Hubby and I got a call today to let us know that the preliminary adoption court hearing last week was actually the final adoption hearing. Junior has officially been our son for a week and we never knew 😂 😂
Long story short..... adoption signed sealed and delivered!!
Recently Junior had a ‘Rainbow Day’ at school. I encouraged him to wear his ‘I Love My Daddies’ t-shirt as he’s worn it in the past and loved it. This time however he was very reluctant and appeared somewhat sheepish.
I’ve been keeping a secret......
This isn’t just Christmas weight I’m carrying, I'm pregnant!! Well kinda. After a really intense process over the last six months, today I got approved as an adopter. I’m gonna be a daddy!!! Huge thanks to everyone who has supported me.
I‘ve realised that I have at times shunned away from holding hands before, but I’m not just doing it for me anymore, I’m doing it for a 7 year old who clearly wants me to be as proud of myself as he is of me
#BeMoreVisible
So someone hasn’t committed any criminal offences, yet hounded by the press and social media who appear to be judge and jury. The outcome? Someone has been ‘outed’ and so traumatised by it all they’re receiving inpatient support. I hope you’re all fucking ashamed of yourselves.
No one ever sees us both together and he wants people to see us together and holding hands, so that he can be proud of having gay daddies (no puns in this story please). Today Alex and I took Junior to school and held hands as we did it. I’m not sure I was expecting the response.
And it reminded me how tiring it is waiting for society to catch up so that two men can hold hands and not have to even think about what reactions and looks we might get. I turn 50 in less than two months and I am tired of ‘putting up’ (in Panti’s words).
Today is my wedding anniversary. And what an absolute fucker of a year it’s been. Anyone whose relationship has survived the last 12 months can surely cope with anything.
House move day. We’re getting junior to say goodbye to each room before he goes to school. He’s told us that this will be the first time he’s ever moved with a family, usually it’s on his own. Bless him ❤️
Today our 4 year old came on a visit for the first time to his new home. He ran straight upstairs and put some of his toys in a drawer. We think he’s pretty keen to move in 😂
Don’t get me wrong, no one said anything to us at all, but people looked, some smiles, some looked a little taken aback. This all reminded me of the TED talk a few years ago by
@pantibliss
(take the time to watch it).
Just walked the boyfriends 84 year old gran home and when she said goodbye she told us make sure we love and look after each other. Melted my heart ❤️❤️❤️
Finally it came out that while he loves his daddies and thinks we’re amazing, he worries about what other people think about us. We think this new train of thought stems from hearing and learning about the meaning of Pride.
Yesterday was just perfect. I couldn’t have wished for a more memorable day. I feel like the luckiest man alive to have such amazing people in my life. And such a wonderful best man in
@Gatz77
. Oh and
#SecretAlex
of course.
When I asked him what we might be able to do to help, his answer was really simple… be more visible. We were a bit confused about this as both Alex and I are both out and proud gay men, but Junior said that because I take him to school and Daddy (Alex) picks him up.
So this appeared to be quite ‘popular’ yesterday. Just to let you all know, I told Junior about his tweet, and about how many people had viewed it and all of the lovely comments. He cried. Happy tears. You’ve all made him extremely happy. Sometimes twitter is a good place xx
Recently Junior had a ‘Rainbow Day’ at school. I encouraged him to wear his ‘I Love My Daddies’ t-shirt as he’s worn it in the past and loved it. This time however he was very reluctant and appeared somewhat sheepish.
I tried to take the time to find out why he didn’t want to wear it, but he insisted it was just he’d ‘grown out of it’. I could tell there was something more so I waited a few days and then tried the conversation.
Alex and I married in January 2020, and lockdown a few months later meant we had to cancel our honeymoon. In the second lockdown we adopted Junior so we’ve never actually had a honeymoon. Tomorrow we fly to New York just the two us and finally get a little honeymoon to ourselves.
So my ‘father’ who hasn’t visited in 30 years is coming to see me tomorrow. When I say he’s coming to see me, he is flying from Manc airport at 6am on Sunday so he’s using us as a hotel. And he has the nerve to request I take him to a pub so he can watch Sky. Go fuck yourself.
The MP for Peterborough who was recently released from prison for lying about a driving offence is one of the 21 MPs who yesterday voted against LGBT relationship education. What an absolute fucking disgrace British polictics is at the moment.
Boyfriend is walking around in joggers without underwear on. While I very much appreciate this, I’m not sure my mom and brother who are visiting feel the same way 🤦♂️
Alex has just told me that if I bump into Jonathan Bailey this weekend I get a free hall pass. Something tells me Alex is quite confident Jonathan isn’t into middle aged dads 😂😂
Hardly slept a wink last night. Constantly listening out in case Junior needed us. Of course he didn’t and he slept the whole night 🤷♂️ glad one of us isn’t tired today.
Two years ago I got married. Little did I know the shit show the world was to become. Weird to think back at such a happy occasion only for the honeymoon to get cancelled and then suddenly we got Junior. Pretty tough first two years of marriage if I’m honest, but worth it. 😍
I’m sat with someone at work who has over 2200 unread emails. I have 7 emails in my inbox which are read and need action. My ocd wants to take some off her.
Very cute that
#SecretAlex
has just messaged me to make sure I still want to marry him this afternoon. Although it makes me think that maybe he’s having second thoughts.
Who knew there were twitter trolls who specifically attack adopters. That’s so niche. I ended up being blocked because all you nice people jumped in to defend me. Much appreciated xx
Today we are celebrating meeting Junior for the first time. One year ago today our new family became a reality. Parenting is bloody hard work, but he’s an amazing little boy with so much love. Today we’ve taken him on a steam train and he hasn’t stopped smiling.
Post face mask radiant haha. Not doing bad for turning 47 today. Thanks to Alex and friends my lockdown birthday has been lovely. Heart full of love.
#Manchester
#NoFilter
A photo of my kitchen has become my second most liked picture ever on my Instagram. I’m not even in it. My selfies have been overshadowed by a kitchen! F**kers!!
Husband and I are already finding ourselves taking extended toilet breaks just for a few minutes to ourselves. That is until Junior comes looking for us of course 👨👨👦🏳️🌈❤️
I kinda knew this week was going to be somewhat of a rollercoaster. But I’ve just had an offer on a house accepted, looks like I can add a house move to my list of things to do.
Today has reminded me how lucky I am. I’ve got the most amazing husband and son, and I’m very much looking forward to the adventures we’ll have together in 2022.
After having the conversation yesterday that the iPhone X is only good for selfie portraits I thought I’d put it to the test, shame it can’t do anything for eye bags
#datenight
Today marks the two year anniversary of us meeting Junior for the first time. I’m so tired. And fat. But not as fat as that shadow looks. More importantly, Junior is happy, so we’re doing something right.
Another birthday passes and another year I don’t even get so much as a phone call from my own father. I will be using him as an example of how no to be paternal when I raise my own son 🤦♂️
If anyone is out and about in Manchesters Gay Village later, I shall be celebrating being 51 years young. Feel free to buy me a drink/shot, at this age it might be your last chance 😂
As much as I’m loving watching
#Heartstopper
, 16 year old me is breaking his heart how different my life could have been. If only I had shows like this when I was younger showing me I was in fact a ‘normal’ kid rather than the years of internalised homophobia I had.