Just an FYI, all opinions are my own. I rarely check my DMs so unless it's important, I just wouldn't bother sliding into them. Free Palestine. BLM. Trans rights are human rights. Being a decent person costs jack shit and takes even less energy. 🖤
It’s been almost a year since Speaking Out, and know that if you stand by an abuser you’re part of the problem. You enable the behaviour. You perpetuate the pattern. You allow the access. Believe victims. Always.
Quick heads up Brit wrestling; no amount of apologies should be enough to let someone who abused others back into the business. I don’t give a fuck who they were. Those people aren’t wrestling for a REASON. Sorry doesn’t change that.
Kurt will never know how much he made me laugh and simultaneously want to clip him round the ear hole as another Mad Kurt tweet hit twitter and I’d be back to revising social media docs for wrestling companies. His character creation was smart and calculated, something to truly
We, at Revolution Pro Wrestling are absolutely heartbroken to report the loss of our dear friend Kurtis Chapman.
We watched Kurtis grow from a child to a young man who loved professional wrestling and continued to excel in all aspects of his life.
One of the most gifted
I have genuine concerns that as wrestling in the UK opens up again, all of the pain and hurt from victims will be forgotten. That 'the boys' will be back to being 'boys' and essentially, all of this anguish will be for nothing.
I'm not a believer in toxic positivity. I never will be. It's ok for things to be shit because sometimes they just are. Denying this fact just buries valid feelings, and that isn't healthy.
Wrestling has gone through so much the last few months, and it's still being hit by devastating blows. Whether that comes from government or 'the boys', know that there's a whole bunch of folks who are determined to keep it going safely. Somehow.
As we head out of 2020, I just want to take the time to say that whilst this year has felt like a trash fire I am still immensely proud of everyone who came forward during Speaking Out. We have not forgotten, we won’t give up on you, and we 100% have you.
To the boys I went to school with who now slide into my DMs because they think I’m hot; my personality is still as repugnant as it was when you didn’t like me. Keep that energy.
This clip makes wrestling look like a farce. Serious allegations of abuse, domestic violence and rape happened last June. There were also serious violations of trust from teachers to students. Wrestling is in debate FOR THESE REASONS.
"Wrestling is perhaps the only industry that can rival politics for bravado, faux indignation, and partisan crowds"
Conservative MP and wrestling fan Mark Fletcher opens the debate on the future of British wrestling
‘What were you doing when you found out Prince Phillip had died?’ - I was genuinely having a conversation about pegging. I’ll take no further questions at this time.
If there are any victims of
#speakingout
right now in need of legal help, please head over to
@thegeminiproj
. They’re currently setting up a group of lawyers to help with cases and there’s a crowdfund. (I’m just waiting on confirmation of where to send donations to) 💗
It’s rolled round to twelve months and it’s easy to be disheartened. I don’t blame anyone. Rome wasn’t built in a day. Speak with your pockets and your bookings. Stay strong. Speaking Out isn’t over.
Soooo it’s
#TransDayOfVisibility
and I guess it’s probably time for me to properly and publicly say I’m Non binary. I prefer they/them pronouns. (I’ve always accepted she and realised that’s for other people’s comfort more than mine.)
Men don’t slide into my dms and the realisation this is because I’ve been working to remove creeps from the wrestling industry has just dawned on me. We love to see it.
I have bitten my tongue many times over the last few months, for the most part because I am fighting in the corner of wrestling and I do see change on the horizon. Regulation templates are already written out. We just need backing and funding. That's the harsh reality.
I want to further add to this thread because working in the industry has taught me a few things. First and foremost, read your meter. If you get stung with a backbill after the price rise it will drive your bill up further.
Energy prices in the UK are set to rise by a record 54% - this news is extremely worrying for millions of people who were already in a vulnerable position. Here’s a thread about the situation, how you can help, and measures you can take if you are concerned yourself.
I’m a vegan and support this message. My youngest has autism, if I cut every food he does eat out because it wasn’t vegan, he wouldn’t eat. His diet is limited due to sensory reasons. I will cook what he likes regardless. Bite me if you think it makes me a bad vegan.
Hi, my name is Nona. I have BPD, I’m terrible at my own personal emotions. I care too much. I fear everything and I hate myself daily. It’s fun. It does however, not make me anything less than human.
Whilst it’s really honourable that wrestling companies are looking how to better safeguard the industry, every staff member needs safeguarding training and all report systems needs to be separate and impartial. The lack of this meant relevant authorities weren’t contacted.
Obligatory ‘I’ve done it’ photo. I cried right after they did it because I was trying to be big brave. I got two stickers because I didn’t get one the first time. Thank you to those who looked after me there today. 💗
At the root of everything, we all want the same thing. That is for wrestling to be safer, for talent to be treated as human beings and for abuse to be out of the industry. I am still having conversations with folks about bringing that change legitmately. I will continue to do so
I’m immensely proud of Scott and Ben at
@CATCHpw
and whilst I’ve said it to their faces, I’m going to say it here too. I feel somewhat bias given they’ve become great friends of mine too, but they really are putting in the work. I’m super proud to know them. 💗
Someone I thought was my friend decided to tell people they thought I was 'easy' and that's why having male friends as a femme can be a total nightmare. I don't want to fuck my friends. That probably includes you. Sorry not sorry.
I do sometimes worry that I’m slowly becoming disliked across the wrestling industry. I am well aware that I am literally no one, just a gobshite with a social media account. Still won’t stop me bringing focus to abuse.
It's also true that in some metal mag in the states back in like 07, there's a picture of me wearing some brands tee whilst holding a phone in a phonebox in Nottingham.
“I don't have a sugar daddy, I've never had a sugar daddy. If I wanted a sugar daddy, yes, I probably can go out and get one, because I AM WHAT? SICKENING.”
Ok two things 1) You don't have to agree with someone to be human enough to leave them alone and not engage. Harassment is not education. 2) Safeguarding also includes these people and their mental health is still important whether you like it or not.
So this evening could be rough for a few people in the wrestling industry. So a heads up to everyone, you are not obligated to watch or follow anything. Mute tweets or stay off social media for a while. Stay safe. Talk to your friends. Don’t be afraid to reach out.
Right, I touched about this in the podcast but now may be the time to explain a few things because people are doing things without understanding the implications... so here goes.
A wrestler said to me recently that it’ll always be the safeguarding officer that takes the brunt of a decision, and you know what? They’re totally right. Totally, 100% right.
You might not want to hear it, but it’s toxic masculinity that’s making fun of a man crying. Men are allowed to feel overwhelmed and emotional over things they love. There’s no shame in it. 💗
I don’t talk about wrestling very often anymore because quite frankly, I’m tired of it. If you think however for one second that nothing is changing you’re disregarding the work I and others have continued to do behind the scenes. I just don’t make a song and dance about it.