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She is awful and so is he. He has done this before to other women and it speaks to his inability to take responsibility for his actions. If we continue to blame the women we will continue to have fathers making homes all over the place and somehow it’s just the woman’s fault for not aborting the child? This is a very simple concept if you do not see that woman as a potential mother of your child DO NOT have unprotected sex with her and better yet if this is how promiscuous you are get a vasectomy. I’m seeing more and more women begin to shift to the side of “why would you keep a child a man doesn’t want.” That’s a slippery slope ladies. The childbirth decision is not a singular one determined by the man. If a woman wants to keep her child she is within her right and that man is responsible for his actions. There is only one simple answer to this issue that respects both the man and the woman - If you do not see that person as a potential mother or father to your child DO NOT have unprotected sex, get a vasectomy, tie your tubes, take a plan b right after WHATEVER you need to do but we have to stop being irresponsible and then blaming the other person. I need everyone to also recognize that the abortion procedure is not a painless simple procedure and if a woman decided not to go through that for whatever reason she is within her right. You and I may not understand it but it doesn’t mean she’s wrong.
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This is one of the reasons why black Americans no longer believe in pan Africanism because black people all over the world could care less about their daily realities of being black in America but benefit from the efforts of black Americans is various ways. You love their music but don’t care that their record labels are racist. You love their movies but don’t care that their movie directors and producers are racists. You love their sports but don’t care that their athletes face so much from racist fans. Her brain is filled with dust, yall are irritating.
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Thank you for an appropriate analysis. I restate that Nigerians are used to inappropriate behavior in every facet of their lives. I have never in my entire life from grade school to populated university campuses ever had a professor put their hands on me not even to move me out of the way. It is wrong. Yes the girl could have chose a better spot to record but you don’t say “excuse me” while moving someone out of the way, where is that done? You say excuse me and wait for the person to move and then proceed OR you go around them. If he did that here in the states he would be fired if he tried to hold onto the student during the argument he would be fired. Nigerians do not believe in basic respect for themselves. If the child places their hands on a professor the professor must de-escalate the situation or get the authorities involved. The student may be wrong but I assure you the professor is even more wrong.
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@thedupesterr A beautiful analysis of the situation
I doubt it's the same video that we both watched. Let's actually micro-analyse this since you wanna. Frame 1: 1) That girl was taking forward steps towards her camera when he reached out and nudged her. "Excuse me" would have been enough. Why did he have to nudge her? Also, watch his step count and the angle of his body to his hand, and you'd realise that he had enough space to pass in that very moment. 2) She said, "Can you imagine." I didn't hear the part of "who does he think he is"; but even if she did say that, since when did "who does he think he is" become a crime deserving of harassment? 3) Remember, by this man's own very account, he stated that he grabbed her hand when she refused to hand over her phone. If you're speaking of assault, then that's where the said assault started. He had absolutely no right to attempt to take her phone, NO MATTER WHAT. There are several legitimate avenues to address an errant behaviour from a student. He chose to go that route because he believed that as far as the school environment is concerned, he is the Lord of the Manor. 4) Watching the video in frame 2, you can clearly see the man dragging her by her cloth; and considering how low-cut her dress is, you can clearly see that her entire breast was completely exposed the way he held her. This video also clearly shows that she only held him back after he refused to let go of her. 5) Lastly, I put EVERY blame on this man because he had very many chances to de-escalate this situation as the elder there. While he was walking past that girl, for a split second, he looked into the camera. He was very aware that he was caught on video. He had no problems with it until he overheard the girl's snide comment. He could have kept moving. Returning there just because a (likely) 19 year old said a few words he didn't like was merely him insulting himself. Then, for those who have continued to vouch for the man being a "gentleman," let me just make this clear: no true gentleman would be found in such a situation. The problem with Nigerians is that because we've become so used to abnormalities, we don't know what is normal anymore. Put that man side by side with a true gentleman & you'll realise he's just a quiet rascal.
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That’s what I don’t get either and that’s why in my post I said like yes she should have chose a better location to record herself fine. But my professors have never not once from grade school to college ever put their hands on me unprovoked not to move me aside not ever and those of us living abroad know it’s not appropriate you don’t put your hands on people in any capacity. You use your words to say don’t do that or excuse me or take videos somewhere else. We cannot deny that there is a fundamental issues of physicality in Nigeria. I also don’t know what they are hold each other. Why is a professor holding onto a student like that? She is wrong yes but the professor is the authoritative figure that should have handled the situation professionally imo.
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I know by now some of you must have seen the video of a female student who assaulted a male lecturer, because he “ interrupted” her tictok video. But what you don’t know is that , that man was my lecturer during my university days as a theatre arts student in Unizik. Dr Chukwudi is one of a kind, very easy going and disciplined. Anyone that knows him can attest to this. So it’s really appalling to hear that a female student from another department had the effrontery to bite him, tear his cloth and call him names. This was how it all started :
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I love Wednesdays almost as much as I love Sundays. Wednesdays are the days of 6am prayer calls, corporate fasting, and evening Bible study filled with truth and love. ❀。• *₊°。 ❀° ❀。• *₊°。 ❀° ❀。• *₊°。 ❀°
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I realize that it is truly hard to relate to Nigerians when you’re not born back home. I saw the video and I see the replies and I’m shocked. If a professor put his hands on a student to move her out of the way on video he would be fired here. I’m not saying she couldn’t have picked a better place to record her video but the professor is the one that is wrong. He could have just asked her to not record there in the hall or went around her - it’s not every instance you must show physical dominance over another human. Nigerians have normalized oppression in every single aspect of their lives and it’s actually so sad to see still in this day and age.
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The only explanation I will give is that a currently married man boldly proclaiming that he loves a specific woman and that he wants to marry her is wrong. He is still currently married. There is a clean way to do these things especially if the woman is an honorable. All of these things are beneath him and his family’s good name. Quietly and maturely finalize your divorce, have you and your ex wife’s team put out a joint signed statement requesting that privacy, especially that of your children, be respected and reiterate that there is no ill within the family, then propose to whomever it is you love in some months. It doesn’t have to be that exactly but that is better than this drama he’s doing to soil his good name and embarrass his young adult children. He’s one of the biggest talents Nigeria has ever had, he’s bigger than all this drama.
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I spent such a long time hoping for certain things that I actually ran out of that hope. So now I take each day as it comes and appreciate life for whatever it is and for whatever it will eventually be.
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@ChaukimP This… the entire time everyone watching in this room with me was speaking to the different aspects of creative genius behind the show. I was shocked to get online and see tweets about it being boring.
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New York Fashion Week has felt like such a full experience and has opened me up to so many creative avenues that I cannot wait to begin exploring in life. This has truly been an absolutely amazing experience and I’m just so grateful to have been apart of it.
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