I'm far from having shit figured out & I don't have all the answers. I have to keep learning. But, I don't engage with ppl who still want to debate *IF* white privilege & racism & homophobia etc exist. That's settled. You'll get left behind while the world's moving on. Choose.
@TheRyanHamilton
Protect your tweets in settings. Then only those you follow can comment. Even for just a little while. You don't need this now (but you know that).
Best wishes to your family
Gouws's shit is a hill many white SAns are willing to die on. You can't reason people out of irrationality. They don't get it because THEY DON'T WANT TO. The only thing we can do is what we're doing now: make this country an impossibly small and uncomfortable place for racists.
One of our guys got hoodwinked at an ATM over the weekend, losing all his fortnight wages. When I told the owner of our company, she says: 'Take the card, withdraw the same amount, and give to him. Make sure to tell him it's NOT a loan and we're sorry this happened.'
I'm crying!
My mom was robbed of her cash withdrawal at the ATM on Saturday morning. Yes, it sucks. But what REALLY gets to me is seeing how her world gets smaller as she gets older.
This world is a hostile place to old people.
It hurts seeing your parents become vulnerable in that way
Could you imagine if Theuns du Toit remained under the radar and *actually* became a lawyer? THAT's what systemic racism is. He would have taken all that kak with him into his profession. Think about that!
The same people who say Apartheid ended 27 years ago and that 'people should move on', have feelings about the Anglo Boer war that ended a 119 years ago.
The hell of low self esteem + depression: This guy is 29, socially awkward, a year away from his 1st cocaine induced stroke, thinks he's ugly, unlovable, incapable of success. He died after I chose life & recovery. Next week I'm 49 & 13yrs clean. Deeply grateful for my life.
Sick to death of apartheid apologists. NP handed over a broke government to the ANC in '94.
We STILL don't know where that money went.
Also, which newspaper/agency would've dared exposing government corruption during apartheid. Y'all seem to forget how apartheid worked
There's a type of white person that was never invested in the 'new' SA, in democracy. It's those who stood back and spoke of 'their' government, and now rejoice in the abject failure of it. It's those who speak of 'reverse racism'.
They weren't with us from the start.
When you start calling the victims of racism racists, you're doing 3 things:
1. Gaslighting them
2. Displaying your ignorance
3. Attempting to rid the term of its potency.
Don't fall for it
@AlisonMoyet
As a member of the LGBTQ+ community who has had to fight for the legitimacy of my identity it pains me to see that some of us have become the equivalent of identity nazis; denying others the choice we dmand for ourselves. So sorry. We need to do better!
All those white folk who were up in my comments this weekend...who said racism & apartheid ended 30 yrs ago...who complained bitterly that white people were victims of racism...yes, you!
Come look over here
When police arrest a Cape Town surfer during lockdown, it triggers in white people a sudden concern about the lack of police resources to fight drugs and gangs in the Flats.
Weird phenomenon, right?
What would one call that you think?
1/ White Privilege is the fact that I'm in my 40s and for the first time in my life I have no work and no prospect of work coming in soon, YET my life hasn't really changed. I've been set up to survive even though things fail around me...
It's white people's job to call out white racism. It's not enough to say 'Well, I'm not racist'.
If we are to get beyond this we NEED to be anti-racist.
Get uncomfortable already!
Mense, listen, if your argument against lockdown starts/ends with 'poeple in taxis', check your fucking privilege!
Ek is moeg, kan nie meer met hierdie kak nie!
My fellow pale natives, we're not special because we're anti-racist. Thinking that is just another sign of how fucked up we are in this country. There's no 'Best White' award. Just be a decent human without expecting special recognition. Let's not get ahead of ourselves here.
It mattered that a Coloured Queer man lived his life firmly planted and visible. It mattered to us. His life mattered a great fucking deal!
Unless you know, you can't know.
God, he was a gift!
#RIPEusebius
My sis starts work this morning!
Coming from an abusive marriage, ending up in addiction, her self-esteem was reduced to nothing. But, SHE did THIS! 4 months clean, she put herself out there, and she's clawing her way back.
I fucking admire & love her so much!
My baby sis, peeps!
Just because some kids from poorer under-resourced communities excelled against the odds in their matric results, doesn't mean we don't have a problem in our education sector. Don't look at the outlier and think we have no work to do.
I refuse to up his engagement, so screenshot it is.
This man would have no problem with communion/the Eucharist where people believe they 'actually' partake of the body & blood of Christ in some weird 'transubstantiation' ritual.
Racism in its white supremacist extreme.
No one who wakes up to start walking at 4am to reach the nearest Taxi Rank at 5am to be @ work by 7am, who puts in 12 hour shifts cleaning up after other people, or kilometers deep underground, and has HAD to live apart from their family, has EVER worked as hard as this man!
@JamilFarouk
I relate to this so much. The kids (they're grownups now) haven't sought me out (yet). We're were very close once. I'm resigned to the fact that it might not happen at all.
I'm SO VERY HAPPY for you ❤️
Watching your parents grow old is kak. Especially in the way advances in technology isolate them. They feel like aliens in this world. When that shift happens where the child almost becomes parent-like in the relationship.
I hate that it's that way!
Gr.11 kid came up to me today and told me I am the best Afrikaans teacher he's ever had. I played it cool with a 'Thanks, dude, that's good to hear', but dammit I was bursting on the inside!
Let's be clear, Karyn Maughan's detractors have NEVER been able to come after her because of her work. So now they just engage in a full-on smear campaign because they don't like the facts.
It's cynical, disturbing, and today's hit piece just crossed every fucking line of decency
My cousin lives in Abu Dhabi & lost her husband suddenly almost 2yrs ago. I learnt that those grieving don't want to hear how strong they are. It's not a compliment. It puts pressure on them. Acknowledge their loss & grief as often as they need it. There's no timeline to grief.
Got these light bulbs for some of the lights at home. They work like normal light bulbs but charge while there's electricity. So, if your lights are on when the power goes off, they stay on. They also have a hook so you can put them wherever when charged.
When we as white people start comparing shit to apartheid, it just shows how every very very little we have tried to understand what happened during that time. We can't highlight our ignorance any better than doing that.
I'm dumbfounded that no one in
@Our_DA
that thought of taking Mazzone aside, have a quiet chat with her, and tell her that's she's all over the place and that her twitter engagement today is not a good look.
How is this possible?
Is everyone over there just doing their own thing?
Just an update:
It was rough. Nobody was murdered in the process.
At almost 50 I'll be moving home until my sis gets a place in rehab. This is what needs to be done.
Thank you for all the good wishes. We'll get there.
We have a win!!!!!!!!!!!
I spoke to an actual real live social worker at the Department of Social Dev. My sis has an appointment for an evaluation (and possible referral to a SANCA treatment facility).
The
@Our_DA
has been tagged in many threads about Gouws over the years. When Mmusi was there, Helen was there, Steenhuisen was there....
To now suddenly act shocked & disturbed about the man's behaviour is laughable. LAUGHABLE.
Literally, 30 minutes in & out. I'm vaxxed. I should be happy (I am,) but I'm weirdly verklempt. Emotional and all over the place. More than anything I'm profoundly grateful.
People will hate me, but THIS is why I don't think 'Christianity' (or any religion) is a 'pro' when it comes to politics.
Keep these people as far away from legislating as humanly possible!
The helper at the house where I'm housesitting gently told me this morning that there's no need to do the dishes by hand & the dishwasher actually does it better. My fragile ego prevented me from telling her IDK how it works. I've never owned one 🤦♂️🤣
Just like we (should) have a sexual offenders registry, we should have a fucking racist offenders registry. Let these people be known, and face society's dismay. FORFUCKINGEVER!
#StellenboschUniversity
1. 100% chance that 'those' begging are not on Twitter
2. Imagine your self-importance being so inflated that you think refusing ppl coins will cripple an entire people.
3. The Lord loves a cheerful giver (that won't be you, Karen)
To racists even charity is an act of supremacy
The parental & I've had a complicated relationship. Mostly because I'm gay. I broke contacted for a few yrs & we've been reconciled for almost 2 yrs now. In all my adult life she never visited where I lived. Today she visited a 2nd time & asked if we could do this monthly...
@FabAcademic
1/ Prof, we (I do this too) need to stop moralizing, assuming intent and assigning meaning to, the choices of (individuals of/ within categories of) people. To you artificial nails might be frivolous, to the next woman it might be a boost in a difficult time. Life's hard enough
Thinking about Djokovic. You know, if I were him, my mother, an auntie or someone would've straight up confronted me by now, saying "WTF is wrong with you? Stop being a dick".
No one in my life will let me get away w/that behaviour.
I once worked under a manager who allowed as one 'duvet day' per leave cycle. The only condition was that you weren't allowed to take that day to avoid a due date/deliverable. But once a year you could call in and say you're taking your duvet day. No questions asked.
There's absolutely NO evidence of his supposed remorse.
None.
Nowhere.
This is just the
@Our_DA
being (trying to be) politically expedient.
They've never dealt with him about this in the past. They won't now.
He carried on because the DA never put the brakes on him.
I love hugging my nieces and nephews but when my niece was little she often didn't want to hug. Her parents got upset. My feeling was she's entitled to her physical boundaries, even at 2 yrs old. She had to be respectful and greet, yes, but hugs and kisses were HER CHOICE.
1/ I’m okay/Not okay.
Two weeks ago I made it through an armed robbery (failed/attempted hijacking).
Unharmed & in possession of my car.
The things I thought I feared, weren’t the things that scared me.
Some tell me I’m lucky.
Okay.
Growth is inevitable and always good.
I can see Dan easily occupying a space like Eusebius & Redi used to (if that's what *he* wants).
He's the voice of a new generation...and old ballies like me are here for that!
Announcement: I have resigned from 5FM
Hosting 5FM’s Breakfast Show has been a radio dream come true. I am so grateful for the three years we have spent together. I will miss this show terribly, and everyone who made it with me
My final show is next Friday, 26 April
If you want proof that we South Africans can laugh at ourselves then search
#MarkFishChallenge
It's such a unique quality we have that no other nation has. I love this country!
Miss Thing is my work companion. We literally rescued her when her younger feral self showed up at the factory crying for food a few years back. Then we discovered she had a litter in the bushes nearby. We took them all in. She raised them, we re-homed them, and she stayed...
The difference between Piet Rhampedi, Iqbal Surve and Jaques Maree (from
@Our_DA
) is...nothing. They all used the same vulnerable woman to further their own goals.
@Pol_Sec_Analyst
Black people have to jump through hoops to get qualifications just to get in the door never mind a seat at the table. But in 2O yrs he couldn't think of anything/anywhere where he might improve/expand what he knows? And he is where he is? Arrogance AND privilege!
Fellow white people
We don't get awards for being anti-racist. There's no 'Best White Award'.
Just be lekker because it's lekker to be lekker.
That's all.
(My weekend starts now. I'll see you if I see you)
Have a lekker one!
I've been ready to leave for work...and just can't.
I don't hate my life. I'm just tired.
Emotionally.
Physically.
And I'm going through my mental health check list I do everyday....I missed the red flags...I'm weeks past the depression warning signs.
I'm in trouble
17 yrs clean, and my program taught me that I AM THE PROBLEM.
Using your recovery to deflect and/score cheap political points is some fucked up shit!
Go back to Step One.
Do better!
All moms and dad's, children who are addicts, former addicts etc. Please raise your hand and name the nationality of your / their dealer.
Its time people knew who is responsible.
I will start...
Status: Clean 23 years
Dealer: Nigerian
WARNING: I’m venting…
1/ I’m off to my mom’s later for my sis’ come-to-Jesus moment. Not excited abt it. I know how she’ll react; how addicts react. The time for subtlety passed. We NEED to speak clear, brutal & unambiguous truth.
Dear Straight Female Person
1. Decorating is not a gay gift. I don't have it.
2. I *really* don't want to go shopping with you. It would be like the 10th circle of Hell.
Love and light
As if this day isn't emotional enough! I just got the call, my sis is being admitted to rehab on Tuesday. I've been at this since October last year. I can't believe it's finally happening!
I'm all over the fucking place. SO HAPPY!
My goddaughter's best friend committed suicide. Parents forced him off his bi-polar & other meds, cold turkey. Because, Jesus.
I'm at a loss to comfort her in her first big loss in life.
And I'm fucking angry tonight.
We celebrated an 8 month clean/sober anniversary in our house yesterday.
I had hope, but never thought I'd see the day. So proud of my sis! She's working damn hard!
It's the 6th today. So far I've only received R1000 of my 'salary'. This is the story every fucking month. Having to beg and plead for what I've earned. If it weren't for the kids I teach I would have jumped this ship a long fucking time ago already.
I'm tired!
1. I have no interest in being lectured on race by white people who live in a predominantly white bubble, white people who have days, weeks and months without any meaningful interactions with people of colour,
Oh look! 87.6% of the people in my bubble who follow me because they agree with me, agree with me.
(He studied research methodology at the same university Steenhuisen attended)
Are we still trying to debate anti-vaxxers? With all the access to *credible* info which they willfully choose to ignore, I think, at this point they deserve our mock, derision and scorn. You can't have an honest debate with intellectually dishonest people. KLAAR!
@RediTlhabi
@DirkLosman
has a job description & employment contract for which he receives compensation (Salary) every month. But his white privilege demands that the 'black man' thank him in addition to that. No less than servile flattery and excessive fawning will satisfy him. How colonial!
My sis, almost a year clean & sober (can you believe it?!) flew down to CT today to see the kidlets. I'm happy and nervous and emotionally all over the place on her behalf. She worked so fucking hard to get to this place. I just want it to be all she dreamed of and more.
Our Jackdog passed away last night.
He wasn't ill.
He was old.
He stayed with us longer than expected. I'd like to think because he liked us. A little.
We rescued him.
Really, he rescued us.
It was his time to go.
It wasn't our time for him to go.
My sis has been working at this place that thinks the labour law is optional, no contract, impossible hrs, etc. She's new in recovery and I suspect she wanted to prove something to herself. Yesterday she was offered a position by a rival co + R3k increase.
She starts tomorrow!💪
@FabAcademic
2/ As a person who mercifully maintains my sobriety, you misunderstand alcoholism. The substance isn't the problem; my behaviour around it is. If it weren't that, it would've been something else. Not everyone who imbibes, or partakes of the weed, abuses it.