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Everything in life is a negotiation.
Yet 99% of people are astonishingly bad at it.
Do you want to become a WORLD-CLASS negotiator?
Absorb this 🧵 & practice its content.
COUNTLESS hours have gone into it.
Reap all the knowledge in 5 minutes or less.
(LONG FORM)
@DudespostingWs
The importance of family has been largely lost in today’s society - particularly in the Western world. Yet one of the most heroic sights is a parent struggling against adversity to take care of their family. Having their back against the wall, but staying in the fight regardless.
@ChivalryGuild
It's not about scoring points. It's about highlighting differences in approach. Tolkien's work is fantastic, but it doesn't come close to the rigour of GRRM's work. & that's fine, because it's not meant to. Each writing style is quite different, & has a different appeal.
@DudespostingWs
When we see the real tragedies of the world - such as what this baby had to go through - our problems pale in comparison. So keep things in perspective. If you're reading this, be grateful for what you have. & try to lend a hand where you can. The world desperately needs it.
@_Pammy_DS_
Focus on building yourself. All the energy spent chasing others & relationships could be spent on forging yourself into a superior being. When you’ve developed sufficiently, you start automatically ATTRACTING who you want, instead of chasing them.
Whatever's your background, no matter you circumstances, you're going to face tremendous difficulties. It's a matter of WHEN, not IF.
That's why resilience is the ONE skill *everyone* should develop. Open this thread to learn how (science based).
Hardships build character. My life's a testament.
This 🧵 shows you how I've become one of the most self-actualized people on the planet - & how you can do it too.
Open it for 7 insights on resilience, antifragility, & the art of conquering life's challenges:
@InternetH0F
Never forget that interviewers & bosses are, ultimately, people. Most of them appreciate confidence - especially if it comes packaged with some low-key humor. Both of them probably had a giggle after this.
@Theholisticpsyc
Who you marry & if/how many kids you have are arguably the most important decisions you’ll ever make. These are especially the decisions where you’d want to be as conscious & as deliberate as possible.
@buitengebieden
These guys just added a decade to their lives. I’ve found that a key determinant of living longer - & better - is to NOT take ourselves too seriously.
Here's why exercising each day will 10x your quality of life (science based).
If you spend the next 5 mins reading this 🧵, your perception of exercise will forever be changed.
@wiseconnector
Part of maturing is realizing that you should never force or chase. You should learn to attract instead. If you can't attract what (or who) you want, then you don't deserve getting it.
@CNN
We are living in a failed society. What the world needs is kinder, more self-actualized people. (Collective)self-actualization would solve 99% of the world’s problems. & this doesn’t happen by accident. We need to deliberately, strategically, work towards this.
@bookpoets
Part of maturing is realizing that sometimes, walking away is better than fighting a losing battle. At some point, you need to cut your losses with certain people & move on. Life’s too short.
@piersmorgan
A person is heroic if they risk their life for a worthy, noble cause that adds significant value to society. At least from my POV. I am not very familiar with these exploration efforts. Would you say they fit into this category, and if so, why? Genuinely interested in answers.
We tend to scoff at what’s free.
Yet the ultimate magic pill for your health doesn't cost a penny (unfortunately for BigPharma).
What is it, you might ask? A good night's sleep.
Open this 🧵 to learn why it's s not a luxury, but a necessity (7 reasons).
@sleepdiplomat
Open this for a habits building masterclass (10 tips).
99% of us know exactly what to do. Yet we don't do it. & that's because we don't have a proper executional framework.
If you want to breakthrough, you need to focus:
(1) LESS on willpower; &
(2) MORE on habits.
We tend to scoff at what’s free.
Yet the ultimate magic pill for your health doesn't cost a penny (unfortunately for BigPharma).
What is it, you might ask? A good night's sleep.
Open this 🧵 to learn why it's s not a luxury, but a necessity (7 reasons).
@sleepdiplomat
@Culture_Crit
Suffering is a necessary part of life. Doesn't mean we can't enjoy life & be happy. But we have to accept this before we stand a chance. Instead of wishing our problems away, we should learn how to use them to live fuller lives where we evolve into better versions of ourselves.
@ML_Philosophy
You’re better placed to become self-sufficient. This in turn allows you to attract the right person at the right time, instead of desperately searching for a life raft (to cure your loneliness, boredom etc).
@MasculinePeak
I'd say: if you want to grow as a man, know how to pick your battles carefully. Sometimes, engaging with lesser people gives them more importance than they deserve.
@FitFounder
As is the case generally in life. Building takes much more time than destroying. Example: you can spend years building trust. But you can destroy it in seconds. So be hyper-vigiliant with your actions. Don't undo years of progress with a handful of bad decisions.
3) Find meaning in your struggle
Nietzsche: "He who has a WHY to live for can bear almost any HOW".
Viktor Frankl: "In some ways suffering ceases to be suffering at the moment it finds a meaning, such as the meaning of a sacrifice.”
Find your WHY. It's key for resilience.
@Theholisticpsyc
Yes. A key way to avoid toxic relationships is to become comfortable with yourself. As the saying goes, it’s difficult to be lonely if you like the person you’re alone with. Once you have done the inner work, you can then build relationships not out of desperation, but out of a
@ML_Philosophy
Tough question. Some pointers:
1. You’re best friends
2. You push each other to get better
3. You’re sexually & romantically attracted to them
4. You like who you are when you’re with them
First things first: what is resilience?
> It's the ability to endure hardships.
> Being mentally tough.
> Remaining unbreakable in mind & spirit, regardless of what life throws at you.
> Turning tragedy into triumph.
Without further ado, let's dive into our 7 actionable tips
4) Turn obstacles into opportunities
Marcus Aurelius: "The impediment to action advances action. What stands in the way becomes the way.”
The meaning of this iconic line is simple: there are no obstacles in life. Only opportunities.
But you have to perceive them as such.
2) Focus on what's in your control & accept what's not
> Accept the things you cannot change.
> Develop the courage to change the things you can.
> Cultivate the wisdom to know the difference between the two.
Easier said than done.
BUT: you now at least have the framework
Example: you lose your job in this tough economy.
Good - it's a chance to reinvent yourself. Maybe this pushes you to become self-employed & finally pursue your true ambitions.
Bottom line? You can always turn negatives into positives.
So embrace life's challenges 👊
@GadSaad
Our lives have become too comfortable. People are desperate for a higher cause. A challenge or a life mission. It’s quite unfortunate however when there’s a disconnect between the perceived value of this higher cause, and its actual value to the world & society.
6) Make peace with the worst case scenario
Even if your worst fear is highly unlikely, what if it happens? You're much stronger than you think. If you can find a way to make peace with a bad outcome, the fear of it happening will no longer keep you imprisoned. Set yourself free.
In summary:
1) Understand that suffering is part of life
2) Focus on what you control & accept what you don't
3) Find meaning in your hardship
4) Turn obstacles into opportunities
5) Overcome catastrophizing
6) Make peace with the worst case scenario
7) Focus on the process
@stats_feed
Gladiator. In many ways, embodies ideal masculinity = having a moral compass, being fundamentally good, family oriented, all while being extremely competent.
1) Understand that suffering is part of life
One look at Instagram & you think you're the only one with any real problems. But the reality is that bad shit happens ALL THE TIME in life.
Don't get deceived by the fake BS.
Life's tough. It's not just you, it's everyone.
5) Overcome catastrophizing
If you make a small mistake @ work, you're unlikely to get fired, never find a job again & end up homeless. Your brain is playing tricks on you. Building up fears that are divorced from reality.
Being resilient requires KEEPING THINGS IN PERSPECTIVE
Here's an earth-shattering realisation: being happy is NOT something you accidentally come across. It's a SKILL that you can develop.
If you want to be happy, open this.
The ultimate meta-skill in life is learning how to learn.
Especially in a world where most jobs are becoming obsolete due to technological advancement.
Open this 🧵 to learn how you can become an expert at anything.
This is how you supercharge your growth.
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@paulsaladinomd
The argument from authority she makes is, arguably, the weakest kind of argument in the science of “logic”. The primary point of focus should NOT be someone’s credentials; it should be the substance of their arguments. Have we not learnt yet that “experts” don’t always know best?
7) Focus on the process
It's easy to feel overwhelmed & quit when you keep looking at the giant mountain ahead of you.
Instead, armed with your WHY (tip
#3
), put one foot in front of the other. Break the mountain down into small manageable steps.
THEN FOCUS ON THE PROCESS.
@Theholisticpsyc
Well said. Addiction is not always about pursuing pleasure. Sometimes it’s about escaping pain. Paradoxically, our desperate attempts to alleviate the pain only makes it worse.
@SaveYourSons
Many reasons. But a key one: poor 'negotiation' skills. Because ultimately, negotiation comes down to communicating optimally and learning how to settle differences. Here's a thread teaching you how to do this.
@CNN
Alternatives to nutrient dense, minimally processed foods are not cheap if you pay for them with your health. Might be sensible to proceed with extreme caution, especially when the ingredient list has too many items - some of which you can’t even pronounce.
In summary, to manage your anxiety better:
1) Use the physiological sigh
2) Focus on the PRESENT
3) Get physically active
4) Clean-up your diet
5) Prioritize sleep
6) Overcome catastrophizing
7) Make peace with the worst case scenario
8) Use the anxiety decision tree
@DrNadolsky
How come diet soda is NOT bad for you? It might not be as bad as classic soda (which contains a ridiculous amount of sugar). But it definitely has a net negative effect on your health - e.g. by messing with your gut microbiome. What am I missing?
@DudespostingWs
Beautiful. A good deed is its own reward. We’re living in an age where genuinely good people are the exception rather than the rule. So whenever I come across someone being genuinely good to me or others, I repay the kindness 10 folds.
@MasculineTheory
Early morning. Training too close to your sleep time can disrupt your circadian rhythm. It activates your sympathetic (fight or flight) response when you’d want to be activating your parasympathetic (relaxation) response instead.
Emotional intelligence is a superpower.
Yet most people are astoundingly bad at it.
This is partially because we were never taught how to be emotionally intelligent.
But the good news is: it IS a learnable skill.
Open this 🧵 for your ultimate guide on EQ.
(LONG FORM)
@hubermanlab
Agreed. Put less clinically: sometimes it’s not change that poses the greatest danger, but the decision to remain the same. The safety provided by the familiar is deceptive. You need to venture into the hard & uncomfortable to have a shot at living a life worthy of your
@guideforlovers
This has 0 value-add either ways. Focus on yourself. Pursue your mission. Don’t fixate on dumb shit that doesn’t bring you closer to a version of yourself that’s worthy of your potential. Wish your ex the best. And move on with your life.
In this context, we'd recommend that you look at Viktor Frankl's "Man Search For Meaning".
If Frankl was able to use this to carry him through Auschwitz imprisonment, torture, & losing loved ones, you can probably use it to navigate your own personal hardships.
@LatinaCasanova
A man starting out should, first & foremost, focus on forging himself into something worthy of his potential. Once he has laid solid foundations for his future, he will have a much easier time attracting what (& who) he wants. Stay focused gents, until it’s the right time.
@KonstantinKisin
Our lives have become too comfortable. People are desperate for a higher cause. A challenge or a life mission. It’s quite unfortunate however when there’s a disconnect between the perceived value of this higher cause, and its actual value to the world & society.
@Theholisticpsyc
Starting point: recognizing that being a good spouse is a skill we can develop. We're not destined to forever be who we are. If things aren't working, there's almost always a possibility to change. To develop the requisite skills & break free from destructive paradigms.
@IAmMarkManson
Getting offended has 0 value add. Fine to shoot down inappropriate remarks; but do it because it’s the right thing to do and/or it makes sense. Don’t do it because you’re the victim of your own emotions.
@wiseconnector
Fed up. Not sure if it’s just me, but it feels like the world’s falling apart. From record high anxiety to mindless consumerism & rapidly deteriorating morals. It’s my mission to push back. How? Through self-actualization. Because that’s where solving macro-problems starts from.
@wiseconnector
Addiction to immediate gratification - in whatever form it takes. Whether that’s junk food, Netflix shows, compulsive social media usage or pornography. Strength of character = the ability to say NO to immediate gratification.
@wiseconnector
If you're a priority, people make the time. "I don't have time" is another way of saying: you don't rank high enough on my priority list.
@Positive_Call
Addiction. Not necessarily to drugs, as people often assume when the word “addiction” is used. But addiction to comfort and over-indulgence. Whether this is manifested through compulsive phone usage, pornography, junk food binges or mindless consumerism. Paradoxically, chasing
@MasculineTheory
1 minute of any extreme emotion. Whether it's lust, anger or greed. That's why keeping your emotions in check is not a luxury; but a necessity.
@JamesClear
99% of the time, people fall short on execution. Chances are, you’ve consumed enough info. So start taking action, instead of using further info collection as a form of procrastination.
@PhilOfLife_
They share with you uncomfortable truths that you need to hear, even when this leads to conflict. They prioritize your best interest instead of taking the easy way out.
@masculinesoul
People trying to better themselves have my FULL respect. It’s never too late for people to reinvent themselves. No matter what level they're at. No matter their age. No matter their circumstances. I wish you good luck.
@Culture_Crit
I think the world has, in many ways, lost its way. Compare M&S’s Christmas ad with Edeka’s from 2015. I know which Christmas I connect with more.
@ML_Philosophy
ONE thing to do in your 20s (& forever more): heavily invest in yourself. Ruthlessly pursue self-actualization. Because life can take everything away from you - your job, your loved ones etc. But the one thing you’ll always have is who you’ve built yourself into.
@TeenagerBook
Yes. Many people use the "self-love" / "me first" / "no toxicity" narratives as a cover to be garbage human beings. That's how they can think of themselves as "good" people even when they're not. While some of these narratives are legitimate, it's ultimately a balance.
7) Make peace with the worst case scenario
Even if your worst fear is highly unlikely, what if it happens? You're much stronger than you think. If you can find a way to make peace with a bad outcome, the fear of it happening will no longer keep you imprisoned. Set yourself free.
@Positive_Call
They don't compulsively react. They understand that there's a gap between stimulus & response - & in that gap, they strategically decide their next move.
@wiseconnector
Part of maturing is realizing that there is limited value add in explanations and endless 'second' chances. At one point, you need to draw the line and move on.
@guideforlovers
Regardless of whether it technically qualifies as ‘cheating’ or not, it’s probably problematic. Attaching labels sometimes distracts from the substance. The substance is: she’s hoping to find something in her interactions with the other guys. Whatever it is, it’s probs not good.
@buitengebieden
This is me trying to reach my elusive goals. But that's fine. Because ultimately, it's about the journey and WHO we become throughout the process rather than WHAT we get.
In summary, exercise:
1) Reduces anxiety
2) Helps with depression
3) Supercharges learning
4) Sharpens attention
5) Assists with body recomposition
6) Improves insulin sensitivity
* This thread is NOT medical advice. Always consult with your medical professional.