✨Nikko Thread✨
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(Trying to link all of my Nikko-related tweets to one post so they’re easier to find & maybe we can spread some more awareness on stillbirth & the grieving process of loss parents)
The abortion ban isn’t just dangerous for women who want or need abortions. It’s dangerous for women who miscarry or have stillbirths. When abortion becomes a crime, authorities start questioning if a miscarriage/stillbirth was the mother’s fault & if she *tried* for a loss.
My advice to every SAHM who depends on their partner financially? Save money in secret. Always. I don’t fucking care how amazing your relationship is.. it can go south at any time. You will not regret having that emergency fund.
I can still remember what my own sobs sounded like in my silent hospital delivery room when my doctor told me my baby was dead. The entire floor probably heard my sobbing. There is no sound that compares. To have a nurse mock that? 😔 How can you be a nurse & also be heartless?
This is an epidemic at this point like this nurse or nursing student? Mocks mental illness, don’t even know what the second part means and then infant loss? What the hell is going on.
My sweet Nikko should be turning 4 in a couple of months... I’ll never stop sharing his photos and our story. Stillbirth is more common than SIDS. It’s time to normalize the grieving process for bereaved parents.
So I think the rainbow shoot actually turned out pretty well given all the circumstances! See me in purple holding the boy who wouldn’t look at the camera or stop screaming.🙃
Dentists not allowing parents to go back into the room with their young children just really does not sit right with me… like how do I even know what you’re doing back there???😩
One angel baby photo is not more appropriate than another just because it has a B&W filter over it. We use the filter because we see less death in those pictures and it’s easier to share them without getting shit for it.. but this is the reality. The first pic was taken very soon
@mollymarie03
Btw nose piercing are unattractive. Anyone who tells you different probably has one or just tells you what you want to hear. You’re probably a single mom or in an unhappy marriage.
Yeah it’s that easy to tell.
How are yall reading so much????? Like do I need to buy myself a kindle? Is that the trick? Are you listening to audio books? I love reading but I feel like I can’t keep up lmao.
Just had a thought. If you have a trunk full of groceries and get rear ended…. Does insurance cover new groceries? Lmfao. Almost just got rear ended and my first thought was my fucking eggs bro.💀
This clearly needs to be said again. Every angel parent should be able to freely share photos of their child in whatever way they want to. It is not your place to make any negative comments. That is their BABY. Be grateful you don’t understand the pain.😔💙💗
One angel baby photo is not more appropriate than another just because it has a B&W filter over it. We use the filter because we see less death in those pictures and it’s easier to share them without getting shit for it.. but this is the reality. The first pic was taken very soon
Since mom twitter wants to turn a PSA about fetal movement into a debate about large babies🙄... I’ll say it.
BABIES DO NOT SLOW DOWN TOWARDS THE END OF PREGNANCY. Babies develop a movement pattern between 23-28 weeks and that movement pattern should be relatively the same until
I see a lot of posts about not letting your kids see your sadness or depression, but being real & open with your kids is one of the best things you can do for them. Teach them that all emotions are okay & how to work through them. Bottling it up doesn’t help anyone.
Disgusting....
As a mom who gave birth to her dead child, I promise you none of my other kids have ever replaced him. Saying “oh we can just have another” is vile & if that is your mindset, you shouldn’t be a parent.
It’s awful and it sounds insane, but it has happened in plenty of places where abortion was made illegal. It’s the reality. Loss parents get interrogated & treated like criminals for something they couldn’t control.
@baimcpher
I’m a mother of 4. My 2nd son was stillborn at 37 weeks & I will always be pro choice. Being the mom of an angel has made me more pro choice than ever. I know so many angel moms who technically had an abortion for medical reasons & still mourn & grieve their baby every day.💗💙
Anthony Huber, one of the victims in Kenosha last night... left behind a girlfriend and a daughter.
There are no words. This man tried his hardest to stop an armed terrorist, and his life was taken. 💔
Yikes... if I ever died, I would want my man to take whatever donations he could to help with all those bills & raising our kids on his own. Stop being so worried about how others choose to give their money. It’s none of your business. Period.
So my kids made us homemade cookies this year in lieu of gifts bc they don’t have jobs 🫠 which is fine we don’t need any gifts at all but like…. The way these are decorated… 🫠🫠🫠
In WI, abortion is legal up before 20 weeks. When my son was stillborn at 37 weeks, and I was internally hemorrhaging, & had every pre-e symptom in the book, still— the very first thing they did was give me a drug test. That’s always the first thought.
Get to decide if it should be shared or not. Personally, all of my Nikko photos are public because I’m fighting a stigma and raising awareness. Preeclampsia and a placental abruption killed my son and almost killed me, too. I’m never going to shut up about it.🤷🏼♀️
@ThatBoiiJayy__
My bf was eating me out for a while.. He comes up for air & I’m all “nah get back down there”. so I gently push his head back down, but at the same time, he starts going down himself, so my gentle push turns into this super forceful shove. dude broke his nose on my pelvic bone.💀
@TtcMomma
I’ve lost 3 babies and I say I never want to be pregnant again alllll the time. There’s nothing wrong with someone expressing their own desire not to get pregnant. Pregnancy isn’t easy on everyone.
And I understand that it’s protocol & doctors have to rule it out, but that’s the mindset… and if you deny that authorities would not hold & continue that same mindset when abortion is criminalized, you need to think again.
@lordrih_
Ooof you’re not wrong about those cramps getting worse after each one. Sending you love & positive, healing energy. Even through all of that, you still look flawless. Motherhood looks so beautiful on you.🥺
I’m sad tonight so... Nikko photos. Hard to believe this little guy should be 5 this year. Really hard seeing how much I’ve changed since then. Physically, mentally, emotionally. 😔🥺💙 ✨ 🌙
Money would literally solve all of my problems except for problems that stem from trauma. & money could still help with that, too. Fuck people who act like money can’t buy happiness. It sure can alleviate the stress.
I’m sad tonight so... Nikko photos. Hard to believe this little guy should be 5 this year. Really hard seeing how much I’ve changed since then. Physically, mentally, emotionally. 😔🥺💙 ✨ 🌙
After Nikko was born.. the last pic was taken hours and hours later. Their coloring changes fast. I’m “lucky” because with a B&W filter, he just looks asleep in many photos.. not every angel mom had that “luck”. It doesn’t matter how uncomfortable a picture makes you—you don’t
Pro parenting Tip: never start rubbing your kids back to get them to sleep as babies because they will need you to do that every night for the rest of their lives.
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Do you think this image will hurt any woman who has gotten an abortion and is still happy with that decision? No. It won’t.
This image is only going to hurt the women who have lost their babies to miscarriage or stillbirth, etc. You pro lifers are so fucking weird.
Yall realize death photos used to be the norm?? Especially for children who died because those would be the only photos a family had to remember them by…. Death will never go away. Some cultures even dig up their dead & spend physical time with them. Are you condemning that too?
One angel baby photo is not more appropriate than another just because it has a B&W filter over it. We use the filter because we see less death in those pictures and it’s easier to share them without getting shit for it.. but this is the reality. The first pic was taken very soon
You can be against routine infant circumcision without being a complete douchebag to parents who have their sons circumcised because it is what they have been taught is best. It starts with this insane concept: kindness.
Dusting off your baby’s urn really never gets easier. Had a moment when I realized his little ducky hat that he wore for .2 seconds in the hospital still smells like him 5 1/2 years later.
The fact that I should have a 6 year old this year is breaking me.
I will never understand why mothers lose their children in this life… the physical ache I feel when I think about it for a little too long… my heart goes out to all of you grieving mothers/parents.💙 I know we’re all so exhausted with our grief.😔
Trying to wrap my head around 9 whole years… I’m such a different person now than when I held this sweet boy for the last time. 🩵✨🌙 happy birthday nikko. you are so missed & still, so loved.
Yeah sorry but it’s getting harder and harder to defend when you’re taking 13 minute flights just to avoid using a car? That’s crazy…. Y’all can love her music all you want but remember there are no ethical billionaires.
Not all opinions need to be voiced.
Not all opinions need to be voiced.
Not all opinions need to be voiced.
Not all opinions need to be voiced.
Not all opinions need to be voiced.
Not all opinions need to be voiced.
Not all opinions need to be voiced.
I’m gonna apologize one time for being such a socially anxious & awkward person. I suck at making & keeping friends. I suck at talking to people & always assume someone will think poorly of me & it has gotten in the way of so many connections. I don’t want to be that way anymore.
I feel the need to clarify: this goes for all stay at home parents. I also think ideally you should have a separate savings account as a couple you can use for normal emergency expenses & truly devote this to the getting out scenario.. but most of us can’t even afford food rn so
When cleaning your house, does anybody else walk around finding all the things you’ve asked your significant other to do left completely undone or half assed? Like literally all the fucking time. Just me? 🥴 oh.
Lmao some of y’all must watch who unfollows you like a fucking hawk because I’ll unfollow someone & instantly I’m blocked.💀 some of you, I’m sorry, but I would never know if you unfollowed me.
Update: my mom got confused (early onset dementia) and thought my sister was still downstairs and not responding to her & she actually just wasn’t home. So my sister is fine as far as I know. But I appreciate all the love & good energy guys.🖤
Nothing like getting a call from your mom while you’re out trick or treating saying your sister is unresponsive on the basement floor and she doesn’t know what to do… told her to hang up and call 911. Omfg I didn’t need this 😭
Nothing like getting a call from your mom while you’re out trick or treating saying your sister is unresponsive on the basement floor and she doesn’t know what to do… told her to hang up and call 911. Omfg I didn’t need this 😭
The worst part about so many of you having the audacity today is that she would’ve dragged you better than any of us ever could & y’all really deserve that today. Heartless.
Heads up... saying “I wouldn’t be able to live if my child died” and implying you would kill yourself if that happened is not helpful at all to anyone who has lost their child. You’re basically implying that we’re shitty for staying alive after our child dies.
You literally give birth. If you have a change in movement—either increased OR decreased movement after baby has a pattern, you need to go in & have an NST & possible ultrasound done. Babies do not run out of room. They do not get too tired to move before labor. Stillbirth is
I’m not a great painter by any means. So don’t judge me but I made a little pic to hang up in our hallway for Christmas time.. might touch it up some more after it dries but it felt good to actually *do* something again. Really need a hobby. lol
A real risk. Stillbirth is more common than SIDS and still, which do you hear more about preventing? Lay on your left or right side to sleep in your 3rd trimester, learn baby’s movement pattern & pay attention. If baby isn’t moving or if you have any severe pain, Dont wait, GO IN
I mean, do what you want, but if you’re really unfollowing people over a tweet they liked, just know that I mindlessly like tweets I read all the time for a billion different reasons. It’s really not that serious.🤷🏼♀️
I lost two of my oldest online mom friends in one week and now the waterworks are really coming. Shit really isn’t fair. And also I hate how every loss brings up the grief over my son, too. Like it just adds to the sad.
I love you guys… please reach out if you need anything💔
Y’all the problem with the Christmas tree toy is the spray paint. Not that she wants it aesthetically pleasing (though color is good for your child’s development 🙃 but I digress). Don’t spray paint your children’s toys. There are tons of pretty & safe toys out there already.
Okay mom Twitter…. I work at a bookstore. Today an 8… 9?? Year old little girl came up to our counter asking to look for the book “Icebreaker”.. the mom had clearly not read the book. (Neither have I for the record).. but we were debating whether or not we should say something?
@MurdaMan09
Creating a financial security net is more important im afraid. If you are safe enough in your relationship to tell them you will be creating a savings account for that purpose that will not be touched, otherwise, then you should do that. And I should clarify for any SAHP.
@sagistarbb
I never dreamed about my cats and I didn’t realize that until I was stuck in a sleep paralysis dream and all of a sudden my cat was there, looking at me. I followed her because she seemed like she wanted me to, & that’s how I woke up. Definitely believe this.
My relationship is pretty fucked right now... trying to get comfortable with the thought that we might be breaking up. But thinking about having to re-enter the dating scene just sounds terrifying and awful. Lmfao. I’m lost y’all. Maybe I’ll just put up with this shit forever.🤷🏼♀️
There are things you can do to reduce the risk of stillbirth. There are things you can do to reduce the risk of preeclampsia. Doctors do NOT know everything— especially in the US where giving birth is incredibly dangerous (for a 1st world country) for both moms & babies.
OG mom Twitter will always be the best mom Twitter. Seems like we keep losing people though and it’s not fair… all these babies growing up without their momma isn’t right.. 😭