I share my life one dirty detail at a time. Poly person, Sex Edutainer, Dildo slinger, host / creator of
@SexEdAGoGo
, Sexpert on
@Netflix
Principles of Pleasure
Things harder to deal with than ethical non-monogamy:
- Navigating pent up unanswered desire.
-The emotional fall out after an affair.
- Crafting and keeping up with lies.
-Wanting your partner to fulfill your every need/desire and being mad/ sad when they can’t or won’t.
White celebrities stealing Queer WOC’s work must’ve been part of the her theme because Peg The Patriarchy was coined by
@lunamatatas
and it’s COPYRIGHTED.
PS The company
@Caradelevingne
co owns
@Lora_DiCarlo
follows Luna on IG.
THEY DIDN’T EVEN CHANGE THE FONT YALL.
Folks really need to stop fucking with sex toys from Amazon.
Unless it’s being sold by a reputable brand or a reputable shop using Amazon as a selling platform.
If it’s $100 everywhere else and $45 on Amazon your genitals might catch on fire.
Some helpful tips for tomorrow:
1. Don’t misuse Dr. Kings legacy to scold black folks still protesting for justice, equality and the right to no longer live in fear.
2. Don’t cherrypick from Dr. Kings speeches to make them fit your whitewashed narrative of what he stood for.
A customer just held up a strap-on harness and whispered
“Is this who I’m destined to be?”
I think I just witnessed someone’s superhero origin story and I’m stoked.
I believe that you have to put what you want out into the universe in order to receive it.
So I asked for a threesome. It’s happening Friday night.
Fat Girl Fall is already off to a great start.
The shop where I’ve worked for 7 years offered me co ownership tonight. It’s not a large percentage and I’m basically a silent partner but the fact that they offered this to me after years of of being with them through all the ups and downs........ it really means a lot.
I don’t know who needs to hear this, but stop sticking your dry ass fingers into people’s booty holes during sex unannounced.
Lube and Consent will get you far in life.
Yet another condom PSA:
For those of you using coconut oil as lube.....
Oil is not safe for use with latex and polyisoprene condoms. If you are using oil lubricants of any kind you need to pair them with polyurethane condoms.
People leave each other in monogamous marriages all the time and you never see anyone blaming monogamy.
A polyamorous marriage breaks up and it must be because of the polyamory. 🙄🙄🙄🙄
RELATIONSHIPS are hard. All of them. Period.
A certain relationship style can’t magically solve your problems. It’s also not to blam when things implode.
Being shitty in your relationship whether it’s polyamorous, monogamous, or somewhere in between will cause it to end.
PSA: Polyamory didn’t end my marriage.
Polyamory is just another way to be in a relationship.
If monogamy isn’t the reason folks are getting divorced at record rates then you shouldn’t be throwing polyamory under the bus either.
Repeat after me:
The best sex toy is only the best if it’s the best for you.
How expensive something is doesn’t make it the best.
Having all the bells and whistles doesn’t make it the best.
It’s only the best if it’s what you need, what works for you and for your body.
Dear White Women,
Stop posting about taking one man down as the end of patriarchy. 53% of you voted for Trump. Y’all have a lot more work to do and it starts with looking in the mirror.
Sincerely,
Tired
PSA:
Just because you see a certain action as cheating that doesn’t mean that it is cheating or disrespectful in everyone’s eyes.
We all have different relationship parameters and boundaries.
Stop trying to put your fences around other people’s yards.
Dear Privileged Friends,
A Thread.
Biden winning isn’t going to magically make racism, ableism, homophobia, transphobia, whorephobia etc go away.
It’s not going to magically make the police stop killing black people.
Stop accepting apologies from those who seek to harm us.
We don’t have to turn the other cheek.
Being angry and wanting justice, retribution and reparations is valid and we shouldn’t have to forgive folks to get any of it.
Attention:
As Hot Girl Summer draws to a close we will be continuing the thotivities during Fat Girl Fall.
Get your v neck cardigans and tights under booty shorts ready bitches.
That is all.
Cuckolding doesn’t have to involve racist tropes.
Interracial relationships don’t have to involve racist tropes.
If they do you really need to examine why racist tropes need to be a part of either of these things to make them enjoyable to someone.
Y’all.
Y’ALL.
This is not the time to go to a swingers convention.
However, knowing that community...... Knowing who is in that community at large.....
I am not surprised.
Do you know how magical it is to find someone who isn’t scared off when you talk about the ways you’ve been wounded and how it affects the way you exist in relationships?
It’s all kinds of special.
Man Not Minding His Business:
Why are you still wearing a mask on the train?
Me: I’m not okay being around people in enclosed spaces yet and fuck stranger germs.
MNMHB: Germs are good for you.
Me: Sir, I suck dick. I get enough germs.
He stopped talking to me.
Yesterday a random woman started with me on the street. She called me fat and told me to go suck a dick.
I CACKLED.
I told her she has good vision and thanked her for the well wishes because I’d be sucking dick later.
Folks need better insults.
In my 40s not my feelings.
I didn’t start exploring kink and ethical non monogamy until I was 30.
There’s always time kids. You’ll never be too old to find what makes your heart sing.
#LolaFacts
I had a lovely giggly sweet and sexy threesome. my first MFM threesome and it was fantastic.
PS Explaining how to suck dick in a monotone computer voice is my new fav thing.
PPS I can fit two dicks in my mouth.
Today I am struck by the how grateful I am for the release of divorce.
I know it sounds weird but when you fall in love and attach yourself to someone before you know who you are and who you want to be over time that love becomes a cage.
Last year my ex asked for a divorce and I was fired from Life in the Swingset.
This year I’ve been on two major network tv shows and I’m filming the opening sequence for my upcoming web series this Friday.
Proof that glory can rise from the ashes. 💜🙌🏽
Spade was a derogatory term used towards black folks pre civil war.
The phrase Let’s Call a spade a spade was basically let’s call a ni**er a ni**er.
White women into BBC getting a spade tattoo is beyond racist. Perpetuating the Mandingo racist bullshit of the past.
Last night was a moment for a white woman to uplift a Queer WOC and as per usual they chose violence.
To make it worse
@Caradelevingne
co owns the woman owned brand
@Lora_DiCarlo
.
All this talk of progressiveness and supporting women and then they rob a WOC.
Typical.
@paulxl
@Iron_Spike
It’s hella ablest to equate all bad behavior to mental illness. It needs to stop. There are plenty of folks with actual mental illnesses who aren’t out storming the Capitol, being racist etc etc.
Stop armchair diagnosing these asshats to create empathy they don’t deserve.
Today would’ve been my 11th wedding anniversary. I’m cat sitting way uptown. Far away from my home. I’ve been quietly reflecting while catching up on work. I’ve eaten foods I like. I masturbated. I napped. I went for a walk. I watched Netflix. I am ok. I will continue to be ok.
It’s officially Juneteenth in the US but let’s not forget it’s not a part of the history written in US history books, they still haven’t voted to make lynching a federal crime and people are fighting critical race theory being taught in schools.
So celebrate but keep fighting!
Also as per usual we have to be out here banging pots n pans to get people to notice.
So media friends take notice! Come through with those think pieces.
Everyone else you can help by purchasing
#pegthepatriarchy
merch from its creator
@lunamatatas
I woke up this morning and for the first time in a very long time the weight of the last 10 months wasn’t sitting squarely on my chest.
Good things are happening. I won’t share here just yet.
Just know that the smile I’m wearing today is real. I can feel it in my toes. 💜
You know what’s great about being almost 40?
I am so far from caring what people think about me, my body, and my life style that when folks try to insult me it’s hysterical and I openly cackle.
I feel like I’ve ascended to a new plain of womanhood.
Here’s the thing. New Sex toy companies are being born everyday.
Thoughtful, woke, and caring companies who are making amazing products.
The old guard with their white washed ads, veiled racism, ableism and transphobia, who think we neeeed them better get a clue and fast.
It’s 2022 and white folks are still doing stuff like this without flinching.
Notice they used Black / Brown models to throw you off.
Read the thread for the whole story on these appropriation shenanigans.
Another Condom PSA:
Latex condoms are not vegan. I repeat latex condoms are NOT vegan unless they are marked as such on the packaging.
Latex condoms are conditioned with the dairy protein casein.
This may also affect those of you with allergies to dairy proteins.
When you and your friends all occasionally fuck the same person and get excited for each other whenever it’s their turn. 💜
It’s like Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants but with dick. 🍆
People keep asking what dating safely looks like during a pandemic. Honestly it looks like a whole lot of patience and lot less slutty than some of us like it.
I’m going to stop telling people I’m in PREP. Even after explaining what it is people (men) act so weird.
It’s extra protection. That’s it. Slut insurance.
My man. We found each other on an app and we’re gonna fuck on the first meet up. Do you not see yourself as higher risk?
I was geared to start working with Kinkly reviewing their content for incorrect and problematic information.
After seeing their response to blatant transphobia I cannot in good conscience move forward with working with them.
I got dick last night!🙌🏽🙌🏽
Had a condom mishap. 👎🏽
It’s my fertile week. 👎🏽👎🏽
Getting Plan B before work. 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
STD rest on Monday. 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
(Previously scheduled)
With great pleasure comes great responsibility.
Y’all don’t want to invest in items that are going in sensitive places and I just don’t get it.
I understand being on a budget but if you want a silicone toy that’s rechargeable, and thrusts and has a remote that’s ALL the bells n whistles and it cost bells n whistles money.
Today a fuck boy sent me a text asking if I was ready for the storm. For a good 5 minutes I couldn’t decide if he was providing me with a weather forecast or asking me if I was ready for a dick storm.
Either way the answer was yes.
Not everything is Polyamory. Folks really need to get a handle on this. Polyamory is one type of Ethical non monogamy. ONE TYPE.
There’s also Open, Monogamish, Swingging, Open Triads, Closed Triads, Mono/Poly etc etc.
Stop calling everything Polyamory.
I don’t know who needs to hear this but.........
there is no such thing as an “Angry black lady”. We just get angry like everyone else and you have some racist bullshit to unpack.
Let’s have a little morning chat.
In my 37 years I’ve had two abortions.
The first time I was 18. Living in a friend’s basement. Barely taking care of myself and in an abusive relationship.
I made a choice to save myself and my future.
No regrets but I think about it often.
For those of you who need to hear this AGAIN:
The police don’t get to decide innocence or guilt on the streets.
They are an arm of the law meant to bring people in ALIVE to be judged by a jury of their peers.
Resisting arrest is crime but not one punishable by death.
PSA:
If you feel dry and irritated after having sex using a latex condom you’re probably allergic to latex or at the very least sensitive to it.
They make latex free condoms that protect against STDs. Not enough but you do have choices.
Polyamory is not a band aid. It’s not a cure all to your relationship woes. It’s not a thing you try for the fun of it. It is not every single kind of non monogamy.
It’s a relationship style. It’s a way A LOT of people love. It is a way of life. It is a very specific thing.
Raised by a single mom. Physically, mentally and verbally abused as a child and teen. A sexual abuse and suicide survivor. I’ve been on my own since I was 17. I had an abortion at 18. Divorced at 40.
And yet here I am. If you ever think you can’t do it. Please remember me💜
I am currently in a cab heading to fuck a boy while his friend watches. They’re paying for my cabs.
I’m not sure how this happened. Like this JUST happened an hour ago. I thought I was heading home after my gig to sleep and now I’m going slutting.
Hello Mojo. Mama missed you.
How did I usher in my 37th year of life?
I got paid to pretend to receive oral sex while Margaret Cho watched.
My titties are probably going to be on HBO. I’ll keep y’all posted. 😋🙌🏽💜
I am beyond amused when people think ENM is “Just so hard”.
I was mono for a long time and it was waaaaaaaaay more complicated FOR ME than ENM has ever been.
ENM forces you to pick up and hone communication skills that either don’t get used or go under utilized in monogamy.
Things no one is talking about....... The long term affects the Corona Virus is going to have on the sex toy industry.
Y’all. All industry in China is shut down. We we have in the US right now might very well be what we will have for a while.
Sigh.
I would love to see more folks being open about loving the body you’re in while still wanting to work on changing it.
VS
I LOVE MY BODY!! YOU SHOULD LOVE YOUR BODY!! followed by a drastic body change and then silence on the love your body front.
Also, I have divorce papers on my desk.
It’s really real now.
I’m happy that we’re not dragging out. A little sad. A little wistful.
Mostly okay but wish I had someone to snuggle.
Hey
@AOC
THOUSANDS of business in NY are going to drown because we are unable to apply for disaster aid.
Sex Shops, strip clubs, venues that host Burlesque and those employed by them are a part of the communities we serve. We pay taxes. We deserve help. We deserve to survive.
How does one get nominated for
@XBIZ
’s sexpert of the year and why is there a shocking lack of melanin every goddamn year?
We are out here and not hard to find and brown folks are doing amazing work in sex Ed and getting no notice.
I stopped going to swingers events because they were basically Republican conventions.
Swingers:
We want to fetishize you and fuck you but also fuck your rights as a human being.
Yes, yes, not all swingers but enough of them.
Never forget. 47.3%
Do I need to explain to y’all that loving to fuck black folks doesn’t mean you love black folks?
Have we forgotten about alllll the rapes that happened during slavery and beyond?
Sex with someone you see as beneath you is about control not love.