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Kids/teens want more friendship and less sx in TV/film bc they're lonely. We have destroyed their third places.
As one 10yo said in the study: "The Sand Lot is a baseball movie i like. i wish i could go outside and play like [they] did at the time. today its not safe." [sic]
Last week, the NYT put out an op-ed speculating that Taylor Swift is queer.
As an out queer person, I know that this speculation—especially on a scale like this—does more harm than good.
It's time to stop obsessing over celebrities' sexualities:
It is really frustrating to see people On Here claim they're puriteens, or destroyed by prn or whatever the hell. No. Kids today are lonely and isolated and looking to media for comfort and platonic relationship models. How sad is that!
"Adolescents are looking to media as a 'third place' where they can connect and have a sense of belonging," said one study author.
Read more about the reasoning here:
"Just 15 months [after 'Framing Britney Spears'], people are using a Snapchat filter to make fun of Amber Heard crying while recounting allegations of abuse against Johnny Depp."
Like
@kathrynfiona
, I feel insane watching the online reaction to this trial. It's abhorrent.
Happy to share I've been promoted to associate editor
@mashable
! Excited to shift my focus into crafting stories about sx and relationships and beyond. More soon!
the fact that sex educators and advocates have to use "seggs" and "s3x" online to teach vital info that isn't provided in the majority of schools......embarrassing
"The problem with Albie's perspective, of course, is the assumption that a whore, or an exotic beautiful girl from a foreign island, would have no agency of her own."
Amazing analysis of the SW on
#WhiteLotus
by
@tinahornsass
:
"Feminism is a scam!" is becoming a rallying cry among the tradwife/fem set.
Unknowingly, they're actually raging against capitalism — or they *do* know, and are the ones scamming.
2022 saw a rise of tradwives & anti-sexual revolution sentiment. Bad sex, in these people's views, is a result of modern feminism.
That's a complete lie. Bad sex is a systemic problem, a result of conservatism, and it's time to start treating it as such:
"If expressions of male violence that were once justified as 'boys will be boys' are no longer permissible, it will mark a major cultural shift, one which many men are not prepared for." essential reading from
@evepeyser
Freelancers: Have a pitch about tech and its intersection with relationships (romantic and otherwise), dating, s3x, etc.?
I'm accepting commissions on a rolling basis! Reach out to me: anna.iovine @ mashable dot com (no DMs please!)
Mastercard's new porn regulations went into effect a month ago.
Not only do these rules hurt sex workers; they also have massive implications about the future of porn—and the future of the internet as a whole. I spoke w sex workers and industry experts:
The NYT says we should use age-verification systems (AVS) for porn sites and skirts around the reality that they won't work. Aside from the huge privacy risks, AVS can easily be circumvented with VPNs.
More about this here:
"'This feels like a bad trip,' I heard someone mutter at the exact moment I leaned over to tell a friend the same thought."
such astute
#SXSW22
reporting
@bigblackjacobin
.
@IGN
management blindsided
@IGNUnion
and laid off 3 union members despite no economic distress at the company — and now they're letting outside counsel do the talking for them.
@yaelprough
,
@PeerIGN
,
@jwhdavison
, the least you could do is come to the bargaining table!
Recently,
@IGN
Management shocked us by laying off 3 of our union members in yet another company reorg. We are currently in emergency negotiations attempting to protect their livelihoods.
Here’s where we sit, and how you can help:
Hi everyone, busy day and thread. Just wanted to clarify that the CDCs preferred vax is the JYNNEOS which is non-replicating and safe for us AD/Eczema peeps and the ACAM while available is not preferred. Thanks to
@Miss_AshG
for that information.
"Thank you, former media columnist Ann Brenoff, for suggesting to a survivor of a shooting at a Fourth of July parade which claimed six lives that she needs to vote. I'm sure she’s never heard that before"
So incredibly proud of
@kattenbarge
for her fearless reporting on Hannah’s story for Insider and
@Casey
’s ‘Under the Influence,’ an intense must-watch of a documentary about unchecked power and control top influencers wield
Straight boyfriends of bisexual girlfriends this, straight boyfriends of bisexual girlfriends that — let's talk about lesbian girlfriends of bisexual girlfriends for once
I'm working on a piece for
@VICE
about what "vanilla" sex means in 2018/19 and I want to know what people (18+) think. If you can spare two min to answer from ✨ sexy questions:
The rise of Andrew Tate worship among school-aged boys further proves the absolute NEED for comprehensive sex education, which:
- increases recognition of gender rights
- expands understanding of gender norms
- improves media literacy and knowledge of DV
Another Pride month, another corporation lifting ideas from small queer creators.
I spoke with The Bottoms Digest, who's been making bottom-friendly recipes for a year before Postmates claimed to drop the "first-ever" bottom-friendly menu
A big update to "dating app for the curious" Feeld was delayed and delayed, and when it finally came it was plagued with bugs — including sharing exact locations.
Inside Feeld's disaster of a rebrand, according to users and two current employees:
As a dating reporter no longer in the field myself, I need to keep up with that world somehow...so, this is an evergreen call to DM or email me your date and hookup goss, if you ever just need someone to tell! 💌
TikTokkers in NYC are wearing oversized shirts to stop harassment, but the trend perpetuates the idea that clothes cause assault.
It's not true—assaulters cause assault.
attn current/former Tumblr users ‼️
Are there any SW or erotic artists or the like out there who were on Tumblr before and after the 2018 prn ban and want to chat with me about how the site changed? Would love your perspective for an upcoming piece ✨✨
DM or email in my bio!
While misinfo runs rampant on TikTok, the app removes content from licensed sex educators, pelvic floor physical therapists, and other experts that are providing essential info that kids — and adults — haven't gotten in school:
Rightfully, discussions about the Roe leak have focused on abortion rights, and tangentially about rights to contraception and marriage.
These decisions uphold the Constitution’s right to privacy. Another freedom at risk? To watch and make porn:
What kills me is that people who are against the WGA strike are likely underpaid and unappreciated themselves, but have been brainwashed by capitalism into thinking they and thus everyone else deserves crumbs
Exclusive: After a pilot where nonbinary Bumble users couldn't message women first (as its the app where "women make the first move"), the app will now let (they/)them message anyone first.
The app is also expanding gender options elsewhere. More here:
One thing I hear a lot is people asking to see more friend content in Feed. I'd love for there to be more friend content in feed, but all the growth in photos and videos from friends has been in stories and in DMs.
WALKOUT AVERTED: We have reached a tentative three-year contract agreement with
@ziffdavis
, averting our planned walkout over
#PrimeDay
. Among the highlights: Guaranteed wage increase of up to 3 percent and industry-leading AI protections.
This is the first national coming out day that I'm out to my family! Here's how that went:
me: I have something to tell you
parent: oh no
me: It's something good!
[comes out]
parent: I thought you said this was good!
Feeld recently updated its app and from the replies to this thread, it's not going well.
If you're a Feeld user interested in sharing your experience and thoughts on the update for a Mashable story, my DMs are open and my email is in my bio
Feeld is one of the largest communities for people of like minds and desires to make meaningful human connections, and we’ve seen tremendous growth over the past two years. As such, (1/6)
"We live in an age of...seemingly every song and TikTok and book using the language of introspection and healing and self-care, because we live in an age of increased isolation, of detachment from the messiness and joy and danger of the real, physical world."
"introspection can become a trap—a system by which you control yourself so that you do not disturb the peace of the world outside of you."
wrote an essay about our lives of "self care" and therapy and how we're probably just all lonely and understimulated
I wrote about casual sex, something people On Here and beyond have been hand-wringing about lately.
An anti-SW, queer-ignoring argument says that love is a must-have when you have sex. I think sex is more nuanced than that.
"You know, for the longest time, people didn't like me...But then over quarantine, I started doing what I call 'feeding the monster.' The JoJo hate monster." such a good interview by
@kelsaywhat
I spoke to two archivists of 'Anything That Moves,' a 90s bisexual zine that's as relevant now as it was 30 years ago.
"It really hits you that virtually nothing has changed about the outside perception of bisexuality and bisexuals," one of them told me.
(TW for DV, r*pe, etc)
It’s
#BiAwarenessWeek
, and as we celebrate bi people we must also draw attn to the hardships we face.
Bi people experience intimate partner violence at higher rates than gay, lesbian, and straight folks. I wrote about why here:
"He is charming and manipulative...He made everyone [he told] feel sorry for him."
Horrifying behavior from Mitski's (soon to be former? hopefully?) manager:
I didn't have the words to express my frustration about this at the time, but this is sex journalism being blocked by Twitter. Not only is content by sex workers and educators, erotic artists etc being removed from social media—now reporting on that stuff is too
I came out OUT, like publicly out as a lesbian 17yrs ago. Been in LGBTQ+ circles a long time. All bisexual women I’ve met along the way have ended up marrying men. ALL of them. I only know one bi man who’s married to a man. And I know plenty of bi men. Make of it what you will.
Straight man walks into a lesbian bar—no, not the start of a bad joke but rather some TikTok discourse about who belongs in queer spaces (shockingly: queer people!)
"Writing off any weird behavior as kink content further demonizes sex work as predatory and shameful. Social media users tend to assume that content they don’t immediately understand must be perverse, especially if it’s presented by a young woman."
New: multiple sources, including executives, explain why sites like Jezebel are being shut down despite being very popular. The "brand safety" industry has created a paranoid environment where companies are not prepared to run ads next to important issues