Steph of the FemPact
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Please, I beg you, let’s spare just one minute to raise awareness about this. These girls should not have to suffer this fate because they lost their parents. It’s so so wicked and dehumanising.
#sayNotochildMarriage
#KeepeyesonNiger
Marriage of 100 female orphans will go on as planned - Niger Speaker
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It’s how the big tummy shaming is reserved for women. Men are out there big tummy-ing & pot-bellying away but the shame is only reserved for women.
And May god help you guys that do nothing all day than shame people for their physiques. Weird, silly trend.
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Being fr is admitting that “some people” is in fact “some women”. Because men are not part of the people trying to rationalise cheating with y’all.
If anything, they assume the worst of women (paternity fraud) from the get-go and have women work their way out of that assumption.
You guys realize cheating isn’t a dealbreaker for some people? 🫠
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Women camped on that tweet and reclaimed the statement “pretty girls wear pink” from crusty-looking banger boys.
Love y’all fr.
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This is why we stay angry. This is exactly why I detest 50-50 conversations without nuance and empathy for women. She had 3 children, she also had a job, yet she’s dead from DV.
Abusive husband beats his wife to death in Suffolk with son's skateboard while police waited outside for permission from their bosses to go in.😳
Apparently the family only arrived from Nigeria in 2022. So sad.
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The 3 Ps of Nigeria (pastors, parents and politicians) are really so lucky to have us.
Muah, no accountability.💋
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In all of this, I’m glad gbadumodu is now synonymous with “conversation that shames or degrades women in any shape, form or manner”.
We’ve come a long way.
I, taves, solemnly swear never to involve myself in any misogynistic groupchat, community or conversation that shames or degrades women in any shape, form or manner, so help me God.✋🏾
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We don’t hate these f*ckers enough.
Kudos to President Tinubu for making this a reality! Fuel queues are now a thing of the past as Dangote Refinery starts loading PMS today Sunday 15 September 2024… F.Ote 💲
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@folababy___
They will also put themselves in harm’s way, too. Anything for that validation. It’s like a curse.
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“Get something doing. Contribute to the home. Don’t be a liability”
Why is she dead then? Why was she being abused? SHE HAD A JOB.
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Yeah. I’ve also noticed today that a lot of progressive women seem to have more issues with the process of name change rather than the principle of it.
Getting the slight ick from seeing “my husband is okay with it” on this name change issue. I know it’s not coming from a bad place but it’s still kinda giving ?benevolent misogyny? Like doing what you want with your name is still subject to a man’s approval?
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The only reason they’re entertaining this conversation is because it will encourage more women put up with their excesses when the time comes. So I need y’all to get a grip and quickly.
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Crying because this babe thinks she can be a pick-me today and express a progressive opinion tomorrow without having the same fools who clapped for her resist her opinion.
You will learn, dear.
I have a happily married friend who hasn’t cooked for 20 years. 😂 She has 3 kids and they’re happy and wholesome. Please know that your dynamic isn’t the same as everyone else. When you expand your world and circle you’ll see that in real life, cooking isn’t the only/major love
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@ijay_wayawaya
That’s sadly the way this will go. Benefit one or two “good” women in the public, and thousands of women will continue to suffer privately, because in the end, the system is not designed to relieve them of suffering and one-sided responsibilities in the home. It never was.
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These are the ripple effects we talk about and are met with dishonesty. It’s not enough to be working and contributing financially to the home as a woman, the burden of domestic responsibilities would primarily still be on you. And with time, you are forced to make a tough choice
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It always kills me when men come here and make the idea of a double income household sound groundbreaking. How many of your mothers were full-time housewives? How many child-free women of today are solely relying on income from their husbands to get by?
Nothing is clicking yet?
Lmao, I pity you people. We are in 2024 and the only way to achieve financial stability as a married couple or family is a double income household. None of that I’m the head of the family bullshit, everybody will and must contribute a quota to the family finances. Sure fire way
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Lmao.
I will personally step on magma on my way to hell before a man will validate my feminism in this one life that I’ve got to live.
You’re not a feminist. No. You’re just a bloody idiot who wants to make her own life choices the norm for every woman, their choices regardless. The only place you “support” women is nudity and hatred for men.
Get that faux life off the damn road, disgusting piece of sh!t
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Progressive men who view equality from the lens of what women should be doing and not their own duty towards an equal society, are some of the worst.
The world doesn’t automatically become fair or safe for women the very moment you decide to acknowledge your privilege.
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@felilahlah
Yeah, they definitely do not condone infidelity. Not them, not their family members and friends. Not even the woman’s family members and friends.
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The issue is passing off choices made to navigate a patriarchal world as progressive choices. The distinction should be clear at the very least, because even the choice itself contributes to the hostility toward the few women who resist it.
The issue is thinking that feminism requires making perfectly feminist choices in all areas of your life. It doesn’t and it can’t. Because to exist in a patriarchal world as a woman means constantly navigating through options you didn’t pick in order to simply exist.
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It’s tweets like this that radicalise me. The men who know but choose subjugation regardless. The men who are well aware of their privilege but mock other men for attempting to check theirs. It’s not a mere joke, it’s the existence, liberty & autonomy of women being mocked.
The progressive Nigerian man does not understand how men he considers less than him have their wives asking for permission to go out.
He wants this but he can’t have it. He is still stuck in Lagos traffic, there is no food waiting for him at home. He’s progressive though.
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The only group of women who suffer over name change are those who resist it. If there are social consequences for resisting something, those who comply with it contribute to sustaining the cultural expectation around that thing, at the very least.
Let’s be so serious, please.
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I hope it’s becoming clearer by the day that not a single social institution/unit primarily protects women? From religion, to marriage, to family, women – especially vulnerable women – are not guaranteed safety just because they are part of these institutions.
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Not just that, some people swore men would do the same for women.
So let’s say hello to Mr Veekee James.🤭
The other day you people were insulting women bc they said they don’t want to take a husband’s surname.
They said they were attached to their own name and identity.
Now you people are making noise bc they called somebody Mr Veekee James. So you know how important identity is?
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You’d think the resistance is coming from people who actually want to keep their names.
Foolish guy. You and the men resisting this are very very foolish.
If you can’t change your surname for a man, find a man who is okay with it.
If you can change your surname for a man, get you any man you like.
Una dey always do like say them force Una dey date people.
Ke koshi danu
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Their bargaining stage on day 2 was too funny, mehn. They said their flag has too many colors, so it’s understandable.😭
Wisdom really made that thread and excluded South Africa 😭😭 that kind of pettiness can only be gotten from the Nigerian blood in you
Ijbol 🤣🤣🤣
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“Two wrongs don’t make a right” people who are only ever invested in the second wrong will never have me fooled.
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@zealprecious1
@nazom_ngini
Lmao. Your nose is not red enough for a clown. You might also be needing a clown hat to complete the look.
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Everything women can do to not be in a position of abuse, they have done over time. It’s not new at all. A system that is not designed to protect you will always demand more from you till you reach a breaking point.
I'm from a lineage of women who are bread winners and I know the implication of that on the women.
Where a woman is a submissive breadwinner?? The layers of abuse is so sinister because yes she's independent and earns her own money but it's not enough to shield her from anything
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See grown women and men feeling deeply entitled to their mother’s labour even in retirement. All the while, popsi is nowhere to be found in the conversation.
If daycare costs $2000/month and you’re bringing your mom from naija to help, are you putting $1000/month in her account or is her payment the assumed joy she gets from raising your children and the eventual “Sweet Mother” you will play for her at her funeral?
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Women’s rights are regressing by the day but it’s the benevolence of a man who “tilts less to being traditional” we should applaud and make do with.
Please, move completely towards being traditional and send us a group of bears on your way out. Arrant nonsense.
Lol arguably one of the most progressive Nigerian men on Twitter who tilts less to being traditional, yet it is not enough. One day those of you that likes pandering to a set of people will learn, be yourself, they don’t like you anyways.
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@zealprecious1
@nazom_ngini
So your concern is reserved for her husband(a third party) and not even...her? Lmao.
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I know I’m just one person but I’ll never be caught streaming his music. I will also never rate anyone who speaks of women in this manner.
Goodluck to the masters in separation techniques.🫶
No like y’all can really forgive this?
Damn tell us how you really feel.
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@ozzyetomi
It’s how they convince everyone else that it’s their choice for me. I mean, never in the history of choices has anyone gladly chosen the barest minimum but okay, luv.
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What if I told you that you’re awarding her “best in craftiness” to cushion the vitriol she’s receiving from the girls over men & boundaries? What if I also told you that your insinuation invalidates the possibility of women being just like Angel?
What if I put it to you that that babe is very much calculated & intentional?
What if I put it to you that she knows how people will see her and her actions, knows that if they talk about it to anyone or even her, they will be dragged?
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That being said, we urgently need to evolve our understanding of feminism beyond the basic idea of a woman’s freedom to make a choice. It’s no longer sufficient to only consider the freedom to choose; we need to address the underlying factors that influence women’s choices-
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I believe this is regarding the SAHM conversation. So, on what basis are you choosing not to work? Would you choose not to work if coupling with a man was off the table? If yes, how would your needs be met as an adult… and a mother?
Can someone explain how choosing not to work = centering men? Because I don’t understand. Also, I made my tweet, you’re the one that quoted me. Now you’re subbing me in other people’s tweets because I have a different feminist take. If you have a problem with me, type it under my
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Hmmn. I’m thinking we need to crowdfund to get her a phone with a better camera quality, so crusty-looking boys can cry more.
Yes my phone's camera is terrible but you can't tell me nothing, I am drop dead gorgeous!!!!
Listen everytime I look in the mirror, I love what I see!!!!
I'm not a 10/10, I'm 1000000000/10!
Wait! Have you seen me?????! Come again I am not insecure about my looks! Go fuck yourself
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@Ariyoharyomi
Women (wives) have been ridiculed, slut-shamed, alienated and killed for less in this part of the world. But if you insist you know a man, who am I to doubt you?
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I mean, IVD and Osinachi’s husband still lead judgement-free lives devoid of public scrutiny despite their glaring involvement in the death of their partners.
The world is grossly unfair to women, it’s sick.
When wives die, everyone moves on and the man is left alone, because the woman's death isn't important enough to torture him over. Despite the fact that men are way more likely to kill their spouses than women are
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“Do you want allies or not?”
Yet they can’t seem to understand that it is, in fact, men and not just ‘some men.’ Even ‘good’ men who don’t stab women or hit them with a pestle, have the liberty of sounding this crazy and making light of our oppression once you hurt their feelings
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There’s like 30 billion shifts between you and his money but you don’t see Funke from Ojodu-beger talking.
See as Davido dy brag about Chioma cooking ,
but funke from Ojodu-berger that relocated to the UK 2021, dy say
I can't cook for any man 😅😅😅
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@AfroVII
And I wouldn’t necessarily call it hate for Erica. It’s more like his supporters are jumping on the “who she be?” bandwagon to keep women like Erica in check in solidarity for men like laycon. Hence, Erica must always have to be the villain in this situation.
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My people.
Mother’s side, father’s side, there was no escaping being an Itsekiri babe for me.🥰
His Royal Majesty, Ogiame Atuwatse III, the Olu of Warri Kingdom and Olori Atuwatse III, just graced us with their presence.
Ogiame suoooo!!!
Ogbowuru
Afoweretsewere
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@estudekay
@TheMolash
@youngie4real
@yewnde
@volqx
The poster did not generalize sha. That was an assumption on your part. Other people just happen to find her statement relatable - which again is not generalization.
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The way institutions have been carefully designed to revolve around men’s needs while subjugating women is so painful.
Because, of course, that religion encourages men to marry more than one wife whenever they please, and the wives are supposed to…just accept it.
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Hope this helps.
Everything women can do to not be in a position of abuse, they have done over time. It’s not new at all. A system that is not designed to protect you will always demand more from you till you reach a breaking point.
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There are more women with careers who are willing to contribute to the home financially than there are men who are willing to contribute to domestic responsibilities consistently.
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There’s something really sinister about men pretending to be women for banter.
His name is not Sharon. It’s DESMOND. Cowards hiding behind a catfish account
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Yet they did not lay down their lives for the women before us, your mothers who did everything nice for them.🤭
I don’t care how much you guys analyze shit but doing nice things like this for your partner can make them literally lay their lives for you
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Worthy.
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So it’s not enough to copy the style and wear your thing in peace, you have to reference the brand selling that same style as your inspiration and dictate to the owner how to feel?
When you create your own thing and they do that to you, be the bigger person.✨
On Twitter, nobody copies styles. Nobody uses Pinterest to get style inspos.
Everyone here hires illustrators to sketch their styles when they want to sew. 😂😂
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MSc. Big data analytics with distinction, you know.
I’m so cool.🥰
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Feminists can be extreme with their ideologies and opinions, but you want to enjoy freely sharing knowing a happy married friend who hasn’t cooked in 20 years.🤭
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They look so pretty and make incels cry. Long live that ministry.🤗
They can never make me hate materialistic Lagos baddies I’m ngl😭🙏
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Progressive men who still enjoy the full benefits of the patriarchy while expecting women to give up the few advantages they have under the system, before validating their activism, are among the most amusing types of men on this app.
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This one, too, will tell us tomorrow that she’s a girl’s girl because she supports women through anything as long as it’s their choice.
No obligation to show concern, exercise discernment, or encourage self-preservation instincts. Just women supporting women.
Where are all the Nigerians who think this lady was walking to her death? All those who think she will be used for prostitution?
All of you should hide your faces in shame!
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They are the same kind of women who were quick to criticize the girl who danced with oma* lay, exposing her to more bullying from men. It’s always about that need to show they are cut from a different cloth and can be objective unlike other “emotional” women.
Embarrassing.
If that izunna nigga isn't your friend, why do you feel the need to jump to his defence? And I'm talking to women please
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Because you’ve refused to address them as a collective or address her as a human being like the rest people, we must not leave whatever your point was to address how foolish calling a woman or women “item 7” is.
There must be something deeply wrong with you.
BREAKING:
Toke Makinwa included as item 7 on Tinubu’s 1,411 delegates to the Climate Summit in Dubai.
Since Toke Makinwa was included as “item 7” by Tinubu and his Gang to a Climate Change event in Dubai,
only God knows how many more “item 7” is on that list of 1,411 people
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@louis_mane1
@Oyiin_Bee
No one is stopping you from crying about these things on Beyoncé’s internet, love.
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If the process were easier, a lot more women would definitely indulge in it. Which brings us to the ultimate question, especially for progressive women:
Why you and not him?
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You cannot base a decision on the reality of coupling with a man and be offended that it is considered male-centered and not progressive. A SAHM should not be a choice a feminist is fighting to be entitled to. A lot of women are worse off for it.
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Why didn’t they just resort to a Top 6 with their chest? They are going to put a target on her back with this silly twist.
For real, what was the reason?
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I hope a lot more of you consider this nuance next time you argue FOR men about 50-50 in the home like the world has suddenly become egalitarian and women, outside of your own reality and good experience , are now being treated fairly.
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@_darniyel
Get out of my mentions, darniyel. I totally understand what being fun at parties mean. ❤️
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@nonifauna
I feel like there’s probably one grand experience that makes women decenter men, and then every other time, there are reminders on why you should decenter men in case you have forgotten.💀
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I made this insane palm oil rice + gizzard + fried plantain to compensate for the most stressful week, and it actually made me feel better. Just had another plate and omg.
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If you are a woman who shares her man issues with male friends, please take the advice you get with a pinch of salt except you really trust the judgement of the male friend(s). Men typically extend grace to other men no matter what the issue is.
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I’m doing this scared but feeling very fulfilled nonetheless, omg.🥹
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It’s never so much about the person who starts a conversation as it is about the reactions and sentiments it provokes. She may not be a progressive person, but there are progressive people aligning with patriarchal traditions in response to this.
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So many things going on in this story. Reproductive abuse, divorce stigma, the audacity & hypocrisy of a cheating man, the leeway that religion gives men to marry more than one wife, the sham that is a long-lasting marriage without happiness, and so on.
Aliyu (59) and Mariam (53) have been married for 31 years.
In this week’s
#ZikokoLoveLife
, they talk about marrying young, drifting apart 4 years and 3 kids after because of mutual infidelity & navigating the Gen X Muslim version of an open relationship.
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A lot of our mothers embodied these qualities and more and they were still the “doormat punching bag”.
It’s not a new concept at all, neither is it the ultimate solution to not being in this vulnerable position.
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The idea is to invest in and support women who will go on to create a safer space for other women and marginalized groups at the top.
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And this why I tell you people that the overtly sexual women get the short end of the stick as far as sexual liberation is concerned.
A lot of “ be sexually liberal but not to that degree else you deserve some disrespect” energy.
This thing you people are calling "sexual liberation" looks to me like a response to trauma. But let's keep pretending. Lol.
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You don’t become a feminist or ally as a man and then expect to start reaping the “rewards” of a fair/eligatatian society by 2pm sharp the next day. That’s not how it works. You people are majoring in the minor at a time women are picking being stuck with a bear over a man.
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The kind of solutions we’re coming up with easily betrays this. There’s been more, “oh, I didn’t participate, or know someone who didn’t participate in this because of how stressful it is and I’m doing okay.”
Process, not principle.
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Maybe I’m the problem because there’s no way I’m paying attention to 2 men on a podcast unless they’re discussing technology, sports or some niche topic, lmao.
It just couldn’t be me.
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You ask where the relationship is going and they translate that as “pressure” from the woman, which eventually justifies their withdrawal.
Meanwhile, when it’s the guy being persistent in a relationship, these are “awwww” moments.
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@cherishtonic
Sure. It’s just that the piss will not foam well if you don’t maintain one position, but that’s just me.
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@ozzyetomi
May god free my gender from the need to be seen as the exception in the wake of unfounded claims targeted at them.
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Please lock your comment. So that the fools who are in support of him can at least quote this tweet for reach.
If you’ve been a victim of abuse by
@SirJarus
and you were worried about speaking up,
@Lagosdsva
will listen to you and handle with care and anonymity. Please call 08000-333-333.
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If I talk now, they will say,” nA JuST cRiUsE...U cAnT TAke a JoKe.”
Cruise, but only targeted at women and their physiques.
Check your stomock size before you order Michelle belt o.
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These are some of the marriages marking anniversaries every year and used a threat to single people.
This man’s wife has a scald injury to the chest and would need to be on admission for a week. And they are refusing admission because apparently the man can’t take care of the child for a week, and he follows it up with he can’t even make pap. 🤢
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There’s rarely any man coupled with a woman who would remotely consider adopting the woman’s name or even coining a new family surname as newly weds. The meltdown on the TL to defend this choice by women should be a little more embarrassing.
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I’m now arranging for this, sweaty palms and all.🥹
Would love to share more tech opportunities with feminist women actually. Not sure how to arrange for that.
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I do not take it lightly in any way and may my feminism always be unsafe for men, especially men like this.
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I cannot thank Twitter feminists from back then enough.
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Show me a person who values the sustenance of an institution at the expense of individuals’ wellbeing, and I will show you a morally questionable person with a quickness.
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You people separating this man from APC and Buhari’s government are so foolish.
Even Yemi Osinbajo openly warned, but Yakubu & his gang, including all those phuuls that stepped down for that calamity in Aso Rock during the APC primaries, must answer questions.
They were all part of the rigging machine because nobody voted for him.
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*tweets about the overwhelming absence of men at a major event in their kids’ lives*
A Nigerian man:
What if the father is a bricklayer who works for 48 hours daily just to provide? He made the party possible. You want him to quit his job for a party? Kai. Marry well o, chief💔
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My own take is that approaching men first doesn’t necessarily make you “ in charge” if you still have to be proposed to, and have men determine the pace of relationships.
It just makes you the one who made the first move and I don’t care much for that.
Your unwillingness to approach men you like means you are stuck with only the men who approach you. You aren't attracted to "confidence", you're lazy and the that limits your pool of candidates.
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Across social media platforms, incels and misogynists still hold large followings, using their platforms to terrorize women and feminists while perpetuating harm. Yet the world and the owners of these platforms continue to look the other way.
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