If women can be breadwinners and still make time for all their children's activities / child care and domestic labour , does it mean that the former breadwinners have been using breadwinning as a form of weaponized incompetence??
My sister landed in Tanzania yesterday and then I saw that thread.
I sent it to her .
She has been documenting every single thing and sending me videos of all she does. Day 1 & my phone is already full. 29 more days to go
Ya Allah keep her safe throughout this trip.
Why is it strange that a 3 months old has to be dropped off at creche?
After maternity leave , you stop getting paid ; so how will a new mom feed if she doesn't go back to work?
Does your own company give 10months maternity leave ? OR allow moms to bring new borns to work?!
You will get the number because she doesn't want to get harrased or violently attacked.
You assume getting the number signifies interst?
When she's out of your space: she can confidently say, "I am not interested " and she's certain she will not be hurt.
Women that will give you their number and tell you they are not interested when you call or text them, Please what exactly is the colour of your problem?
In my 20s, I found love. Got married. Had kids. With 9 years work experience.
Now I am 30 and it's officially time for the
#career
.
I am ready to work , thrive , and earn.
I pray that God grants me that which is beneficial because I am in dire need.
After thanking me for dinner, my daughter came back and said I want to say something to your ear ," and I told her to just say it.
She insisted on saying it in my ear.
I gave her my ear, and she whispered, "God will honour you."
My whole heart melted.
Many ladies "looking for the fruit of the womb" are with subfertile or impotent men.
Give them a 21 year old, they will conceive immediately.
40% of infertility cases are related to men, 40% of women & 20% of both sexes
Women that are looking for the fruit of the womb wasted their fruitful 20s and early 30s. They slept with different men and had countless of abortions, now the babies killed in the process are hunting them. Shameful!
I thought I was a fantastic wife to my husband because I ain't cheating on him.
In my head always "I am doing right by our vows"
We had a long talk days ago and he had a lot to say & I was ashamed of myself.
Even men are afraid of what other men can do to their daughters!
Do you not see that this is a pandemic?
How hard can it be for men and boys to practice non-violent behaviours towards women and girls!?
Sadly, even babies aren't spared.
It is deeply exhausting 😠
Currently sitting in my neighbour’s house with their teenage daughter because there are artisans working here. The man begged me to finish working from here today and said “if there are two of you, they’ll think twice before trying anything funny”. These are the issues.
Eniola is a man.
He isn't raping - harassing- drugging- molesting and beating these women.
They all seem happy because they love him and are comfortable around him
If you like, do not fix up: be worrying about a kind soul who everyone loves to be around
@Miles1Dorathy
There is no world in which this behaviour is normal. This happens because so many of these men see children as an extension of their mothers' not themselves. It's shameful
@Holluwatosin19
@thekintann
It is called fully funded? No one said Man funded?
Even if the man funds it!
Why should I choose him over a degree?!
In all your years on earth, have you ever heard a man turned down any form of education just to keep his home/ union / relationship/ woman???
If there is anything I would never ever forget about Nigerian men, its the lady that celebrated being Cancer free years ago
NM were in the comments section embarrassing themselves saying her boobs were fallen
It was disgusting and shameful.
I think the lady took down the post
Men make time for football, gym , affairs , clubbing except their kids!
They are aware of what they are doing and honestly they don't care / feel like participating.
20 years down the lane, they would come here and remind us they paid school fees.
Fathers!!!
Pls attend your children school activities. I take God beg una.
I had to make excuses for less than 5% fathers turnout at my children's school Fathers Day event today.
Paying million as fees is not enough
Abeg una. Show interest.
@AbdulMahmud01
@ChifeDr
.
It's okay to just be a student.
It's okay to have just been sleeping, eating and spending time with your parents in the last 8 months.
As long as in 8 months you were a decent human being and didnt make life difficultfor otehrs. I belive that's enough
So, if ASUU calls off the strike now, what have used the past 8 months for?
What have achieved in these past 8 months?
How has your life changed for the best in these past 8 months?
What tangible thing can you point to?
Wake up at 5am. Cook for children. Do house chores before going to work (everyday)
They return from work and do the same(everyday)
But it's men at oil rigs that can't be active parents when they are home because oil spilled into their brains!
Women in India have been harvesting seaweed for generations, and the grueling job has empowered many to improve their children's lives.
But it comes with fatal risks.
@renoomokri
No one! Absolutely no one ever talks about PATERNAL ABANDONMENT!
You all focus so much on women for all the wrong reasons.
May God enlighten you! May He heal you of your pain , hurt and anger!
@akhivae
This is what so many Nigerian men love.
They saw thier mom do it for them and instead of them to marry thier mom for continuity, they try to stress àwà òmò isìyin like they call us.
@_aminayy
I can never understand why men choose to be evil & unkind to their own wives!
It can never make sense... I hate that so many women have to go through PAIN, HURT or some sort of SUFERRING all because 'marriage'
These type of men do not deserve any form of goodness
I am thinking of Dr Femi's wife who has to stand by the victim and ensure the perpetrator is prosecuted.
I wish her so much courage and strength during this tough time.
💔
And before you start saying "cant she stay at home and start a business"
Have it in your mind that not everyone wants to start selling baby wears after they put to bed.
Real life is hard and gives less options in cases like this.
So BE KIND to these new moms!
@TheOluwabukunmi
For about 2 days. I almost lost my legs..I was in so much pain from pre menstrual cramps. It took 2 injections at the hospital to get my legs to function properly. Day 3 , the period showed up.
Like, bruh! You did not have to be so dramatic 🙄
@aBikeDada
Someone once asked me. "I heard when you re pregnant, your libido is higher.
Me; Even b4 pregnancy, mo man wa on fire...🤣😂🤣
One day my husband looked at me said :you used me during the honeymoon
He says he hasn't recovered.😆😅
I am jealous of people that are actually "earning" 😔
People who can pay for thier vacation yearly, pay rent , give charity, eat good meals , pay other bills and still gave enough to save & spend till the next pay day.
May you always be amongst The Haves.
My sister's Nikkah was today. From the lecture, I took home :
È ďi ra yin mu (hold yourselves)
È duro ti ra yin (stand by each other)
Also said to the bride and groom "to do marriage as a service to Allah"
May Allah make worshipping Him through marriage easy🙏
It's either you people are lying or being dishonest or work in an only male staffed organization that's why you dont know how many working days maternity leave is
And if you dont resume as expected, you will loose your job!
So tell me experts, what is a new mom suppose to do?
@vickixlee_
B4 I entered Uni ,my mom called me and said
"If I pierce my ear, she would cut if of"
I am married with 2 kids and I still can't..
My hair is gold and everytime she visits, she looks at me like she's disappointed 😞
@justthoughtsapl
I adore women so much. I don't know how they do it or where they get strength, but they get things (everything) done. And I think it stems from knowing that 'no one is coming to save them' (partners inclusive)
@Postsubman
The comment shows that so many of you like seeing women suffer in misery & the moment a woman is happy, you become so angry because how dare she be happy without a man.
È ñ shì ere!
I truly pray for more wisdom and grace as regards
#marriage
because its a lot of work & you have to put in the required amount in order for it to work or have a happily ever after.
Ko easy mehn! But may the Almighty make it easier for me and us all.
💕💕💕💕💕
@proudnursemj
You Declined 🙄
But wanted his money🙄
You know he wants you and you sent account number.🙄
Gurl! Return the guys money.🙄
Let him send it to someone who will say Yes and not tweet about it.
Anything that doesn't include multiple wives! They can't dedicate their time and energy into it.
But see them! Head Of Homes O! They can't worship Allah till their feet hurt
That's why they'd always seek out religious women! They are too lazy to put in the work.
@_oyewoleg
All the places I have worked. My mom visits to see my boss and colleagues..She says hi & ask how I am doing at work.
Your parents are amazing. May the Almighty give them good health and long life.
Congratulations on the new job
💕💕💕💕💕💕💕
@litionee
@BlessingsDigha
@lagosstategov
For a country with no abortion rights...Its important any pregnant person who walks in is provided the adequate care / service regardless or their age!
This is total BS! And an infringement of women's right!
If the total of all kids school fee is 1.5M and your wife sends 700k to you & say "babe this is my contribution for school fees"
I am sure you will be thrilled
The same way if I have 10 chores lined up and wake up to meet 6 done , I will also say Thank You
Isn't that KINDNESS
@ChigozieObi_
And when there is no water, the house has a foul smell and you just hate every single thing and nothing will give you joy until there is light to pump water
You cant even cook because everywhere will irritate you
@Latifancy18
You all make our work in real life difficult.
No Means No
Yes Means Yes
Leave Me Alone Means Leave Me Alone
You asked to be left alone! Why do you need to be coerced?
Shortly before I closed from work, I spoke with my kids and told them to wait up for me
I closed at 9pm, got downstairs and met my husband and kids waiting by my car.
My heart literally exploded 🥺🥺
You should have seen the way I ran to hug them
The Million Little Things ♥️
This is why I insist on women having the amount of children they (woman) can care for : not that amount a man wants.
Because when you stop being loved , your children will be affected. You d go from them being provided for - getting nothing and all the burden is on you.
When I made this tweet about men not wanting to pay child support because they no longer love the mother, and by extension, their children, they called me a mad woman
Now according to statistics, guess what the biggest indicator for a man abandoning his child is, just guess🙃
@DONJAZZY
Asin 1.5M left you are account and you are still breathing?!
SubhanAllah!
May the Almighty continue to bless and have mercy on you!
💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕
The other day, I was at PEP and got something worth N19,686. I got home: checked my debit alert and I was debited N10,686.
The following week I went with receipts to explain & pay shortfall.
Today I went shopping at PEP and I was given a discount because of my
#Kindness
My mom is 55 today🥳💜
Ya Allah grant her ease , happiness good health & have mercy on her and make her experience a healthy love before she leaves this world.
Maybe she's exhausted. Maybe she's suffering from post partum depression. Maybe she is already back at work during the day, awake at night feeding the baby and needs a break.
Maybe he should lend a helping hand, help clean the kitchen, help wash the plates, help change the baby.
@hair_on_budget_
Going through your partners phone isn't looking for trouble! Because they are meant to be committed to ONLY YOU & you should never find heartbreaking content on any of thier devices!
*I pray you truly heal and find strength to deal with this*
So sorry darling
@NdaliOzegbe
Anytime I see Harry & Meghan, the only thing that comes to mind is
"Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.”
@The__Vyrus
We never judge those who have kids!
Why do we judge those who don't want kids?
No one ever ask moms if they regret having kids
But you all are assuming she will regret her decision.
Its important to respect the LIFE CHOICES of others!
We all can't desire the SAME THINGS!
My daughter has been ill since Sunday and hasn't been in school
Today we received a carton of Ribena and this card.
I keep reading the note in the card and I love the Kindness and thoughtfulness behind this.
@aBikeDada
I can relate to this.
My husband keeps reminding me me I am pregnant.
I tell him; baba the baby can never get hurt. Pennis can't even reach there.🤣😂😅😂
@bibilamour04
And you wonder why woman are not having kids or having one
The system isn't fair to them
Cos the rules are basically saying "either you dont have kids and have it good or have kids and you experience a little bit of suffering and inconvenience"
It's so unfair
I ended up becoming one of those women I laughed at. The one who took ALL their problems to the Lord.
I used to say "will God come from heaven to help you"
May God not test us and may He grant us so much ease.