offer to pay for the bill in full on the first few dates. absolutely fight for it. not bec it’s a thing men do, but bec it’s an act of care and a technique for seduction. it’s not so much about money as much as it’s about the mentality. when someone offers to pay, they don’t just part with money, they sell a quality in them that says they like to give and take care of people around them. anyone who cares, in whatever way, is sexy. no woman wants to be with a man who’s such an anal giver, whether they accept it not. the burden of care has been skewed on women for centuries. small gestures of providing, paying, taking charge to offload stress are perceived as acts of care in a woman’s sub conscious mind. every one wants to feel taken care of. think of that one person in a friend group that almost always volunteers to pay for everyone. you will realize they are almost invariably more liked by everyone than the others, whether they eventually end up paying or not. if you really like the girl you’re out on a date with, volunteer to pay. if not, cut your costs, split the bill before you split your ways. nothing could be unsexier in courtship than bringing up the math of splitting chump change. once the courtship period is over, and you in fact, choose to be together, you can become more practical about personal and collective finances. split in ways most suitable to you. come up with pacts and payment rules like person who picks the place, pays etc. find tactful ways to address money without it being a stress for either party. if in case, it is for one, figure ways as to how the other can reduce that to help. like it’s literally not that complicated. it’s like y’all don’t even like loving and caring for each other.

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