Married to Mr C and mummy of Erin, our gorgeous daughter who lived for 22 days, and her little brothers & sister. Trustee of Aching Arms
http://www.achingarms.c
The hardest thing I've ever had to do was walk away from the hospital without my daughter in my arms and learn how to try and live without her
#NationalBereavedParentsDay
💜Erin 💜
11 years ago was our last night with you darling girl. We kissed you good night that evening not knowing it was to be your last. Love you forever 💓 Erin 💗
I am so incredibly lucky to have three of my beautiful children with me today, bringing me hand made cards in bed and telling me they love me. But there is also part of my heart missing, each and every day, as my eldest child is not here with me
#MothersDay
#Erin
I couldn't let today pass without sharing some pictures and words about our darling eldest daughter, Erin. Today would have been her final day at primary school. My heart aches as I wonder what interests she may have had & who her friends would have been
#SchoolsOut
#babyloss
On this
#worldheartday
I'd like to share with you a photograph of Erin. Erin was born with a
#congenitalheartdefect
. She underwent heart surgery at 7 days old but sadly did not recover and died in my arms aged 22 days old. She made me a mummy and I'll be her mummy forever
#chd
Today we held my 5 year old daughter's birthday party and as always I thought about my two darling girls who will never know each other, but who I'm sure would have been great friends. Missing Erin always 💜
#sisters
#InternationalBereavedMothersDay
#Erin
At 5pm, eleven years ago, on 1st December 2011 our first born daughter, Erin, died in my arms after we made the heartbreaking decision to remove life support. In her 22 days of life Erin had been through many surgeries.
We will never get over her loss, but will love her forever
For darling Erin, the baby girl who made me mummy. We'll love you forever and miss you always; in whatever we do, we take you with us. Sending much love to all other bereaved parents tonight and thinking of your precious babies
#WaveofLight2022
#waveoflight
#babylossawarenessweek
I will never forget the skill, care & compassion of nurses who cared for Erin at
@AlderHey
Who gave their all for our little girl, shed a tear with us when she died & then carried on caring for all the other critically ill little ones in their care. I support them
#NursesStrike
There isn't a day when I don't wonder what you'd look like, what you'd be doing and feel deep sadness at the hole your death has left in my life.
I love you and miss you darling Erin
Sending love to all who are missing precious babies tonight
#babylossawarenessweek
#waveoflight
Darling Erin; our eldest child. 22 days of complete joy, horrendous fear, repeated trauma, immense pride & unwavering eternal love 💕 We may not be able to hug her or see her grow up, but she will always be the little girl who made us mummy and daddy
#NationalBereavedParentsDay
My 6 year old son at bedtime:
"Mummy I feel two different things that don't really go together. I feel sad because tomorrow is the day that Erin died, but I also feel excited because it's December and I get to open my Advent calendar"
My darling boy
#bereavedsibling
#babyloss
Today is 10 years since darling Erin died. I felt so sad this morning as I helped her younger siblings get ready for school and thought about how much she is missing out on and what a wonderful big sister she would have been 💜Erin💜
If Erin had lived we would have been at her High School open evening tonight. It's one of those moments where the grief really hits me and my heart hurts as I consider all she has missed out on and how unfair it is she wasn't given a chance 💔
#babyloss
#neonatalloss
#Erin
A lovely thing just happened. I was at the walk-in centre after a fall & phoned
@JPclancy1
. I was tearful & told him I had to go to A&E & was hungry. Then a lad of about 19 gave me some crisps saying, "I got these from the machine for you. I know how hard it is to be hungry" ❤️
Had a tweet from someone replying to my mother's day tweet about Erin saying they "don't understand" the way I am grieving. I don't understand why the person decided to tell me that. Grief is individual & intricate. No judgement is needed, it's already hard enough
#babyloss
8 years ago this photograph of my 2 day old baby girl was taken. We found out on this day that she needed heart surgery at
@AlderHey
@HeartCentreAld1
if she was going to survive. Sadly Erin died when she was 22 days old. She never recovered from the surgery she had ❤️💖❤️
Aw I never knew this day existed. Following Erin's death, I donated all the milk I had expressed for her while she was in hospital. Was how I came up with the name 'Erin's Gift' as the milk felt like a gift from Erin to other babies in need
#wdhmd
Happy
#WDHMD
(World Day of Human Milk Donation).
It is very special to meet thankful families who have received milk for babies. It is very special to see impact DONATING milk has on those who give. (Don’t underestimate power of this one)
TY milk bank folks who make it happen.
I try to speak about Erin all year round, but for many reasons it is not as easy or possible for all parents to share their precious babies. I send love to all who are grieving the death of a baby & my inbox is open if you'd like space to talk
#blaw2022
#babylossawarenessweek2022
It's so important to us that we include Erin in our family life. Although she died she is still very much our daughter & big sister. We love getting our
@Matalan
pyjamas each year & saving them for Christmas Eve as they raise funds for
@AlderHey
where Erin spent most of her life
Happy 7th birthday to my darling Erin. I hope with all my heart that you can feel our love for you today & every day. I'm so sad you never got to experience a birthday with us & all the fun we could have had together. The pain of missing you & our love for you will remain forever
As I look at all the flames burning brightly on my timeline for
#waveoflight2018
I can feel the outpouring of love and grief from so many for the beloved babies who are no longer with us. It's been an emotional
#BLAW2018
Take care of yourselves and eachother. Much love xxx
I had 38 weeks with her growing inside me; 22 precious days with her here and now 6 awful years grieving for and missing her. Throughout all this time my heart has loved her completely and will forever more. 💕 miss you Erin 💕
Happy birthday to my darling Erin. You should be here with us celebrating and the ache in my heart that you aren't will never go away. We love you and miss you always and forever 💜💗💜
#Erin
For Erin, my darling daughter. It aches to think of you, but I also feel I could burst with pride at being your mummy. You inspire me daily and I will love you forever 💜
Sending love to all missing a precious child
#babylossawarenessweek2021
#waveoflight2021
#waveoflight
Darling Erin is 11 today. This time eleven years ago we were having our first cuddles and I will never forget the softness of your hair against my cheek. I will love and miss you forever my precious girl 💜
On Thursday 1st December 2011 at 5pm it was your time to leave us. We'll never understand why you could not stay and always wish you were with us still.
❤Love lasts forever❤
💗Erin💗
It's been a decade where I've been told I have depression, anxiety, unresolved grief, PTSD... The reality? My daughter died. I'm grieving. My life was ripped apart. It changed me. My daughter changed me. Her name is Erin
#NewYear
#10YearChallenge
Just thought your timelines would be made brighter by a picture of my darling Erin. We had just 22 days with her, but she has changed my life forever ❤️❤️❤️
Sadly I don't know who to credit for this amazing poem. If anyone knows then please tell me. These words really resonate to me. I hear myself speak loudly to others about prioritising selfcare but then struggle with it myself
#WorldMentalHeathDay
#BLAW2019
I feel incredibly sad at all she is missing out on & all we have lost by not being able to share our lives with her.
Miss you Erin. I have no doubt you would be making me incredibly proud today if you were still with us, just as you did every day of your short life 💜
#SchoolsOut
Our darling Erin. Wish we were celebrating with her this
#WorldHeartDay
but instead we are remembering her with love, pride and sadness that she is no longer here with us
#erinrocks
I can't buy Erin the toy she wants for her birthday. I don't even know what she'd like. I wish I could hold her today on her birthday & give her a kiss. I can't. I've donated to
@AchingArms
instead to buy a bear to comfort another grieving family as they cope with similar sadness
My baby girl, my firstborn, my forever love, my Erin. I'll always miss you and I'll always wonder who you would have grown up to be. I'll be forever proud to be your mummy
#NationalBereavedParentsDay
#Erin
I have a poorly baby girl which sends my anxiety spiralling, so not feeling up to
#babylosshour
tonight. I'll just say this - please don't let anyone else diminish or downplay your experience or feelings. We grieve because we love. The age of our baby makes no difference to this
8 years ago today Erin died and today I received a special parcel in the post - Erin's story written in my words, published in the wonderful new book by
@ClarkCoates
@SayingGoodbyeUK
Thank you Zoe for including Erin's story and for writing so beautifully to help those bereaved 💖
New year is a difficult time for many bereaved people. I always find it hard to say goodbye to a year that Erin never got to see & welcome in a new one she won't ever experience. The changing of the year is also a very stark reminder of time passing without her
#grief
#NewYear
New bauble for the tree 💜 as always, feeling heart-broken that Erin never got to enjoy a Christmas and wondering what she would be asking for as an 11 year old, but keeping her in our hearts and celebrations forever
#grief
#childloss
#babyloss
This time 5 years ago I was terrified, crying, anxious...waiting to go to hospital for a csection in the morning. I had been expecting to hear bad news for 8.5 mths. I still couldn't believe I would be bringing a healthy baby home
#pregnancyafterloss
Tomorrow my darling boy is 5
Thanks for the love & support on my tweet about Erin this morning. When your child dies there is wondering & longing every day, but this feels even greater on significant days like
#backtoschool
I feel privileged that other bereaved parents shared their children with me too xxx
I can't let Erin's anniversary pass without mentioning some incredible charities and organisations that supported us during her short life and in our grief following her death...
@AchingArms
@SayingGoodbyeUK
@AlderHey
@RMHCUK
@tinytickers
💜💜💜 Please give them a follow!
7 years ago today 💜💜💜 darling Erin, how I wish you were here with us getting excited about your advent calendar, Christmas and decorating a tree. I'll never understand why you died. Until we meet again my sweet baby girl 💜💜💜
Overwhelmed by the love and support on my post yesterday about Erin. That people I don't know have taken time to share love and care is really touching. I'm worried I haven't managed to acknowledge all. Thank you
#babyloss
#Erin
Cuddling Erin's little sister as she goes to sleep, 12 years after my last night with Erin, not knowing that the next day we would have to say goodbye 💔
Darling Erin. 8 years without you. We've had laughter in the house today, amongst the tears, & the sound of your joy was so missed. I'd love to see you having fun with your siblings, I know you'd adore each other. Love & miss you forever; part of my heart will always be missing
This one is growing up. She is her own unique & wonderful little person. However, I am also finding myself comparing her to Erin more & more - wondering if this is how Erin would have been, feeling guilty for doing things I never could with Erin. Parenting after loss is a hard 💜
I'm really saddened to hear that Caroline Flack reached the point where killing herself felt like the only option. My heart goes out to her grieving family and friends. Social media can be such a cruel place and our press is horrific. Something needs to change
#bekind
For Erin and all other babies taken too soon. Thinking of all the mummies and daddies whose hearts are broken yet still beating, although sometimes we don't know how
#BLAW2019
#WaveofLight2019
#WaveOfLight
Tomorrow is a big day for me! I will be delivering the first
@AchingArms
bears to
@BlackpoolHosp
where Erin was born almost 8 years ago. I am so sad they are needed, but I know they will bring some comfort to bereaved parents at the worst time of their lives
#blackpool
#fylde
Sending love to all those finding mother's day hard. It's tough seeing other people happy and celebrating when you are grieving. Remember that your child does not have to be here in your arms for you to be a mother. Take care XXX
#mothersday
#MotheringSunday
Every year we get
@AlderHey
pyjamas to wear on Christmas Eve in memory of our darling Erin and to support the wonderful work of the hospital who provided her, and us, with such compassionate care
#Christmas2023
Today was an emotional first for me. It's the first time I have bought a 'happy birthday daughter' card for a daughter that is living. Such a mix of emotions. Immense gratitude for my darling Orla. Immense sadness for my darling Erin
#babyloss
#neonataldeath
#bereavedmother
Erin's Christmas candle 💖 Missing my darling girl and as always wondering what she would have wanted from santa. Sending love to all those missing someone today - I hope it has been gentle
#ChristmasDay
#babyloss
#christmas2019
@ThisisDavina
My boys (aged 4 & 7) have reached the final day of their week long running challenge raising money for
@AchingArms
in memory of their sister. I'd really appreciate it if you could share their fundraising page please. Many thanks
#greatrunsolo
Well hello again night feeds. Up with my gorgeous new baby girl, feeling very grateful. Looking at the pictures of my gorgeous girl who could not stay and missing her terribly
#breastfeeding
#newborn
#pregnancyafterloss
Here is a photograph of my darling Erin. If you'd like to share anything about your baby with me, please do. I am always here to listen and talk with you about our children - just because they are not here in our arms does not mean we are not their mother or father /2
Today we went to
@AlderHey
with a donation of toys and selection boxes to be given out to the children spending Christmas there. Was lovely, although very emotional, to be together as a family doing something in memory of Erin
#erinsgift
#christmas
#babyloss
This afternoon we held a 10th birthday tea party in memory of Erin for
@AchingArms
and raised an incredible £1120! Thank you so much everyone who attended, donated and supported us. It means the world 💜💞💜
On the 9th anniversary of Erin's death I would like to share some of the wonderful charities and people who have helped us over the years - receiving an
@AchingArms
bear helped ease some of the isolation I felt in grief. Very proud to now be a trustee of this amazing charity
Happy 12th birthday to darling Erin. The hole in our lives feels that much deeper and darker today as we celebrate the little girl who made us parents, filled our hearts with love and changed us forever. Miss you always, my sweet girl 💜
I'll never know if Erin's life and death have changed the mother I am and whether I parent my three other children differently to how I would were I not a bereaved mum. I feel that she must have though - part of her legacy. I think she's made me a better mum
#parentingafterloss
10 yrs ago I was being induced to have my first child. I was so excited and could not wait to meet her. I didn't feel particularly scared of childbirth, I just wanted to see and cuddle my baby girl...I never anticipated what was to come & that I'd only have her for 22 days
#Erin
Thank you so much for all the love and support. I just wanted to let all bereaved families know that
@AchingArms
are a wonderful charity who support families following the death of a baby in pregnancy or after birth. Please reach out if you need support xx
Acutely aware that I've got two sets of uniform ready for the morning and not three. Always missing my biggest girl. I wonder what she would have been like as she headed into year 3 💜Erin💜
#BackToSchool
Remember the woman in front of you may be vulnerable, scared, shaking, crying, finding it hard to express herself...but she is strong and she is brave because to go through pregnancy again following the grief and indescribable pain of your baby dying takes guts
#BabyLossHour
Planning Orla's christening is taking its toll. Need a little reminder to myself that it's okay to not be okay sometimes. Bringing up lots of thoughts of Erin and what she never had and never got to enjoy 💔
Thank you to
@trinity_hospice
who cared for my dad with such compassion and respect in his final hours. Every member of staff was amazing and as a family we felt so looked after. I will miss you dad, I hope you are reunited with Mum now ❤️ Love lasts forever ❤️
Today is the start of
#babylossawarenessweek2022
. It's a really important week when bereaved parents, babyloss charities & services come together to raise awareness of babyloss, the impact the death of a baby has on families & share resources of where support can be found
#BLAW
Today our youngest daughter is 22 days old. This is a hugely significant day for us as our eldest daughter died in my arms when she was 22 days old. That day was exactly 6.5 years ago today 💞
#Erin
#Orla
#sisters
💞
Last day of nursery, year 1 and year 3 for my living children. It would be the last day of year 4 for my daughter who died. Emotional, proud and full of love for all 4 💜💙💚❤
#endofterm
#erin
Erin died when she was 22 days old. My eldest child, she never got to meet her 3 younger siblings. It has always been important to me that she's included in our daily family life so this part of my bedtime routine with Erin's youngest sister is magical
#babyloss
#continuingbonds