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Life Coach built on 10 years as a therapist. Stoic. Based AF. Personal responsibility and accountability at the core.
California, USA 🇺🇸
Joined November 2024
A master is simply a beginner who never stopped improving.
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@Iamivy05 Silence after conflict often stems from fear, fear of rejection, escalation, or vulnerability. But the truth is, avoidance breeds distance, not resolution. Healthy relationships thrive on repair, and repair starts with communication. Your willingness to engage shows maturity,.
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Being offended doesn’t automatically make you right. Feelings aren’t facts.
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Stop scrolling. This might be the moment you stop making excuses and start making changes. I’m Based Coach. I’m rooted in logic, focused on momentum, and committed to real results, period. I’m here to challenge the way you think. About yourself. About your habits. About the.
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@NarcDecoder Your insight taps into a fundamental truth about narcissistic dynamics. Narcissists derive their sense of power and control from others’ emotional dependency and reactions to their behavior. When you redirect your energy toward self-reconstruction and self-growth, you dismantle.
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4 things holding you back . •Ignoring feedback.•Chasing short-term comfort.•Constant comparison.•Avoiding necessary risks.
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@Ryan_Daigler The narcissist’s shamelessness is clinically unsettling because it operates as a near-impenetrable shield against accountability. From a diagnostic perspective, this defense is both terrifying and tragic: terrifying because their lack of empathy enables manipulation and harm.
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@Ryan_Daigler Here’s the thing. When you hold a malignant narcissist accountable, you challenge their entire version of reality. Their reaction feels extreme because accountability is not just uncomfortable for them, it is intolerable. Their sense of self relies on a story where they are.
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@Ryan_Daigler What you’re describing fits a classic covert narcissistic pattern: carefully calculated behavior that’s all about control, but in a more subtle, passive form. They start out agreeable, saying things you’ll like, because that’s how they pull people in. They want to create that.
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Resentment is like drinking poison. and expecting the other person to die.
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If you are a man, then you will take responsibility for yourself. It’s time to stop playing a victim.
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🎉 3,000 followers! I’m completely BLOWN away by the support and connections here, on 𝕩. Even more incredible - 2,278 of you are verified users, making up 76% of this amazing community. Some fun info about my growth: . I started my account on Nov 28th. By December 8th I had
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Guys this is unreal. With the support of all of you on X, I have made it to 2K followers!. It’s amazing how many people are out there who hold “conservative” values such as hard work, personal accountability and responsibility. If you are like-minded, join me! . THANK YOU!
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Do not depend on external validation. You have been warned.
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Responsibility is owning what’s yours. Accountability is owning the impact of your actions. Master both.
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Very little can actually threaten your survival. Don't let fear run your life.
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4 ways to grow:. • Get uncomfortable.• Ask smarter questions.• Guard your energy.• Move, even if it’s messy.
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You don’t need to eliminate fear to move forward. You just need to stop letting it make your decisions for you.
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The past is IMMUTABLE. No matter how much we replay it, regret it, or wish it away, it remains fixed.
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Men wonder why they can’t find a high-value woman, but all they do is chase instant gratification….
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Every problem that plagues humanity begins and ends with lack of personal responsibility.
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Stoicism teaches not just to accept what happens, but to find joy in it. Embrace it all.
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God, grant me the serenity.to accept the things I cannot change.the courage to change the things I can.and the wisdom to know the difference.
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Question Your Inner World. - Challenge your automatic thoughts.- Examine your emotional reactions. - Test your assumptions. - Dig deeper than surface feelings. Your mind deserves the same scrutiny you give everything else.
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@Iamivy05 We are humans. With nuance. And color. We can’t be defined by a single moment in time. Or even a collection of moments. We can even change and transform to be versions of ourselves that people would be surprised to see. Because people don’t generally see the best in others.
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Most people want change until they realize that change demands sacrifice.
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Askēsis = discipline in action. Show up.Do the work.Elevate your life.
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Moral relativism is a lie, told by a generation who’s god is irrefutable acceptance of the self.
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Everything worthwhile I’ve learned in life was born out of pain.
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Beware of those who insist the world is black and white. They trade certainty for truth. Through maturity, we learn most of life is lived in the grey, where answers are complex, and understanding requires nuance.
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Strong opinions often reveal more about the person holding them than the one they’re aimed at.
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There aren’t many accounts out there who engage outside of their own content. Find the ones who do. Build a community. Become unstoppable.
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Good morning! ☀️. You don’t have to see the whole road ahead. Just keep moving forward, one moment at a time. The sunrise will guide you.
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Spent 10 years thinking I was "unlucky in life." . Turns out I just kept making the same mistakes over and over, expecting different results.
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If you’re going to speak out with conviction, be ready for it. Be ready to be spit on, laughed at, ridiculed, and hated. That’s the price of admission. Welcome to the cost of caring.
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Mastery of self begins when you stop reacting to what doesn’t deserve your energy.
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Your yes is expensive. Your no is valuable. Every choice has a hidden price tag called opportunity cost.
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Waiting for the perfect conditions is the easiest way to waste your potential.
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Sometimes peace is walking away. Sometimes peace is staying and doing the hard work. Only you can decide which one it is.
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@ColtonBlakeX Hey Colton, love the energy!. This is such a great idea for building a community. I'm in! Let's connect!.
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"Before I formed you in the womb, I knew you." .- Jeremiah 1:5. You were never an accident. You were always meant to be.
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If we expect to be leaders, we must see that thankless service comes with the job.
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Integrity is doing what’s right, even when it costs you. It’s the backbone of trust and self-respect. Without it, nothing real lasts.
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When trust is broken, many get stuck in the pain. The healthy progression looks like this:. 1. Naive Trust: Open, unguarded, freely given. 2. Disillusionment: Pain, anger, withdrawal. 3. Informed Boundaries: Growth, clarity, and moving forward.
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@ColtonBlakeX It's amazing how we can help each other grow. Excited to see everyone connect!.
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Building integrity leads to a life where you can truly be proud of who you are.
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2025 is just a number. The year changes nothing unless you do!.
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Excuses that keep you stuck:. •‘I don’t have time.’.•‘That’s just how I am.’.•‘I’ll start when things calm down.’.•‘It’s not my fault.’.
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@Ryan_Daigler In narcissistic family systems, scapegoating is how the family maintains a fragile sense of control. The scapegoat’s role becomes essential because they disrupt the family’s dysfunctional status quo. Families like this tend to operate as closed systems, where everyone plays a.
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As we make progress in our lives, we start to encounter the limitations of the people around us.
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@NarcDecoder Narcissists listen carefully, not to connect, but to gain leverage. They promise to be different, mirroring exactly what you’ve been searching for, only to turn around and inflict deeper harm. It’s calculated and intentional, leaving you questioning your own judgment. Trust.
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Ever notice how we're drowning in negativity these days? . In my 20's I would catch myself doom-scrolling Reddit for several hours every night. Just mindlessly consuming one bad post after another. When one day it hit me: We've lost the art of actually thinking. Real thinking.
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Train with humility. Learn with curiosity. Grow with intention. Win with grace.
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You can’t step into who you’re becoming while clinging to the shadows of who you were.
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Bad habits keeping you stuck:. •Overthinking every move. •Filling your time with distractions. •Avoiding the hard conversations. •Clinging to what’s familiar.
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3 shifts that changed everything:. Reacting → Responding.Blaming → Owning.Chasing → Attracting. Which shift will you choose first?.
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@Ryan_Daigler Malignant narcissists thrive on control, but their real fear is chaos. The kind that comes from others acting independently of their expectations. Their need for dominance masks a deeper psychological vulnerability: an inability to tolerate uncertainty. When you don’t respond.
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@Ryan_Daigler The isolation they create is devastating. Leaving people cut off from their support systems with only the narcissist “providing” for them. Forms dangerous dependence. That’s their goal.
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@Ryan_Daigler Cognitive dissonance is a huge piece of the puzzle when it comes to narcissistic personality disorder. Here’s how it works: someone with NPD creates this grandiose self-image—“I’m exceptional, I’m always right”—but when reality doesn’t match up (like when they face criticism,.
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Life builds your strength in the quiet moments…. When someone relies on you to be steady even when you don’t feel it yourself….
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The beauty of being human is that you can change your life at any moment.
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When I started working with clients:. I charged $0. I did that for a whole year. 10 years later:. I charge $140-$300/hour. Everyone starts somewhere. Start where you are and build momentum.
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@Ryan_Daigler I am sure that hearing something like that creates a deep sense of dread and helplessness. The words trigger fear of losing the safe spaces you’ve built. When someone unknowingly interacts with your abuser, it feels like a breach of the boundaries you worked hard to establish.
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They either see your value or don’t. Don’t waste your energy trying to convince them.
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@Ryan_Daigler The danger of a covert narcissist the way they make you doubt your own reality. They don’t just pretend to care; they immerse themselves in your world, mirroring your emotions, your values, even your struggles, until it feels like they truly understand you. But that understanding.
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Every decision you make is a vote for the person you want to become. Make it count.
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The habits you ignore today become the limits you face tomorrow.
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The version of you that got here won’t be the version that takes you further. Growth demands evolution.
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@Ryan_Daigler You’re absolutely right. This kind of conditioning shapes a profound emotional response to joy. The parent robs the child of happiness while fostering dependence. By creating a world where joy feels dangerous, the parent ensures the child’s focus remains on avoiding punishment.
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All the pills in the world can’t fix what honesty with yourself would.
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