@BadMedicalTakes
She can be happy that sex is even a possibility for her.
Dilators come in when sex is too painful, to go from a very small dilator to bigger ones and then some time reaching a point where sex is possible.
If anyone recommends just having sex against painful sex they're a hack
@akkabah
I asked the midwife, because my doctor couldn't help and didn't have an answer. Both basically said something along the lines of "Well, it should be safe, as usually women don't have that kind of anatomy."
Well, thanks.
I'm intersex. No new species.
@akkabah
It's always pink and purple and "mommies" and shit and the whole 41 weeks I felt like I wasn't part of it.
It was all about women. Just women. And there I was, not exactly a woman.
I asked about my enlarged clitoris in a "mommy"course. If it would lead to any problems.
@akkabah
Oh and the women there? Never bothered for a second, that groups weren't gendered, or that I didn't really look like them.
They knew they were "mommies", even when they weren't told every five damned seconds.
@_jadeisabelle
I lost friends because I don't hit my kid.
Like, literally.
I didn't know they were the types for that and gladly they don't have kids of their own, but when he was 5 months old and grabbed my hair and they demanded I spank him, I blew up on them and we never talked again.
@akkabah
the word "mommie" plastered all over its purple walls.
When I came in, they asked how I wished to be referred to.
I had the choice between mother/parent/father or give them my own word I'm comfortable with. I chose parent.
@akkabah
And it was the first place to not try to sell me any homoeopathic bullshit or make me drink tea that should loosen my vag. (All of this doesn't work, don't believe it!)
No, they used correct terms for everything and didn't gender whole groups.
@Tiffany_L_Green
Mine is: C-sections don't get the aftercare they need.
New parents are supposed to be up on their feet mere hours after a major abdominal surgery.
I only realised how weird that is, when I had a smaller abdominal surgery and was supposed to not get up for two days.
@akkabah
And when I finally had the nerve to ask, they gave me a clear answer:
"Yes, an enlarged clitoris can pose a risk of ripping. But if you inform your midwife beforehand, they should know how to handle it and treat it appropriately. "
@akkabah
Coincidentally I'm also trans masculine, but that wasn't the important part back then. I can deal with a bit of exclusion and pink. I'm a big boi.
BUT: I finally found answers, when I came to a place that used inclusive language. That place wasn't bright pink and didn't have
@technoKyle
@iwantobehigh
With his Trump poll, there was another poll in the comments that voted 90% Elon Musk should be turned into a living cheese statue but I don't see him acting on that, strange, since he's all vox populi and all.
@wtvralex
I was raped, and my period was late after.
Luckily it was only late, but in the time it took for me to get a test and results, I contemplated suicide if I got a positive. I was 14 and my mum outright told me she wouldn't allow an abortion.
I had it all planned out.
@meatgirI
Hey Soul Sister by train.
It's that line about the untrimmed chest. I'm mad about that line. Why does he feel the need to tell us his chest is untrimmed? What does that add to the song?
@DiaryofaSickGrl
Can't eat soy and nuts.
I've been to the hospital twice because family thought "just a little bit" would be fine.
And after I left the hospital, both times they had an attitude of "why are you being so dramatic?" as if I hadn't almost died.
@mysicksadlife
Many of the replies also focus on kids getting vaccinated without parental consent and I really think that's super telling.
Being scared that your kid is responsible and smart is really something else.
@machineiv
I accidentally came out at 15 (a class mate saw me kiss my girlfriend and told everyone). My mum threw me out. I was lucky because my grandparents were considerably chill about it and let me move in with them.
@roseveniceallan
Queer Joy means, that instead of beating the shit out of me, when I told my family about my first (gay) crush, they would have supported me, told me I'm not broken and accepted me, which in turn would have lead me to feel joy. Joy at being accepted. For example.
@Esqueer_
I mean I'll take her by her word. If "The witch trials of JK Rowling" isn't about her being the victim of a witch hunt, she's saying she's the one hunting and trying the witches.
It must be either victim or plaintiff, else her name in the title wouldn't make sense.
@jk_rowling
He said ask trans people and experts instead of famous people who have nothing to do with the topic and that he's embarrassed to be dragged into this topic.
That's what he said.
@EndWokeness
Why are you using a picture of him as a minor and compare it to over 30?
Why do you think he looked better as a minor?
Don't you see how happy he looks now, why do you think the sad minor looks better than the happy adult?
Dachte mir, dass ich auch mal ein kleines TERF-Lexikon mache.
Für die Follower*Innen die da vielleicht noch nicht so durchblicken und die, die noch öfter drauf reinfallen.
TW Verschwörungsmythen, transfeindlichkeit, Antisemitismus
für den ganzen Thread.
@tybeaniebby
@SteveFares3
@BrodyLevesque
Easy. Whenever one of us is allowed to do anything, be it playing a role in school theatre, or placing 25th in a race, it's actually indoctrination and forcing everyone else to become trans, too.
(Sarcasm)
CN Kindesmissbrauch Obdachlosigkeit
Aktuell wird eine Suche nach einem 16-Jährigen durch die Gegend geteilt, der anscheinend weggelaufen ist.
Hört auf solche Gesuche zu teilen. Kinder laufen nicht ohne Grund weg. Punkt.
Was ihr stattdessen tun könnt:
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@ellieokwilson
My rapist got away with it, because they couldn't link me being drugged to him drugging me.
Yeah, there was drugs in my blood.
Yeah, he filmed it.
No, they couldn't find the drugs on him, so he must not have known I was completely passed out.
@imaginmatrix
Also, they're complaining about trans women supposedly misbehaving in the toilets while claiming "Everyone does a little indecent exposure in the bathroom from time to time, periods, am I right???"
@Glinner
Me, born with a uterus, who's style bounces between looking like a toddler who fell into a clowns costume box and wearing only black, I'm very confused as to why anything about this outfit deserves mocking.
I love the frog pants. I have a frog hat. 🐸
@CaelanConrad
They don't think for a second, do they?
"Oh, I'm part of an ideology who say's it's for gay rights, yet all my gay friends left me for being in that movement. It must be the gay friends who are wrong."
@the_tweedy
My gyn went to a workshop on (especially persistent) Endometriosis especially for me.
I'm her only patient with those problems (she does have a few endometriosis cases, but apparently I'm the worst case) and she's going to retire in a few years, but she made that effort
@DiaryofaSickGrl
People just can't accept No.
If someone has dietary restrictions, work with them. If you're not sure, ask if "just a little bit" is fine.
@KirkManIsHere
@mattxiv
You do know that surgical wounds heal, right? It's only a wound while it heals. After that, it's just a vaginal canal and a vulva.
@KatyMontgomerie
@SetHarthLives
The last wedding I went to, the bride demanded no one wear any black. Not even black shoes.
So my date wore a pink suit paired with mint green accessories and me the other way around.
Somehow, the bride wasn't fine with this. That was a bit narcissistic, I think.
@itsmariannnna
Hey, I had that same "friendship". Totally just friends tho, nothing to see here.
Our friendship ended after I came out and she had a fit that she's straight and that she couldn't do what we did with a lesbian lol
@batclowner
The small town I grew up in had a guy who had kidnapped and killed a bunch of girls back in the 90's. When it was happening, I was too small to understand, when it all came to light. But those girls went through horrible shit before they died.
And we all knew him.
Riesen Wirbel um Binder überall aber wenn Binder auf Grund der falschen Größe viel Schaden anrichten können und normale BHs bei falscher Größe auch extrem viel Schaden anrichten können warum behandeln wir das nicht beides gleich und sprechen darüber, dass BHs kacke sind?
@jk_rowling
And also: Journalism should report on the topic itself not on what which famous person said about it.
And he's quite right.
Factual research and good journalism could do so much good, but nooo all the focus on he said she said.
Hi Leute. Für die trans pride nächstes Jahr gebe ich ja ein Magazin raus.
Ich möchte eine Doppelseite mit lieben Worten mit reinpacken.
Will zeigen, dass wir den Kampf nicht allein kämpfen.
Also liebe cis Leute meiner Timeline:
Lasst was nettes da, das ich (anonym) drucke
TW Bodyshaming
Eine ÄRZTIN bodyshamed Patient*Innen im Impfzentrum weil sie bei über 30 Grad knappe Kleidung tragen und dabei dick sind.
Medizinisches Personal sollte wissen, dass bei diesen Temperaturen jedes bisschen Stoff zu viel sein kann. Gerade bei Übergewicht.
Ein heißer Tag im Impfzentrum, Tag der modischen Entgleisungen. Hotpants mit 60 und üppigen Kilos zuviel waren bisher das Highlight. Ich bin gegen Bodyshaming, aber manchmal könnte man doch etwas weniger von sich entblößen.
CN Kita die kein Muttertagsbasteln anbietet
Ich finds auch wenig überraschend, dass die meisten bösen Kommentare zu "Kein Muttertagsbasteln" von cis Männers kommt.
Auch in der nuklearen Familie ist eigentlich Job des Papas sich was nettes für den Muttertag einfallen zu lassen,
@DPiratenbraut
Ich war 14, er 17. Er hat immer wieder Druck gemacht dass es peinlich sei in seinem Alter noch Jungfrau zu sein. Eines Tages kompletter Gedächtnisverlust, am nächsten Tag blutig und mit blauen Flecken aufgewacht, ins Krankenhaus, angezeigt, etc.
Er kam davon.
Apropos Klima, Dings und so.
Ich mein, ich bin 29. (Happy Birthday to me!)
Ich bin nicht alt.
Aber Sommer bedeutet heute was ganz anderes als damals als ich ein Kind war.
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Zum Thema
#IchBinArmutsbetroffen
Fragt Betroffene die auf das Jobcenter angewiesen sind, ob sie Gutscheine von Supermärkten haben wollen und welche wenn ihr helfen wollt. Die lassen sich nicht zurück verfolgen und anrechnen.
@thornhawthorne
When ever I ask for a masculine cut, I get a softened pixie cut instead.
Literally being told the hard edges I WANT TO HAVE would make me look too ambiguous.
No matter how often I say that's the goal, they just soften it regardless.
@CaelanConrad
I bet that person wasn't even trans, but just had a deeper voice and was a bit chubby.
Last time someone thought I was a trans woman, the person complained I was huge and towering over my wife standing next to me.
I'm 5'2", my wife is 5'10", I'm transmac, my wife's transfem.
@le0nenrique
Bei mir gab es die ersten 6 Monate kein Geld weil meine Mutter eine Unterschrift verweigert hat.
Wir haben ein mieses Verhältnis und sie wollte immer schrägere Dinge für die Unterschrift haben.
So konnte ihr Einkommen nicht geprüft werden.
So bekam ich kein Bafög.
@planetstef
@briggityboppity
She's singling out all vulvas with small labia minora and calls them mutilated looking.
And tells the women confirming their look like that naturally they don't know their own vulvae.
What about that is good?
@JustxPink
@DesasterTristan
@blkgirllostkeys
I had a good friend who was always very late.
After I realized how much too late she'd be on the regular, I'd tell her a time and arrive when I knew she'd not be far as well. Or I'd take a book with me, grab a coffee and tell her to meet me at the park instead of the station.
@ClaireMax
I'm asexual and a lesbian.
I'm not sexually attracted to anything I see, but I can say that this is peak hot.
It doesn't do anything for me, but I can still acknowledge that it's freaking hot.
It's also super artfully executed and sooo pretty.
@ralphruthe
Was ist mit der Solidarität gegenüber denen die jetzt benachteiligt sind, die du predigst?
Tut mir ja leid, aber ich als Person die noch das ganze restliche Jahr und wer weiß wie lange Zuhause bleiben darf weil gefährdet, finde ich es echt kacke, wenn Leute die Solidarität
Wenn Kinder in Notschlafstellen für Jugendliche kommen, werden sie häufig bei der Aufnahme gefragt "Dürfen deine Eltern wissen dass du hier bist?"
Die Antwort ist meistens nein.
Und auch das hat Gründe.
Wir hatten öfter gewalttätige Eltern vor der Tür.
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It also includes destigmatizing not being interested in sex or specific sex stuff.
Sex positivity means that all sexual topics get easier to talk about.
Like OP said, it makes it harder for abusers when everyone is able to talk freely about sex, their interests and experience
sex positivity includes destigmatizing sex to the point where it's no longer controversial to have open, honest discussions about consent, power dynamics, red flags, coercion, safer sex, and so on. educating people about the nuances of these things disempowers abusers.
@CynicalEyebrow
@BadMedicalTakes
They think trans women's vaginas just grow shut if they aren't dilated.
Which isn't true.
Dilation is for the same reason cis women use it for. Stretching the tissue and ligaments. Making it more flexible.
**Edited so it's not potentially offensive**
@Maarva_Andor
Also, why should disability make me question anything?
Like, yeah, I know a lot of disabled queer people. I also know their disability stories. My own is rheumatoid arthritis since childhood in combination with other chronic illnesses since childhood. A lot of my queer disabled
@qqqqqqwwwttt
@ebonyplusirony
Naja, warum stoßen wohl gerade Menschen die von Rassismus betroffen sind auf Rassismus.
Sollte jetzt eigentlich echt nicht Raketenwissenschaft sein.
@polypocketknife
I have a lot of food restrictions due to allergies, celiac and lactose intolerance. I'm heavily allergic to soy and nuts.
I spent half my life working with nutritionists to build a healthy diet, and after all this time, the result is:
Eat what makes you feel good.
@CaelanConrad
And the guilt tripping about "I had surgery and you didn't even call!" Starts not even two minutes into the conversation omg, I would have just ended the call at that point. My mum was like this and it was just no use talking to her at all about anything.
@tybeaniebby
@SteveFares3
@BrodyLevesque
Oh and don't forget, us doing anything is taking opportunities from "real" people. Some other boy might have wanted to play the lead role in a school musical, and now he can't, because that pesky trans boy stole his role!
@ralphruthe
predigen diese dann nicht umsetzen.
Wir alle sind zermürbt.
Aber mit der Urlaubsaktion gefährdet ihr gerade aktiv die Leute, die euch im Urlaub jetzt Dienstleistungen erbringen, da euer Impfschutz noch nicht vollständig ist (und selbst dann nicht 100% ist).
@TheCriticMag
@CleverclogsNina
Doesn't that give y'all some clue?
Women don't want what you try to force upon them. Stop it.
You're not speaking for women, you're not helping women, you're not defending women's rights, you're reactionary conservatives and no woman needs you.
1. Macht euch klar, dass eure Hilfe dem Kind zu Gute kommen sollte.
Klar, auch für mich ist die Vorstellung das mein Kind weglaufen könnte schrecklich. Durch meine Arbeit in der Vergangenheit weiß ich jedoch, dass Kinder normalerweise einen sehr guten Grund haben.
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@galexy70
@acnewsitics
The guy who donated is 69 years old and a completely separate person with a similar name.
The shooter wasn't even old enough to make donations back then.
@hoovlet
@_celia_bedelia_
You do actually realise that to be reproductively mature, you also need to have reached at least tanner stage 4 for breast growth and genital development, right?
Kids who just started their periods aren't there yet. Period doesn't mean reproductively mature at all.
CN Alkoholkonsum Gewalt
Ich hab nie gehört "Papa hat mir keine Konsole gekauft."
Stattdessen habe ich oft gehört "Papa war wieder besoffen und er war aggressiv und ich wusste was kommt also bin ich aus meinem Fenster geklettert." oder noch viel schlimmeres.
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@lucystone1871
The maximum three trans women who get patches at the same place as you aren't the reason they are running short on them.
The 0.5% of the overall population aren't the reason those meds are running short.
Auch wir Mitarbeiter*Innen haben hier und da mal was abbekommen.
2. Guckt nach Vereinen die Kindern in solchen Situationen helfen und lässt die Vereine da.
Selbst wenn das Kind nach Hause will, bis es sich traut sollte es besser nicht erfrieren.
Bitte postet
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@CaelanConrad
Had this happen with my personal blog once.
I had someone write me that my writer Riley was in all reality a MAN who's a PEDOPHILE and I should fire HIM.
The blog post that sparked this (she linked it) was the post where I talked about going through a traumatic birth btw.
@RoxyTall
My mum spends her time crying about how ungrateful I am. She will die alone one day.
Everyone leaves her, because she is a huge bully. She's abusive, manipulative and frankly just vile. She spent my whole childhood telling me I'm worthless, now she's alone.
@Mianaught
@candiceteets
@emilykmay
@grizzlybizzly
I was 27 and had a 4 year old kid, grown with my own uterus before I found out.
It's mosaicism in my case. My genes are mixed XX and XY with inactive SRY gene.
Technically I'm genetically male, but nobody cared to let my ovaries know.
@hey_im_janelle
@Cooperstreaming
God, you know absolutely nothing.
I had my first endometriosis symptoms at 12, right when I started my period.
I had sex for the first time a lot later.
Endo is most likely genetic.
We don't exactly know what causes it yet. But too many virgins are affected, for anything
@SamkeloK
@Beefnado
@FemboyPaganism
Yeah, but for example, getting cheated on is also worse than your partner joining a ska band. Being beaten is worse than a ska band. But people don't call themselves 'cheater widows' or 'domestic violence widows' OR 'ska band widows'.
You're a widow if your spouse DIES.
3. Das Kind entscheidet ob es zurück kommt.
Alle Hilfen müssen am Wunsch des Kindes orientiert sein. Empfehlt keine Hilfsorganisationen die Rückführung im Fokus haben. Wenn das Kind nicht zurück will, wird es sich bei diesen Organisationen gar nicht erst melden
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wodurch dann wieder Hilfe fehlt.
4. Seid euch im klaren, dass viele Jugendliche auch weglaufen, weil sie Gewalt wegen ihrer sexuellen und / oder geschlechtlichen Identität erfahren.
Vertrauen wird ihnen sehr schwer fallen. Recherchiert die Organisationen die
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keine Notschlafstellen direkt, das ist eine Gefahr für andere Jugendliche die auf diese Notschlafstellen angewiesen sind. Und das sind eine Menge.
Gebt den Jugendlichen lieber die Resourcen zum selber finden an die Hand.
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@evelynharlow_
This is definitely just social conditioning. Crying is normal and can be important and what makes a person cry is super individual and should never have an impact, especially not based on gender.
Also, estrogen and biology are not relevant at all here. Natural high testo
Oh und: Ob das Kind von trans- oder Homofeindlichkeit betroffen ist können wir nicht wissen. Wenn es so ist werden die Eltern uns das nicht sagen.
Es sind aber viele der Kinder die weglaufen betroffen, also geht lieber davon aus, dass ihr es immer prüfen müsst.
5. Kinder die nirgendwo hin können halten zusammen, egal wie verschieden sie sind.
Wenn das Kind weggelaufen ist, gibt es wahrscheinlich keinen großen Grund zur Sorge. Das Kind schläft wahrscheinlich auf irgendeinem Sofa. Und wenn es nicht gefunden werden will, bleibt das so.
@KatyMontgomerie
Also, since when are we making kids who pretend to be an animal a problem??? When I was a kid, every class had their cat or horse girl up into high school. AND NOBODY DIED. And I think the ones I remember also grew up to be stable adults, so no harm done.
1. TIM
Trans Identified Male
So werden trans Frauen von TERFs bezeichnet. Oft ist das aber nur ein Begriff, den die radikalsten unter ihnen verwenden.
Absicht ist das Frausein komplett abzusprechen.
TIF habe ich im Gegensatz noch nicht gehört.
@la_guettler
@_celia_bedelia_
If there's one thing I don't have surrounding my period, it's shame.
Watch me walk into a room, announcing fully audible that it's shark week and I don't want to hear any bullshit or I'm gonna eat that person.
Yet I won't Winnie Pooh in the bathroom to clean my panties.
@CaelanConrad
I wrote those words in all caps because it's what she wrote in all caps.
She was convinced that I must have made up me and my kid getting in danger and getting a emergency C-section because apparently you can't do a C-section after 10 hrs of labor.
@SamkeloK
@Beefnado
@FemboyPaganism
If you're not okay with your spouse's personal decisions and divorce over it, you're divorced, no matter how hurt you are by your ex.
The word is "D I V O R C E D"
CN Transfeindlichkeit
Transfeindliche Leute: "Ne, dieses trans sein das gibt es so nicht, die lügen alle nur, trans Lobby, etc."
Trans Leute: "Ja, doch gibt es, siehe hier Wissenschaftliche Lektüre, außerdem warum sollten wir lügen?"
Cis people: "Why not beide Seiten?"
@mondschaf23
Also wenn deren Beschwerde ist, dass ihre Antworten sie rechts wirken lassen, würde ich ja behaupten, dass ihre Antworten einfach nicht so super waren.
Der Wahl-O-Mat vergleicht Parteipositionen mit eigenen Positionen und spuckt das Ergebnis aus. Wenn dabei rechte Parteien
3. Trans Lobby
Achtung, hier driften wir ins Reich der Verschwörungsmythen ab.
Es gibt den vergleichsweise harmlosen Mythos, dass es eine große, mächtige Lobby für Trans Rights gibt. Natürlich ist das auch nicht harmlos, aber es geht noch schlimmer.
@JenJ16941997
@JessPected
When I first announced I wanted a redaction, my ex mentally broke down.
Like, he sobbed, cried, screamed for me to think about it again.
I've been objectified prior. A lot. But this really took the cake. It was so over the top, it was sort of my feminist awakening.
@BadMedicalTakes
I mean, yeah, wearing too tight jeans or underwear which doesn't let air through IS bad for you, but it's also easily remedied by wearing cotton underwear and jeans that aren't too tight in the crotch.
Ladies, keep wearing jeans.
Also, I've never heard about soapy loofas used