Lecturer in Health Promotion & busy Mom of 4. Author & professional multitasker. Autism/Neurodiversity CPD Training. Prolific user of exclamation marks!!!
This is my beautiful daughter & her girlfriend at their debs last night.
I'm so beyond proud of her. But also really proud of all our young people in
#Ireland
that these 2 stunners can be themselves & are so loved, celebrated & accepted ❤🌈
#pride
#love
All of my husband's tools were stolen last night from a locked container in
#Limerick
.
He's a plumber & worked hard for years to buy all of his tools. They didn't steal from an anonymous huge company, they stole from a hardworking person.
I'm absolutely
#disgusted
1/2
Imagine if we could visually see the queue for
#Autism
services for children in Ireland??
Up to & beyond 3 years of waiting.. but because we can't see the queue we're not as outraged as we should be.
#Disability
Flight to Germany & a 4 🌟 hotel for 3 nights, for the grand total of €130 pp.
It's twice if not 3 times that for 1 night in a hotel in Ireland. Something is seriously wrong with this setup.
#RipOffIreland
#holidays
You know THAT parent who professionals dread meeting? THAT parent who cc’s 10 people when sending an email advocating for their child? THAT parent who will address the issue no matter how uncomfortable it is? THAT parent is exactly who their child needs them to be
#Autism
#SEND
Absolute best practice example EVER from a school:
My
#autistic
nephew is starting a new school & they sent him a book with pictures of: his new classroom, school gate, entrance door, all teachers, principal & SNA.
This is inclusion & how it should be done 🙌
#Amazing
#school
I promised myself on the loneliest days of my journey as a parent of autistic children, that some day I would write a book about my experiences to help other parents... & I did 💙
I would very much appreciate a
#retweet
#parenting
#Autism
#excited
2/2
Most of the tools are Dewalt & the initials KW are on all the batteries. Even his Dewalt radio was stolen!
Please share with anyone who works on building sites in Ireland.
#fridaymorning
Can't stop thinking about the Jo Frost tweet.
But moreso thinking of:
-kids who didn't sleep a wink last night
-kids who felt sick thinking of school
-kids who's little face will crumple into tears as soon as they see their parent after school & feel safe again
#masking
#Autism
Met so many people recently who like me, are being diagnosed ADHD as adults. If it's the way you've always felt it can be difficult to identify the need for assessment.
But diagnosis can lead to a better understanding of yourself & access to appropriate supports.
#info
#ADHD
On a brighter note, my beautiful, resilient & inspiring 1st born (& my favourite gay in the village) is 22 today!
She's in Amsterdam with her girlfriend & txt me this pic that they found the gayest bench 🌈
I'm unbelievably proud of who she is 💜
#MyGirl
#family
#Diversity
I can finally share the news that I have passed my PhD viva with corrections 🍾
Where you're from does NOT dictate where you go!
Very grateful to all my NUIG colleagues for their ongoing support.
@PhDVoice
#PhD
#AcademicTwitter
Your annual reminder that some autistic children will still wear their coats & not be able to wear shorts & t-shirts (no matter how hot it is, or how many times their parents tried to support & encourage them!).
So best not to comment on this 👌
#Autism
#AutismAwareness
#sunny
When you lose a sibling, it's forever 💔
Today marks 23 years since my big brother died by suicide at age 18. I hate that he never got to meet my babies.
So glad we talk about
#mentalhealth
much more openly now & we normalise seeking help & support.
#SuicideAwareness
#loss
A snippet from my
#book
:
We got to the soft play area and saw a little girl from Ellie's class, then another, then 4 more. My cheeks flush as I see all the moms there too.
We had walked in to a birthday party Ellie wasn't invited to 💔
She doesn't remember & I'll never forget.
Spoke to a very distressed parent of an
#autistic
child who BEGGED their team for services/therapy for severe violent outbursts.
They were directed to online parenting courses ... WHAT?!
We're failing these families & they're terrified to complain.
#Disability
#ireland
#fail
Child 3 has his buddy (who is also autistic & dyspraxic) over for a playdate & it makes my heart swell listening to them chatting & laughing!
They are so completely themselves & love spending time together. Unique kids tend to gravitate towards each other 🩵💜
#Neurodiversity
My amazing
#autistic
15yo wants to be a Garda. He's hoping to do his TY work placement at a Garda station in Galway city/county.
Any contacts who might be able to help? Even 1 day of shadowing would be amazing!
He really is a wonderful young man.
@GardaTraffic
@gardainfo
My son can't tie his shoes, can't go places on his own, can't go in to a shop & buy something without support.
He's 14 years old. Yet we have NO services for 3 years! It's an absolute disgrace & I'm so SICK of being fobbed off.
It's beyond
#shameful
#AutismAcceptanceMonth
Autistic children don't always verbally respond when you say hello. But regardless, this communicates that you care & want to include them.
Even if you get no reply, know that your interaction is an important part of this child's routine & that they do appreciate it 🥰
#Autism
When someone tweets sharing a new job or that they've finished their PhD, I always take just 2 seconds to comment congratulations.
Some people don't have family rooting for them & may have struggled massively to reach this huge milestone.
So take the 2 seconds 🙌
@PhDVoice
His name was Michael & his nickname was Slim. He was 6ft 2, had tattoos, piercings & gave the best bear hugs.
He was 18 years old when he left this world, 24 years ago today. I think of him every single day & although forever 18, he's still my big brother.
#suicide
#loss
Please don't do this, don't comment on women's appearances. Stop making judgements & shaming women because of how they look or their choice of nail polish of all things!!
How does this in anyway impact her role? It doesn't 🙄
#BeKind
#shameful
This statement: there are way too many kids being diagnosed as
#autistic
/
#adhd
these days 🙄
Listen.. people have always had ADHD & been autistic.. it's just that we now recognise it!!
Knowledge & understanding have increased, not necessarily prevalence.
#Autism
#Awareness
Lots of new followers this week, so reintroducing myself:
I'm Lhara, a lecturer & Mom of the most amazing
#autistic
kids. I tweet about Autism,
#selfcare
& how much teaching inspires me.
People from the country just do things differently!
My in-laws are coming up from Roscommon to help us move all our furniture with a trailer & help us to clean both houses. Initially I was like what? But this is just what they do for family 💙
#Family
#grateful
#rural
#ireland
We do dark humour in our family...but this is priceless!
My brother told his new GF he was taking her to meet our grandparents.
She was so nervous & got all dressed up. He reassured her that they were quiet people. Then he took her to the graveyard where they're both buried😂
Center Parcs & what makes it
#Autism
friendly:
-Pool water is warm!
-No cars
-Not over crowded (at restaurants, pool, activities)
-Booking system for activities= no queues & clear schedule
-Lots of choices to suit varied needs/abilities
-Kids can't wait to go back
#holidays
@Kirsty_H220
I don't think I could watch it back now, knowing what I know about Autism, dyspraxia & adhd. It would be interesting to know how many diagnoses were missed re: children who were on this show.
I'm so sick of this Tubridy bullying shit!!
He knew Sinead & like every other journalist in Ireland wrote a piece on her passing. Yet he's being abused by everyone & anyone in the comments.
It's gone way too far now. Just stop ✋️!
#SineadOConnor
#Tubridy
#BeKind
Ryan Tubridy: I’ll never understand how Sinéad and myself became friends. She was otherworldly, insanely rock’n’roll and anti-establishment, while I was pretty much the opposite of that.
Read here:
Has drinking culture completely changed?
My 2 adult kids have zero interest & Mr. 16 told me alcohol is addictive & expensive, so he has no interest in trying it ever. It's very different to when I was a teen/young adult.
Thoughts??
#alcohol
#thoughts
#Ireland
E has never worn a costume to school for Halloween until today. This was a massive step for him (his suit backwards & a mask).
He then won a prize for his costume! School consistently communicates acceptance & inclusion & this is the result, he's thriving 🙌
#AutismAwareness
18 years married today! I was only 24 & would do it all over again in exactly the same way.
How old were you when you got married??
#sundayvibes
#weddings
Every now & again it hits me like a throat punch.. what will happen to my
#disabled
child when I'm gone?
Week 5 of intensively teaching my 16 year old to pay in a shop. He can't. He just can't do this.
This is what 5 years without services looks like💔
#Autism
#whenimgone
Wedding anniversary weekend away!
17 years married & 23 years together. He has the patience of a saint & supports me in everything I do. Feeling very grateful 💞
#husband
#anniversary
#WeekendVibes
Had a lovely dinner out with child 2 who lives in his own place. He's the kindest kid with the biggest ❤️. Not always easy having 3 x autistic siblings & being the only NT in the village. Really proud of the man he's grown in to.
#myboy
#son
#sundayvibes
Whenever I see videos of people fighting on flights, it makes me think how terrified I'd feel if this happened when I'm flying with my children. Unfortunately this happened today 😭
After drinking whiskey throughout the flight, a man began attacking other passengers as we were
A bit of news... I'm so excited to share that I've signed a contact for my 2nd book with Routledge New York!
This will be an academic book on supporting neurodivergent children & families for practitioners.
#books
#AuthorsOfTwitter
#AcademicTwitter
#Neurodiversity
Not every child will prioritise getting 10/10 on a spelling test at school. They may celebrate:
-making it to school
-staying a full day
-using the toilet
-answering a question
-not having a meltdown
-doing PE
-making a friend
-coping with a change
#Autism
#ADHD
#school
So I planned to post this before my interview... but forgot my phone!
Had a fantastic interview with
@RyanTubridyShow
about my book & our family's journey. Thanks so much to Ryan & the whole team, they were so lovely. Will post podcast later ✨
#RTE
#Radio
#Autism
#book
Lots of new followers this week & sooooo close to 7k!
I tweet about neurodiversity, education & social justice. My tweets where I'm annoyed tend to be the viral 1s 😅!!
#TwitterX
#SaturdayVibes
Locked the door for the final time in Ballybane where I've spent all of my 40 years.
It's an area known for social problems &
#poverty
, but has the kindest people & families who I will truly miss! It's given me such a great start in life & I wish the new owners a happy home 🏡
Imagine having so much money you can bin a pair of shoes that cost €660!?
Such a stark contrast to the poor homeless man in a wheelchair, soiling himself & still wearing a hospital gown....
2 different worlds in the same city
#GalwayRaces
#Homeless
#shameful
Child 3 goes to a
#basketball
club specifically for kids with DCD/
#dyspraxia
.
Children who are used to being last in races & never chosen for teams, get to learn in a way that works for them & get to be the superstars 🌠! It does wonder for self confidence too.
#inclusion
It's hard to see kids of the same age passing out my Autistic little ones.
Each time we meet our besties, the gap between their kids & ours, just grows & grows. Even though I expect it & have been there before.. it's a tough pill to swallow.
#AutismAwareness
#thoughts
I've summarised in the model below the feedback on my tweet yesterday, asking parents of neurodivergent children what they really need from professionals.
42k impressions & so many replies. We can & should build on this momentum 🙌
#Neurodiversity
#ThankYou
#Neurodivergent
Had to cancel plans for today, as little 1 was not up for the drive or meeting people. The minute we made the decision, the stress relieved instantly 👌
It's OK to cancel if you or your child don't have the spoons 🥄🥄
#Autism
#sundayvibes
#learning
I really want to raise awareness about selective mutism & how hard this is for children who experience it:
-It's not really selective
-Inability to speak in certain settings
-Paralysed by anxiety/fear about speaking
-Can result in most basic needs not being met
#AutismAwareness
Heading out for dinner with my girlfriends this evening. It can take a LOT of motivation to get ready & go out sometimes. But it's so worth it when you're with your tribe ✨️
#SaturdaySocial
#tribe
#Motivacion
Meeting with a friend today who is also a Mom of an autistic child.
I think we profoundly undervalue the importance of peer support for parents.
Having someone who gets it, is non judgemental & is just there with you is priceless 🌻
#support
#grateful
#neurodiversity
I have a full house today with all my in-laws, nieces & nephews over. It's so lovely!
Started a lovely family project too. Will update later.
#SaturdayVibes
#family
2 of my children have shown the kindest care & empathy to their Granny who lost her brother this week. They have stayed by her side without being asked to & just want to sit with her in her grief.
I'm the most proud to be their parent that I've ever been 💙
#family
That feeling when your new book is finally in your hands!
I'm immensely proud of this book & hope it will guide students & practitioners in creating truly supportive environments for
#Neurodivergent
children & families.
Details in comments 🔽
#AuthorsOfTwitter
#books
#Autism
Child 3 is baking today in preparation for his home Ec practical exam.
Dyspraxia makes the fine motor skills needed more challenging, but with practice & fantastic support in school, he's improving every time 🙌
#neurodiversity
#DisabilityTwitter
Just saw a video here of a disabled school child being attacked. This is my worst nightmare come true as a parent & I would never watch this video by choice.
Don't share this stuff..Ever! There's no justification & it's further traumatising the victim.
Just stop ✋️
#TwitterX
Today is my Mam's birthday & in typical Mam style, she's babysitting!
I honestly don't know what we'd do without her. She's been a 3rd parent to my children & helped so much through our
#Autism
journey. She's the foundation of our village 🥰
#family
#thursdayvibes
#grateful
Kirsty is the Mum of 2 autistic children & a passionate advocate for families like mine.
Through sheer determination to truly make a difference,today Kirsty graduated with a degree in Disability Nursing!
Can we get some Twitter magic trending?
#Congratskirsty
#RetweeetPlease
After the heartbreak of missed milestones & thriving peers, you begin to embrace & accept the real uniqueness of your autistic child. When we stop grieving for the life we expected them to have, we embrace & enjoy every moment of who they are.
#Autism
#Neurodiversity
It's World Autism Awareness Day!
Did you know that up to 70% of autistic people live with a co-occurring mental health issue, such as depression, anxiety or eating disorder?
Awareness & understanding really do make a difference🙌
#WorldAutismAwarenessDay
#mentalhealth
Sleep is such a fundamental issue which is often overlooked for neurodivergent children & adults.
Insomnia can impact every single aspect of your life. This should be top of the priority list for any therapeutic supportive response.
#ADHD
#Neurodiversity
#sleep
Daisy is off scouting for the weekend, after a tough week.
The leader txt to let me know
-They have a sensory pack (eye mask,weighted blanket etc.)
-Full schedule for Daisy to know what to expect
-& food menu for each day
& this
#twitter
is how it should be done👌
#Autism
Where do you START in year 1 of your
#PhD
?
- Read & review all previous literature on your topic
- Summarise key points from each source & save citations
- Review previous PhD theses in your field
- identify gaps in knowledge that your research could address
@PhDVoice
#phdlife
So this was a response to a tweet about my autistic son cooking.... this is what disabled people are battling against!
I mean really? I normally don't react but had to reply before I blocked.
#DisabilityTwitter
#Autism
#education
My son's school have once again gone above & beyond in their individual care & support for him.
Teachers & SNAs need to be recognised for the really powerful work they do with special needs children. We don't talk about this enough!
#school
#SNA
#Autism
Everything is magnified as a parent when your child has additional needs.
You feel fiercely protective of them, your feel an ache in your heart when they're sad & you feel like bursting with pride when they reach their goals.
It really is a beautiful thing 💙
#AutismAcceptance
Genuinely shocked at these results... 94% of people DON'T apply for entitlements, due to the paperwork.
Imagine a form for
#Disability
support, so complex, that disabled people cannot complete it? This means it's not ACCESSIBLE!
Make it make sense 🤔
#access
#unbelievable
So proud of child 1 who is
#autistic
& studying to work as a special needs assistant.
Her lived experience is priceless & she will have such insight & understanding to share. How wonderful to have an Autistic adult supporting Autistic
#kids
👌
#proudmom
#AutismAwareness
space. Even with noise cancelling headphones my children continued to hear this & were terrified. I'm absolutely shook. They can never unsee this 😞
@Ryanair
#flight
#disgraceful
Parenting
#autistic
/
#ADHD
children should never be about changing them, it should be about changing your parenting & expectations.
Some kids will never do homework in 1 sitting or be able to stay quiet for a long period of time. Changing your expectations changes everything.
E did exceptionally well in his exams!
We had a lovely low-key celebration with cake, just as he wanted 🙌
Thanks for all the good wishes.
#Exams
#Autism
#family
Huge excitement here as her ladyship is off to a sleepover in the scouts den!
It's so wonderful to see her look forward to an event like this, my heart could burst ♥️
#Sleepover
#mygirl
#Autism
Also... how am I only discovering today that Italian restaurants use PASTA as straws!?
Did other people know this??
& had the loveliest meal out 😇
#pasta
#straw
#mygirl