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idk what’s been in the air lately but i’m claiming alllll of this good luck and energy that has been coming my way ✨.
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@strwbrrrypoptrt @windytdf @fatfabfeminist @rhidaneelolivaw while “fatspo” threads and derogatory descriptions of fat people are NOT okay, it’s important to remember that those w/ restrictive EDs are terrified of gaining weight. it’s part of the disorder.
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@l0stmyhal0 @transmasctakes i regret to inform you that male privilege is a Cis Only club. to imply that trans men/mascs need to be more cognizant of their “male privilege” than literal cis men is both laughable and sad. we cannot benefit from privileges that were never meant for us in the first place.
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@strwbrrrypoptrt @windytdf @fatfabfeminist @rhidaneelolivaw posting my reply as a photo bc i don’t have time for multiple tweets:
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@BrogIe_pyon white transfems constantly refuse to acknowledge how racism and transphobia intersect. they also refuse to see how their whiteness protects them and gives them privilege, even over Black and brown transmascs that are apparently protected by “male privilege.”.
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@femaleweezerfan @BetterCallBritt You’re criticizing a system that has saved people’s lives and allows them to live with somewhat normalcy. Psychiatric meds aren’t some big conspiracy developed by Big Pharm, and there’s nothing wrong with mentally ill people making memes to cope.
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@Pupperdoon obviously you’re allowed to have your preferences, but labeling everyone that prefers trans men to cis men as “chasers” is unrealistic. some people are T4T, and some people with uteruses (like myself) prefer to only have sex with people who can’t get them pregnant.
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@strwbrrrypoptrt @windytdf @fatfabfeminist @rhidaneelolivaw also, it’s important to remember that a lot of edtwt/pro-ana twt are minors. kids can be cruel to begin with, and even more so when they’re struggling. saying “get therapy” when they legally cannot make their own appts does nothing but shame them for a disorder they can’t control.
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“a little bit of experimentation” with cis men caused a pregnancy scare that made me consider taking my own life because an abortion was inaccessible to me and pregnancy would’ve heightened my dysphoria. people like this don’t actually care about queer or trans people.
Young t4t transmasc people who are scared of pregnancy - one, I don’t believe you that you aren’t attracted to cis men, and two, a little bit of experimentation might help with your fear of cock/balls. Just because someone makes sperm doesn’t mean they are radioactive.
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@DumbPossumm @girlofswords see, the difference here is “cisgender” and “allosexual” are real terms to define real things. “monosexual” is a term that bisexuals who don’t feel oppressed enough made up to separate themselves from other gay ppl (for some reason).
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@bunarchy @eirianqueer the OP the person you’re replying to literally says, “Trans men have it pretty good.”. this conversation is literally about how trans women/fem ppl think that trans men/masc ppl somehow have it “easier,” and then covering their ears like children when they’re corrected.
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@xRockest white people will hold power over Black people (and every other person of color) regardless of other marginalized identities because they are white first.
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@elle_carnitine had a similar experience when i had lost almost 100lbs due to unexplained gastroparesis and my doctor tried to blame it on my antidepressant and stimulant medication and almost discontinued my RX for them even though i need them to function. but hey, doctors know best! /s.
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@its_nya_music @androgynyfiend it’s not an outdated term; it’s an identity that a lot of people use and feels accurately describes them. like i’m not “transing my gender” because i never had a gender in the first place. i am absolutely transing my sex though. that’s kind of the point of top surgery and HRT.
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@ereshkigirlboss it’s okay to just say “non-medically transitioning” instead of “non-transitioning.” implying that non-binary ppl regardless of AGAB don’t transition at all is transmedicalist and completely disregards intersex non-binary ppl.
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@oomfiesgood @fungi_dirt i’ve been off T for a little while and every physical change (except my voice and some bottom growth) i had reverted shortly after i stopped my shots. but sure, let me just throw down an uno reverse card and get rid of my tits and wide hips.
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@Soph_Ego @ZackHugsBack @scarykarri3 @eirianqueer @VulgarViscera @Waffeul_ fellas is it cultural appropriation to be a transmasc who rots in bed? /s.
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@knifeclub__ @ebarbie_ @uncooljerk Fatspo has been a thing for YEARS. It predates Tumblr and can be linked back to old pro-ED forums. I was on ED Tumblr as well as other forums between 2012-2016 and saw it a lot. People act like edtwt is the first online ED community to be malicious when it definitely isn’t.
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@Hundilisse hey how does it feel to know that a cis woman is advocating harder against transmisogyny within lesbianism than you are as a trans woman? . maybe you need to start learning how to be a sister to your fellow trans sisters.
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@redstringbigcat @SillyPuppygirl @SupportDetrans you do realize that binary trans people can transition to a non-binary gender, right? or do you just have worms for brains? OP literally medically detransitioned. how someone chooses to describe their transition is ✨none of your business ✨anyways.
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@homulilyz @Walroose64 the person in the SS is talking about how being painted as a predator is a uniquely transfem problem when it’s not. the OP even describes in a reply under this post that transmascs are often seen as “big, scary men” that are forced to be around their daughters.
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@Badm0nsterman @starniite your mental health and disorders aren’t your fault but they are your responsibility. if you don’t attempt treatment and refuse to acknowledge something is wrong, don’t be surprised when people don’t want to stick around anymore.
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@VTHESLUT idrc if you think a person with a uterus who lives in a state with strict abortion access wanting a 0% chance of getting pregnant is “bio-essentialism.” not being pregnant is more important to me than hurt feelings.
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@julia42335202 @RndmFndms650002 @xim11y @aallebamj @RdotSpoon no, two consenting adults who are fully clothed making sex ed videos on an app with a mostly adult user base isn’t breaking any rules or unsafe. not everything on TT is geared towards an >18 audience. stop clutching your pearls and put that energy towards the CSEM that’s on TT.
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@JustJordNZ @strontiumpawg the children yearn to be genuinely cringe on a large public online forum.
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@sleepy_shivers @girlofswords it isn’t transmedicalism to say that in our cishet society, *no one* is going to view OOP as trans and visibly trans ppl aren’t going to coddle their feelings about it. sorry if i don’t feel “in community” with someone who’s only transition experience is changing their pronouns.
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@tobii_p @ereshkigirlboss not all non-binary ppl are transmasc/fem or identify that way. regardless of that, transmasc/fem are still rooted in ASAB and generally just feels like a way to unnecessarily hypercategorize a large group of ppl with expansive gender identities and expressions.
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@Pupperdoon birth control/sterilization is not 100% effective in preventing pregnancy, which i feel like i shouldn’t need to explain to you at your big age. being diagnosed as infertile is also not 100% effective birth control. i am also not T4T with people who can get me pregnant.
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@redstringbigcat @SillyPuppygirl @SupportDetrans OP is literally non-binary; cis was in quotes because people largely see them as a cis woman because they medically detransitioned. they’re allowed to talk about their experience however they want on their own page. why are you so concerned what people call themselves?.
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@hanyulton @7times70times gen z did not have to deal with the ‘08 recession as adults lmao. the oldest gen z was 11 in 2008, while the oldest millennial was 29. most gen z’s also were not working in 2014. the great recession screwed over millennials in a similar way the height of quarantine screwed gen z.
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@bullrike @vala84no @AriDrennen ALL women deserve those things, and that includes women in marginalized communities. you can’t actively deny someone their rights and protections, whine that you’re the most “worthy” of those things, and expect people to feel sorry for you.
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@redstringbigcat @SillyPuppygirl @SupportDetrans because a lot of the current trans discourse applies to her and her experience. i also would feel pretty fuckin’ bad if people in my own community made me feel bad about not being “trans enough” so i felt like i had to make life altering medical decisions.
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@JimNordren @JusticeHorn_ because typically, women don’t run for homecoming king. hope this helps! 🤗.
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@ZackHugsBack this isn’t about him feeling comfortable in his gender identity/expression; this is about him profiting off of the fetishization of a community he does not belong to. idc who he’s dating, multiple trans women/fem ppl have said he makes them uncomfortable.
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@S0phie_Salt @HadalSovereign i need you to think very critically about how the descriptors you used for “privileged non-binary person” can be applied to the non-binary transmasc child that was just murdered in OK. where was their supposed “privilege,” huh?. have some fucking tact and take several seats.
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@l0stmyhal0 @thedrownedcity @transmasctakes passing is INCREDIBLY subjective. what is “passable” for one person may not be for the next. our current role in society as trans men/mascs is belonging to a group that has anything but privilege.
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@bullrike saying that only the people you view as “worthy” enough to identify as women is denying people those things, though. sex ≠ gender. trans women don’t have privilege, it’s quite the opposite. trans women are one of the most marginalized groups and often experience violence.
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@modernistwitch Apologies are great and all, but what happened goes beyond speculation: you, a white person, used your large platform to speak over and invalidate a Black intersex trans man. You were so “baffled” that you had to center yourself in the convo instead of listening. Be better. (1/2).
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@untiltzuyu @femaleweezerfan @BetterCallBritt Also, I PROMISE you, mentally ill people don’t like the “system” either and regularly acknowledges its many problems. This isn’t news to us.
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@l0stmyhal0 @Tomek_NB @transmasctakes you do realize that the ONLY reason that ppl feel it necessary to be stealth is because otherwise they’ll be discriminated against, right? that the reason so many LGBTQ+ ppl, famous or not, have had to hide part of their identity is so they’re not assaulted or murdered?.
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@giseokseu @FinesseEness if a nine year old can post the *hard r n-word* on twitter MULTIPLE times along with other slurs aimed at Black people, they can take a second to google what those words mean. if you truly grew up to be a “better” person, those tweets would’ve been deleted years ago.
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@apollyonComes @Sabo_Cat161 wearing leather or kink gear and otherwise being SFW ≠ literal sexual harassment.
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@doefaced one time a community member at my elementary school was looking for “strong boy volunteers” to help carry in food donation boxes. i told her that was sexist and asked to volunteer anyway. ended up carrying heavier boxes than the boys 😌.
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@alchemyfawn @james_f_thomas @fiddleheadfinn you can get absolutely nasty on grindr without completely disregarding someone’s consent and immediately fetishizing their body. i can’t tell you how many times i put “T4T - no chasers” in my bio and i’d STILL get messages like, “hey i know im cis but…” but nothing.
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@bunarchy @eirianqueer clearly your reading comprehension IS lacking if you read the sentence “trans men have it pretty good” and then try to argue that it means anything but. btw, being an anti-transmasculine pick me isn’t a cute look.
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@MscreStarHope i am so sorry this is happening to you. there is clearly *something* wrong, and they’re delusional if they think a hospital is 100% C19-free while wastewater stats show infection rates rising. if anyone knows how someone outside of NYC can help, please DM me.
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@modernistwitch (2/2) Part of the way you can be better is amplifying the voices of Black trans people in the DIY HRT convo and sharing/donating to Black trans people’s mutual aid requests for transition related funds. They’ll the ones who suffer most without access to legal, prescribed HRT.
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@asexualcyborg ah yes, i remember the founding fathers of the patriarchy being *checks notes* some trans dudes name Kai, Jonah, Oliver, and Ryan.
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@net195 @hysterekal00 yes, and trans people not on hormones or those who thought they’d never want to be on hormones sometimes decide to start HRT. legislation targeting HRT affects *all* trans people because it will remove what limited legal access we already have.
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@caitndaly @KatiInTheWoodzz no one in the trans community is hating on trans women for being hyperfem, but the opposite does happen for AFAB trans people who are hyperfem.
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@QuinntoBean hey so uh why are you, a white transfem, harassing a Black transmasc who is trying to recover from covid??? like what is the reasoning??? quickly.
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@doefaced just remember that you don’t have to perform your masculinity/manhood in the same way cis queer people do! i was in primarily cis queer groups (online and IRL) growing up as a young transmasc and toxic cis masculinity caused me to detransition for a bit.
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@basic_chanel i think you need to be more concerned with being a whole ass adult w an edtwt in the year of our lord 2023 than what “babytrans/theyfabs” choose to identify as. “trans” as an identifier encompasses a lot of different identities, and that’s not something you get to gatekeep.
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@ErinInTheMorn it’s genuinely so disheartening to see yet another big trans account (uncoincidently ran by a white transfem) speaking for transmasc people, and then having the *audacity* to discount our experiences and spread misinformation.
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@l0stmyhal0 @thedrownedcity @transmasctakes all it takes is one wrong thing said or the wrong piece of info figured out to shatter the illusion of someone being cis. it also doesn’t rly matter if cis ppl think you’re cis or not. as long as we live in a binary, cisgender society, trans ppl will never have privilege.
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sometimes self-care means smoking, binge watching law and order: SVU, and ordering $50 of cheesecake factory delivery.
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@homulilyz @Walroose64 denying that both transmasc and transfem people are both not equally seen as predators or threats is disingenuous and is anti-transmasculine.
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@l0stmyhal0 @thedrownedcity @transmasctakes it’s actually not nuanced at all! you cannot benefit from systemic privilege when you belong to a community that’s systemically oppressed by the people you claim to share that same privilege with.
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@homulilyz @Walroose64 yes, and so are trans men! a trans man making a transmisogynistic comment does not take away that trans men are also seen as largely unsafe by both cis and trans people.
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@namesmichelle @femaleweezerfan @BetterCallBritt Your cousin isn’t that great of a psychiatrist if she’s prescribing medication to people who don’t need it. Thankfully not every doctor is like that, and you can’t be addicted to medication you need to survive! Diabetics aren’t “insulin addicted.” Take your ableism elsewhere. 🙂.
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@S0phie_Salt @trans_hick @HadalSovereign 1) the harassment and discrimination you’ve faced in the workplace is not unique to you or your specific gender identity. that happens to most ppl with a marginalized gender identity. 2) i’ve worked w/ multiple transfem ppl in various workplaces. they’re out there, promise.
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@mbowman @modernistwitch My non-GMO, free range thoughts are apologies mean absolutely nothing if there isn’t follow through. They *also* mean nothing if you’re not addressing all the areas you messed up in. Multiple other people have been calling @modernistwitch on their anti-Blackness.
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@DarkHorseWrites @ZeeZeeMooMoo my brother in christ transmasc ppl complain about having a fem chest which is caused by E *all the time,* and the only people that ever give pushback are terfs. if anything, transfems are pretty sympathetic and will often joke with transmascs that it’s too bad they can’t switch.
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@daredevilstits @thelizabetch @kyah_probst @animalologist linking a medium article to prove your point is… a choice. where are the peer reviewed articles that show correlation between not attending a sleepover as a child and atypical development? (spoiler: they don’t exist because sleepovers aren’t necessary for development lmao).
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@JusticeHorn_ also Gen Z, and i would much rather my potential children get to experience the beauty and history of the crossroads district as it’s meant to be enjoyed. a downtown stadium in the current proposed spot would take away from that. 🤷🏻.
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@net195 @hysterekal00 we’re not discussing everyone in the broad sense here, we’re specifically talking about trans people. anti-HRT legislation affects all trans people because it’s not about the hormones, it’s about criminalizing being trans. HRT is just a small drop in the bucket.
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@ppsculptors any chance of this colorway being poured in the Caelus model in medium firmness? 👀👀.
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@trans_catboy but it’s not a general lgbtq/fem sex ed program; it’s more specialized. from what i can gather, their primary goal is educating those who can become pregnant on best practices for prevention when you have a uterus. it doesnt make sense to include a demographic that can’t do that.
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@DarkHorseWrites @ZeeZeeMooMoo like this imaginary offended trans woman that you’ve conjured up in your head is… odd. trans people are allowed to complain about the primary sex hormone they were born with!.
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@GIGAPENIS69 getting masculinizating top surgery and the scars that come from it are… not that deep lmao. like imagine being this protective over a different surgery scar. also btw being transgender and/or transsexual isn’t a “medical condition” and thinking so is gross xoxo gossip girl.
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@solar_mars_ yes. you’re also required to pay any transport fees from the ED to the actual inpatient facility and any court/attorney fees.
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@tobii_p @ereshkigirlboss that’s the beautiful thing about being trans! you’re the only one who gets to decide what labels or identities fit you best, and the only one it has to “make sense” to is you. 🫶🏻.
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@giseokseu @FinesseEness actually, i can and i did. as i matured and learned that some of the things i said when i was younger actually was pretty offensive, i deleted it because that’s not representative of who i am now. just putting “BLM” doesn’t mean shit if you’re not actually doing the work.
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@sleepy_shivers @girlofswords oh honey, no. my experience (being out since high school, medically transitioning as a minor, on HRT for 8 years, getting top surgery in a few weeks, in the process of legally changing my name) as a trans person is NOTHING like OOP’s. they don’t understand, actually!.
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@RAPINGINMATES @SupportDetrans denying someone’s gender identity because they have no desire to medically transition IS being transphobic lmao. saying someone is less of a woman or less of a trans person because they don’t want to medically transition is transphobic.
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@elainasqloint @KailuaPig @deadauthoryaoi @criddir my psych doctors wouldn’t even recognize that i had ADHD until i started breaking down in appointments because my executive dysfunction made me want to off myself. mental healthcare in the US is SO similar to trying to get HRT bc they won’t treat you unless you want to die.
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@SoundsSapphic @spacebunsarah @cockmogger i think saying “most people have a genital preference bc transphobia” is a little broad. people can have genital preferences due to trauma. i personally have a genital preference bc i have a uterus and don’t want to get pregnant. also like, it’s okay to just have a preference. 🤷.
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@ZackHugsBack @JustifiableT i actually liked his content before i knew what i do now! i ended up having to unfollow and block because he was increasingly leaning into the “haha you can’t even tell i’m not ~*actually*~ a girl!” which is pretty weird from someone who doesn’t identify as a trans woman/fem.
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“you shouldn’t smoke the devil’s lettuce around your children!!!” ma’am i sincerely hope you have the same energy about drinking in front of your kids, but everyone knows you need to be wine drunk to deal with your crotch goblins.
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@DrowsyNym @thefemiurge trans women existing however they please even if that means being or wanting to be “pretty” or “passing” or conventionally attractive IS brave and empowering. i’m sorry that you don’t feel pretty or like you pass, but that doesn’t give you a right to drag others down with you.
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@8ftvl @genderfuckdoom @ecyeehaw @iwasyoursofast honey the baby queers are referring to bisexuality as being both “homosexual and heterosexual attraction” and unnecessarily mentioning ASAB again!.
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if working in education has taught me anything it’s that a lot of teachers are so DUMB!!! the absolute lack of common sense and critical thinking is astounding to me!!! like, y’all are supposed to be educating the youth?! we’re doomed 💀.
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I remember reading about what happened at Sandy Hook in ‘12 on my school-issued iPad in 8th grade, worried that my school could be next. Now, 10 years later as an ECE educator, I look at my preschoolers about to go to kindergarten and hope they’re not next. Gun control now.
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@giseokseu @FinesseEness like i am BEGGING y’all to stop giving white people a get out of jail free card just because “they were so young! and now they have BLM in their twitter display name so that means they care about Black ppl now!” 💀.
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@eirianqueer @sillyfella86 @Ilovekiki270103 if you’re a c*shet man who fantasizes about corrective SA against lesbians, i feel fine saying they’re a bad person and consider them unsafe. they’re not doing it to process trauma or explore parts of their identity, but continuing to wield their power over marginalized genders.
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top surgery is covered by my insurance :’).
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@theheckmouth @bivtown @RinRinYikes a lot of people do not feel comfortable living with cis men due to trauma and the high statistical likelihood of them being abusers. those people might be comfortable with trans men/mascs living with them, so that’s why the distinction is important.
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@p0lycule tell me where i explicitly say or even imply that i’m attracted to women or fem ppl in general lmao. regardless of that, not all transfems have penises so i think it’s odd to try to use that as some sort of gotcha.
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@daredevilstits @thelizabetch @kyah_probst @animalologist like bro… did you not realize that one of the articles you linked is written by a company that rents out sleepover supplies so it’s now automatically biased? do you know how reputable sources work?.
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@RoeGraceM psychosis can *explain* “bad behavior,” but it does not excuse it. mentally ill people, including those that experience psychosis and mania, still need to be held accountable for their actions. mental illness isn’t your fault but it is your responsibility.
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@EponymousDj @gxrlboi cis ppl (and honestly some binary trans ppl) still expect non-binary ppl to be perfectly androgynous or else they’re not truly non-binary. the mainstream “look” for a non-binary person is white, thin, physically able bodied, and androgynous. this isn’t an outdated ideal lmao.
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@untiltzuyu @femaleweezerfan @BetterCallBritt You can speak about your negative experiences with psychiatry while also acknowledging that a lot of people need medication to survive and not shitting on how disabled people decide to cope with their chronic mental health conditions. It’s called ✨nuance✨.
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@oxalisnebula @SpacemanSinbad @NiklausNDolores NO trans man benefits from the patriarchy, as it exists to serve white, cishet men. it’s also not uncommon for women, cis or trans, to perpetuate misogyny in order to maintain their status. it’s almost as if siding with the oppressor grants you social points.
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@ereshkigirlboss my partner had a queer masc friend in college that had a “strictly dickly” rule for their sexual partners, meaning they weren’t interested in anyone that didn’t have a penis. as a transmasc person i’m perfectly fine with this because people are allowed to set sexual boundaries.
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