LISTEN TO GRANDMÅ. 🙃 Keep living. Put on your tallest pump and get up and get back out into the world. You ain’t dead yet. 3x “Jeopardy!” champion. She/ her.
I lost a best friend of 16 years bc she chose a dress w/o consulting us bridesmaids re: any kind of budget, despite my asking her multiple times and her saying, “It’s fine,” each time.
I was paying my way through school and my mom had just begun cancer treatment at the time.
I disagree after planning weddings for years. Brides forget that their loved ones are people all over a few hours a day and do a lifetime of damage to relationships for something that will more than likely fail. Social media has brides wylin.
@sannetje_26
@oilookitsian
“I don’t want other cultures invading mine,” said the country whose biggest legacy is *checks notes* invading and colonizing other cultures for centuries.
I was working minimum wage and had no sense of how much to save, bc she refused to provide a number. I had been in previous bridal parties and they’d always discussed budget w/ us. We chose dresses that we both loved and could afford. She blatantly neglected to do any of that. /2
All of this was in spite of her already being $11K in debt from irresponsible spending habits before getting engaged. When I mustered up the courage to tell her I felt her actions were unfair, she shrugged and said it was her wedding. True, but it was our money. /3
In her words, she only cared about how the day looked in photos. The actual meaning of the day - celebrating uniting with the one she loved with people she loved - was completely lost to her. It was our only fight, and we never spoke again.
When I graduated and got my first position in my current career that fall, we hadn’t spoken in months. I laughed and thought, “It’s ironic … NOW I can afford to pay for a dress I don’t even need anymore. Six months ago, I couldn’t.”
Oh! And my grandparents had just died within three weeks of each other. Less than a month after Christmas. In fact, my mom got her diagnosis the day my maternal grandmother passed. I spent a month either at school, in hospitals, or at funeral homes. I was barely working att.
@VirginHoelite
@Bornakang
There are Asian people living in Brazil. The country’s had a massive Japanese population there for over 200 years. They speak Brazilian Portuguese with Brazilian Portuguese accents! Human migration is a beautiful thing!
@McJesse
@CarolineMoss
My parents keep my room in order for my goddaughter to have somewhere to sleep when they take care of her during school breaks while my sister and BIL are at work, because politicians won’t make affordable, universal child care a priority in their policies. 🤷🏻♀️
@Alyssa_Milano
@maryannborer
@TaranaBurke
Thank you for recognizing and calling out this gross oversight. The accomplishments of far too many WoC have been erased by media headlines like these. Thank you for amplifying
@TaranaBurke
and her tremendous work. ❤️
@leannelithium
The other bridesmaids were the bride’s sister and her fiancé’s sisters.
I should have known from the start when I got demoted from MOH to bridesmaid bc her sister threw a fit.
Anyway, this blew up, and I have friends coming over, so I’m going to turn notifications off for this thread.
Thanks to everyone for the support, kind words, and sharing their stories. ❤️
And to the one idiot trolling my replies: I wish you a lifetime of stepping on Legos. 🙂
@DrewAfualo
I love chocolate, but I’m not a big chocolate cake fan unless there’s a contrasting element to it, like a good vanilla buttercream or cream cheese frosting, or like with a Black Forest cake.
Vic has legit gone on record to say that her playing topless is not meant to be sexual. It’s a statement that puts her on a level playing field w/ her three male bandmates. It says that she has the right to be as comfortable on a hot, sweaty stage as they do.
@jloverbby
@summerLsteele
@chrissyteigen
@PressSec
Yeah, I mean, you'd think that'd be enough, since people like Summer worship motherhood so obsessively that they'll support a government who will force a woman to be one against their will.
@RdotSpoon
Put some respect on the woman responsible for the greatest face turn in cinematic history.
“Of course not, Mother. I’m only here for the food. 🙄”
@notcapnamerica
Their story is so cute, though! She was visiting family in Italy and saw him working as a lifeguard and thought he was cute. He liked her but was afraid to ask her out bc of the language barrier, so he spent the whole year learning enough English so that when she came back 1/
@notcapnamerica
… the next summer, he could ask her dad’s permission to take her out on a date and so they could communicate (she can speak some Italian but she’s also somewhat limited).
They already got married in Italy in a small ceremony after restrictions were lifted /2
@JenAshleyWright
@cisco3609
I agree; this is adorable. I've never been into the guys that try so hard to be cool and take the lead based only on what they want. Take a breather. Ease into things and read the GD room.
@cmclymer
I was out when he made a movie about PT Barnum. You know, the man who made a profit off of displaying POC and the disabled to the public to be gawked at. 🤷🏻♀️
@KevinMKruse
The KKK were terrorists made up of a bunch of cowards who murdered countless individuals, bc they were upset about losing a treasonous war.
Here’s the problem with anyone from the band making a statement right now:
Because he’s not mentioned outright, it’s just implied, if they say anything, it’ll only confirm the allegations are about him.
If they don’t, they’ll be seen as ignoring it. There is no good move here.
@chrissyteigen
Beautiful! My older sister was via IVF, but I was a “we just stopped trying” baby, too! The one and only time my mom ever got pregnant naturally! ☺️
@maggieNYT
If they treat their female employees like employees and not like their own personal, live-action version of Tinder, they'll probably be fine. 🤷🏻♀️
PSA: If you’re celebrating right now because you have such a deep, misogynist hatred for the person most affected by all of this, and/ or are putting the blame on her for her partner’s choices, you can go straight to hell. 🙄
@MissDlite
I’m with you. The dress, plus alterations, shoes (which all had to match suddenly bc she no longer wanted floor length), plus all of the other accessories she wanted, it would have been $500, easily. In 2008.
@sqiouyilu
@SocJustice_Now
Right? I'm Portuguese, and we were still literally dying on that hill up until the 1970s in Africa. It's a terrible legacy that needs to be accounted for.
@notcapnamerica
… about a year(?) ago, but now they’re doing the official ceremony for everyone to attend in the US now that it’s safer.
Look up the video where he mistakes Poland Spring water for Polar Express. 😅
@powersj_tx
@cmclymer
Yeah, watch any documentary on the history of New York (where Barnum's American Museum was located), and it's pretty clear he was a paternalistic, racist, and ableist huckster, and that's about it.
I just hope they’re both relatively okay.
And no, his choices last night are not a sign that he is. AT ALL. That is someone wilding out after what seems to be a pretty intense break-up.
Some of y’all have NEVER been in real relationships & it shows. No one has “moved on”. 🙄
@RheaButcher
@IjeomaOluo
When I was in high school I used "their" in my essays when writing "one/ someone" and got marks docked bc it "wasn't grammatically correct" to use a plural pronoun, and it still pisses me off to this day because "his or her" isn't gender neutral and is also clumsy writing.
@sqiouyilu
@SocJustice_Now
My dad was forced by a dictatorial government to fight in Angola when he was young, or be "arrested" (read: you disappear forever), and he hated every second. It messed him up for a long time, and he still won't talk about it.
@Mz_Poke
I’ve only been in two other wedding parties - my sister’s and my best friend from university’s - and thankfully both brides were nothing but considerate, their weddings were beautiful, and we’re still on excellent terms. Like it’s not that hard!
A PSA to parents who think it’s super-cool to bash teachers on social media:
I’m genuinely sorry if your child’s teacher is not up to snuff; I won’t make excuses for them. All I know is we have standards for online learning set by the MoE & we have to follow them as best we can.