A lot of coaches say they want to help you build wealth.
But what exactly do they mean?
When I say I help Black Women Get Rich and Build Wealth, I'm talking about a systematic process that deprograms poverty consciousness and transforms goals into reality.
Quick thread.
Whenever I encounter men who exude big provider energy, they are usually quiet and gentle but still assertive and powerful. Rarely boastful.
I always hope they find a compatible partner so they can give each other the world.
My boyfriend isn't romantic.
I've (mostly) accepted that.
And while I love romance, it's not a non-negotiable for me. Especially since he's very thoughtful.
Example: He rarely buys me flowers but orders many things I need, like my supplements, before I realize I need them.
The internet makes it so easy for someone to have thoughtful ideas to do for their partner, if you have to beg for romance they really just don’t fw you
Can I tell y'all something about estrogen?
Estrogen is often the hormone more closely identified with women. But let me tell you what it does.
Estrogen increases your verbal processing and your range of emotion.
Let that sink in.
As the eldest daughter, I've taken care of kids since I was 3.
By 15 I was leaving cheer practice at 5 to oversee homework, enforce bath time, wash uniforms in the tub, dry them by the fan, clean the kitchen, do my homework then go to bed to wake up at 6am.
My married friends are sooo happy.
The men cater to their wives.
The wives nurture their husbands.
Everyone is traveling and smiling frequently.
Disagreements are real but can be acknowledged and sometimes even laughed at in retrospect.
The glow is beautiful.
If I die because someone murdered me, please don’t say I would have wanted y’all to forgive them.
No I don’t. I want justice and vengeance by any means. 🥰
Teachers hated I was late for school everyday.
But they never asked why. And I didn't worry about it because I knew I was killing it. Graduated HS and went to college on a full scholarship.
This is why I know how to raise kids.
I think this is also why I don't have them.
But don't think anyone cares at all how I martyred myself. They do not. You can't do it for the applause because there is none.
You gotta do it from your heart or don't do it at all.
Again, this is why I don't have children.
@Hale_daQueen
@IndiaAlmighty
@fxckingVALID
I really enjoy when people share with me. I want to know your stories and experiences to learn from them as well.
If you just listen I usually say, "So, are you going to say anything?"
And if not I probably won't share with you again because it's like talking to a wall. lol
@THEEBlackleftie
He literally could have just left out that one sentence. Why do you want to tell people that you paid her dust and she accepted it.
Letting us know the relationship was based on alignment would have been beautiful and more than enough information. But no.
I be needing to get this out sometimes.
Because as I watch parents talk about how hard it is, I really did that for years.
I gave myself to my siblings and still got everything that was meant for me.
I want everyone on my timeline to have a tangible 10k in the bank (or more!) by December 31st, 2024.
Personally, I’m ready for my M.
It’s definitely a process.
In reading y'all responses I realized something.
This is also why I don't have many friends.
I am literally terrified of people needing me and taking away my freedom again.
It's selfish, I know. But it's like I have PTSD from not having time for myself early on.
I don’t need a cancel movement.
But I personally will never listen to another Brian McKnight song based on his own words and actions towards his first children.
I’m good on him.
It's been so healing reading the responses.
Personally, I don't regret any of it.
Being the oldest daughter has made me so fearless in life.
I stand up tall in places where many people would shrink.
We should've never had to deal with it, but we did. We're a force of nature.
CiCi the 6 Figure Chick has passed.
I didn't know her personally but I have many of her marketing courses.
She was such a kind person. She built a million dollar empire on instagram and showed others how to do the same with $37 products.
She was for the people.
Rest in Power.
I just don't think we're talking about the lyrics to In Your Hands by Halle Bailey enough.
She is never beating the siren allegations.
I'm in love with how unabashedly vulnerable and powerful it is.
Big "I'm her" energy with angelic composition.
I'm literally in awe.
We usually experience that men and women are different, but I never quite understood how this was connected to our hormonal profiles.
Estrogen says: Talk, share, multitask, love, connect and understand.
These are necessary for women raising children.
But it also
@JuvyWicks
It isn't a competition. All suffering is valid and deserves to be acknowledged.
However, the point here is simply this: If they wanted to, they would & could.
People tell us to forget about slavery PURELY because of anti-blackness. Not because they value moving on from stuff.
This is not an indictment of Sexyy Red as a person.
Saying anti-black stuff about her is simply more of that same energy.
I’m talking about the genre overall.
Car broke down in the hood:
Before I could cry a man came out of nowhere, pushed my car off the expressway while 3 different men helped and a woman stayed with me for safety.
Car broke down in the suburbs:
Those ppl left me for dead, okay!! lmao In the middle of the street.
@KaroroMitchelle
I think a simple, “X called to thank you for her valentines gift. That was really thoughtful of you. 😘
In the future, definitely be sure to let me know. It felt weird and uncomfortable finding out about it from her. I didn’t like that.”
will go far. ♥️
impacts how we interact with men and how frustrating it is to interact with them.
But the reality is, they are wired (and also socialized... we can't leave that out) differently.
They do not have the same verbal and emotional range (generally speaking)
they're like, "Why is she acting like this?"
We will literally respond differently to different things at different parts of our cycle.
The very mature and observant man knows how to deal.
This girl on Tik Tok shared how her step dad was basically her primary parent and took excellent care of her.
He waited until she was 21 to divorce her mom so she could grow up with a family.
After the divorce, he left COMPLETELY.
He started a new life and went no contact.
One reason I want you to save more is because I want you to work less.
I know you can spend a check and get it right back, but you deserve to have other pursuits beyond making money.
Saving your money is actually valuing your time, and reclaiming a piece of who you are.
@lmTheReasonWhy
You are telling the absolute truth. It's so easy for everyone (even Black women) to band together against Black women.
It's really sick and telling. I wish we would keep this same energy where it could really make a difference.
People realize their voice matters at weird times.
This is why when you try to get men to TALK about their EMOTIONS they say: Please let me be, I'm not a woman!!
And we just glare at them bc honestly, how hard can it be?
And it turns out, they literally aren't built that way.
Which they've shouted... but I didn't believe.
I can't imagine being married to someone who doesn't think it's an honor and a privilege to take care of me.
That's the vibe I need personally.
Y'all can keep these City Boys. lol
Also, estrogen increases around ovulation.
This causes you to be more emotionally open and receptive.
So if you wonder how on earth you feel attracted to someone when you know he's not for you, this could be one reason.
And this is all so confusing for men because
I watched a family member help ppl my whole life. Now she and her husband are in their 50s, struggling to make ends meet but the people they were helping are not in a position to help them. When you don't teach people how to fish eventually everyone will go hungry. Including you
Imma be honest.
I ignore some stuff that's going in our world so I can be happy.
My doom and gloom topic that I'm championing is finances. That's enough for me.
I'm not God's strongest soldier (anymore).
Get somebody else to do it. Respectfully.
This week, I lost 3 people I knew.
My great aunt. (Died in a house fire)
A distant cousin. (Shot and killed in Chicago)
A dear acquaintance. (Died of Lupus)
I grieve for each of them in different ways.
And of course, I'm reminded that tomorrow is never promised. ♥️
Did you know: It's hard for Black Americans to build wealth because as their income increases, they take on the responsibility of helping everybody!
IMO there is too much focus on "helping" instead of familial and generational wealth. No one wants to hear it, I know.
If you have a fairly nice car that you've had for the last 4+ yrs, I recommend you keep it in good condition.
Most people are not trying to see what these new car loans are looking like.
Once you're done paying your car note, keep putting that note into a savings account.
Story time:
So.. I went out last night.
This guy was making conversation and did the whole "The women in Charlotte are different."
So I asked, "How so".
Him: They want you to be so much
Me: I'm sure you're capable of being much. Do you have a job?
:: Pause...::
@sevendeadlytits
He does better than he did before.
I appreciate his effort and focus on the things he does well. Which is attending to my needs.
I feel your point though. I’ve just accepted that it’s not as easy for him as I think it should be. Glad your guy learned.
It’s sad watching flowers die.
Here’s how I use my Vday flowers to give them a new life.
- Dry petals
- Make rose water
- Make rose infused oil
- Make potpourri
- Add to candles
After seeing the concert, I'm trying to figure out how Bey can do this for months on end when it takes me at least one week to recover from a webinar. 😩
A few of you had mentioned that every time you find a man like this he's taken.
Do this for me.
Check in with yourself and see if you're actually emotionally available, optimistic and open.
You're almost there!!
Love you, babes!
If you have a second please just send a good thought, a good vibe, or a prayer to my nephew who was born 2 months premature.
He is having some complications and his nurse was just diagnosed with covid.
I believe he'll be able to feel all the good energy being focused on him.
When I was growing up my mom told me that I didn't need a man for anything.
My dad told me that ALL men are dogs.
But then my BF came and said," it's okay to need me."
"And when it comes to your wants and needs, just ask."
He taught me that I deserve support. ♥️
@womenceo
They are saying her hair was messed up. The edges should've been slicked but the overall style wasn't up to par either. According to the people who have nothing better to do than complain.
I date older men for a reason.
I went on two dates with younger men who didn’t open doors for me and it was a wrap.
I don’t need that type of gross negligence in my life.
A reporter asked Tyler Perry if he was doing this to capture the attention of Hollywood.
He responded in a laughter:
“You think I’m building and creating ALL of this for a Hollywood who has and still ignores me?” No, I build for those who see and need what I create.” From FB
My mom saw my post about Monique and parents not taking accountability and she... apologized.
It wasn't specific, but it was an apology.
I already healed (mostly, there's still a little bit there) but I'm happy for her growth.
The girl is very understanding of him living his life and she has gone through therapy.
But I am over here boo hoo crying and feel like I too need therapy about this!!
This how I know auntie coming.
Empathy on 1000!
@letitia_amore
I’m not speaking on her specifically. But yes, the degeneracy in the industry is just getting out of hand imo. Continuously promoting overly sexualized stuff.
So... I told my mom about this thread.
Baby, parents are never beating the accountability allegations I fear! 😅
I'm kidding. I still have hope.
But imma rise either way.
Being with the right partner is a success cheat code.
Being by yourself if you're not finding partners that match your energy is also a cheat code.
Being with the wrong person is a cheat code as well... to poverty.
Hear me!
I’ve enjoyed all the comments except the truly evil ones.
I responded where I could.
I wrote this in such a deadpan tone. My bad!! 😂
But having a relationship where we value each other is very fulfilling.
I wish y’all the love you desire and deserve.
♥️
I want my ladies to find a generous man to love on them.
Generous men ONLY! No exceptions.
And when you do, don't impoverish him.
Amplify everything he brings to the table.
Keeping your credit utilization below 30% will help you mantain a good credit score. But when you keep it below 10% it'll help you get your score even higher... just in case you want to be bougie and elite.
"Why should that matter? I'm trying to change the world."
Me: ::hand up:: Ok!!
I was so shocked.
As a man, why are you thinking about entertaining women and complaining about those women when you have no job?
I can't wait to tell babe about my night's shenanigans.
Many of my male clients are saving for a wedding with no girl friend in sight.
These are the type of men I have on my roster. They plan and prepare to provide. 🙌🏽
I really hate the popular beauty aesthetic for women.
I hate the exaggerated hourglass figure, the claws, the lashes, the makeup, the biker short two pieces and how everyone looks the same.
So many reasons why but I just needed to get that out.