"I feel traumatized but nothing bad happened to me" hey same girlie anyways how many anecdotes do you have that make rooms go completely silent cause I lost count of mine
>Husband deployed on military service
>Cheat on him
>He finds out and wants to die
>Suddenly he is now also abusive
>EVERY SINGLE established Vtuber comes out on her side
Actually fuck it, I'm dealing in. May-December romances have been a significant part of LGBT relationships for centuries and the moral panic over age-gaps in our communities is actually an insidious component of rising queerphobia taking root
Thrown out of the traumaqueer discord server for responding to "I want an evil woman who hates me" with "I can introduce you to someone who works for a defense contractor if you want"
@twinkdefcon
Yeah the degree to which ADHD and autism are disabling in an academic environment is profoundly underestimated. I have a severe case of ADHD + more mild autism and me being so close (10 pages left in dissertation) to finishing a PhD is nothing short of a goddamn miracle
Astute observers on discord will notice I often slip in a "we" instead of an "I." This is not because I am plural, but because I am something much more cringe inducing, an academic
Age gap relationships have power imbalances and differences in maturity that must be approached mindfully, they're not evil though! You people just are bad at communicating and easily frightened!
mom kissing her kid goodnight: "Don't worry sweetie, BPD girls with attachment issues aren't real they can't hurt you"
From a burlap sack in a darkened corner: "Can I get tucked in too mom?"
Mom: "No honey, that kind of dependence isn't healthy also I like your sister more now"
So many of us are dead or half-mad. Sometimes I think about "horny for older women" being about me and my cohort and I feel unmoored. I look to where my elders should be and instead just see a massive blank expanse and I go cold
Just us, just us. The first to make it out.
will not be participating in my end of “date an older woman fall” or whatever cause the idea that being 30 years old counts as “older woman” round these parts is kinda depressing
We're done. This is the last year these fucking people are seeing me. Hopefully I will be gone by Easter.
I thought they were trying. Like they'd pretend to make an effort around me sometimes. I thought dad almost dying last year maybe changed things.
I'm so fucking stupid
@angelrightsnow
Depending on how hateful and schizospec I am that day yea it does kinda feel like bestiality sometimes
God I have so many things wrong with me
This is so fucking funny to me because there's an entire group of fuckers that confuse cause and effect for why hyper-cerebral transwomen seem so common
The actual reason you see so many "genius transwomen" is because the ones who aren't clever get killed by the world
@chipilonita
Yeah it's not even really a significant age gap at all. That's why this particular component of the anger presented here smacks of a moral panic
Ex-gifted kid discourse is out ex-retard discourse is in. I was blissfully unburdened with expectation of any kind until I cracked open a calc book in high school and inhaled the contents in two weeks whereupon I was instantly expelled from the garden of Eden
A truly staggering number of transwomen are sexually assaulted pretransition and the loose threads of a question teases at the edges of my brain
How the FUCK do they know what we are?
There is a haunting in my brain, it slams the cupboards in my mind, smashes the crockery of my thoughts.
Delicately arranged bowls of memory, narratives for self definition in the utensil drawer, all stolen away by the ghost of "There is something sick in you and everyone knows"
very political take, but tranfems should recognize that capitalism is good for us, and gives us with the ability to provide for ourselves and our community. We are very capable workers, and can create amazing things, and be fairly paid for our work. This is already the case.
@egregirls
Thinking about my ex-fiance and going "yep" to the first one. She moved across the country to escape abuse, I had just been disowned. All we had was each other and my fucking stipend.
my boomer-est opinion is that you have to force yourself to do things that are difficult and uncomfortable and you have to do it often, while you’re young and your brain is still flexible. yes, even if you are (functionally) mentally ill.
"need a woman to kidnap me and drive me to an undisclosed location and then torture me with sleep deprivation for weeks and an-"
Shhhhh the extremity and impossibility of your fantasies renders them trite, absurd, and banal - you are the BDSM equivalent of a superhero crossover
@egregirls
My favorite part is the actual most similar circles historically would use...the roman alphabet
The closest things using hebrew are things like the second image here
Imagine you're choking to death on the side of a highway and a bunch of mysterious and gangly creatures carrying unearthly lights ten times your size come upon you and then one slaps your ass until you are better
TBH I think Jocat stuff in a nutshell comes down to the fact that men and women exist in different cultural contexts and it's not actually a "double standard" to bust on a dude for "posting like a lesbian" it is genuinely much more grating and obnoxious from men
I love how sadistic and manipulative characters in media are portrayed as these mega calculating masterminds but IRL it's literally like "you start a goss session about the same person often+keep making it a bit meaner with everyone they know till the target's life is ruined"
You know, intellectually I agree but I think when someone's whole thing appears to be just haphazardly taking a wrecking ball to every binary in sight like a Sparknotes Derrida while refusing to engage with the material conditions of identity you should not trust them
Trans women can have/want:
- Facial hair
- Body hair
- Flat chests
- No bottom surgery
- Short hair
- Traditionally “masculine” clothing
- He/him pronouns
- A traditionally “male” name
And it makes them no “less Trans”.
Thesis: Most happy and healthy people do not like hearing about insane trauma so you need to stop talking about your past
Antithesis: That's isolating and hiding who you are denies you genuine connection
Synthesis: I need to be cooler and funnier about it
the USSR was 100% correct in making STEM students learn humanities subjects like philosophy as part of the mandatory syllabus its the one thing i like about eastern european education
You coward, you fool. tlThe valid reason to do anything is "I want to." Let us spit in the eye of death today and indulge in the whimsies of yesteryear. There is no god but the small joys in our life. Let chicken nuggets and hot pudding with a tiny spoon be its herald
@mascdonna
@twinkhoncreole
It's weird to me that people cut straight to ideas of artistic integrity when to me this is clearly part of how her brother is handling the grief of her passing and is almost certainly his way of giving a "proper goodbye" to a dear family member
Being able to phrase this in such a concrete way actually really helps me feel confident that I'm not jist acquiescing to partners when I say this lmfao
@FatDiscoDyke
If I had a nickel for every bisexual woman I've known who escaped a physically abusive man by cheating her way into a lesbian relationship I would have 3 nickels etc
There is a haunting in my brain, it slams the cupboards in my mind, smashes the crockery of my thoughts.
Delicately arranged bowls of memory, narratives for self definition in the utensil drawer, all stolen away by the ghost of "There is something sick in you and everyone knows"
@PunishedGramsci
I mean like...I absolutely understand being upset your husband turned out to be an egg and stealing hormones is a massive violation but like they're clearly using having a husband as some kind of messed up status symbol that makes them more of a "real woman"
Ice cold take but I think modern beauty standards so aggressively emphasizing that women be completely smooth is redolent of a culturally sanctioned pedophilia and a destructive obsession with youth and softness in femmes
I'm allowed to hate IQ because growing up they put me in special ed because I was too autistic to understand what people wanted of me so I spent most of elementary and middle school next to people who beat off in class
*eyes rolling back in my head, possessed by visions of 2031 discorce*: actually furries are bad because they trivialize the struggles of therians by adoptting therian aesthetics without suffering species dysphoria. theyre evil fetishists and give the therian community a bad name
@angelrightsnow
Yeah exactly! A lot of baggage like "you're gonna see exactly what I'm lile underneath and you're gonna know I'm really a monster and you'll hate me and leave" is wrapped up in domming for me so even trying a little bit required really deep trust and chemistry for ages.
I have to be honest, while I also was profoundly alienated by RHPS theatre kids in high school and think the rabid defense of it is stupid and bizarre - I have concerns about this particular kind of essentializing of queerness and queer experience in both directions
what i took from rhps was that queerness is about being purposely off-putting, proudly ugly and centering brash, queeny, gay male-coded sassiness. queerness is the opposite though. it is about beauty, inclusion and centering anti-patriarchical, anti bigot solidarity .
One of the embittering things about this site is how if you make vague gestures towards "trauma" as a complex of experiences resulting in ennui, anxiety, and nonspecific anomie it inevitably pops-off but if you talk about medically significant consequences of trauma it's crickets
@kiki_yaps
IQ as a measure of intelligence substantially negatively impacted my life growing up as an autistic person who is now a multiply published mathematician who was forced into special ed and abused because of their scores on IQ tests as diagnostic tools growing up so NO it has not
I think the reactions to this are so vicious because for many cheating is the most serious form of abuse(?) a romantic partner will subject them to. A lot of people have no conception of how much worse even like...moderate intensity emotional abuse is so they freak out
@witchof0x20
It's probably a bit of both tbh but I care far far more about plane_bullet_holes.jpg because I am sick of seeing queer people suffer. I am sick of having to be extraordinary just to survive
Texas middle school bans students from wearing all-black clothing
The school's principal, Nick DeSantis, claimed... that the color black is "associated with depression and mental health issues," as well as "criminality."
This is a horror story, actually. It has always been only you, you are alone. No one else is real except for this thing that finds you for ten minutes between "lives" and then subjects you to another one. All human life is a pulsing seething carpet of one soul rolled flat
Vile
@bloomfilters
It's incredibly irresponsible of journalists and academics to pretend reactionary political forces have some sort of point and that there's a meaningful middleground here instead of just power addicts throwing a temper tantrum
Being a cult survivor is kinda like being a blobfish
When brought to the safer for human areas the very mechanisms that allow me to function under obscene temperature and pressure pulp me into a hideous gelatinous mass that sucks dick while talking like a Peanuts character
An odd tenderness in her voice, she tells me the pharmacy is charging me several hundred for my medication, she goes out of her way to find me coupons that reduce the total cost down to 75
I think nothing of it for a few weeks. I come in in person, swapping over to new insurance
Me five years ago: I wanna be in a big house and in a polycule where they run a train on me on my birthday
Me now: What if I go really nuts and get like a pet ferret after I get a job
The fundamental failure of rationalism as a subculture and project is that the production of scientific knowledge is actually an institutional process and becoming conversant in that is entirely different from "being the most logical and correct" which is largely impossible