When getting in relationships, which are completely voluntary, do we not find it bizarre that at times people choose not to give their partners the things that make them feel loved and safe? -thread
Can we discuss the ACTING Lindsay Lohan did in Parent Trap? Two accents, two personalities, talking to herself. As a child you couldn’t convince me that wasn’t two people.
Rihanna said consistently throughout her career she wanted a family so I’m so happy she got to have it all. I will stream those 8 albums she gave us and wear my kilawatt highlight and be grateful.
3 years ago I was a full time high school art teacher and decided to bet on my self and pursue my art full time. In a room surrounded by my art, I can say i made the right decision.
I think about that class often when i see how people in relationships love each other. Why are you voluntarily entering into a situation you do not want to be responsible for?
He then asks the 1 kid who does it weekly
“Well typically i get her flowers on my way home and when i notice they’ve started to go bad I’ll get more”
Prof: Why?
Kid: It makes her happy
Prof: is it hard to remember?
Kid: it’s pretty much a routine at this point.
A love where your main focus is receiving and not giving is not love at all. Sometimes it’s based on our own trauma and disappointments that don’t allow us to love in a way that is truly transformative and that is unfortunate. But that is the “work”
Besides the fact that as humans we can be selfish by nature but what joy can you get from seeing your flower wilt because you aren’t caring for it properly?
I see too many people try to negotiate peoples non-negotiables, circumvent boundaries that exist so that person feels at peace, loved, safe. What is the reason?
The work is getting to a place in love where your presence is an offering. A gift. You bring joy, not pain.
Many of us did not have positive examples of love growing up and in the world so i know at times the action of love seems undefinable but it is not JUST a feeling.
If you want to be better at giving an offering of love in your interpersonal relationships, not just romantic i highly recommended Bell Hooks All About Love and How to Love by Thich Nhat Hanh
People go into relationships to defend their idea of love rather than an open mind and open heart ready to listen to what their individual partner needs.
I had a psych teacher use our life experiences as an example for Pavlov’s theory so he asked “how many of you give your partners flowers”
Lots of hands raised.
“How many of you give them a few times a year”
Less hands.
“Monthly?”
Barely any
“Weekly?”
1 hand
So he asked one person that had their hand up in the beginning and scoffed at the idea of doing it regular why he felt that way.
Kid says “well i don’t want her to get used to it. Then she’ll expect it and when I don’t do it, it’ll be a problem”
Mixed reviews from audience.
Early reminder not to leave out your BLACK Hispanics and Afro-Latinos out of your celebrating and highlighting this month 🙂we’re here, we’re making strides.
One thing I will say about God, the lesson is NEVER to settle. It may be to be patient, to pivot, to surrender, but never will the lesson be to settle.
The girl who switched her major from Fine Arts to Psychology because she was “afraid of being a starving artist” just launched a multi year 20 SKU hair accessory collab available in over 1500 stores.
@noolivesthnx
Did i say her career was over ? Did i say she’d never sing again? Make a musical comeback? Or even record while she’s pregnant? Reading comprehension. I literally said she gets to have it all, not that she has to choose 🤣
So if you walk into an
@OldNavy
this month you’ll see my Project We tee🤩🤯 first artist to create a Project WE tee in honor of
#BlackHistoryMonth
. Project We is
@oldnavy
’s newest series that celebrates the visions of diverse artists
Men if there is one piece of advice i have for you, it’s get ready for “the one” before you meet the one. A lot of you believe the misconception that when you find the one a magic switch will flip and it will not.
Omg the fact checkers. Just laugh and move on unless you or I are in their circle and messages we have no idea who sent the make up text and when. All we know is the VMAS was in 2016 and they were on no guidance together in 2019.
Had a book cover reveal party for my 2nd baby yesterday and it was so special 🥺 thank you to everyone that shared the moment with me, and those that wished me well from afar ❤️
Love is not just a feeling. It’s is action, it is a choice. And some times we won’t have the capacity to meet our lovers where they need us to be, that is an unfortunate truth