fok 😭.
Bro this fucking Nigerian police force has to be the most useless ever , imagine stopping my guy on the road and saying his cargo pants is police uniform . Are you fucking mad , God this fucking incels are making my blood boil 🤬🤬😡. How is this police uniform ffs
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@thetriangulummm That’s what upset me the most because he almost succeeded. Had to send it to like two of my friends asking if the video was sexual even after turning my volume down because I was with my workers when I played it.
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As long as you’re dealing either men, you can never be free from misogyny. No matter how subtle.
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Exactly. All these yarn on the TL no really concern some of us lol.
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I don’t know how long women have to explain this for because it’s so exhausting. Why is anyone begging for Sex? Does it even sound normal to y’all?.
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@Queenprecy_ @larabillionaire Do you get??? There’s a LOT of profit in hair business. Sometimes 100 percent your capital. Wtf is wrong with people??.
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Please know that people(men) will not give you the same grace/forgiveness you gave them if you did the exact same thing or even smaller to them.
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I’m worth it.I’m deserving of everything good and that’s on period.
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And what exactly has Nigerian women done to be stereotyped as prostitutes lmao. Not that anyone deserves that but most of us can’t have sex without feeling guilty and are still trying to unlearn purity culture dfkm. They’re really crazy.
“Imagine if the world stereotyped Nigerian women as prostitutess”. Y’all already call us Ashewo everyday.
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If you’re not insane, tell me why you’ll want a submissive person who is also financially stable. Arindin. You want a financially stable 21-24 year old in Niger lmao Ashiere.
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To many more drunken nights and hoe dresses in 2021 🥂
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I find this very truthful. I think it’s vile to keep telling people to love themselves when everyday, they go out and meet people who make them hate it.
If you like, self love yourself one million times over, if society has decided that your face or body do not meet expectations there's still some hurt that will make you feel.
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Because for some twisted reason, they don’t believe they are. Basically, dehumanize women but not too much. Don’t be too brutal and it’s just fine.
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Men are simply obsessed with men richer than them because why did you cook up this scenario in your head and tweet it 🤣.
Somewhere in Nigeria, a 23-year-old graduate is happy that she is going to serve in Lagos on the island, hoping to meet rich men.
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The moment you’re no longer dating my friend, to hell with you even if she was the one that broke your heart 💀.
If someone breaks your friend’s heart, will you still be following them on social media?.
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@fabulos_fairy Like she did that even before having a conversation or being close to Diamond. Such a weird babe.
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Do not be desperate please because if men that search for desperate women see you, you’ll cry blood when they’re done with you.
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“What exactly qualified them as good guys”. The Nigerian men in your life are only good because you put them side by side with violently misogynistic men. If you look closely, you’ll see that they’re bad bad. And not just small misogyny sef. Them no really see you as human being.
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@Queenprecy_ @larabillionaire Also, the thing is most people won’t buy if they see it cheaper elsewhere. MOST people will rather buy expensive hair because it puts them at rest that the quality will be guaranteed which often times is not the case.
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Like it was all fun and games but it’s sounding like some of you mean it o.
@ulxma I hate this type of “I’m just a girl” content. -turning my brain off with my bf/husband.- waiting in the car while my bf does his “big boy” job.- stay at home girlfriend . Why are we going backwards?.
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I genuinely hate seeing men’s foolish opinions on feminism because you have never lived as a woman and you have bever experienced misogyny so stfu. The only thing you should be doing is listening not talking.
I don’t like to hear men talk about feminism. You’re not the ones labeled as 'expired' at a certain age. You’re not the ones reduced to tools or objects at parties. And you’re definitely not the ones beaten in marriages for not being able to cook.
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@pengforwho @Marknit0 Yes please. If someone says no to you once they don’t want you. Why’s that so hard to grasp? That nigga tried at least thrice in such a short video you fool.
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@Falilatt_ Fr, if I ever take you home it means I see a future with you because I might forget you but my mother will certainly not 😂.
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@novelluh Go out and touch grass and stop being insensitive. You want to invalidate people’s experiences when you’re not even living it. Be fr.
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@pappyyj @olly_ade From where to where? Are you unfortunate sir? This question is dumb and as long as sex is consensual and safe, I do not stigmatize. I don’t even have unsafe sex so don’t ask me foolish questions. Heck I won’t even sleep with someone begging me, you’d have to physically force me.
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