Some say Thanksgiving is risky but they’re gonna do it as always anyway. I say it’s risky and a beautiful chance to reinvent it based on safety and the needs we actually have right now.
How do we think about gathering again? What conversations do we need to have with our people as we begin to re-emerge?
@BreneBrown
and I discuss. Awkwardness and all. ✨
As we get ready for the big return, everyone needs to hear this wisdom from my two-part conversation with
@priyaparker
. In Part 1, we talk about resetting — keeping what serves and letting go of what doesn't. It's going to take creativity and courage.
This is one of the most impt pieces I’ve read. To anyone interested in biz, public policy, consulting, enabling, navigating systems of power, read read read
@nytimes
incredible reportage on
@McKinsey
’s serving of authoritarian regimes.
Yes!!!! To start with a CHECK-IN around the country. THIS is an opening. Who are we? Why are we here? And why do we need each other NOW?
#DemConvention
.
@JoeBiden
facilitating a virtual group conversation as part of the
#DemConvention
. 🤯 This is going out on a limb for the DNC. They’re breaking form and I’m digging it.
If you’re wondering why no charges were initially filed on the murderers of
#AhmaudArbery
, it’s because D.A. George Barnhill immediately concluded Arbery was a criminal & that he attacked the men who were hunting him.
This is letter Barnhill sent to the Brunswick authorities
Let’s be honest. The pandemic didn’t break meetings. Meetings have *been* broken.
But this might be a rare moment in history to reinvent them — and the workplace itself.
My new
@nytopinion
essay.
Entering a gathering recession need not necessitate a loneliness boom. This is our moment to actually invent (or popularize existing) ways to be meaningfully virtually together even while we’re physically apart.
#SocialDistancing
#gatheringrecession
#COVID19
Social distancing is crucial to slow the coronavirus.
But it’s going to cause a “social recession”: a collapse in social contact that will hit the elderly and people with disabilities particularly hard.
Loneliness can be lethal. We need to help them.
“I have learned that just because an audience laughs, doesn’t mean it’s funny.” The remarkable
@Hannahgadsby
and
@MonicaLewinsky
in conversation at
#vfsummit
on shame, voice, and power.
I’ve always loved joining commencements––the culmination of years of hard work and sacrifice. Even if we can’t get together in person this year, Michelle and I are excited to celebrate the nationwide Class of 2020 and recognize this milestone with you and your loved ones.
What does it mean to be a collective? Not just now, but over time and across generations? Thank you Ta-Nehisi for imploring us, again and again, to face this question anew.
"Enslavement reigned for 250 years on these shores. When it ended, this country could've extended its hallowed principles — life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness — to all, regardless of color," writer Ta-Nehisi Coates told Congress. "But America had other principles in mind"
A gathering recession need not lead to a loneliness boom - if we work at it. Virtual book clubs & potlucks, virtual drawing classes, meditations & dance parties are already happening. Time to gather meaningfully online. My
@nytimes
OpEd.
#togetherapart
…
It was a brothy, full-of-integrity SOUP with mixed flavors, ingredients, and leftovers that understands and honors the power of a good and peaceful transition. 👀
Are you all experiencing moments of awkwardness these days in re-gathering? Will you tell me about them, if so? What’s it feeling like to you all out there?
#askingforafriend
👀
@mikiebarb
Yes, you use your power not to interrupt the participants but the debate: stand up, take their mics, call in security, do whatever you need to do interrupt the gathering. Wallace abdicated his hosting power (and inadvertently became an accomplice) by NOT calling a time-out.
BIG ANNOUNCEMENT: I’m thrilled to share I’m launching a new podcast
#TogetherApart
, with the
@nytimes
. TODAY!
Every week I explore someone’s gathering challenge on how to meaningfully be
#TogetherApart
.
Subscribe here:
Watching gathering after gathering get cancelled, we may be entering a (hopefully short) IRL gathering recession. Time to collect ways to stave off a loneliness boom.
Tell me what you’re seeing and thinking in your various gathering corners...
This year my mother,
@deepavop
, gave a
@TEDtalks
in India on her incredible research on what it means to be a “good woman.” Couldn’t be more proud of how she’s shared her brilliant, devastating, recognizable findings. This is an idea worth spreading.
I love this talk from our series in India. 7 beliefs that can silence women — and how to unlearn them (Deepa Narayan | TED Talks India: Nayi Baat) via
@TEDTalks
@priyaparker
@AnandWrites
This is going to be a tough holiday for many of us - I so miss my parents. But, I’m taking advice from
@priyaparker
+ “setting a bold, sharp purpose” for our day tomorrow. An experiment in connecting in new ways.
The podcast convo w/ Priya is here:
Congratulations both to
@TIME
and
@anandwrites
on this amazing news. Here’s to courageous journalism covering a country we love and a future we’re trying to figure out.
If you’re secretly insecure about convening, if you feel disconnected at work, if you wish you & your friends had more meaningful conversations,
#TheArtofGathering
can help you. Welcome to the new rules of gathering.
#mondaymotivation
This week on the
#TogetherApartPodcast
we look at education. How are teachers navigating this moment? How do you decide which gatherings to save? And talk to
@ClintSmithIII
about a very unique dissertation defense. Take a listen.
#togetherapart
“And the angel food cake was the white cake and devil food cake was the chocolate cake.” Muhammad Ali on how embedded whiteness and goodness (and, in direct relationship, anti-blackness) is in everything...in 1971. This is remarkable footage.
“Physical distancing may be new, but social distancing is evidently a pre-existing condition.” My first review for the
@nytimesbooks
on
@marissadking
’s SOCIAL CHEMISTRY dropped this morning. An unsettling read during a global pandemic, but sorta the point.
“It's sitting around a fire, telling a story that might change the way that people who have come to that fire are going to treat the village that they're part of.”
@jeremyoharris
on the role of theater. Gorgeous interview by
@AnandWrites
just dropped.
Happy birthday to The Ink.
@AnandWrites
, I love seeing what and how and whom you’ve chosen to cover and be in conversation with this year. As an Inkling, I can attest that it’s an EXCELLENT newsletter. 🎉🎉🎉
"...not to save face, not to win a vote, he apologizes genuinely to repair and acknowledge the harm done, so that we can ALL move on."
@AOC
is grace and grit in action & sheds light on why an authentic APOLOGY is so central to collective repair.
I'm starting a new weekly
#TogetherApart
webinar with
@NYTLive
. This Thursday, 4/16, at 12:30 EST join me & the formidable
@jodikantor
as we explore gathering virtually around moments of life in an age of isolation.
RSVP with
@NYTLive
Even
@TheAmandaGorman
, who totally stole the show, delivered a poem/prayer that she wrote as a RESPONSE to the events of January 6th and by penning a poem for THIS MOMENT both took our breath away and filled us with life. ✨
Thrilled that
@Amazon
chose
#TheArtOfGathering
as one of the top 10 Business & Leadership books of 2018! (And even more thrilled and amused that my hubby’s business-world-take-down book is too 🔥👀🔥.)
Who knows if we’ll even have another debate now, BUT, if we do I HAVE THOUGHTS. In my latest newsletter, I take on How To Moderate a Sh!$show. .
#PresidentialDebate
What really even is an unboxing video? 🤔
@AnandWrites
and I try and figure it out as the first box of THE PERSUADERS arrive…complete with kid banging on the door acoustics
“Today we are GATHERED to reclaim the soul of America.”
@RepGwenMoore
. Also I could’ve taken a shot for every time she used the word GATHER!!
#DemConvention
is opening STRONG.
Master facilitator, strategic advisor, and executive producer and host of the New York Times podcast, Together Apart,
@priyaparker
will sit down with
@AnandWrites
for a Keynote Conversation at
#SXSW
Online.
Final keynote for SXSW 2021 is Priya Parker. She is author of "The Art of Gathering," which is even more relevant during the age of COVID. Catch her conversation with Anand Giridharadas at 1pm CT on Sat, Mar 20.
#SXSW
@AnandWrites
@priyaparker
#gathering
I’ve seen the screener. I laughed and I cried.
@anandwrites
has a new TV show called SEAT AT THE TABLE. It’s on
@VICE
. It premieres tonight. Join us. It’s 🔥🔥🔥.
Idk who needs to hear this, but I recently learned from my improv teacher that you can MOVE and DRAG and CHANGE the order of the zoom squares you see in a virtual meeting around with your cursor. 🤯
Who we gather, how we gather, how we structure that gathering, who we let in the room, how they are chosen, and the assumptions that each person brings with them into that room...matters.
@NewYorker
They used very real constraints (Covid-19 and no Inauguration balls) to create something new and innovative such as the circle of three former Presidents sending
@JoeBiden
a message of support and modeling multiple peaceful transfers of power.
And whatever you think of the arguments,
@Morning_Joe
uses its platform to have the discussions that the country is trying to have, but poorly. To give time to let people argue & make points on identity, structural in=, wokeness, & the way forward, is helpful to all of us.
The country is still a mess AND this citizen is grateful for such a thoughtful, fun, moving pause to take a collective breath before we get to work rebuilding and fighting for a more perfect Union.
There was a discernible throughline (a call for unity WITH justice). They weren’t afraid of “cheesy” and so were able to help us look at the familiar again and remember that it’s actually sacred (
@JLo
singing THIS LAND IS YOUR LAND).
I am loving the highlighting of citizens around the country to introduce
@jonbonjovi
&
@jtimberlake
& co. Great use of what is often thought of as “just logistics”.
I don’t think people realize the magnitude of a completely virtual convention having almost zero technical glitches. Production is a thankless job and crews rarely get the recognition they deserve so thank you to all the workers took on this challenge! ❤️🙌🏽
#DemConvention2020
It can be exhausting to continually remind people that just because you don't look a certain way, doesn't mean you don't have expertise on a subject. Proud of
@anandwrites
for taking the time to call out casual assumptions. Helps all of us.
"SHE SAID" is now available in paperback! Thank you again to all the readers who supported the hardcover. And we are forever indebted to all our brave sources--many of them pictured here. w/
@jodikantor
Big news! On December 2, we’re kicking off “Atlas of the Heart” with a virtual book launch. I’ll be in conversation with one of my favorite people,
@priyaparker
. Check the link to find your favorite local independent bookstore to purchase tickets!
@Adweek
I think the folks at Facebook need to read
@priyaparker
's book: "How we gather and why it matters".
Facebook wants to connect us. Their role is "global host".
Think of a memorable event in your life that you would choose to return to. Was the host neutral?