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now with 9% more vitamins! sober code junkie (insert group identifiers here) 👨🏻❤️👨🏻 @ajlieshere
Joined August 2023
Yesterday we were chilling in the pool at the hotel. A couple in their 70s came in, and we started to chat. We talked about a wide range of things, from sports and leisure to travel to food, with lots of jokes and laughter. Never once did politics come up. In fact, husband.
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Had a bit of a health scare last night, but thankfully it wasn't a heart attack. Not sure what it was, though, because once they made sure I wasn't dying I was thrown out into the waiting room and 6 hours later I said f*ck it and went home. Canadian health care, folks. Best in
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First of all, no one cares. I'm not scanning your entire person through your forest of stupid pins looking for pronouns. Second of all, I can tell you're "queer," but you're still the same kind of annoying white woman you're ranting about. Only difference is you have hardware in
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Yesterday marked 5 years of sobriety for me, and it's become so normal that I literally forgot about it. 😂. If you had told me 5 ½ years ago that in 2023 I'd be sober, debt-free, reconciled with my family, and have a great job, I would have laughed in your face. I didn't even
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@MoreMoxie I don't have to act anything. We were both just being ourselves, and talking about the many other things we find interesting. Sorry if that's not gay enough for you, but I don't care. You're determined to play the victim so I'll leave you to it. Hope you find it fulfilling.
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Screw "normalizing" things that are shameful. What's the biggest thing we should stigmatize again?.
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@MsBlaireWhite The thing is, the gays who are against this stuff are also the least likely to even go to pride. We are certainly not the ones still organizing pride events in the year of our Lord 2024 as if we don't have all the rights we ever wanted and then some.
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This is the glorification of self-harm and I won't pretend otherwise.
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I'd like to put into words just how much the election results in the United States mean to me even though I’m not an American. I don't cry much, but I found, to my own surprise, that I was choking up on Tuesday night as the returns rolled in. I was born and raised in Canada,.
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All land is "stolen land," and the people they stole it from stole it from someone else. Also, if you're bringing up the "stolen land" you live on without giving it back, kindly shut the fuck up. You are an unserious person and no one thinks you're virtuous.
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What's the worst homophobia you've ever experienced? . This is mine
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Yeah, all 5'5" of her.
If you forced everyone to go the bathroom of their birth gender, that would mean trans men—like this guy—would be in the ladies' room.
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I always find it so hilarious when people who obviously couldn't fight their way out of a wet paper bag try to act physically threatening on social media. Girl, you're not scaring anyone. It's just further evidence of why well-adjusted and sane people should avoid you, as if.
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No, Mary, you were not "gay bashed" because an old man told you he's not gay. Grow a backbone and stop this annoying victim posturing. It's pathetic and weak.
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@TheRealPeterLeo There are some who would see our not talking about being gay as hiding it, but it was clear from context clues that we were together. When you start a conversation with strangers, you lead with talking about stuff you might have in common, not your differences.
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We need a word that means “not an amputee” for clarity when discussing amputees. Make up a word if you want, but we need a word.
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@PNWSelina Seriously. Not that I'd particularly care if it were only one pin. The idea that I'm supposed to immediately read the miniature signs you've affixed to your clothing like some weird instruction manual in order to navigate what should be a very simple interaction is insane.
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"It's a trans genocide, we're being hunted and killed in the streets!". What, by mirrors?.
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I don't see myself as any variant of the rainbow acronym, not even "LGB." I’m no more “lesbiangaybisexual” than I am “twospiritlesbiangaybisexualtransqueerintersexasexualplus.”. I call myself "gay" as a descriptor – I am a man who is attracted to other men, and yes that means.
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Oh no my appearance has been insulted by an 18 year old they/them with an Ariana Grande avatar. How on earth will I survive.
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@HazelAppleyard_ Saw this back when this first aired. The context completely dissociates Data's statement from anything to do with trans. It's an android. They get to pick and choose parts and appearance, unlike humans. A fact that was reiterated in just about every other episode 😂.
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@coldxman School-aged "biological males" are boys. I'm not disagreeing with your statement about lexical tripwires, but we need to stop trying to play in their field of insanity. Trip the wire and don't apologize.
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By the time you've said "I identify as," I've already stopped paying attention.
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@tisflying They didn't even do any blood work or x-rays. I suppose that might have happened had I been willing to wait 18 hours more.
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Gays and lesbians do not need your permission or approval for our exclusive same-sex attraction.
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Hey guys, maybe if you make your whacko policies even crazier and just keep shrieking RACIST SEXIST NAZI FASCIST HOMOPHOBIC TRANSPHOBIC MISOGYNIST RAPIST even louder you'll win in 2028. Don't do any self-reflection though, that's right wing.
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Most of the Canadians I know who are absolutely shocked and dismayed about Trump’s victory knew very little about the actual goings-on of the campaigns, only skimming headlines and hearing snippets from friends about how he’d become a Nazi dictator. Buried ledes were missed,.
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Gay is not a subset of queer. If you use that word, you're not talking to me. I don't need the WiFi password community that refuses to acknowledge and respect my homosexuality. Take your umbrella term, sit on it then open it up. ☂️
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Literally no one would mind if "non-binary" people did the exact same things they already do (get Annie Lennox haircuts and neon dye jobs, wear ill-fitting clothing for the opposite sex, etc. ) if they just dropped the whole pronoun game and admitted it's an aesthetic & a fad.
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"Sex isn't the same thing as gender, wow educate yourself". So then why are we changing sex markers on government IDs and birth certificates and eroding single-sex spaces and sports? Those are all supposedly based on sex, not "gender.".
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@HazelAppleyard_ This is literally just a "look at me I'm beautiful and I pass so well" post in disguise. Many such cases.
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@toughtalkty Gay male promiscuity is basically just male promiscuity without the limiting influence of the female. 🤷🏻♂️.
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Let's be real here, nobody's posting actual mental breakdowns online. They're posting performances imitating one. Poorly. What they're doing is attention seeking. Clout chasing. It's in no way authentic. A breakdown doesn't wait until you set up a tripod and adjust lighting.
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Look, some of the pushback to pictures like this is actually about "ew gays." It is. That said, if you didn't birth the baby (even if you're a woman), propping yourself into a hospital bed and posing as if you're recuperating after labor is going to annoy people.
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There are two sexes in humans: male and female. Humans can't change sex. Adults can simply be referred to as men or women. Not both, not neither. No need to prefix with "natal" or "biological.". Stop playing the ridiculous language games queer theory tries to entangle you in.
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If you could somehow delete the rainbow flag from existence, along with pride parades, drag, circuit parties, any representation or even mention in media and everything else associated with "gay" including the word itself, I would still be the same man, attracted only to other.
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I think all words need updating and modernizing, so I've decided that "vegetarian" also means "someone who loves to eat meat." . The old definition is too exclusionary. It's bigoted and carnophobic.
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This is not compassion; this is cruelty with a smile. 6 years ago, if this were available I would have taken it in an instant. I was deeply unwell and addicted to drugs, and the last thing I needed was the state offering to help me commit sudoku.
Canada will legalize medically assisted dying for people addicted to drugs next spring. Some drug user activists are calling it "eugenics" and say Canada should be paying for better harm reduction practices:
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@pk13510 • Victim complex .• No real interests or hobbies of his own.• Talks excessively about past relationships.• Manipulative behaviour.
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To anyone who thinks we need pedestrian crosswalks painted in Pride flag colours, I assume you'd have no issue if we started seeing designs like the one below.
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It's actually completely normal for a heterosexual male to be repulsed or grossed out by the idea of gay sex. It doesn't make them homophobic any more than it makes gay men heterophobic or misogynistic for feeling repelled or grossed out by naked women 🤷🏻♂️.
Let's just ask it, re several current topical debates: do you identify as homophobic?. I.e., are you at least a bit put off or repulsed by gay people and/or the idea of homosexual sex?.
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@wanyeburkett I'm at over 5 years clean now and the first thing I tell people asking for advice on how to help the addict in their life is "Stop helping. You're not helping. You're enabling them, and they're manipulating you into providing their next fix. Stop it.".
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I missed the America that was aspirational, that said you could do anything if you put your heart and soul into it. I missed the America that said we’re all the same race—the human race. I missed the America that said “I love you, even if we disagree.”. I missed the America.
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I really don't need rainbows painted everywhere and flags and pride season and all the rest of it to "feel safe." . You know we don't stop existing without constant adulation and affirmation, right Janis? . We aren't all broken people desperate for validation from strangers.
Hey Westlock. Banning a Pride flag or rainbow crosswalk won’t make queer and trans people go away. But it will send a message that they’re less safe to be who they are in your community.
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You people tore her to absolute shreds for her respectful and politely written letter of dissent in June 2020, and didn't let up one iota since then. She was and is sent astronomical amounts of written abuse and threats. She's now committing the crime of (gasp) sarcasm and.
June 6, 2020 — @jk_rowling claims she would march with trans people "if they were being discriminated against on the basis of being trans.". May 5, 2024 — Rowling joins in the cyberbullying of a trans woman for the crime using the term "bra-length hair". A sad, short 🧵:
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If we hear more about this story and it's not Democrat operatives who sent these messages I'll eat my words with a side of crow, but this does not pass the smell test. It reeks. Who else has a bunch of cellphone numbers on hand and also happens to know what race they are?
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@OGDykeNoQ There is legitimately no reason for it anymore. The real Pride died the instant it started getting corporate sponsorships.
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Thanks for reading. If you prefer to read it as a single-page article on Substack, my dear friend @hollymathnerd published it as a guest post here:
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My attraction to men doesn't obligate me to support 𝘢𝘯𝘺 cause, even if you slap a rainbow sticker on it.
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Sorry kids, but dictating how other people refer to you is not a human right. People being nice to you or even respecting you is not a human right, either. Stop relying on strangers for validation. Be ok with yourself, associate with people who respect you and ignore the rest.
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When I was 19, I had a job slinging coffee and befriended a 36 year old coworker named Michael. We'd hang out 2-3 times a week. I'd never had a gay friend that was so down-to-earth and with whom there was zero sexual tension in either direction. Everyone in the small town.
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I should really stop taking workout selfies before I actually work out.
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Teaching vulnerable people that their mental well-being is in the hands of others — of complete strangers who don't and shouldn't really care about them — is among the most despicable and evil things you can do.
Using correct pronouns is suicide prevention. Using correct pronouns transcends gender identity. Using correct pronouns is basic human dignity. Using correct pronouns is affirming and validating. Using correct pronouns is allyship in action. #InternationalPronounsDay.
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There are quite literally millions of young people out there who actually believe this fanciful bullshit is true. They think yaoi is a faithful representation of gay men.
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You want me to not give you a tip? This is how you get me to not give you a tip.
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And here's me visiting from Canada and feeling very welcomed by my boyfriend's Republican family.
LGBTQ Americans and the 2024 election: "I don't feel welcome here."
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Okay RuPaul, if you want to go there, my hot take is that many of those who say stupid things like "cyst yt gaze r faking masc and just h8 themselves" are in fact the ones putting on an affect. You're projecting. Effeminate men exist, that's real, but the "gay affect" is mostly
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Just imagine the response if a white radio presenter were to say "I have too many brown colleagues and it's affecting my mental health.". It's not any less racist when you turn the tables.
🎙BBC Radio 5 Live presenter Nihal Arthanayake has said an overwhelmingly “white” working environment is affecting his mental health ⤵.
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"C¡s white gays" are responsible for the vast majority of the rights we gained. We don't owe reverence or worship to anyone else for shit they didn't do.
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It is AMAZING to me how abysmal people's reading comprehension is. The replies and QTs to this are overflowing with smug condescension about "oF cOuRsE gAy pEopLe pRoTeStEd oMg" when that wasn't even the point of the original tweet. Hilariously ironic how they prove the can't.
I’m begging you to learn a single fucking thing about your own history
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@Indy_Game_Dev I've had panic attacks before when I was younger and this seemed completely different to those. Can't rule it out but it's not my assumption.
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I was just coming of age when the Twin Towers were destroyed in the terror attacks on September 11th, 2001, and vividly remember both that day and the years of fallout that resulted. My high school was closed, and the gym was converted into an emergency shelter for Americans.
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Oh gee, how ever did you find out that I used to abuse drugs and alcohol, sir? You must be like super smart and stuff. I've worked SO hard to keep that under wraps. I'm not proud of having fallen that low but I am proud of getting clean and staying that way. Going on 6 years ✌🏻
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Team Red promised a resurgence of the American worker (and thus their purchasing power), securing the southern border, an extensive review of the size and scope of the federal government and its hundreds of agencies, and a hopeful return to the common sense of the silent.
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This period directly coincided with the start of my own shift away from the left. The reactions from friends, family and in online communities to my refusal to agree with blanket statements demonising men and dividing people into racial hierarchies increasingly left me.
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