Have you ever felt like you needed to burn everything down to rebuild it stronger? That's exactly what I did. I disappeared for 4 months, quit my job, moved cities, and discovered something that changed everything about how I view confidence, relationships, and healing. Here's my story: What Didn't Work? Let's start with the hard truth – not everything goes according to plan sometimes: • The ticket to Spain I bought? Never used it. (I had dreamed to move there for a few months in January) • Those 10 coaching clients I planned to sign by end of the year? Didn't happen. But here's where life gets interesting. The Plot Twist: Finding My True North When plans fall apart, opportunity emerges. I decided to: • Quit my soul-crushing job • Move back to my hometown • Start working with a guide on secure attachment • Launch my own company • Get back to proper gym sessions instead of rushed street workouts You might be wondering: Why did I stop posting during this time? Let me tell you the truth.. I didn't stop writing content because I wanted to. It wasn't because of lack of discipline or motivation – trust me, I pushed myself to post even when something felt off. Even when I knew there was a deeper truth lurking just around the corner. Sometimes pushing through isn't the answer. Sometimes you need to step back to step up. The Stockholm Awakening: When Confidence Crumbled The turning point came in an unexpected shape. Let me tell you about the moment everything changed. For several days, a persistent undercurrent of anxiety had been gnawing at me. The anticipation that something significant could occur. Even worse, I had clues what it could be. There I was in Stockholm, end of August 2024, lying on my hotel bed after work. I opened WhatsApp, with my finger hovering hesitantly over the dreadful message. I didn't want to open it. The preview said just enough to make my heart start racing. I felt immediate sense of desperation, but managed to grab my balls and opened it... "Hi Dino! sorry that i have been very quiet the last few days, last week was emotionally very hard for me. Our trip is coming closer and to be honest i dont feel very well with everything and i cant do the trip. I just wanted to let you know now so you can cancel the flights and i hope that we can talk about it on the phone soon, if you like..” It hit me like a truck. Panic erupted in my stomach. This was from the Moroccan girl – a connection born in the heat of July. We'd planned to meet again, and now? Nothing. Everything crashed in one message. After few days, I returned back to my hometown. I went on the streets, but I knew I wasn't okay. I felt like someone stole my confidence. It wasn't the same me. Me, the guy who'd spent the summer confidently approaching women, suddenly couldn't look anyone in the eye. My anxiety shocked me like a sudden cold wind on a summer night. This breakdown became my breakthrough... Beyond Pick-Up Lines: A Deeper Path to Connection This is where I'm opening up about something I've never shared before. For the past 7 months, I've been deeply studying attachment disturbances in adults (Moroccan cat sitting next to me on the pic will tell you… and yeah I was in Morocco in July 2024 when I started studying it). Attachment disturbances cause low self-esteem, which underpins your confidence. You end up with low confidence too. Imagine confidence like a house. You can keep adding fancy furniture (pickup lines, confidence tricks, manifestation strategies, you name it, even work on fixing your limiting beliefs), but if the foundation is cracked, if it doesn’t feel good to be you, the house will never feel stable. Right after I came back from Stockholm, I found a mentor who showed me that true confidence isn't about collecting techniques – it's about returning to your authentic, innocent self. It's like learning to swim properly after years of treading water. At first, letting go of your old survival patterns feels terrifying – but once you remember how to trust the water, you move through relationships with ease instead of exhaustion. The Real Journey: Coming Home to Myself Now, 6 months in doing the work, I’ve noticed a deeper shift in my self-esteem, which feels so much more authentic and grounded, like I planted a new seed into my soul. Actually having nothing to do with my soul being “new”, it’s more like reseting myself to the factory settings, to my childish self, as we all were when we were born. Undamaged, innocent and authentic. And to be real, transparent, and honest with you, it really feels like you’re a newborn — seeing the world with fresh eyes, having no walls up, experiencing everything with pure wonder and openness. And to be even more honest with you... I’m still a work in progress. I’m still working daily on healing my wounds, and letting these changes become as natural as breathing – not just something I think about, but something that's simply part of who I am. In this journey of rebuilding my confidence, I've also conquered my porn addiction – 5 months clean now. It wasn't about building stronger walls or better self-control. The healing happened when I started addressing the deeper reasons why I turned to porn in the first place, rather than just trying to fight the urges. Turning inside to the deeper level, helped me discern what was it about the porn that made me crave for it. All helping understand myself better, which was the key... So what's next? What can you expect to see from me? Here's what I'm going to write about: • Healing attachment disturbances and building that secure foundation for genuine confidence in relationships • Sharing the insights from my journey through porn addiction healing, offering a path that feels authentic and real This isn't about quick fixes or surface-level changes. It's about updating your internal GPS so you naturally find safer, more fulfilling paths to connection. It's about coming home to yourself. The old me would have given you a list of techniques to try. The new me wants to help you heal from the inside out. Because sometimes the longest journey isn't the one that takes you around the world – it's the one that takes you back to yourself. My DMs are open if you want us to get to know each other, or wanna support each other, or just wanna share whatever you wanna share. Thank you for reading, I appreciate you, ~ Dino

@ash_rote Thank you Ash, it feels really good to be back. And I appreciate your kind support 🤍

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RT @DinoAvici: Those 'alpha male' tips don't build confidence—they hide your wounds. 'Alpha' posturing? Little boy who needed to earn love…

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@heythemnaji Yeah brother, stopping to obsess over improving is a great sign of it.

@peptalksblog Endless feelings of relief right now inside of me after reading this :) Great introspection!

@guideforlovers 1. Sounds like keeping her at basement. (but I get what you mean there)

@selfhealerscirc Beautiful, nothing less.

@AdamLaneSmith What too young means

@AdamLaneSmith For sure, giving and receiving love is a skill to master.

@su_dreams No better feeling than staying in long, warm shower! Creating sauna in your bathroom :D

@itsmemichaelb Writing on weekends saved me too last year. Great advice, Michael!

@peptalksblog Beautiful Pep, signing up for it :)

@SteGra2000 Well said, Stephan!

@TheBrainGoddess True, if we close ourselves to receiving the honesty back in a real way, there's part of us we're not ready to be honest about with ourselves, for sure.