Want to be successful? Here is a formula. Discipline. Hard work. Humility to learn. Delayed gratification. Refusal to quit in the thick of challenges. Many do not want these but you do.
Some people are so competitive such that their concept of winning is that all the others have to lose. This is not healthy at all.
You do not need to dim other people’s light just so you can shine. Just Shine!
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Respect is better than fame. Trust is better than admiration. You can admire people who are famous until you discover their character and they disappoint you. Do not seek to be admired. Be trustworthy and earn respect.
2 things to remember. Take care of your thoughts when you are alone. Take care of your words when you are with people. (anon) Develop the habit of looking at the positive in both things and people.
Somebody says: “Do not climb up the mountain so that the world can see you. But climb the mountain and get there on top so you can see the world.” This is a healthy perspective for life and career.
There are 3 rules in life.
1. If you don't go after what you want, you'll never have it.
2. If you don't ask the answer will always be no.
3. If you don't step forward, you will always be the same place. (anon).
To the young people who are still in school here is an idea. Do not rush into relationships. Focus on your goals, on being better, on gaining knowledge and becoming a better person. Do not be distracted by having to find the right person for you.
If you cannot change your job, then do whatever you can - to change how you feel about your job. Quitting a job in order to pursue happiness is not practical. Happiness is simply a by product of what we do and how we feel.
Here is a beautiful saying: The razor blade is sharp but cannot cut a tree; the ax is strong but cannot cut hair. Everyone is important according to his/her unique purpose. In areas of strength, we extend help to others who need it.
When you are very happy; DON’T decide. When you are upset; DON’T decide. When you are depressed and feeling down; DON’T decide. Stabilize your emotions first so you can think clearly. For me, I pray and it calms me and I ask for wisdom to decide.
Panic buying, fake news, fear generation. Alice Walker says: “What the mind doesn’t understand, it worships or fears.” Marie Curie says: “Nothing in life is to be feared, it is only to be understood. Now is the time to understand more so that we may fear less.”
If someone supports you, stay by your side during your most difficult times; this person is the same person who deserves to be with you and enjoy your success at the good times in your life.
Social media is many things but it certainly is far from being social. So many people are connected by it but they have become isolated. Control your screen time.
The hardest test in life is having the patience to wait for the right moment. Sometimes when things are falling apart, they are actually falling in place.
This is why I love this quote from an anonymous source: "Stop telling people your plans and what you want to do. Start showing people the results you have done.” Yes. This is always more powerful and it reinforces one’s credibility. PassionPurposeProductivity
When you are alone, mind your thoughts. When you are with a friend. Mind your tongue. When you are angry, mind your tempter. When you are with a group, mind your behavior.
Learn to walk away (this is courage and not cowardice) from people or situations that threaten your ethical and moral bearings, disrupt your peace of mind, destroy your sense of self-worth or self-respect.
Take care of your mind. Be very choosy in what you allow to get in. The secret to a cheerful heart is filling the mind with thoughts that are true, pure, lovely, and thoughts that dwell on the good things in life.” I sincerely believe in this.
Nothing starts easy. Everything begins with some level of difficulty, Even waking up requires certain efforts but one thing beautiful about life is the fact that what is most difficult is also the 'most rewarding' & satisfying as long as we go through it and not run away from it.
3 things that destroy career, relationships and life. Watch out for these minefields: IMPATIENCE-there is no instant success. Success involves processGREED-appreciate what you have but seek to constantly level up. ENVY - celebrate other people’s success.They will celebrate yours.
The beginning of anxiety is the end of faith, and the beginning of true faith is the end of anxiety.
Faith is: dead to doubts, dumb to discouragement, blind to impossibilities.”
You can break somebody’s heart like the way they did you. You can hit them back the way they hit you. You can even take revenge against those who have cheated or wronged you….but then there would no longer be a difference between you and them.
You do not know the heart of a person. You can’t see hidden motives or plans to put you down. But take comfort knowing that God sees the heart. So as you cannot determine what is in the hearts of other people; you would want to be sure as to what goes on in your own heart.
You are doing your best. You are working hard. You are giving it your best shot. These are things you can be proud of. Do not be impatient. Good results and success are preceded by a process.
Bryan got married this afternoon. This is good advice. "And when you choose a life partner, you're choosing a lot of things, including your parenting partner and someone who will deeply influence your children, your eating companion for about 20,000 meals,
Somebody says “Be careful who you vent too. A listening ear is also a running mouth.” This is so true. And there are those who would love to use your words and profit from it. Always better to keep your opinions to yourself.
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There are certain things you need to pay attention to. And there are things you need to learn to ignore. Not everything demands or deserve a reaction from you.
I like this quote. "Don't let getting lonely make you reconnect with toxic people. you should not drink poison just because you are thirsty.” Be wise. Be discerning. Choose the right company to be with.
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The older one gets, the quieter one becomes realizing that time is precious and would not want to waste it on a lot of nonsense that was done during younger days. Takes a lot of humility to realize this.
Some people are frank. When they speak they make others uncomfortable. They are sincere and they do not have hidden agenda. And then there are those who are charming, speak sweetly yet behave differently. By the time you realise it they have taken advantage over you.
You cannot stay motivated all the time. That is impossible. But what you can do is to stay disciplined whether you are motivated or not. And when you stick to your goals and deliver works of excellence, the more you get motivated.
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A reminder for single people. When men choose wives, let them remember they are choosing mothers for their children. And so it is for women as they are choosing dads for their kids. Do not rush and do not be rushed into relationships.
Being alone and learning to be alone has a distinctive power many do not have. Those who are constantly dependent on others may find life difficult to handle.
Effective communication is not just speaking but listening too. I guess we know this. But here is another lesson I have learned. I realized that I can be right many times when I just kept my mouth shut. Talking without thinking leads me to trouble.
Many people are still waiting for opportunities; others are busy creating it. It’s not luck. it’s hard work and preparation, Not chances; its choices. So create opportunities, work hard, prepare and make right and wise choices. Be patient.
Did you ever notice that those who do not know much have so many things to say? The experts and the specialists; they observe, listen, withhold judgment until they present their conclusion and then take effective action.
So the work is hard. The job is difficult.
Here’s the deal. Do not decrease the goal, do not lower the standard but increase your effort and your skills.
You have two choices. You can either work harder and increase the effort or you can lower your standard and take it easy. Never take the second option.
Never regret being a good person even to wrong people. Your behavior and character says everything about you and their behaviour and character says more than enough and loudly about them.
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Kindness is an inner desire that makes us do good things to others even if we don't get anything in return. It's done with sincerity & done from the heart.
There will always be people who do not share the same values with you and may not even like you and that is okay. Realize that not everybody has a place in your life. We do not have to please everyone as we are not running a popularity contest.
Miss going to church? St. Paul’s words in the New Testament offers us comfort. "The God who made the world and everything in it is the Lord of heaven and earth and does not live in temples built by human hands." What wonderful assurance. We can worship Him wherever we are.
I love this quote: "To give without any reward, or any notice, has a special quality of its own.” says Anne Morrow Lindbergh. This is why Scriptures say that "when you give do not let your left hand know what your right hand is doing."
Take time to recharge. We are like cars that need full charged batteries. It's hard to see where we are going when our lights are dim. Life is not the process of getting older, but it is the process of getting wiser and better. This needs constant recharging.
Somebody gave a bit of brilliant advice: "Make sure that you are better in person and in character than what you feature and present in your social media.”
In life, you will realize there is a role for everyone you meet. Some will test you, some will use you, some will love you, and some will teach you. But the ones who are truly important are the ones who bring out the best in you.
Humility is not thinking of yourself low but understanding that you are not better than others, just mere different from them and that you need the Grace of God to help you improve to become better so you can help others to become better too.
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We may not understand what is happening now. But somebody says: “For now, laugh at the confusion, smile through the tears, and keep reminding yourself that everything happens for a reason.”
There is this volcano. Then the Virus. And now typhoons. 2020 has been crazy and difficult. So I want you to realize one thing. Be proud of how you have been handling these past difficult months. There were silent battles you had to fight.
Rest well today and for tomorrow consider this:
Do not try to tackle all of your work at once. You will be overwhelmed. Do not return to your speed of work. You will have a gigantic headache. Build momentum and pace yourself.
Always be mindful. Don't be upset at every little thing that goes wrong in life. Choose the type of thought that allows us to steer and float in every situation, making the best there is. Many things are beyond the realm of answers, no matter how hard we seek.
A man was asked, ‘What did you gain by regularly praying to God?’. The man replied, "Sometimes nothing, but let me tell you what I lost: Anger, ego, greed, insecurity, anxious thoughts, and fear."
One thing I notice with successful people I encounter is that they are all poised, courteous, careful with their words. They understand the power of communications.
The people who insist that it is always your fault are usually the same people who would never admit they are wrong. It is not a good company you would want to keep.
Don't be disappointed if people refuse to help you. Remember the words of Einstein: "I am thankful to all those who said "NO", because of them I did it myself."
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Successful people don't get to win all the time. They probably win more than others. They most likely make more mistakes as well. But every success and mistake they have becomes more significant as each experience would bring them more depth and insights.
Do not be afraid of failure or rejections, what you should be work on is that you should not be stuck at exactly the same place and the same situation you were last year.
Hang out with people who force you to level up. We normally do not like them but we need them. And then there are people you need to disappoint. These are the people who want to see you fail.
Do you know what “being classy” is?
It is the act of choosing to be silent even when you have many things to say in front of those who would not be able to understand anyway. 🙂
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Some people are not really heartless, they have simply learned the lesson to use their heart less….and their minds more. They have grown and they have learned from past experiences.
You’re hurt and you’re offended. I know it can be painful. Don’t be depressed. Process the experience and learn most from it. God; and not just time is the Healer of broken hearts.
Growth without meaning and purpose is like eating just to get fat. Wanting to get rich just for the sake of being rich is the same. Growth should always come with health.
You cannot stop people from criticizing. It’s their version of who you are but what's important is the real you only you and God would know. Continue learning, continue delivering works of excellence.
Dress well because skills, competence and your attitude are not the first things people see. Author Zig Ziglar says: “You never get a second chance to create a first impression”
Want to share a nice note sent to me by a friend: In life, you will realize there is a role for everyone you meet. Some will test you, some will use you, some will love you, and some will teach you. But the ones who are truly important are the ones who bring out the best in you.
Remember. The moment you become successful you will have people who would hate you and try to bring you down. These are usually the same people who are in the same line as your work or business. Pay them no mind.
Great relationships are not just about chemistry or compatibility. Not that simple. Ask those who are married, But great relationships involve two crucial things. One is to appreciate the similarities and the other one is to respect the differences.
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For the gentleman and the lady; manners are not optional, they are intrinsic and essential. There is no need to be rude and act arrogant to feel important and to get attention.
Some people are quiet. They don't speak much not because they are dumb or blind, they are merely observing. Don't take them for granted.These may be crucial thinkers and important decision makers and we need to give them the respect they deserve.
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There are people who may not agree with you. Some can even be brash and rude. They want to fight you all the time But you have to be mature. Maturity is walking away from people and situations that threaten your peace of mind, self-respect, values, morals, and self-worth.
Insecure and weak people are always trying to impress other people. But the secure and the strong just do what they need to do without fanfare, noise or attraction. They do what is right and pleasing to God because that is all that matters.
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People reveal their true character when they could not get what they want. What they do next should be interesting to observe. Some exhibit grace and accept the situation and reconfigure a way to deal with it. You see the strength of character behind the person.
When a toxic person can no longer control you or use you, then they will control how others see you. The misinformation is unfair but you should stay above it, do not get defensive.
One thing I have learned about people is that those whom we label as “anti-social” may have been judged unfairly. Perhaps they just think deeper, they do not want to waste time on drama or inauthentic people. And this I would fully understand.
Half the year is over. The second half is here. I look forward to it with excitement and anticipation as opportunities to do better and be better. Hitting targets? Great! Do not slacken.
4 Things we cannot recover in life: (anon)
1. Words. After they are said.
2. Moments. After they are missed.
3. Actions. After they are done.
4. Time. After it is gone.
Notice that these are not complicated at all but are essential for life success.
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“Self-discipline begins with the mastery of your thoughts. If you don’t control what you think, you can’t control what you do. What is needed today especially among the young is to sharpen the mind and have mental toughness.
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Bashed? Slandered? Falsely accused? Chill. One thing I have learned in life, business and career is: Your opponents and enemies are not attacking you because you are weak. They are doing all those things because you are strong and they cannot stand it.
The most beautiful things in life are not things. They are people, places, and memories; They are feelings, moments, smiles and laughter.
Pain is a sign that we are alive. Problem is a sign that we are strong. Prayer is a sign that we are not alone.
Somebody says this beautifully: "Confidence is quiet and insecurity is loud." Rudeness and arrogance are simply tools a weak person uses to hide insecurities and use them as substitutes for strength.
When you ask for help, some people may laugh at you. But if you succeed, some people may hate you. And if you fail, some people may mock you and still laugh at you.
Some people may label you unkindly and call you names. Do not quit. Ask the successful ones. They have been insulted, attacked, maligned and offended when they were starting out in their business or career.
Somebody says, "If you are not willing to learn then no one can help you. But if you are determined to learn then no one can stop you.” This is so true.
Weak people seek revenge. Strong people forgive. Wise people ignore. (anon) Let me add that wise people learn from the experience. The wise and the strong forgive but are not required to conveniently forget the offense.
Every situation in life is temporary. So, when life is good, make sure you enjoy and receive it fully. And be humble about it. Then when life is not so good and full of challenges, Do not be depressed. Remember that it will not last forever and better days are on the way.
We all should fight the temptation to be mediocre and complacent and pursue excellence. Not so much as to be number one or to be the best in anything or everything but because of a higher purpose: There are people who trust in us. And we should not fail them.
Have you ever met people who say one thing and then do something else? Character is revealing not by what a person says but by what the person continues to do.
Be a person of encouragement. Better to be a good-finder instead of being a constant fault-finder. Give compliments and show appreciation.
Mark Twain says: “I can live for two months on a good compliment.” Encouragement is bio-degradable.
This pandemic changes a lot of things. Dreams and plans will have to change. But the key here is to compose yourself and prepare for the future. It is time to stop looking back.
Have you ever been in a situation wherein you had no other options but to pray? I have.
This is why this thought (anon) means a lot to me:
"You will never know that God is all you need until God is all you’ve got”
Mental toughness is extremely important.
Take good care of your mind. Fill it with good things and godly thoughts. Your mind is your most potent weapon. So make sure it’s loaded at all times. Loaded with good things and not with trashy things.
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If you are good at what you do, people may say it's so simple and they can do it better. Don't be mad. Don't be defensive. You don't have to argue or explain. Just let them.