Information page for
#sexpositive
researcher into Female-Led Relationships(
#FLR
) and
#chastity
. All books on Amazon. Find me on Hive Social at KeyBarrett.
It's here! "Locked In Love" joins my
#FLR
book on
@audible
. Why not spend you commute learning how being a
#keyholder
or being in
#chastity
can take your relationship to new intimate highs!
Thank you
@TantorAudio
for making this happen. I love the cover.
"Natural Authority is the inherent ability to lead, combined with an inborn grace that lends an aura of leadership. Your Wife... is positively imbued with it."
- Pg. 19
Learn about Natural Authority and how you can use it to make an
#FLR
a reality!
@fakedansavage
Oh Dan, what have you done! Your 'leave them better than you found them' campground rule did not account for the possibility one's children may 'camp' there many years later!
When your amazing house for sale contains and equally amazing
#BDSM
playroom with pommel horse, trapeze, stocks and epehemera. No shame, no judgement. These people are living their best selves.
"50 Shades of Maple Glen"
Happy October 1st! It's time for the great
#locktober
#chastity
list! Let's look back at everything chastity related that came out since October 2018 (+ some old classics) in the world of books, articles, film & TV, plus some numbers on chastity in porn!
Long thread ahead! 1/
@fakedansavage
I cannot wait to read your response. Also I vote that this new wrinkle in intergenerational sexuality be heretofore labelled "The Savage Paradox".
Subs in an
#FLR
out there, what's your favorite non-sexual 'devotional'?
Examples: 'Every morning I make her tea', or 'starting her car on cold days', or 'a lunchbox love note'.
Lady leaders, what is your favorite devotional of his/hers/theirs?
Share the love (and ideas!).
An image to share about
#chastity
and what it really means to engage in it as a couple. Retweet, steal, share, spread the word if you agree!
#keyholder
Surrendering to the idea of a female led relationship doesn't mean the man isn't a leader anymore. He's still a leader, often strong and confident to others.
He just serves the one person who's confidence, judgment and strength he values most.
#flr
A little
#FLR
advice for the single sub out there:
Remember you're looking for a caring, loving partner who happens to be a dominant woman, not a dominant woman who happens to be a caring, loving partner. Put the person first.
Retweet please:
Men in
#chastity
(and especially married men) I am looking to ask anonymous questions for my next book. DM me please. This is important research and no personally identifying questions will be asked. Help out people who want to learn the SAFE way to add chastity.
This is in
@Allure_magazine
.
#Pegging
is officially mainstreamed. A good, comprehensive article.
Best quote (from
@sexpospsych
):
"When I have sex with cisgender men, the ones who receive anal penetration are much better lovers than those who haven’t,"
Let's have an
#FLR
appreciation thread!
Folks in a Female-Led Relationship, what one thing about your relationship really fills your sails? Tell us!
Reply and retweet!
#FLR
#TryItHerWay
#WifeLedMarriage
It's here! You can get "Surrender, Submit, serve Her"
On
@audible_com
Get a listen to the great
@wendytking
in the same.
Help spread the word about healthy, happy Female-led relationships far and wide. Retweet, please!
#FLR
#FLRcouple
Today's 'weird is beautiful' moment. I went for a hike to a remote pool. It's a half mile from car to this spot. What do I find? Two cosplaying mermaids. They were lovely and enchanting. Several small kids saw them, and lost their minds. Today magic was real for them.
I'm old enough to recall
@fakedansavage
answering the "am I gay b/c I'm attracted to hot trans girls" question back in the 90's.
Sad, that in a world of pegging and gender fluidity, he still has to explain "no it doesn't and it doesn't matter if it did"!
#FLR
holiday mantra: almost every FLR had to be earned, with stumbles and reversions on the way.
But you both earned it, through solid decision making and focused support of those decisions.
Neither alone works as well as both together.
Take time to acknowledge it!
Friday
#FLR
mantra: Being a sub in the bedroom is not the same thing as being submissive in the relationship. Both are valid, can overlap, but are different.
One is a sexual inclination. The other is a commitment to the betterment of you BOTH through support of her leadership.
Ugh, imagine being an American of Asian descent, who is walking up in day two of the new confinement to find "It is the Chinese" trending. How do you think that feels? Just a little bit more scary than yesterday?
It's COVID-19. Call it that. Try and think of others a little.
If you are in a real life
#FLR
and like sharing the joys, successes and uniqueness of it on Twitter, please post an intro below so more folks interested in learning more can glean info from real life Female-led relationships!
I am about to hit the most amazing milestone! My books are about to cross 500,000 pages read in
#KindleUnlimited
!
I never thought there would be this much interest in creating a healthy
#FLR
or using
#chastity
to bring couples closer. Thank you, friends!
For all the honest male followers of me who CRAVE an
#FLR
(and there are so many of you), trust me when I say THIS is your resource.
I am not paid for this endorsement in any way, I just know what Venus has created really works!
Oral is sex, intercourse is sex, pegging, chastity play and vibrators... All sex.
Whatever gives you and your partner pleasure and intimacy is sex, if you want to define it as such. Don't let other people's definitions move you away from what you BOTH desire and connect with!
Did you know, if you like any author's books, be they
#erotica
,
#femdom
,
#FLR
,
#chastity
,
#spanking
,
#femsub
, you can be a REAL HERO to us just by going on amazon or goodreads and writing a review?
Reviews can often mean the difference between a sale and a pass.
Plz Retweet.
Thursday
#FLR
mantra:
Thinking of your submission only in sexual terms may be true to your sexual self, but it's self-centered and orgasm driven.
It sells out over and over what is at the heart of your larger emotional self: devotion to another's needs and wishes.
Here's some free
#FLR
wisdom for ANY relationship:
1. Do things her way. If you take a task from her 2 help out, do it her way.
2. Do ONE THING a day just for her.
3. Listen without needing to give a solution. Sometimes she just needs you to listen and acknowledge what's going on
One of the many benefits of
#FLR
is that in a lot of men it fosters and promotes a form of 'Masculine Feminism'. Men are comfortable in their own skin, unthreatened by female achievement and female success, and instead take pride in championing equality, while still being a dude.
Now Men's Health magazine is covering
#pegging
. While the article does have the trope about gay panic, it has a pretty good how-to and comes from a sex-positive "its okay to want this" perspective that mentions vulnerability, empathy and her perspective.
It's poll time again! This one is for self-identifying
#Submissive
men:
How old were you when you finally learned you were submissive?
#FLR
#Femaleledrelationships
As always, a retweet would be kind.
Hi folx! I am taking a break from Twitter for a while. I will be here to answer any DMs and you should feel free to reach out! I love chatting.
But
@Twitter
by itself, even filtering out what I can, is proving toxic to my wellbeing. It's mostly nastiness and tribalism.
/1
What a sub often asks: "I want a Female Led Relationship."
What she often hears: "I want you to do everything in this relationship."
What he really meant: "You make great decisions and I want to support them and make you succeed."
Read, learn, investigate, Communicate!
#FLR
Okay, it's almost
#Locktober
! Let's have a thread! Post your
#chastity
resources below (no dick pix please!)
Share if you're doing it this year/have done it before and what you get from it! Let's spread the word and set realistic goals for any lurking newbies!
Plz retweet!
Truly
#submissive
men have great wells of empathy. It gifts them with understanding, compassion and a desire to serve the needs of the one they love, without weakening their resolve or abilities.
It makes them a perfect partner to a strong female leader in her
#FLR
.
I was smelling a particularly delicious whole bean coffee at my local shop. I turned to my wife and said "If you ever need to wake me out of a coma-"
"I'll sit on your face." She interrupted.
Love that woman.
#lifegoals
#wifegoals
As we head towards
#Locktober
, I'd love to hear from couples who practice male
#chastity
what ONE THING really pleasantly surprised you about chastity the first time you tried it. Let's share the fun, boys and keyholders!
I'll share mine below.
Plz retweet and spread the word!
Submissives have submissive hearts. These hearts are empathetic and vulnerable. It means they can be easily hurt. But it also means they understand, relate and forgive quickly.
If you are a submissive man, especially an older one, you want to know where the dominant women are... They are all around you. On lavalife, on fetilfe, on regular dating sites. The issue is your terminology. If you are looking for something real, something relational, ok... 1/
Friday
#FLR
mantra:
Learn the difference between 'putting her on a pedestal' and 'being her bedrock'.
The former is centered on you & your submissive sexual desires. The latter is based on her needs & growth, to be there when she has trouble & see her succeed.
For all the honest male followers of me who CRAVE an
#FLR
(and there are so many of you), trust me when I say THIS is your resource.
I am not paid for this endorsement in any way, I just know what Venus has created really works!
We're shut in, worried about our paychecks, working to the bone. I can't give you a hug and say it'll be OK, but I can help alleviate a little fear & boredom & say thanks.
I'm making 5 of my naughty books free TOMORROW for 5 days to download. List below. Please retweet & share!
Sex is oral, finger play, intense cuddling, chastity, toys, nipple play, kissing, massage, & yes even penetration. The best thing you can do in a relationship is define sex as broadly as possible. have your sex, not someone else's tightly defined version.
Here's an article that basically describes a submissive act of female worship in accurate terms and presents it in normal fem positive terms. In the sun, no less!
Monday
#FLR
mantra:
Every woman can tell you stories of men not listening to them, cutting down their ideas, of making them feel small.
Not every woman can tell you stories of having a man that listens to her, building up her ideas & making her feel 10 feet tall.
Be this man.
Hi twitter family! I am thinking of submitting my
#erotica
novel "The Hirondelle" to
@passionflix
.
But it would help a lot of they saw how much y'all wanted to see Robert and Alix's BDSM love story on the silver screen by retweeting!
@JonesHospodTX
@tnhousegop
Can't be expelled twice for the same offense, but Tennessee has never been afraid to make up a new offense to charge a black person with.
#Chastity
quote:
"What does her being your keyholder mean? No cheating. She can keep U locked for the entire 2 weeks, or she could let U out after a few days. She can tease U, she can ignore it. She tells U when U wear it and when U don't. Don’t be selfish. It’s about her."
Monday
#FLR
mantra:
True submissive thought is putting her needs first. It's hard to do w/o filtering it through your own wants first.
So here's a trick: Start with the things you KNOW she wants done and do them first. That will quiet your filter and start that positive loop.
I will follow anyone I believe is genuine. Be genuine! Want folks to follow you? Follow these rules:
If your handle is mike6472848482, change to a meaningful handle.
If you have no profile pic, add one. It can be anything.
Tweet! Gimme proof of life!
Keep follow ratio close.
As we approach the new year, an important
#FLR
mantra:
The goal of an FLR is not to please her at all times.
It's for you both to have the most rich, rewarding and healthy relationship TOGETHER. It's how you two work best as a team.
Aspects of
#FLR
may manifest in the bedroom, but at its core, it’s not a sex thing, it’s a relationship thing.
It's about putting her first, not your sexual desire for submission. By all means, let it spice up your desire, but remember, submission is service to another.
Remember, sex has more to do with mental satisfaction than physical penetration. If what you do leaves you and your partner sexually and emotionally satisfied, then that's sex!
Don't worry about meeting some pre-defined and proscriptive notion of what sex shoud be.
Hi folx, I'm back after an absence. I'm happy to be back here, enjoying the cheer and goodwill you send. I was gone for nearly a month and I feel like I owe you an explanation. First off, I am fine, my family is fine, everything is as normal as can be. 1/
Tuesday
#FLR
mantra:
S
s
s
┏┓
┃┃╱╲ in
┃╱╱╲╲ this
╱╱╭╮╲╲ house
▔▏┗┛▕▔ we win
╱▔▔▔▔▔▔▔▔▔▔╲
when SHE wins.
╱╱┏┳┓╭╮┏┳┓ ╲╲
▔▏┗┻┛┃┃┗┻┛▕▔
Loving men know her victories are our victories.
Today's
#FLR
Mantra:
When you agree to do something for your leader, you are agreeing to do it 'Her way'. The goal isn't just to accomplish a task, but to do so in a way that relaxes her most. She doesn't have to do it, or think about how it's done. That's true submissive love.
Long Thread. To hopeful or curious submissive men I want to tell you that it is okay to want to try
#chastity
, to try worship, to desire
#FLR
,
#BDSM
, gender play,
#cuckolding
, etc. It is okay to have these feelings. You may have overwhelming fear... 1/8
Dr. Amie Hardwick was murdered last night in her home.
She was a smart, sex-positive doctor who helped countless women rediscover their sexual selves and heal from trauma.
Politics aside, the concept of female leadership in the United States has been validated by the idea that a majority of voters have decided that the vice president, the person ready to lead in a moment's notice, is a WOMAN.
If you can lead a country, you can lead a household.
#FLR
If I could tell anybody just starting to have interest in a Female-led relationship, it's this image, Knowing this at the start solves half the trip-ups on the way.
As always, share this, steal it, use it how you see fit. Retweet.
#FLR
#FemaleLedRelationships
#TryItHerWay
Hooray to this man who allowed his curiously about
#chastity
lead to a fun addition to he and his partner's life! And hooray for sharing it! 2021 is off to a good start.
My life in sex: the man who wears a chastity device
Monday
#FLR
mantra:
You cannot sneak or trick her into an FLR. If you are seriously considering that option then you don't really want a Female-led relationship, you just think you do. Move your thoughts from your wants to her needs. That's the first step.
Today's
#FLR
mantra: When you begin your first FLR journey, remember, you've only done one type of relationship your whole lives, the kind everybody else modeled for you.
It takes time! You both will make mistakes on the way to finding what works for you.
Ooh, I'm almost at 7,000 followers. I take pride that I've talked with/interacted with so many of you! Lots of folks interested in
#FLR
,
#chastity
and fun
#femdom
erotica!
#locktober
day 11! A lot of you should be noticing emotional changes and hopefully enjoying the benefits!
If you've been unlocked or are planning it (hello
#keyholders
), be aware you will want some aftercare. You can get temporarily depressed after being locked for so long.
#FLR
mantra: If you want a Female-led relationship, you have to really know what it is you want before you can explain it to your partner. Read up, take notes!
And then you have to talk about it. You cannot trick your partner into an FLR.
Hi everybody! Set your reminders, I'm gonna do
#sextalktuesday
in a few days and I am going to ask y'all all about what
#FLR
means to you! Can't wait.
Now here's a gif of Natalie Dormer to get you by until then!
I love my kids with all my heart but if they fuck up my wife and my attempts to have spontaneous "wow, we are both in the mood" sex one more time tonight, I'm selling them on the black market.
Another
#FLR
mantra in line with the last one:
Putting her needs first doesn't make you weak, it makes you considerate.
It doesn't make you a slave, it makes you compassionate.
It doesn't diminish you, it enriches you both.
As we say goodbye to 2020 (a year most of us are happy to see gone), we are not foolish enough to expect anything from 2021. But I do wish for all of you a better year. I hope you any your friends and family stay happy and healthy. Thanks to you ALL for helping me get to 2021!
Seems a good time to say this:
Couples exploring male
#chastity
are engaging in healthy sexual and emotional exploration. Millions of couples wish for the kind of playful sexual expression and healthy emotional investment in intimacy that the keyholder/locked dynamic can bring.
Interesting article in Cosmo(!) about
#cuckolding
. Pretty straightforward and non-judgmental. What I like about the pull quotes from the men is the way they speak. They put the wife's needs first. Their enjoyment is derived from her enjoyment and freedom.
Let's take a moment to talk about the importance of empathy. Caring dominants have it, and supportive subs are full of it. Some would say so much it hurts. But empathy is so important. It allows us to do more than understand someone else's plight. 1/
What a fantastic article on
#cuckolding
by
@girlonthenet
!
From mentioning the works of
@DrDavidLey
and
@JustinLehmiller
to walking through beginner communication and baby steps, to the joy of compersion, it's so well done and compassionate.
I'd like to talk about the connection between masturbation and
#chastity
. In this case the 'enforced male chastity', IE: wearing a cage.
It's a bit of a thorny subject, wrought with historical entanglements, but nonetheless important to distinguish. so please bear with me. 1/
Wednesday
#FLR
mantra:
If you want to tell your wife your desire for an FLR:
Be honest
Focus on her (what makes her a great leader)
Explain your desires
Show it's HER leadership you crave (not just women)
FLR is a spectrum (start off small!)
and do your research!
One of the great strengths of a caring D/s relationship is the ability of the Dom/me to use their power to help affect real positive change in their sub's life.
@rubysStrawberry
puts it so succinctly.
Thursday
#FLR
mantra: Make time in your day for one devotional act. Rub her feet, snuggle her tight, show her you love her and everything about her.
Establish this comes with no strings attached. Allow her to enjoy the sensual without the expectation and pressure of the sexual.
I get asked a lot 'How do I get my wife/gf to embrace an
#FLR
?'. The answer is always the same!
1. Communicate! Be honest.
2. Know what an FLR really is.
3. Know why you think SHE would be good at leading the relationship.
4. Know what you'd bring to the partnership in support.
Female led relationships aren't for everyone. Some men aren't natural supporters and some women aren't natural leaders.
But if U are threatened by the idea of an
#FLR
, you're saying men are leaders simply by being men. That's sexist thinking. U can fix that w/o being in an FLR.
A great article about what it really means to be a 'slave' and how to get there by
@_mistress_ava
. Happy to have my book included in the resources list.
#FLR
#DesireintoDiscourse
Even when I get just a taste of what it must be like to be a woman on Twitter, it's exhausting. At least this time it wasn't and unsolicited dick pic. Ladies, you have my ever-lasting sympathy.