Seamus McTier
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I got sober for me. Nobody else made me. No intervention. No treatment centers. No catastrophic events.
I woke up one morning after yet another blackout night of heavy drinking and after I came too in complete panic I did the usual checking if:
A. My car was parked
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@dpn_ray
Well done. Keep sharing your story as it will help others who are struggling with young children in early sobriety.
My oldest is going to graduate with her masters at 23. I got sober at 22. I'm blessed 😇
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@art_morehouse
@AP
We do that in SoCal. And we have rolling blackouts.
Apparently, the sun sets and the wind doesn't always blow. Who knew? So, we buy electricity from neighboring states that use, wait for it, natural gas. The same type of natural gas the state has closed due to enviro laws.
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At this retreat with 75 men. Average sobriety is 18 years. Longest is 50 years.
But AA doesn't work?
It works for those that work it. It won't if you don't.
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@MarcGoldwein
So, someone recovers from the virus and has natural immunity. But, the mRNA which only addresses the spike protein somehow provides broader immunity than a natural virus?
Can you show me your data that supports this hypothesis? (btw, memes don't count as data)
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@dnieporent
@DrEliDavid
@PhilWMagness
@FatEmperor
@ProfTimNoakes
@jeffreyatucker
@JordanSchachtel
@kerpen
@Francis_Hoar
@JoannaBlythman
@LukeJohnsonRCP
@zoeharcombe
Viruses don't cause unemployment. Govt shutting down businesses because of a virus does.
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When I got sober there very few with more than 20 years sober in the entire city of 5 million people.
I've counted at least 20 in my new home group with over 30 years sober in a town w/ 100k population
I'll be picking up my 35 year chip in a month. Book it, it's a lock. 😎👊
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I've heard in AA meetings, that you should "go to 90 meetings in 90 days"
I know a lot of people who did this. They shared in meetings. They sounded great. They didn't work the program.
Meetings can keep you sober for a while. But WORKING THE STEPS will bring real recovery
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Some people on here: "AA program doesn't work for me"
Me: "It's worked for me consistently since 1988. But I still have to show up daily to maintain my spiritual condition"
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Met with a guy I'm sponsoring the other day. Wanted to talk about his 4th step work. He informed me he had already made amends. I let him know there are a few steps he seems to have overlooked. 😜
He's making less and less meetings and "work is just so busy, I'm just
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@MartinKulldorff
@KelleyKga
@JeromeAdamsMD
Did the FDA panel really approve updating the mRNA shots without tesing/trials? Please tell me I'm reading it wrong.
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Just finished my 35th sober October in a row, and for good measure, I included all the days in between too.
Gonna see how long I can keep this thing going. 🙌
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@ylecun
@dvorahfr
@elonmusk
@ibeckermayer2
Yann is a perfect example of someone who got all A's and still manages to flunk life outside his echo chamber.
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At a recent AA retreat, we covered all the steps, and when we got to the amends steps, I shared something that was a key moment in emotional sobriety:
"I've been sober for over 20 years, and I realized I had only made amends for the wrongs I did. I never thought to thank the
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@kevinnbass
@joerogan
PCR tests that sample at too high of cycle threshold are prone to false positives. That is not quackish, that is scientific fact. The only peer reviewed study on the general public using masks vs no masks showed that masks were inconclusive.
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Even at 35+ years of sobriety I still have to spend time daily to maintain my mental well being. I have to practice my habit of focusing on gratitude and positive actions that are deposited into my piggy bank for those rainy days.
I have to remember it's life or death for me,
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Here is a little of my story.
When I began having problems with alcohol, I was reluctant to acknowledge my drinking problem. Those around me could clearly see that I lacked control, but I was in denial. Being young and Irish, I felt invincible.
Despite my relatively short
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When asked about the biggest mistake in 12-step recovery, I often point out the imbalance of focusing too much on fellowship and meetings, and not enough on addressing the spiritual malady.
Many get sober, feel good for a while, and enjoy the fellowship, but then the disease,
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Heard in a meeting
"If you haven't been pissed off by something someone said at an AA meeting, then you have not been to enough meetings yet". 😂
I remember back in probably 1993/94 I attended a men's meeting that was supposed to be "a great meeting, with tons of great long
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I've heard complaints about AA because some in AA give "bad advice"
Did they force you to act on the advice? Are you an adult person?
Bad advice is bad if you act on it. You're an adult, take responsibility for your actions. Read the big book, that's the AA program.
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When I was almost 2 years sober I met a girl at a work training. We started to date and she wasn't "in recovery", just a normal girl. It was the perfect situation. I wasn't looking for a date and was in a familiar place with coworkers who I'd known for years and comfortable.
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Hello I'm Seamus and I'm a recovering alcoholic. I've been sober since summer of 1988 continuously.
Is that impressive?
But, what is sobriety? Abstinence from alcohol and drugs?
What if I become a workaholic? or get addicted to video games, food, porn, 13th step work,
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In early sobriety, I was faced with a harsh reality at a 12-step meeting: a fellow member had tragically died by suicide. This news was like a punch to my gut. He was a genuinely kind person, surrounded by friends, and his choice left me angry. At first, I couldn’t help but think
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I only drank for about 8 years. I didn't drink everyday.
Even though I don't have DWIs, divorce, prison, etc..... as part of my story I did get lasting effects of alcohol abuse on my body.
Heart issues from binge drinking during adolescence and some other alcohol related
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I recently had a deep conversation with a friend who’s been my kindred spirit on this sobriety journey for over 35 years, as we both are working the 12 steps. This is someone I trust implicitly, a person I’d take a bullet for and who I know would do the same for me.
I reached
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'If you want what we have and are read to go to any lengths to get it, you are ready to take certain steps'
What do I have?
Well, in August I'll celebrate 35 years sober. I'll also celebrate 24 years married (and may I add, in a row to the same woman😎)
I raised two great
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@ChrissieSeeB
@Caitlyn_Jenner
@Moth74013415
A trans woman that competed on the men's team at the same university for three years.
You believe once they came out as trans the rainbow unicorn waved a wand and "he" >> "she" Are we suppose to ignore the 20ish previous years of puberty and development as a biological male?
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The secret to long term sobriety is accepting that alcohol is only a symptom of the root problem.
Then you can treat the problem and the symptom won't return.
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In sobriety, you can win 10,000 days in a row and then give in once, and you may never be sober again.
I hope when that happens to anyone, they can recoil quickly, recover, get back up, dust themselves off, and start over. Hopefully, that final drink or drug is the last
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If you are trying to do it "on my own" with this sobriety thing then I can tell you this disease plays the long game.
It's patient.
It will accumulate small benign moments until enough is available to throw an IED of emotional turmoil into your way at the precise moment you
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I read Bill W. went 6 months working with other drunks and NONE of them stayed sober until he met Dr. Bob. But, Bill W. stayed sober *being of service and trying to carry the message*.
And THAT is the purpose of service work. You stay sober.
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I've been sober for 35+ years. Most people I have met in business and in my personal life don't know I'm a recovering/recovered alcoholic. In fact, I have rarely ever been asked "why" I don't drink or am not drinking. I just don't order an alcoholic drink. It's nobody's
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A sign of being emotionally sober is listening to understand instead of listening to respond.
On social media it's reading to understand instead of to respond.
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My home group meeting had a man celebrating with 43 years the other day and a new guy picked up a desire chip.
In that meeting there are 15+ that have over 30 years sober who regularly attend.
Very wide sample of men with sobriety in days all the way up to decades. No BS
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Some people are impressed with amount of sobriety and place those with decades on a pedestal.
But what really is sobriety?
I was in a meeting once and a person shared they had been sober over 30+ years. Gave a very eloquent share.
After the meeting I was chatting with
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You are not responsible for being an alcoholic. But you are responsible for taking charge of your recovery.
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Real alcoholics are people who have lost their ability to control their drinking.
That's not just *my opinion* that's what the founders of AA wrote about in the first edition of the "Big Book"
If that is you then you have likely reached a stage where alcohol is no longer
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There is a passage in the AA Big Book that discusses living a "double life" which I believe relates to the concept of the "false self" as described by Thomas Merton and Richard Rohr in their writings.
In the Big Book, the alcoholic presents a façade to the world, maintaining a
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Another breakthrough in emotional sobriety occurred when I began actively listening in meetings or conversations, focusing on what the person was sharing about themselves and their own life. I stopped internalizing it as something directed at me.
What others think or say is not
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When I got sober I was living with a lot of guilt and shame. Some of it was for mistakes I made YEARS prior. I relived these mistakes over and over. I thought I was suffering from the past mistakes. But the mistakes had long passed and I was suffering for reliving them. I
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Newcomer: how do you work on your program?
Me:
I pray the third step prayer every morning
I read the book and write ✍️ in my journal, honestly.
When I have questions I find my answers with trusted friends.
When I'm uneasy I 🙏 for guidance.
It's my habit 4 34.8 yrs
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Many times when I read commentary about addiction the term "alcoholic" or "addict" is despised. It carries a legacy of shame and societal stereotypes that may never be fully debunked.
What happened to "accept the things we cannot change"? Hmmm?
I used to get hung up on this
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"Studies show that if you don't drink and work the AA program there is a 100% chance you will stay sober and your life will improve."
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While at my retreat this weekend, I ended up talking to someone who shared his experience with AA.
He told me he first encountered AA in his early 20s but didn’t embrace it until 20 years later.
He expressed regret over not committing sooner, believing his life would have
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In early sobriety, I could not fathom life without alcohol. Parties, weddings, dating, hanging out with the guys—every social scenario seemed soaked in beer and whiskey.
I worried about feeling isolated without a drink in hand, relegated to be the loner at parties, the quiet
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I’m humbled to say that I’ve been in recovery for several decades now.
This journey has been filled with countless challenges, but every day I’m reminded of the blessings and growth it has brought into my life.
I share my story not to brag, but to express my deep gratitude
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I've been preparing to host a workshop on Emotional Sobriety for our local AA group. I firmly believe that this is the key to achieving long-term, healthy, and happy sobriety. As I write, plan, and reflect on this topic, it strengthens my resolve and reinforces the importance of
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The AA big book is not a non fiction book.
It's a text book that is meant to be studied. Read. Reread. Discussed. The founders kept the messages focused and high level. The stories were written as more detailed personal testimonies of the time.
You study it. You apply it
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Being powerless over alcohol means you accept you can't get the genie back in the bottle, so, you stop rubbing the lamp.
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Alcoholics/addicts are very selfish while in their addiction. It's all about "me".
When they get sober and join a 12 step program they might recoil at the request to "help others" and "be of service".
Who me? Screw that, it's all about ME! What's in it for ME?
Denzel
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Back in April I started to write ✍️ about my experiences in 35 years of sobriety.
I hope it's helped someone. For sure it has helped me improve my thinking and give me clarity on what is most important in my life.
It has been a catalyst to kick start my program again. I
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I’m going to let you in on a secret that I heard years ago in a 12-step meeting, but it took me many years to understand.
An old-timer, Mike A., used to share this: ‘My sponsor told me that after 20 years of sobriety, my character defects became personality traits.’ It was
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A common paradox of 12-step recovery programs is:
“By admitting we were powerless, we gained power.”
This seems contradictory. How can admitting powerlessness lead to gaining power?
But in the context of my recovery journey, this admission is the first step to recognizing
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One of the primary reasons I frequently discuss emotional sobriety is that individuals in early sobriety often fail to grasp how deeply this disease affects their psyche. You believe you understand, but in reality, you don't.
This disease is a cancer in your core thought
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AA discussions can be frustrating due to endless debates about whether someone is "recovered" or "recovering."
The focus should be on discussing solutions, sharing experiences, strength, and hope, rather than arguing over labels.
#AA
#SolutionNotSemantics
#sobriety
#odaat
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I always get squirrely this time of year. I was very uneasy last night, and that continued into this morning. I stopped and got 3 donuts on the way to a morning 12-step meeting. Then I remembered, today is the day I buried my mom 15 years ago. My dad is next month.
It's amazing
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Unpopular fact. When someone says "I tried AA, but, it didn't work for me"
Translation: "I wasn't willing to read the book and discuss it rationally. I certainly can't live honestly, make amends for the wrongs I've done. I'm much more comfortable living an unexamined life.
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I am a recovering thinker. Thoughts are my problem and substances and unhealthy behaviors were my solution.
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Going to a 12 step retreat this weekend. May God have mercy on the souls of those men having to endure a weekend of me flapping my pie hole. 😂
I promise to be good. It's long overdue. I keep postponing it due to "life stuff" getting in the way.
I did a retreat at this
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@TimJDillon
Demisexuality is a sexual orientation characterized by only experiencing sexual attraction after making a strong emotional connection with a specific person.
Demi-Glaze is when you do it while under the influence of alcohol or drugs.
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The mind of an alcoholic in the throes of addiction is a very powerful force.
One time, years ago, a sponsee was waiting for a friend to come out to get a ride from an appointment. It was going to be at least an hour, so the sponsee had the brilliant idea to go have a few drinks
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When I attended church as a kid ⛪️ I saw people who talked about spiritual development.
But their actions did not reflect that.
AA mtgs can be like this too.
A lot of people yakking up platitudes and not working the steps or practicing the principles.
Find the ones
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There is a direct correlation to not drinking alcohol and staying sober.
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Step 5
"Admitted to God, ourselves and another human being the exact nature of our wrongs"
Step 5 is the boogieman that keeps a lot of people from progressing. That stuff in your mind that you are ashamed of or told yourself that "I'll never tell anyone about this. Or, If
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What is the one thing that
causes the most havoc in an alcoholic/addicts life and leads them to either relapse or become stagnant in their recovery?
Rationalization
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Last night, I had a long talk with one of my OG sober friends, someone with whom I can be completely myself, and they can do the same with me. We're part of a large group of young people who chose sobriety and have both been through incredibly tough times, more than once.
During
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Over the years, there have been numerous occasions where I received unsolicited *advice* from people who I met at 12 step meetings.
Fortunately, I ignored most of this advice, with a very rare exception. We all have regrets. 😂
People told me I wasn't going to enough
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Once I began to understand that the alcohol was not my real problem, I could truly start to recover from addiction.
It wasn't about trying to get rid of it or fighting it off all the time.
It was about learning to live with it and finding a way to stay grounded in a drinking
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"Go to a meeting"
For me that can be a very dismissive response in certain situations.
If someone is not sure if they are an alcoholic or addict and are curious 👀 then "go to a meeting" seems like an appropriate response and good advice.
But what about the person who is
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Gratitude is the secret sauce of healthy sobriety. Pass it on....
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Facing My '-ism'
In my journey through 12-step recovery, one of the biggest challenges I've faced is confronting the root cause – my '-ism.'
This isn't just a linguistic suffix; it's a representation of 'I, Self, Me' – a trio that highlights the selfish and self centered
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F.E.A.R.
False Events Appear Real
Or
Face Everything And Recover
I had to learn how to confront my fears and the irrational emotional reactions that clung to them like Velcro.
How did I do that? I used the 12-steps, talked to my sponsor, and consulted with trusted friends in
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What the shit in my head told me at one point in my first few years of sobriety:
"Why do you want to share at meetings? You didn't have as much trauma as those people.
You never had a DUI.
You never totaled a car.
You were never in jail more than a day.
You didn't lose wives,
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The only part of my "program" that I have done perfectly since I became an AA member is the not drinking part.
Some days I'm just going through the motions with my morning quite time and third step prayer. Inwardly rolling my eyes and I can hear the committee trying to
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Remember this.
You can't fix the shit in your head using the shit in your head.
Find people who have what you need and ask them for help.
Notice I said 'need' not 'want'
Be honest. It's the little meek voice that you always ignore for the shit in your head.
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Many people on social media harp on the fact that
'not drinking/using is the most important thing for a recovering alcoholic/addict to do.'
Yes not drinking/using is important.
But that is step 1 of 12. Some people stop there and just focus on not drinking or druggin'
As
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All the people I've met who have long term emotional sobriety started doing these things early in their recovery journey:
For them sobriety grew from days without a drink 🥃 to a transformation in their lifestyle and mindset.
In reality, a sobriety lifestyle can be seen in
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When you and your online sober friends decide to have a meet and greet. 😂
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Most people don’t actually hate 12 step programs.
The just hate one or more of the following:
Structure, accountability, self examination and the biggest one is being honest.
So they find something controversial about it and run with it.
Self will run riot or contempt
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@iam_emilyanne
It's like the time I told the doctor that the benefits of Statins for me was statistically insignificant. He told me I needed to stop getting my information from the internet. I told him it was from peer reviewed medical papers. He also told me the heart meds didn't cause
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I've been referred to as a "Big Book" Thumper.
Hmm, I'd like to qualify that a bit.
I'm a "Framework Thumper"
I like to find complimentary "tools" to the 12 step "framework". That's what the founder intended.
I always like to break things down to their core ideals.
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AA critics: "AA is religious and pushes the God thing"
Reality: "when, therefore, we speak to you of God, we mean your own conception of God. This applies to other expressions which you find in this book 📖 "
We Agnostics page 47
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How can you boost your chances of achieving long-term sobriety? Let's look at the data.
Before Alcoholics Anonymous (AA), long-term sobriety was rare, but AA changed that. Studies show AA attendees have higher sobriety rates. For instance, 70% of those attending 27 meetings in
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My journey taught me that drinking was a symptom, not the problem itself.
I drank when lonely, angry, or stressed, but it was a temporary escape, not a solution.
The real breakthrough came when I realized that beneath every behavior is a feeling, and beneath that feeling, an
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To me, the very reason addiction is so widespread is due to societal perception. The majority of society doesn't see addiction as a disease but rather as a lack of willpower or a mental weakness. This belief perpetuates the cycle, keeping people trapped in addiction, mired in
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'In my opinion' "The Four Agreements" by Don Miguel Ruiz can be used to compliment your AA 12 step routine
"Be Impeccable with Your Word"
Like Step 4 in AA, truth and honesty start within. Your words reflect your integrity.
🧵
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Seamus, why are you such a hard ass about recovery?
Because Alcoholism kills people. Are you still drinking?
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In 12 step recovery, "being honest" means straightforward truth-telling. But "being rigorously honest" means to be honest even when it's particularly challenging or uncomfortable.
This deep commitment rebuilds trust and fosters genuine personal growth and emotional sobriety.
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In my early days of sobriety, I often heard others reflect on the transformative power of Steps 4 and 5, describing them as pivotal for achieving relief and release from the grips of addiction. My journey through these steps, however, felt like undergoing an intense process of
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You don't have to hit rock bottom. You can choose to stop digging at anytime and pull yourself out of the pit. Just find your local 12 step meeting or a drug/alcohol treatment center and say "Help Me". Help is available and you don't have to ever drink/use again.
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You never feel like you know what you’re doing all the time in 12 step recovery...
Figuring it out isn’t part of the game, it is the game.
The fact you don’t know means you’re growing.
They’re called growing pains for a reason.
Remember, progress not perfection.
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@Sober_Kate
Kate, it takes what it takes to find out. Now you know. reset and surrender. We have all been there too.
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So, you know how sometimes you hear folks say in AA meetings, "The Big Book says..."? Or maybe "Well, the Bible says..."
It's funny because both of these statements can be spot-on or totally off the mark. And no, you're not going crazy or contradicting yourself by thinking
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I’ve been deep-diving into the debate about whether there’s a higher power or not. And it struck me, it’s a binary choice. We all believe in something. We are either Theists, who believe in a higher power of some definition, or Atheists, who believe there is no higher power and
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