Assoc Prof Sonja Ayeb-Karlsson, SFHEA Profile Banner
Assoc Prof Sonja Ayeb-Karlsson, SFHEA Profile
Assoc Prof Sonja Ayeb-Karlsson, SFHEA

@s_ayebkarlsson

Followers
3,221
Following
1,132
Media
458
Statuses
7,882
Explore trending content on Musk Viewer
Pinned Tweet
@s_ayebkarlsson
Assoc Prof Sonja Ayeb-Karlsson, SFHEA
2 months
OUT NOW: Our @ucl and @ECPATUK study is the first to conclude that #children were at “increased risk of #trafficking . The report’s lead author and principal investigator, @s_ayebkarlsson , said: “This is a national scandal which must not be repeated.”
3
11
23
@s_ayebkarlsson
Assoc Prof Sonja Ayeb-Karlsson, SFHEA
2 years
False allegations of #DomesticAbuse and/or #rape are extremely rare. We know this from the existing body of research but also anyone working in this sector will be aware of the courage it takes coming forward and the harrowing treatment victim-survivors face after speaking up.(1)
2
141
444
@s_ayebkarlsson
Assoc Prof Sonja Ayeb-Karlsson, SFHEA
2 years
#16DaysofActivism Ruma was 29 when she was strangled to death by her abusive husband, in 2011. During a #custody hearing over the pair's #children , a #judge had earlier told Ruma how she was being a "silly woman" for fearing he might kill her. #familycourt
10
195
361
@s_ayebkarlsson
Assoc Prof Sonja Ayeb-Karlsson, SFHEA
1 year
Do not be fooled by people who try to tell you that no child is removed from a mother unless she has done something terrible. Child removal is a form of state-led violence that has been around for centuries and always impact those in more marginalized positions of our societies.
1
151
371
@s_ayebkarlsson
Assoc Prof Sonja Ayeb-Karlsson, SFHEA
2 years
Mothers sometimes contact us just after stepping out of #familycourt hearings in tears unable to speak. Something that has stayed with me is the ‘I feel like I have been raped, the level of violation is that brutal’ - that shows that something is incredibly wrong with our system.
38
75
262
@s_ayebkarlsson
Assoc Prof Sonja Ayeb-Karlsson, SFHEA
1 year
I watched the Gabby Petito documentary a few months ago, the other week I saw ‘Victim / Suspect’. It should be mandatory viewing to anyone spending their days on Twitter spreading statistics of how many women file false allegations reports against men and all the women abuse men.
1
56
228
@s_ayebkarlsson
Assoc Prof Sonja Ayeb-Karlsson, SFHEA
1 year
A common tactic of abuse by perpetrators of #coercivecontrol is to ruin special occasions and events. Traditions and celebrations are important to human beings - it’s a way to connect with family and loved ones, create memories together and celebrate developments. /1
13
49
219
@s_ayebkarlsson
Assoc Prof Sonja Ayeb-Karlsson, SFHEA
2 years
First academic research in the UK to find a very close link between domestic violence and suicidal ideation among women – either having suicidal thoughts or making an attempt to end their life. #DomesticAbuse #GenderBasedViolence #SuicidePrevention
13
89
178
@s_ayebkarlsson
Assoc Prof Sonja Ayeb-Karlsson, SFHEA
2 years
Today I want to send a thought to all the #mothers who have had their #children unjustly #removed from their care. Let us raise awareness about the fact that this is happening all around us and often times this is about deep rooted structural #violence rather than her #mothering .
Tweet media one
12
65
179
@s_ayebkarlsson
Assoc Prof Sonja Ayeb-Karlsson, SFHEA
2 years
“We can’t stop #femicide if we don’t guarantee #abused women safe exit with their children. #Women must not be forced to surrender their children to men they fear. They are the #mothers ... Their decisions regarding their #children must be respected.”
6
46
153
@s_ayebkarlsson
Assoc Prof Sonja Ayeb-Karlsson, SFHEA
2 years
Yesterday, a 'Fake doctor who worked in NHS for 20 years practising as psychiatrist without necessary qualifications was found guilty of fraud'. This raises important questions related to the debate on unregulated #ParentalAlienation 'experts' in the UK.
26
74
151
@s_ayebkarlsson
Assoc Prof Sonja Ayeb-Karlsson, SFHEA
2 years
“My story started with my daughter disclosing abuse by her father, and finished with me losing her and being told to seek treatment for #ParentalAlienation .” ( @womensaid 2022: 10) #TwoYearsTooLong #HarmPanelReview #DomesticAbuse #FamilyCourt #PolicyChangeNow
12
44
136
@s_ayebkarlsson
Assoc Prof Sonja Ayeb-Karlsson, SFHEA
2 years
'the Cafcass lady says “just trick the child into thinking she’s going somewhere else, then bring her to the centre”. Mum arrives with children who are absolutely heaving and screaming...absolutely traumatised by the whole thing and now blames mother' ( @MoJ 2020: 155)
25
30
135
@s_ayebkarlsson
Assoc Prof Sonja Ayeb-Karlsson, SFHEA
2 years
This is a brilliantly written and so delicately worded article by @DrEmmaKatz outlining 10 🚩🚩🚩 of #DomesticAbuse / #Coercive and #Controlling #Behaviour . Everyone should put a moment aside to read this. #OrangeTheWorld #16Days #16DaysOfActivism #GBV
1
80
135
@s_ayebkarlsson
Assoc Prof Sonja Ayeb-Karlsson, SFHEA
1 year
'Another mother I represented was told by a judge that if she continued with her allegations of #rape , #domesticabuse and #coercivecontrol , she could have her child put into foster care and adopted...Lifting the lid on the family courts is long overdue.' @DrProudman #familycourt
14
38
133
@s_ayebkarlsson
Assoc Prof Sonja Ayeb-Karlsson, SFHEA
2 years
I often hear assumptions from people (including policymakers, legal representatives and courts) who seem to struggle to acknowledge and understand the harm caused by #coercivecontol . They see harm and impact from #DomesticAbuse as something equal to blood and broken bones. /1
15
32
121
@s_ayebkarlsson
Assoc Prof Sonja Ayeb-Karlsson, SFHEA
1 year
In a distant future, not long from now, today's children who have had their voices silenced by the family courts will be demanding answers and accountability. They will ask why nobody stood up for them, they will ask where you were at the time. We must all think about our answer.
12
41
111
@s_ayebkarlsson
Assoc Prof Sonja Ayeb-Karlsson, SFHEA
2 years
Mothers with no previous bad record are being stripped of all contact with their children, having been accused of “ #parentalalienation ”. "What is going on is one of the most scandalous things I’ve ever come across” - chair of the ACP-UK board of director.
Tweet media one
1
60
100
@s_ayebkarlsson
Assoc Prof Sonja Ayeb-Karlsson, SFHEA
2 years
A good way to spot a perpetrator of #coercivecontrol is to look out for the sense of 'ownership' that they proclaim over their victims. All human beings are entitled to certain rights and freedoms throughout their life but this is not how the perpetrator perceives the world. /1
5
33
99
@s_ayebkarlsson
Assoc Prof Sonja Ayeb-Karlsson, SFHEA
2 years
“Children are neglected, teeth not brushed, not bathed, not fed or improperly fed, have their sleep routines disrupted (during contact with an abusive parent) & come home, tired, upset, manipulated, abused (including physically), frustrated & lash out at mother." (MoJ 2020: 151)
6
26
94
@s_ayebkarlsson
Assoc Prof Sonja Ayeb-Karlsson, SFHEA
2 years
Most victim-survivors will have gone through a long internal battle contemplating the risks and whether it will be worth it in the end to come forward, go to the #police , or raise allegations of #DomesticAbuse in the #familycourt . (2)
1
17
93
@s_ayebkarlsson
Assoc Prof Sonja Ayeb-Karlsson, SFHEA
2 years
Are you looking to better understand the dynamics behind #CoerciveControl / #CoerciveControllingBehaviour ? #IJustKilledMyDad is a new Netflix documentary series on the topic. I personally found this very interesting and useful for the following reasons:
3
47
98
@s_ayebkarlsson
Assoc Prof Sonja Ayeb-Karlsson, SFHEA
10 months
Mayas mother committed suicide after years of malpractice. She had her daughter removed due to false allegations of munchausen by proxy / fabricated or induced illness. Maya won her case but lost her mother. The children of the family courts will bring similar demands soon.
@CourtTV
Court TV
10 months
#MayaKowalski weeps in court as the jury's delivers the verdict in the #TakeCareOfMaya case. #JohnHopkins All Children's Hospital found #liable on all claims, including false imprisonment and wrongful death awarding the family more than $200M. #CourtTV Is #justice served? ⚖️👇
155
474
2K
3
47
94
@s_ayebkarlsson
Assoc Prof Sonja Ayeb-Karlsson, SFHEA
1 year
In the documentary ‘Victim / Suspect’ we see how young women going to the police to report rape, often with some evidence and severely traumatized, are coerced, intimidated, bullied and tricked into withdrawing their allegations and ‘confirm’ that they ‘lied’.
1
21
83
@s_ayebkarlsson
Assoc Prof Sonja Ayeb-Karlsson, SFHEA
2 years
I will end this thread by reconfirming the statement of its start: False Allegations of #DomesticAbuse are incredibly rare. Putting this in context it’s clear that victim-survivors often have little to ‘win’ for speaking up and sadly so much to lose. I want to change this.(9)
1
18
85
@s_ayebkarlsson
Assoc Prof Sonja Ayeb-Karlsson, SFHEA
2 years
“Children’s emotional #health suffers greatly when being forced to see someone who has #hurt them #physically and #emotionally and they don’t want to go. My child became scared of the contact area as she related it to having to see her dad.” ( @MoJGovUK 2020: 155) @SheraFamily
7
19
80
@s_ayebkarlsson
Assoc Prof Sonja Ayeb-Karlsson, SFHEA
1 year
Strategies of #coercivecontrol can be a mix of or go through periods that heavily lean on cold abuse (hot vs cold abuse) also sometimes described as passive or silent abuse. Sadly our societies struggle to comprehend the harm and invisible chains coming out of such behaviours. /1
2
30
86
@s_ayebkarlsson
Assoc Prof Sonja Ayeb-Karlsson, SFHEA
1 year
Today @BarnettAdrienne and I presented our work on the interrelations between #ParentalResponsibility , the #Presumption of #Parental #Involvement and so-called #ParentalAlienation at the @SLSA_UK #familylaw and #policy panel. A small but important stepping stone - more to come!
Tweet media one
29
22
88
@s_ayebkarlsson
Assoc Prof Sonja Ayeb-Karlsson, SFHEA
1 year
We must work against harmful narratives such as that ‘child removal by the #familycourt is extremely rare, takes years of proceedings and only occurs when the mother has done something terrible’. The research disagrees and these discourses isolate those living through this now.
5
29
88
@s_ayebkarlsson
Assoc Prof Sonja Ayeb-Karlsson, SFHEA
2 years
"My attorneys kept telling me not to talk about the history of #domesticviolence ...not to talk about all the mental, emotional abuse... So, time after time after time, when I wanted to disclose, I was told that would be basically used against you."
3
30
78
@s_ayebkarlsson
Assoc Prof Sonja Ayeb-Karlsson, SFHEA
1 year
Today is a great day to celebrate that I have been promoted to 'Associate Professor' @ucl / @UCLIRDR as part of our 2022-2023 Senior Promotions!🥳 It may seem minor outside of academia but it's a long and time consuming process. Thanks all who supported me.
Tweet media one
17
7
86
@s_ayebkarlsson
Assoc Prof Sonja Ayeb-Karlsson, SFHEA
10 months
@jadewelshy @lsrjustice3 @SheraFamily @DrEmmaKatz @BarnettAdrienne I am yet to meet a perpetrator who admit to being a perpetrator and does not claim to be the ‘true’ victim. That includes those with findings made against them, those convicted or even in prison. Important to keep in mind when entering the sphere of potential ‘false allegations’.
6
28
77
@s_ayebkarlsson
Assoc Prof Sonja Ayeb-Karlsson, SFHEA
2 years
In this decision making process, they will consider facts such as that only 1% of #rapes and #sexual assaults in England and Wales result in a conviction. They will be aware of the presumption of #contactatallcosts in the #familycourts . (3)
1
17
74
@s_ayebkarlsson
Assoc Prof Sonja Ayeb-Karlsson, SFHEA
2 years
“People think that #coercivecontrol is just about isolating you from your friends and family. He did that, but he also used our children. As a well-spoken, #manipulative man, he worked hard to position me as a wailing banshee of a woman.” ( @womensaid 2022: 30) 1/3 #DomesticAbuse
1
20
75
@s_ayebkarlsson
Assoc Prof Sonja Ayeb-Karlsson, SFHEA
1 year
In the context of #DomesticAbuse mediation will not protect children. It will play into the advantage of the perpetrator. A free card to swiftly get what they are after while harming children and victims. There are many other ways to cut delays and wasted #familycourt resources.
@MoJGovUK
Ministry of Justice
1 year
We want family court to be a last resort for separating families. Mediation could help up to 19,000 families resolve issues away from court & protect their children’s wellbeing. It also ensures faster access for families who need it most. Have your say:
Tweet media one
48
27
29
12
32
79
@s_ayebkarlsson
Assoc Prof Sonja Ayeb-Karlsson, SFHEA
2 years
Many victim-survivors live in constant fear of doing the wrong thing and facing the perpetrators wrath. They live a life holding their breath, in panic, with anxiety, tense, a nervous system on high alerts wanting to run, hide, fight or escape at all times. / 3
3
11
74
@s_ayebkarlsson
Assoc Prof Sonja Ayeb-Karlsson, SFHEA
2 years
Well done @CommissionerDA for the recommendation to include repeated #familycourt applications as an indicator of #coercivecontrol - a common strategy to threaten, exhaust financial resources, continue control after separation and put fear in victims/survivors of #DomesticAbuse .
@CommissionerDA
Domestic Abuse Commissioner
2 years
The guidance on the Controlling + Coercive Behaviour Offence must advise that all #DomesticAbuse investigations (criminal + wider) should include an examination of CCB. Pls read my response to the Govts consultation on the stat guidance for CCB offence
10
62
100
9
36
76
@s_ayebkarlsson
Assoc Prof Sonja Ayeb-Karlsson, SFHEA
1 year
“We were girls in there, not women, just children really, and the girls in there cried every day. It was a prison...We were told we were there because we were bad people. Some of the girls had been raped at home and not believed.” RIP Sinead 🌻
1
30
77
@s_ayebkarlsson
Assoc Prof Sonja Ayeb-Karlsson, SFHEA
2 years
“The sad irony is, that after all he’s put us though, he’s now starting to reduce the contact he has with my son. For him it was all about #winning in court. Now he isn’t getting any #power from it, because I don’t see him & we only communicate through an app.”( @womensaid 22) 1/2
1
17
71
@s_ayebkarlsson
Assoc Prof Sonja Ayeb-Karlsson, SFHEA
2 years
'I believe the court/Cafcass have damaged my children for life due to their continued beliefs that children’s wishes & feelings are less important than parental involvement and they therefore ordered forced contact without any support to change father’s behaviours' (MoJ 2020:156)
10
21
70
@s_ayebkarlsson
Assoc Prof Sonja Ayeb-Karlsson, SFHEA
2 years
Victim-survivors will also be aware that even when facts of #DomesticAbuse are found by the #familycourt during a daunting fact finding hearing they are unlikely to lead to extensive (or any) #mitigating circumstances in the final #child arrangement order. (5)
1
14
74
@s_ayebkarlsson
Assoc Prof Sonja Ayeb-Karlsson, SFHEA
10 months
This was taken just about exactly three years ago today. It doesn’t perhaps look like it, but I had a lot to upcoming battles and life struggles up against me then. Today I celebrate having reached where I am today 🥳
Tweet media one
6
1
76
@s_ayebkarlsson
Assoc Prof Sonja Ayeb-Karlsson, SFHEA
2 years
Victim-survivors will know that raising #DomesticAbuse in the #familycourts can both lead to counter allegations of #ParentalAlienation , change of residence and/or punishment related to the final contact decision. (4)
1
16
70
@s_ayebkarlsson
Assoc Prof Sonja Ayeb-Karlsson, SFHEA
2 years
When a child asks for no contact due to physical, emotional or even sexual abuse the #familycourts appear to do all they can to enable and maintain contact with an abusive parent that the child begs not to see. When #ParentalAlienation is alleged everyone gets behind no contact.
3
33
75
@s_ayebkarlsson
Assoc Prof Sonja Ayeb-Karlsson, SFHEA
2 years
“The #courts have not only allowed our abuser to continue to abuse us, they have actively participated in our #abuse for the past three years.” ( @MoJGovUK 2022: 149) No victim of #DomesticAbuse is truly safe until protection measues are incoroprated into the #FamilyCourt system!
3
30
68
@s_ayebkarlsson
Assoc Prof Sonja Ayeb-Karlsson, SFHEA
1 year
Some of these women went to prison, others faced criminal charges / proceedings. All police districts got their ‘rape’ occurrences, investigations and numbers down. There are your statistics, we must be incredibly cautious with numbers and the argument that they are hard facts.
0
13
65
@s_ayebkarlsson
Assoc Prof Sonja Ayeb-Karlsson, SFHEA
2 years
If the #DomesticAbuse relates to #CoerciveControl , victim-survivors (and their #legal representatives) will know that the chance of determining facts in the #familycourt is low. (6)
1
12
67
@s_ayebkarlsson
Assoc Prof Sonja Ayeb-Karlsson, SFHEA
2 years
For all these reasons, solicitors and barristers / legal representatives are more likely to discourage victim-survivors to raise allegations of #DomesticAbuse in #familycourt or ensure that they are fully briefed on the journey that they are in for. (7)
1
14
66
@s_ayebkarlsson
Assoc Prof Sonja Ayeb-Karlsson, SFHEA
2 years
Many victim-survivors will decide not to follow through or withdraw allegations of #DomesticAbuse out of #fear for the reaction or the experienced post separation abuse of their #perpetrators . Some will remember the public #shaming , #punishment and treatment of #AmberHeard . (8)
1
14
65
@s_ayebkarlsson
Assoc Prof Sonja Ayeb-Karlsson, SFHEA
2 years
Some find it impossible to make even the simplest decisions for a long after - what to wear, to eat, where to go. Some feel as if they have forgotten what they were like before the #DomesticTerrorism - what they used to enjoy, do, wear, how they kept their hair - all erased. / 9
4
12
63
@s_ayebkarlsson
Assoc Prof Sonja Ayeb-Karlsson, SFHEA
2 years
Imagine falling ill, you seek medical attention and is told as you enter the hospital doors that you can never talk about your experiences in there. If you do, you may end up in prison. You walk out harmed for life. The surgeon claims to have followed protocols but you disagree..
3
24
63
@s_ayebkarlsson
Assoc Prof Sonja Ayeb-Karlsson, SFHEA
2 years
“We see so many cases coming back to #court when the #ordered arrangements aren’t working out, and it’s always around #safety and #wellbeing of the #children . The courts are so overwhelmed, and so many cases are coming back because the #contact ordered hasn’t worked.” (1/2)
1
17
64
@s_ayebkarlsson
Assoc Prof Sonja Ayeb-Karlsson, SFHEA
1 year
For anyone who isn’t aware, the police stopped Gabby Petito and her ‘partner’ at the time after a witness reported having seen her being physically abused. The police separated the two after catching up with them and came to the conclusion that ‘he’ was the victim.
1
5
63
@s_ayebkarlsson
Assoc Prof Sonja Ayeb-Karlsson, SFHEA
2 years
A little reminder to the #familycourts across the world - the CRC includes the right of the #child to be protected from #violence (19) and #childsexualabuse (34) Everyone must know children’s rights (42).
@UNChildRights1
UNChildRights
2 years
#UNCRC reminds everyone that for 196 States Parties (out of 197) that ratified the UN Convention on the Rights of the Child its dispositions are binding and upholding them benefits the well-being of all children residing in each State Party. Is more motivation needed? @lexpsy
Tweet media one
9
100
213
2
33
67
@s_ayebkarlsson
Assoc Prof Sonja Ayeb-Karlsson, SFHEA
1 year
Often when it is revealed that a famous or in many ways seemingly decent man is a child / sexual predator people go ‘but he has a wife and children - why would he throw all that away?’ That expression bothers me tremendously and misunderstands perpetrator dynamics. /1
4
11
63
@s_ayebkarlsson
Assoc Prof Sonja Ayeb-Karlsson, SFHEA
1 year
We must better acknowledge that MVAWG/C goes way beyond physical violence. This violence exists in the way that masculinity is being framed to include the minimization, humiliation, intimidation, and control of women and children.
2
21
62
@s_ayebkarlsson
Assoc Prof Sonja Ayeb-Karlsson, SFHEA
1 year
It was a true honour to open the conference on the 'Use of the Pseudo-concept of “ #ParentalAlienation ” and its #Gender Bias in the #Justice System' today. Watch it here: @UNSRVAW 11.50-49min @s_ayebkarlsson 49min-1h46min @BarnettAdrienne 1h46min-2h48min
Tweet media one
Tweet media two
Tweet media three
Tweet media four
2
31
67
@s_ayebkarlsson
Assoc Prof Sonja Ayeb-Karlsson, SFHEA
2 years
#OrangeTheWorld - A thread on reproductive control, coercion and entrapment 🧵 As a #trapped populations scholar, I have lately spent a lot of time thinking about reproductive #coercion , #control and #entrapment . (i)
1
27
62
@s_ayebkarlsson
Assoc Prof Sonja Ayeb-Karlsson, SFHEA
1 year
The police encouraged ‘him’ to report ‘her’ abuse, she was issued with a warning and it was explained to her that physical assault is a crime. Days later she was missing and soon after found murdered, by him, who later committed suicide.
1
5
59
@s_ayebkarlsson
Assoc Prof Sonja Ayeb-Karlsson, SFHEA
2 years
@cspan
CSPAN
3 years
"The ugly truth is that violence in homes is normalized in our country." WATCH: Complete remarks from Angelina Jolie at news conference on Violence Against Women Act.
180
2K
5K
2
20
64
@s_ayebkarlsson
Assoc Prof Sonja Ayeb-Karlsson, SFHEA
2 years
They cannot sleep, or have nightmares, they cannot eat or overeat. They start doubting all that they do, say, think, feel - everything that they are, all that they live for strategically erased. They lose their safety, identify, and love. / 4 #coercivecontrol #DomesticAbuse
1
9
61
@s_ayebkarlsson
Assoc Prof Sonja Ayeb-Karlsson, SFHEA
2 years
“I said I wanted third party handovers as I didn’t feel #safe . The Cafcass guardian said ‘No I think #mother needs to move beyond that.’ They didn’t care about my safety moving onwards.” ( @womensaid 2022: 29) #TwoYearsTooLong #DomesticViolenceAwarenessMonth @SheraFamily
0
15
58
@s_ayebkarlsson
Assoc Prof Sonja Ayeb-Karlsson, SFHEA
2 years
'I have been diagnosed with PTSD & dissociative disorder, had a mental breakdown, all this since him starting the family court process & I am under the MH team who will not start my recovery therapy until the process is over as he is still being allowed to abuse me'(MoJ 2020:161)
6
17
60
@s_ayebkarlsson
Assoc Prof Sonja Ayeb-Karlsson, SFHEA
11 months
I encourage you to put time aside for this brilliant and moving documentary. The mother had her 3 children removed from her care in the Netherlands. Her oldest daughter was handcuffed when running away to see her. She has not seen her youngest for 3 years! #FamilyCourtReformNow
@intheinterest3
In the interest of the child
1 year
Tweet media one
3
18
29
2
50
66
@s_ayebkarlsson
Assoc Prof Sonja Ayeb-Karlsson, SFHEA
2 years
Hopefully a 🧵 that shines light on some of the ways that perpetrators of #coercivecontrol harm their victim. This besides all the mental and physical health impacts, or even death, that is widely reported. Please remember this before you minimize or disregard someone’s pain! /10
3
6
61
@s_ayebkarlsson
Assoc Prof Sonja Ayeb-Karlsson, SFHEA
2 years
Hundreds of #suicides a year could be linked to #domesticabuse at home. Experts want to collect better data to bring about real #change . Suicide by #domesticviolence : call to count the hidden toll of women’s lives: @JMoncktonSmith
5
34
62
@s_ayebkarlsson
Assoc Prof Sonja Ayeb-Karlsson, SFHEA
1 year
Susan says she is scared and sick from stress. "I've lost my family, friends and so much money. But if I'd stayed in England, I'd be dead and my kids would be in care."
4
33
62
@s_ayebkarlsson
Assoc Prof Sonja Ayeb-Karlsson, SFHEA
2 years
A #familycourt judge overreached his powers in blocking the #police from interviewing two #children . 'The fact the father is using the #court process to prevent the police from speaking to his #children about, in part, allegations of #abuse against him doesn’t sound right.'
Tweet media one
4
20
54
@s_ayebkarlsson
Assoc Prof Sonja Ayeb-Karlsson, SFHEA
2 years
This can continue for years after the separation. Even if the perpetrator entirely disappears, these scars and the trauma live on. Victim-survivors sometimes describe sleeping for days after escaping, or how they continue a life in panic and fear long after leaving. / 8
3
10
58
@s_ayebkarlsson
Assoc Prof Sonja Ayeb-Karlsson, SFHEA
1 year
I stand with @DrProudman 💙 My Twitter posts are filled with intimidating and abusive attacks. This is not the way to make the world a safer place.
@DrProudman
Dr Charlotte Proudman
1 year
As a female barrister advocating on behalf of victims of male violence, I've faced misogyny & threats from barristers. From being called a c*** to attempts to disbar me, they've thrown dozens of complaints my way. I won't be silenced. I am speaking up to advocate for change 🪡
Tweet media one
25
397
3K
0
16
61
@s_ayebkarlsson
Assoc Prof Sonja Ayeb-Karlsson, SFHEA
1 year
After last week’s presentation in the family law and policy panel a GAL who was attending stood up and asked a very honest question. She said ‘how do you know you got it right?’ /1
15
28
58
@s_ayebkarlsson
Assoc Prof Sonja Ayeb-Karlsson, SFHEA
2 years
“I remain stunned by the... #courts which valorizes the rights & supposed roles of fathers to the exclusion of everything & everyone else no matter how provably abusive & harmful they are. Until this stops, harms to women/children will remain dangerous & profound.” (MoJ 2020: 160)
2
17
57
@s_ayebkarlsson
Assoc Prof Sonja Ayeb-Karlsson, SFHEA
1 year
Three-quarters of #survivors of sexual violence told a survey their #mentalhealth worsened because of how the police investigated their report. Some said the perpetrator continued to #harm them because #police did not take their report seriously.
1
31
60
@s_ayebkarlsson
Assoc Prof Sonja Ayeb-Karlsson, SFHEA
2 years
...The only person you are allowed to raise your complaint with is part of the same system as the doctor who harmed you and is even more powerful. Welcome to #FamilyCourt - a system having to operate behind closed doors will forever feel like a system that has something to hide.
2
10
56
@s_ayebkarlsson
Assoc Prof Sonja Ayeb-Karlsson, SFHEA
1 year
Look at the whole context, behaviours and identify the power imbalances if you are uncertain. It is very unlikely that a person screaming ‘victim’ from an established position of power is the victim when pointing finger at someone in a marginalized social position. /9
2
9
54
@s_ayebkarlsson
Assoc Prof Sonja Ayeb-Karlsson, SFHEA
1 year
Elements such as age, gender/sex, migration status, race, access to social, financial and environmental resources, health, disabilities, employment, education all matter. Look for dynamics of dependency and control which will reproduce power and enable structural violence. /10
6
4
57
@s_ayebkarlsson
Assoc Prof Sonja Ayeb-Karlsson, SFHEA
2 years
Perpetrators of #CCB sometimes use physical abuse to #control and #coerce their victims but sometimes they don’t - that doesn’t mean that non-physical #violence isn’t harmful or ‘as’ harmful as physical harm. Non-physical violence can leave victims with tremendous scars. / 2
1
9
56
@s_ayebkarlsson
Assoc Prof Sonja Ayeb-Karlsson, SFHEA
2 years
None of this is about the victim-survivor themselves, it’s a strategically introduced cyclical process by the perpetrator of #coercivecontol to gain full control and power over their victims. / 5
1
7
54
@s_ayebkarlsson
Assoc Prof Sonja Ayeb-Karlsson, SFHEA
2 years
Today is a sad sad day that will lead to serious consequences and further #silencing of #DomesticAbuse #victims but I also cannot stop hoping that this will be the final drop that opens up the floodgates of #women demanding immediate worldwide #change . @SheraFamily
1
10
49
@s_ayebkarlsson
Assoc Prof Sonja Ayeb-Karlsson, SFHEA
2 years
Some describe this as a life walking on eggshells, as holding their breath under water, or as trying to make themselves smaller in a box that is constantly shrinking. The detrimental impact of #coercivecontrol is often about it being longer term constant fear, panic, anxiety. / 6
2
9
53
@s_ayebkarlsson
Assoc Prof Sonja Ayeb-Karlsson, SFHEA
1 year
A perpetrator of #coercivecontrol will most likely never admit to have engaged in abusive behaviour just like they are likely to tell their victim that ‘it never happened’, ‘they have just misunderstood’ or ‘they are being sensitive’ or even ‘crazy’. /5
1
7
50
@s_ayebkarlsson
Assoc Prof Sonja Ayeb-Karlsson, SFHEA
1 year
Elsevier, a Dutch company that claims to publish 25% of the world’s scientific papers, reported a 10% increase in its revenue to £2.9bn last year. But it’s the profit margins, nearing 40%, according to its 2019 accounts, which anger academics most.
2
19
53
@s_ayebkarlsson
Assoc Prof Sonja Ayeb-Karlsson, SFHEA
1 year
If you weren’t aware, MRAs tend to online harassment to exhaust and silence those demanding greater protection for victims from VAWC and increased accountability for perpetrators of violence. /1
1
19
54
@s_ayebkarlsson
Assoc Prof Sonja Ayeb-Karlsson, SFHEA
9 months
This is a hugely important article - we must understand forced #childremoval as never ending grief. I’m currently working on something very similar to this context related to child removal, loss and grief and overwhelming feelings of entrapment - out soon.
3
35
54
@s_ayebkarlsson
Assoc Prof Sonja Ayeb-Karlsson, SFHEA
1 year
If I could give one piece of advice to family court professionals who find themselves in this situation, it would be take a step back and reflect. All structural violence including #DomesticViolence and #CoerciveControl will take place in a system of power and control. /8
3
8
49
@s_ayebkarlsson
Assoc Prof Sonja Ayeb-Karlsson, SFHEA
2 years
“The European Parliament stressed that intimate partners often use litigation to heighten their control and power over victims, but also to extend the intimidation and feeling of fear.”
1
19
47
@s_ayebkarlsson
Assoc Prof Sonja Ayeb-Karlsson, SFHEA
2 years
Many perpetrators of #coercivecontrol will already begin to put pressure on or introduce the idea of a child during the early love bombing phase. (iii)
1
12
52
@s_ayebkarlsson
Assoc Prof Sonja Ayeb-Karlsson, SFHEA
1 year
They often present themselves to professionals as calm, charming, funny, pleasant, responsible, at ease and almost too good of a parent to be true, while the victim will struggle with these interactions as the abuse may have placed them in a constant confused state of terror. /7
3
8
48
@s_ayebkarlsson
Assoc Prof Sonja Ayeb-Karlsson, SFHEA
2 years
Imagine living a life where you feel as if you are constantly about to die, the same fear, panic, and desperation, but never crossing over to a life after death or being saved and feeling secure. Many describe the exhaustion or the hypertension that comes with this life. / 7
2
8
49
@s_ayebkarlsson
Assoc Prof Sonja Ayeb-Karlsson, SFHEA
2 years
I’m working on a @SheraFamily article on Brazilian mothers experiences with the #ParentalAlienation Law in the context of #DomesticViolence . Utterly heartbreaking accounts. This is dedicated to the remarkable women in celebration of their strength - from when Brazil was my home.
Tweet media one
3
14
53
@s_ayebkarlsson
Assoc Prof Sonja Ayeb-Karlsson, SFHEA
11 months
As seen in this documentary perpetrator fathers of #coercive and #controlling behavior are well aware of how easy it is to turn the #familycourt system into a #legal #weapon against their victims. ‘All I need to do is scream ‘mad’ and the system will continue the #abuse for me’.
@s_ayebkarlsson
Assoc Prof Sonja Ayeb-Karlsson, SFHEA
11 months
I encourage you to put time aside for this brilliant and moving documentary. The mother had her 3 children removed from her care in the Netherlands. Her oldest daughter was handcuffed when running away to see her. She has not seen her youngest for 3 years! #FamilyCourtReformNow
2
50
66
0
26
52
@s_ayebkarlsson
Assoc Prof Sonja Ayeb-Karlsson, SFHEA
4 years
How do #gender roles influence people's #immobility / #mobility during #disaster strikes? New @RiskClimate article out now 'When the Disaster Strikes: Gendered (im)mobility in Bangladesh' () @UNUEHS @BSMSMedSchool @GlobHealth_BSMS @SussexGlobal @SussexGeog
Tweet media one
2
27
49
@s_ayebkarlsson
Assoc Prof Sonja Ayeb-Karlsson, SFHEA
1 year
They become masters in rewriting the narrative and will be very convincing in how they deliver their ‘truth’. They are also more than likely to present themselves as the ‘actual victim’ (DARVO) and often make sure that their story is the first to reach the professionals. /6
2
6
46
@s_ayebkarlsson
Assoc Prof Sonja Ayeb-Karlsson, SFHEA
2 years
This is so important that I will retweet it again - why are we not speaking more about the long term inter generational #trauma and mental #health damages (and the #costs of these - as this seems to be the main priority of many politicians) that #child #removals are causing?
@KimKimgreen79
kim green
2 years
@s_ayebkarlsson @SheraFamily @womensaid Why aren't more Psychiatrists and Psychologists speaking out about the life long harm caused by the removal of children from their primary carer since birth?
1
13
32
2
25
48
@s_ayebkarlsson
Assoc Prof Sonja Ayeb-Karlsson, SFHEA
1 year
If we take the time to observe and sit with most herds or settlements of animals, we notice that the golden rule of the collective is to never separate the offspring from its caretaker(s). /1
2
16
48
@s_ayebkarlsson
Assoc Prof Sonja Ayeb-Karlsson, SFHEA
1 year
Women are increasingly being hunted down (even criminally convicted) for terminating pregnancies by their own choice. Meanwhile, men who attempt to coercive women into terminating pregnancies against their will are met in court with open arms when later seeking custody/residence.
0
23
47
@s_ayebkarlsson
Assoc Prof Sonja Ayeb-Karlsson, SFHEA
1 year
#LitigationAbuse was also brought up in the round table sessions that informed the new DA Commissioner Report. It is about time that we acknowledge that some parents turn to (and are allowed to) harass, stalk and intimidate through repeated #FamilyCourt applications.
Tweet media one
Tweet media two
@s_ayebkarlsson
Assoc Prof Sonja Ayeb-Karlsson, SFHEA
1 year
This is also what legal post-separation abuse looks like when perpetrators of coercive and controlling behaviours attempt to use family courts applications as weapons of harm. In that sense, highly gendered and still makes perfect sense.
2
10
24
2
27
50
@s_ayebkarlsson
Assoc Prof Sonja Ayeb-Karlsson, SFHEA
2 years
What role does structural #racism play in our #familycourt systems? We hear little about #migrant mothers experiences of family courts and perpetrators of #coercivecontrol . If you feel comfortable sharing, please do or email me. #DomesticAbuse #migration #LegalEntrapment
7
13
48
@s_ayebkarlsson
Assoc Prof Sonja Ayeb-Karlsson, SFHEA
2 years
Did you know that this is the same Dr William Bernet as the one who currently is pushing for #ParentalAlienation to be incorporated into the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of 'Mental Disorders' (DSM-5-TR)? #SpeakUp #SetThingsRight #ChildHumanRights dr
Tweet media one
5
38
55