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it’s so important to have a partner who enourages you to be your most authentic self. you enjoy going out? go have fun. you enjoy being alone? i’ll give you the space you need. no resentment, no manipulation, no grudges. a partner who helps you get and stay FREE is key!
the more you know yourself—the more you fall back. the more you keep quiet. the less you feel the need to prove yourself. the less you react. you shade up and keep away from any sort of drama. you protect your energy, really.
sometimes you have to give people space to find themselves. encourage them to heal while you’re gone. sometimes you have to love people enough to leave them alone.
As I grow older I realize safety is the ultimate luxury. Can I let you inside of my head without you judging me? Can I share my world with you? Can I trust you to be there when I fall? or to be still when I fall back? Will you keep what’s special between us—between us?
healing my inner child looks like speaking up for myself at times when i’ve been conditioned to hide, distancing myself when my boundaries are ignored, and encouraging myself to step outside of my comfort zone to try new things even if i’m afraid i might be no good at it.
you have to fight for YOU. you have to advocate for YOU. you have to rest for YOU. you have to release everything pent up inside of you for the sake of your own well-being. otherwise, you spread yourself thin and sabotage your potential to be GREAT.
here’s to manifesting a new life. a clearer vision. an abundant love. here’s to opening our hearts to those who need us, and walking away from places that no longer serve us. here’s to starting new, without hesitance, as often as change requires us to. 🤍
The theme of March is RESILIENCE. Be patient with your journey. Tears will come, let them. Friends will go, let them. Love will bloom.. or fade, let it. The more you clean house the more you open space for new life & new blessings to settle in. Take each day one by one.
i could never have a partner who doesn’t know how to be soft in love. i’m not interested in trying to break down every wall. i need touch, i need deep conversations, i need laughter.
you start to grow apart from people when you realize the foundation is ruined. shit is no longer fun, no longer safe, no longer open & free. now you gotta tip toe to say a thing, you gotta hold your tongue to keep the peace. you start to see people for who they are & they see you
toxic people almost always go out of their way to tell you how much they love you, directly after showing you how much they don’t—to manipulate you into believing their hateful actions are a form of love.
i don’t want to spend any more time mourning. i wanna spend my time accepting everything as it comes. i wanna love life, better. i’ve spent enough time disappointed, heartbroken, confused. let down by my own expectations. this year i want to just live. happily. freely.
nipsey’s mother dancing to his music after his memorial is her celebration of his transitioning. she has so much connection + faith, she knows his ancestors are ready to greet him. she knows god is giving thanks to her. she guided him the best she knew how and now he’s ascending
Any mistake i’ve ever made, i learned from. Nothing from my past haunts me. i’m not ashamed of my truth. Have I given too much to the wrong people? Yes. Have I put others before myself? Yes. Have I taken others for granted? Yes. You live and you learn.
the universe has been sending me plenty of messages to just relax and enjoy the moment. even though, i can’t help but think of the next. i drive myself crazy planning ahead. wanting so badly to work. to create something new. to reach success. etc. but ima take these signs & chill
september first!!! a new month for new blessings. abundance is the theme. no downplaying yourself any longer, no playing shy. promote yourself with confidence, and speak up when you want something. set goals with pure intentions—watch it manifest
People distance themselves from me when they don’t want the hard truth. I used to take it personal.. but with time i’ve grown to be okay with it. I physically can’t pretend to support something that i don’t, and i definitely refuse to lie to save face and protect feelings.
i don’t believe in showing up “too late” but if you truly care for a person, you shouldn’t take your time checking on their well being. even if you aren’t in the best of spaces with eachother, let your pride aside and send them a reminder that they are loved. show your heart.
saying a prayer over the next 5 months. the loss, the suffering, the illness, the heartbreak. it’s all too much man. praying for positivity. praying for love. praying for joy. praying for healing. for us all. we need it now, more than ever
i have a different kind of trust issue. i love and accept everyone. i welcome everyone in with open arms. i go out of my way to make people feel both happy and comfortable.. but i don’t trust anyone to be there for me when i need ‘em most. don’t even bother reaching out.
Do not feel pressured to overcompensate due to the fear that you may lose your spot in someone’s life or be forgotten. If what you have to give isn’t enough, or valued the way it should be.. then, their loss.
i been super observant lately. ducked off, doing my own thing. start to see how this shit really is a circus. really is the matrix. i wanna stay far from it. mind my own. love on mine. and pop up when i need to. or when i’m needed.
i stopped trying to fit into spaces that weren’t for me & started creating space for myself. a space where i don’t need to be accepted, judged, appreciated, or acknowledged even. just somewhere where i can exist without influence or requirement or limitation to something specific
a big part of healing your “younger” self is acknowledging that you didn’t appreciate your innocence for what it was. too many times we rushed ourselves to do a thing we weren’t ready for. mentally, physically, emotionally.
January taught me to honor rest. There’s no space to feel guilty for not doing enough. You haven’t “fallen behind” because you chose to fall back and restore your energy. January taught me to work with what you’ve got and to plan for a better February. The “rush” is in your head.
manifest more love to get back more love. be intentional with everything you do. be honest in who you say you are. show up for those who show up for you. treat people with compassion and welcome. do what you can to make life a bit more easier for yourself, and others.
stop giving everyone in your life the same assignment. all your ppl have a different role to play. not everyone should have to swap ideas with you, or bake cookies with you, or travel, or understand and support every aspect of your life. appreciate love for however it shows up.
i want less. less of it all. more of you. more of what you showed me you could be. less static. less confusion. more love. more appreciation. more concern. less doubt. less distance. less stress. more synchronicity. more of what we were before the burden of time and pressure.
i’ve outgrown the need to prove myself to others. i’ve outgrown the need to attach myself to others. i recognize the weight i carry on my own. i honor that alone.
the thing about ‘healing’ is you can’t do it for others, and others can’t do it for you. you can only heal yourself and hope that the people in your life see you and your growth and choose to do better & help themselves. note: not for the benefit of you, for the benefit of them.
in order for a relationship to be healthy and beneficial to you and your growth - your love has to be respected, acknowledged, and honored. if you’re in relationships with people who don’t receive your love as priceless, they will throw it back in your face like it means nothing.
my healthiest traits are minding my own business and empathizing with everyone—even if i don’t fully understand the situation. I’ve learned to send love and positive energy to those who wish the opposite for me. i’ve learned some people just need others to project their anger at.
gotta stop looking at people as possessions. nobody is YOURS. to have, to keep, to claim even. appreciate others for who they are within themselves and not who or what they are to and/or for you.
stop holding space for people who never chose you to begin with. people who've walked in and out your life whenever most convenient for them. stop allowing them to return after leaving without notice. after ignoring you with no real purpose. desire more for yourself.
i worked really hard for this. i worked on myself from the inside out. always believed in love but never was it. worked to become it. asked god to give me love night after night. prayed to plant deeper. showered myself in tears every month there were no flowers. they here now ✨
i lost a lot of people by blaming them,and
i lost a lot of people by them blaming me
for shit we could've communicated better about.
shit we could've moved passed, if the love was realer.
the scorpio in me hates to give details about pretty much anything. i will have the whole house guessing where i’m off to, when really i’m just going to the grocery store or for a walk 😭
i’m not in competition with anyone. i truly don’t care enough to be. i focus on the grey areas of myself & what needs to be healed and i work on releasing all that needs to be set free. there’s nothing else to it.