@SomaKazima
Ask him why he did what he did, he will begin to express himself to explain that he’s upset, & THIS is where the teaching/correction opportunity comes in. Then you explain to him that you know/understand he wants his chips & that it’s ok to be angry but that’s not how we behave.
@SomaKazima
Then you explain that if he behaves this way he won’t even be able to have them at all, then explain that if he listens & is patient that he may have them at a different time. My son is 3 & use to throw things, he barely do it no more because now he talks to me about it😂
@zxsmithh
I be sooooo disappointed being approached by a young tenderoni and he fine. I have to start the conversation with age these days because baby I’m not in my 20s 😭 and they think I’m telling LIES😂
@thatsjustc
Def had a friend tell me she stopped being friends with me and ghosted me due to envy and we were childhood friends and the friendship ended in our early 30s blew my mind she was a beautiful soul, I couldn’t understand 😭
@BlackTzedek
@LAURENLDAILY_
@angiemartinez
Absolutely if we can’t evolve and grow together then we will eventually outgrow one another we’re mirrors for one another to learn from even at our worst ‼️✨
@Chai_raytv
@theGALtoFOLLOW
@SomaKazima
He can clean them up lol it’s not a problem and if he don’t it’s also not about to be a major issue either because consistency is key 😂 my ego don’t be bruised everytime my toddler is experiencing emotions tho but that’s me.
@__Fantasia
@SomaKazima
Exactly sis We don’t call our kids bad around here and I always speak life over my babies and my toddler be running around talking about IMMMM THE BESSSST BOY EVER damn right ! 😂 what you speak over your children is what they believe and embody ! As well as our own behavior🔥
@SomaKazima
Now we’re just working on how he speaks to me now that he knows how to express himself. I don’t feel disrespected because I understand he’s learning & I’m teaching/correcting him by also being the example of patience & displaying emotional intelligence myself in my response 🫶🏽
@Davidcs_AW
@NirobiTexan
@nicisdope
@Heav_Precious
if you have no peace within alone then others around you eventually suffer the consequences of you not being able to attain that for yourself. You eventually will take advantage or not even be able to appreciate the peace someone else brings. It’s only a temporary fix anyhow✨
@THEEBlackleftie
He can’t fathom the idea of a partnership 😂😂😂😂😂 and is upset that this man values his wife and that they’re a team😭😭😭 this the only way I want it 🔥
@Davidcs_AW
@NirobiTexan
@nicisdope
@Heav_Precious
We should have peace within ourselves and then naturally we want to be surrounded by those who allow us to maintain that sense of peace too. Energy vampires don’t have peace but feel entitled & feel it’s the responsibility of others to keep them happy, because they aren’t✨
@OBEY_elREY
@cliff_ohio
Thank you and period . It takes ton of patience & days you walk away because it’s not always easy but i would rather walk away then abuse them because they’re not listening. They’re processing Shit too and I just let my son cry sometimes then when he done he come talk & listen😂
My move to Dallas☺️🤍✨ As a single mom I’ve ALWAYS wanted to relocate but I couldn’t just go home and “save” because that wasn’t an option for me! So I use to be like HOW tf! Am I going to be able to do this, but I did it ! I LOVE IT HERE☺️✨
@Trinirudegyal_
I will say that I’m glad he was comfortable enough expressing himself says a lot in a good way but yes he should have said ok bud it’s a joke sooner 🥹
@rai__johnson
The only thing I’ll say about this is he chose to provide those children with a life of love, because apparently their mother was selfish and it honestly seems as though they will be safer w/ him. A home w/negligence will have more of a negative impact in their development.
@thisdudeandwife
@raphousetv2
Everything but the real reasons … because emotionally intelligent and available men who have dealt with their issues don’t like mean women only ones who are the opposite of such. Doing the work in ourselves help us connect with healthier partners ✨👌🏽
@TheRealDrePapi
My sons are learning boundaries as well as self control. You respect those and don’t do anything without clear permission and invitation. Regardless of how you feel or want.
I’m all for everyone learning & taking accountability but there needs to be more discussions on the gaslighting that takes place when people constantly tell people to choose better, understand that if you’re running around mistreating people. You also may endure consequences✨
@zenjayg
They don’t want the child to have no possibility of guidance because of the “mom” 😂 it’s strange .. I know so many people who ended up with either great father figures instead of without or 2 because their father was still present. Our community so hurt .. the projections wild
@shtoopidTHICK
I’m more irritated that the little girl is just watching, like people aren’t paying any attention to the behavior they’re displaying this is not coo. I hope she knows that’s not ok or normal .. 🥺
@PoppinTeab
@thatsjustc
It’s been 4 years now and I actually have no desire no malice or anything just acceptance and I’m so different now And have such an amazing tribe everything happens as it’s designed based on our growth and individual journeys 🫶🏽
@nu_mindframe
THIS! Til you learn to sit in those moments & allow your own feminine energy to nurse your wounds this is hard. Because you have to be self aware & also disciplined enough to choose something that is for your highest good while resisting urges that are a detriment to yourself🥹
@raphousetv2
I know everyone saying it’s not her responsibility but if the only other option was me or child protective services???? I’m def taking my niece or nephew have y’all ever heard of the SYSTEM!! That Shit gon be way worse than the damage already being caused. I can’t imagine …
I promise the gym was my first introduction to doing things I don’t necessarily FEEL like doing but having too in order to get what I want. Starts adding that same discipline & being ok in discomfort to other areas which made me stronger!
@ronivixx
@flawl3ssNBr0wn2
It’s her moms fault she’s failing … quiet as it’s kept if your child is failing and you don’t know BEFORE the grades post let’s just say you’re not doing your due diligence … there’s time to help them before they fail.
@dadollydee
@SomaKazima
And it’s not a white people method it’s called being healthy, emotionally mature, intelligent, in tune, a teacher , a nurturer and these same children whose feelings are validated, and receive correction without their spirits being broken understand consequences as well.
@shesamerihann
@BeWell360LLC
I get that but avoiding relationships still isn’t key, because even in therapy you wouldn’t know what to address until you are triggered by the circumstances that we come across in relationships. You know some issues but not all or how they may show up &that’s when therapy helps.
@285Slim
Wow smh this sick obsession with people treating children that aren’t theirs like they’re gross is weird. good thing they’re not wanting to help because they can’t. Maybe if they’d had mentors/guidance themselves they’d feel or be different men. Can’t pour from an empty vessel.
@shesamerihann
@BeWell360LLC
That’s literally what relationships are meant to do, & suppose to do but too many of us are blaming others instead of seeing what the relationship teaches you about yourself .. a therapist will indeed tell you the same and most people need those too.
Never heard a Christian Leader say what I heard today. Sarah Jakes- Roberts said if you have to bypass the church to get to God that’s ok. That’s powerful because people make it seem as tho it’s not possible but its so possible & she’s separating religion from God & that’s KEY🔥
I’m learning as a woman who used to be in her masculine in a lot of ways and also survival mode. Your relationship with God is also limited. Your ability to surrender, trust fully in God doing things vs you trying to be in control is major 🔑
I’m starting to think people ain’t ever did no healing work because of how y’all sound. If you have ever healed from anything or are healing you know it’s not linear. Even once you’re better, doesn’t mean that you’re not triggered you just know how to process things unlike before
@taayanthony
@SiSi_Simply
Y’all don’t have no kind of conflict resolution skills, y’all think any reaction to conflict is appropriate. When it’s not. There are several ways to handle this & this wasn’t it. As a parent you find out who the child is & then you report to the school to contact the parents.
@pepitapabla
@MartianMariah
I say all the time it’s for people who didn’t know how to process their stuff and or how to control the power of their gifts
@nu_mindframe
I’m actually 🤏🏾fuckin close sis 😂. Because it’s not making any sense to me as to why I would need to be doing that anymore …. Never in my life thought I’d feel even a smidget of close to that way😭
@PoppinTeab
@thatsjustc
I tried, I def wanted to salvage the relationship until she told me the issue and then I accepted distance because you’d truly never be happy for me 🥴
@nu_mindframe
This why it’s so important to heal cause had she done the work she would’ve been able to see through that. relationships like that can ruin you as well. And then if both parties haven’t done the work they just repeat the cycle. He went back to where he could. 😅
@PoppinTeab
@thatsjustc
She already had and I called her out on it and that’s how it all came out. It was some nasty energy and some shit I was like wtf is this about this isn’t about whatever you’re making it about it’s completely something else 🥴 and boom it was that ..
@witchdctralex
I believe there are a lot of men who practice and we don’t know but let’s get into men practicing without realizing that they are 🫠 especially when it comes to using intimacy they’re TAPPED. Blows my mind sometimes
@Broccoli_Balboa
@raphousetv2
My thoughts exactly, he can’t do it himself but he put it out there that he no longer protecting him from others which is giving others the go to do what they want basically he’s a goner 🥴
The issue is people like that don’t even be genuine themselves, so how could they trust other people when they have their own hidden agendas? There’s a difference between having trust issues because people have hurt you & having trust issues because you’re the one hurting folk🙃
Manipulating heart matters than telling someone how to respond to a situation you have created Is not fair, I believe when we see people react this can also be a consequence for how you play with people✨
@xThisNigga
@aqueensessence
@rachelkayw
We’ve got to stop thinking that our trauma somehow has made us stronger, I hear it a lot in our community almost as if experiencing it is the only way to have thick skin, when we have had to push & coping mechanisms. Everyone don’t even get to that point because it’s TRAUMA.
@JoyyUnSpeakable
I def understand and validate the experience but the red glad is more about how the trauma if not managed, or processed & if they haven’t started healing they can be a very hard friend to have. Just like with anything we have to do the inner work to have healthier dynamics✨
@missmorn1ngstar
@TOOTTHEBARBER
You sound like meeeeeeeeee this is me I could be years in and that’s one thing I just don’t talk about , and just try to handle … you got a good one🥹💕
@shesamerihann
You’re triggered regardless but you’re not able to receive, understand, or anything because of your pain. It’s not easier it’s just a coping mechanism that allows the cycles to perpetuate until we deal with ourselves. That’s all.
@Trinirudegyal_
Awww that baby is the sweetest and he is tired of people messing with him but he was brave I’m so glad this isn’t real his little anxiety 😥 I wanna hug him he’s adorable
My healing journey allowed me to have compassion for others once I transmuted my own stuff. It’s not easy. There’s so many layers to the things that cause the “mess” within. recognizing & working through your own stuff to get better you start to see others wounds clear too🥹